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Title: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: EMuir on November 01, 2012, 11:57:23 AM
I went through the archives and didn't see this question asked specifically.  I'm wondering, for those who kiss parents and other family members (not your own children and not your partner), do you kiss them on their lips or on their cheek?

My family didn't do kissing at all, but my partner's family kissed on the lips.  I've compromised and I'll kiss on the cheek, but really prefer just a hug. The whole kissing on the lips thing really threw me for a loop, so I'm just wondering how common it is.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: MorgnsGrl on November 01, 2012, 11:59:18 AM
I only kiss on the cheek. I did kiss DS on the lips when he was little but now that he's almost a teenager we're mostly down to reluctant hugs anyway.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Judah on November 01, 2012, 11:59:51 AM
I chose the second option, but it's not really accurate. I kiss most family and friends on the cheek, but there are a few I kiss on the lips. 
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 01, 2012, 12:08:53 PM
I selected the 'don't kiss anybody' option but it isn't strictly true.  I'll hug just about anybody.  I don't kiss anybody on the cheek, as a rule.  I do peck my Dad good-bye on the lips when we take leave of each other.  And I've kissed a few male friends on the lips at New Year's, female friends on the cheek.  My brother won't even let me hug him so no kisses there.  And I've never kissed my nephews.  They do give me hugs, though, even now when they are 18 and 20.  And they don't seem to be reticent about it.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: ilrag on November 01, 2012, 12:09:53 PM
I wouldn't kiss anyone on the lips, and kissing some one on the cheek would be difficult for me.

I actually would rather not hug most people either.  I do my best to be nice when it's parents in law/ siblings in law but after that? Please no.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: WillyNilly on November 01, 2012, 12:15:26 PM
My family generally doesn't kiss.  I can count on one hand the number of times I can remember hugging or kissing my mom.  I can never remember hugging my dad, and while we do awkwardly kiss on the cheek occasionally now, that's 100% due to my stepmom's influence and she didn't come on the scene until I was well into adulthood (she's a cheek kisser).  My brother and I wave at one another.

And even with the cheek kissing with most people its really just pressing cheek to cheek and making the mawah! sound.

I do however kiss most of my friends on the cheek regularly.

I never kiss little kids or babies as I feel its an invasion of their personal space and much more apt to shake hands, high five or hug them.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Luci on November 01, 2012, 12:28:26 PM
I have never kissed my children or grandchildren or my parents on the lips (or my dog!) That is a sexual thing. Period.

I never kiss anyone one on the cheek. Why? The head of a clean baby, maybe.

I don't hug, either, except when almost forced into it, like at weddings and funerals. We see our children just every few weeks, and rarely hug then. BUT! Usually phone calls end with, "I love you."

Lucas and I are very, very affectionate, if you wonder. We hug and kisss daily.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Sharnita on November 01, 2012, 12:30:40 PM
Big hugger and will kiss people on the cheek.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Calypso on November 01, 2012, 12:38:45 PM
I have never kissed my children or grandchildren or my parents on the lips (or my dog!) That is a sexual thing. Period.

I never kiss anyone one on the cheek. Why? The head of a clean baby, maybe.

I don't hug, either, except when almost forced into it, like at weddings and funerals. We see our children just every few weeks, and rarely hug then. BUT! Usually phone calls end with, "I love you."

Lucas and I are very, very affectionate, if you wonder. We hug and kisss daily.

I hope you're speaking for yourself, not generalizing. Kissing is a cultural thing-----and the culture can be as small as one family. It's certainly not sexual in my family to kiss parent or sibs. I do kiss my sibs on the cheek, now that I think about it (it's so automatic I don't even really notice how I do it). Parents were on the lips until now when my Mom is in precarious health and half the time I'm worried about giving her a cold or something.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: jpcher on November 01, 2012, 12:49:28 PM
I voted "Everyone on their cheek" with the caveat being "Everyone I want to kiss."

We (in-laws, immediate family, friends) are a huggy group, but kissing isn't really the norm. Every now and then, on special occasions or when feeling particularly close for whatever reason, a kiss on the cheek happens during the hug . . . along with an "I love you."


DDs friends and I hug all the time. "Hello" "Goodbye" "Great to see you again!" But kissing? No.

For instance, when DD#1's (ex?)BF#1 was leaving for Rome, I gave him a huge hug and kissed him on the cheek in a motherly way. I wished him luck and told him that I loved him.

I would never, ever, ever, think! of kissing one of the DDs (boy)friends on the lips. How EWWWW! is that?



Kissing on the lips is saved for someone extra special to me. Maybe I'm romanticizing lip-kissing. ::)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: rose red on November 01, 2012, 01:09:16 PM
My family don't kiss.  I'm not married, but my best friend comes from a culture where they kiss family and friends on the lips.  The first time I met them, most of them kissed me on the cheek, but one older aunt started to kiss me on the lips and I instinctively turned so she landed on my cheek (I didn't mean to, it was automatic.  Happily, she laughed and realised the cultural difference).  I'm uncomfortable with all the kissing, but I getting a bit better with cheek kissing from that large family.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Shopaholic on November 01, 2012, 01:26:44 PM
Can you add another option? My answer would be air-kiss
I hug my sisters, my parents kiss me on the cheek  or forehead but the rest of the extended family is air- kissing.
My lips are reserved for my husband and the dog (j/k)!
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Chickadee on November 01, 2012, 01:30:12 PM
I chose the hug only option. I generally don't kiss anyone except for my husband, kids, and grandchildren. Hubs (of course) and the youngest grandchildren get lip kisses. Well, except for the one who is teething right now. Drool just doesn't do anything for me  :P.

My dog gave me a drive-by lick on the mouth once when I was napping on the couch. I was not appreciative of that one!
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Hmmmmm on November 01, 2012, 01:40:26 PM
I chose on the cheek.  But really, it is more air kisses then actually touching of lips to cheek. 
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Syrse on November 01, 2012, 01:45:29 PM
I don't kiss anyone on the lips except my DH. Everyone else is either a hug or a kiss on the cheek, depending on the situation. A kiss on the cheek is quite normal as a greeting over here. elder family still goes for the three kisses, but that's getting out-dated. Formal family meets is two kisses. Congratulations is still three (birthday, new year, etc). Friends, colleagues, younger family goes for one.

My mom however, always tries to kiss us on the lips, and it drives me crazy. My sister and brother too. It's always a battle of trying to turn your cheek at just the right time, because she tries and tries again and actually moves to try and catch you anyway. Ugh!

I'm actually trying to think of a way to get her to stop permanently. With little baby-syrse in the family now, I really don't want her to extend the habit to her as well.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: cicero on November 01, 2012, 01:47:27 PM
I chose "cheek" but it's not accurate - i don't actually kiss *on* the cheek, it's more like air kisses. and i do hug more than i kiss

Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Yvaine on November 01, 2012, 02:19:57 PM
We did cheek kisses with the parents when we were little. That stopped after a certain point and now that we're all adults, we all just hug. If that. One of my sisters has expressed that she's not a hugger and we have an in-joke of each hugging the air in front of us instead of hugging each other.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: JenJay on November 01, 2012, 02:28:17 PM
I kiss my parents on the lips, everyone else gets hugs. I have one uncle who does the cheek kiss. I grew up hugging, kissing and saying "Love you!" to my parents every time I left the house/went to bed until the day I moved out. DH barely even hugs his parents so he thought it was pretty strange when we started dating. They don't try to kiss him but they do hug, which he's fine with. We've been together since we were 15/16 and he always liked to spend a lot of time with my family so by now they're like his parents, too. lol
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on November 01, 2012, 02:32:13 PM
I only kiss my husband on the lips, everyone else gets the cheek. :)  Everyone gets hugs. I'm a huggy person. :)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: EMuir on November 01, 2012, 02:39:24 PM
I chose "cheek" but it's not accurate - i don't actually kiss *on* the cheek, it's more like air kisses. and i do hug more than i kiss

I'd say that air kisses count as not actually "kissing" for the purpose of this poll.  It's a step below kissing on the lips or cheek as far as physical contact (since there is none), IMHO.

In the previous threads I noticed that most people still kissed their children on the mouth even if they didn't kiss other relatives, which is why I excluded them from the poll.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Faerydust on November 01, 2012, 03:07:51 PM
I chose the do not kiss family members (other than my son and SO) option. I do not kiss my parents at all. I hug them and sometimes my dad gives me a peck on the head during a hug.

I used to kiss my son on the lips when he was younger (under 5), now he's 10 and I'll kiss him on the cheek occasionally.

I would never kiss my dog's mouth, but she sometimes sneak attacks kisses on my lips or sticks her tongue in my mouth! Ew! :o
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: CakeBeret on November 01, 2012, 03:19:44 PM
I avoid kissing with family in general. My grandma always tries to kiss my lips and it skeeves me out. I kiss her cheek and occasionally kiss my mom's cheek. I don't kiss my siblings or nieces/nephews.

DH and I both kiss our 2yo DS on the lips, because he's just too irresistibly cute. :D
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: magdalena on November 01, 2012, 03:29:02 PM
I kiss my husband on the lips, my kid sometimes (she really wants me to, keeps moving her slobbery little mouth in when I'm going for the cheek). I kiss her all over, all the time, though.

I kiss my ILs on the cheek, my nieces too, my nephew is 14 and would rather kill me than kiss me but I used to kiss him on the cheek, too.

My husband kisses his mom and dad on the lips. And me and the kid.

My parents are huggers, not kissers, now that we're adults. My mom has admitted that my very red, kind of raw cheeks as a baby and toddler were due to her kissing me so much, though.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Cat-Fu on November 01, 2012, 03:39:02 PM
I couldn't really pick one answer. My family is very kissy-huggy-touchy-feely and basically anywhere on your head is fair game for kisses.

For me a family-kiss on the lips is a very different creature from a romantic-kiss for my DH. Heck, even a cheek kiss for my DH is different than the ones my family get! :P
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: MariaE on November 01, 2012, 04:02:40 PM
I only kiss my husband on the lips, everyone else gets the cheek. :)  Everyone gets hugs. I'm a huggy person. :)

Same here - on all accounts :)

Kissing on the lips is solely a sexual/romantic thing for me. It creeps me out to see children kiss on the lips  :-\
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Bethczar on November 01, 2012, 04:42:34 PM
I have never kissed my children or grandchildren or my parents on the lips (or my dog!) That is a sexual thing. Period.

I never kiss anyone one on the cheek. Why? The head of a clean baby, maybe.

I don't hug, either, except when almost forced into it, like at weddings and funerals. We see our children just every few weeks, and rarely hug then. BUT! Usually phone calls end with, "I love you."

Lucas and I are very, very affectionate, if you wonder. We hug and kisss daily.

I hope you're speaking for yourself, not generalizing. Kissing is a cultural thing-----and the culture can be as small as one family. It's certainly not sexual in my family to kiss parent or sibs. I do kiss my sibs on the cheek, now that I think about it (it's so automatic I don't even really notice how I do it). Parents were on the lips until now when my Mom is in precarious health and half the time I'm worried about giving her a cold or something.

I kiss my parents on the lips and I assure you, I have no sexual feelings for them.  :-* I didn't realize that everyone else didn't do that until I was in my thirties.

It's just my parents and my husband on the lips, though. I hug everyone else. And being shy, I prefer they start it..
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Two Ravens on November 01, 2012, 05:05:07 PM
I have never kissed my children or grandchildren or my parents on the lips (or my dog!) That is a sexual thing. Period.

I never kiss anyone one on the cheek. Why? The head of a clean baby, maybe.

I don't hug, either, except when almost forced into it, like at weddings and funerals. We see our children just every few weeks, and rarely hug then. BUT! Usually phone calls end with, "I love you."

Lucas and I are very, very affectionate, if you wonder. We hug and kisss daily.

I hope you're speaking for yourself, not generalizing. Kissing is a cultural thing-----and the culture can be as small as one family. It's certainly not sexual in my family to kiss parent or sibs. I do kiss my sibs on the cheek, now that I think about it (it's so automatic I don't even really notice how I do it). Parents were on the lips until now when my Mom is in precarious health and half the time I'm worried about giving her a cold or something.

I kiss my parents on the lips and I assure you, I have no sexual feelings for them.  :-* I didn't realize that everyone else didn't do that until I was in my thirties.

It's just my parents and my husband on the lips, though. I hug everyone else. And being shy, I prefer they start it..

When I was younger I would kiss my parents and grandparents on the lips. As I got older I stopped doing it as much, but still occasionaly do it (habit, I guess). It was certainly not sexual.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Sharnita on November 01, 2012, 06:52:35 PM
Another person who has kissed people on the lips with absolutely no sexual context.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Luci on November 01, 2012, 07:50:24 PM
I have never kissed my children or grandchildren or my parents on the lips (or my dog!) That is a sexual thing. Period.


I hope you're speaking for yourself, not generalizing. Kissing is a cultural thing-----and the culture can be as small as one family. It's certainly not sexual in my family to kiss parent or sibs.

I guess, but it is sexual to me.

I only kiss my husband on the lips, everyone else gets the cheek. :)  Everyone gets hugs. I'm a huggy person. :)


Kissing on the lips is solely a sexual/romantic thing for me. It creeps me out to see children kiss on the lips  :-\

I guess I am not alone in that.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: pearls n purls on November 01, 2012, 08:10:14 PM
I'm a huggy person.  My DH is the only one I kiss on the lips, but I'll cheek kiss close family and friends if they're are significantly older or younger than me.  (My parents, FIL, grandmother, nieces and small children of close friends.)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: White Lotus on November 01, 2012, 08:25:55 PM
My family do not kiss outside a romantic context, sometimes a parental one.  The Prof's family air or cheek kiss everybody, family and close friends. (They have backed away warily from my parents who must have "don't try it" signs on them somewhere I can't see. Pretty funny.  They get along fine once the greetings are over.)  I think it is cultural. My sibs and I try to adapt to context, but I do hate American style, pull me off balance, hugging, and we, as family, don't. The Sprouts hug their dad, sometimes, without yanking, but not me, though the boys will sometimes plant a kiss on the top of my head.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: portiafimbriata on November 01, 2012, 08:41:04 PM
I kiss my immediate family on the cheek and always have. I've observed other families that kiss on the lips and I think it's very sweet - it's just not what we're accustomed to doing personally.

The first time my ex-husband saw me greet one of my brothers with a hug and a kiss on the cheek, he said it was "sickening" to him, as if he were watching his mom and his brother in a full make-out session. If he ever actually witnessed such a thing, that's his problem and I hope he worked it out in therapy. I personally see nothing wrong with kissing a much-loved sibling, parent or other family member on the cheek. Or on the lips, if that's what your family does.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Ciarrai on November 01, 2012, 08:42:09 PM
My husband's family does the kiss on each cheek thing, as part of their culture. Thus, I kiss them on the cheek. With my own family, I only kiss my parents and grandmother on the cheek, and only my husband gets a lip kiss.

I dislike the idea of kissing anyone other than a romantic partner on the lips due to a superstition that my Welsh grandmother told me about when I was a little kid. She said that kissing people on the lips shared a piece of your soul with them, and thus you should only kiss a romantic partner in that way.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Army Mom on November 01, 2012, 08:59:33 PM
Many of you would be very uncomfortable with my family based on the posts here. We hug and kiss and pat and snuggle everyone! We kiss on the lips usually, even extended family. And not just on arriving and leaving, we are just a very demonstrative bunch :)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: MariaE on November 02, 2012, 12:38:33 AM
Many of you would be very uncomfortable with my family based on the posts here. We hug and kiss and pat and snuggle everyone! We kiss on the lips usually, even extended family. And not just on arriving and leaving, we are just a very demonstrative bunch :)

You're right, I would. But that's okay - I'm not entitled to feel comfortable with your family anyway :)
We're a very demonstrative bunch too, but stick to hugging and cheek-kissing. I think I can count on one hand the number of people I've kissed on the lips, and now that I'm married it's likely to stay that way :)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: jeni on November 02, 2012, 03:22:06 AM
I'm from a hugging, kissing kind of family too, whenever we meet and whenever we say goodbye. Every time. It can get a little tiresome sometimes, when there's a few of us gathering  :)

I voted 'always on the cheek' but my Mum always tries to kiss on the lips and I just kiss on the cheek as I don't like that.  I hope that's not rude.  Also my partner's father always kisses on the lips and I try to avoid that, but I'm not always successful  :-[
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: veryfluffy on November 02, 2012, 04:59:48 AM
I have to admit I have never heard of kissing greetings on the lips, even with family. I've never seen anyone do that.

Hugs and cheek kisses for family and close friends -- but only if I haven't seen them in some time. Air kisses for less close friends. The only people who get lip kisses are DH, and very close friends of the opposite sex that I haven't seen in a while.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: ACBNYC on November 02, 2012, 07:00:40 AM
I kiss my daughter and husband on the lips. I expect that the lip pecking will stop with my daughter when she's older, but I think it's sweet now. The rest of my family gets hugs, we've always been like that. And since my transplantation to NYC, I've become accustomed to the constant cheek-kissing and air-kissing from friends and acquaintances. It really creeped me out at first, though!
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Baby Snakes on November 02, 2012, 07:34:29 AM
We are a pretty affectionate bunch but the only one I kiss on the lips is my DH.  Everyone else, including my parents and grown children, get a kiss on the cheek and a hug.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Just Lori on November 02, 2012, 07:49:19 AM
I willingly kiss my husband on the lips.  I kissed my children on the lips when they were little, but nowadays I'm lucky to get a headbutt before they leave the house.  :-\

I prefer hugs to lip kisses from anyone else.  Unless, of course, one of my TV boyfriends wants to give me a good smooch.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: LTrew on November 02, 2012, 07:59:41 AM
I kiss my parents on the lips occasionally, definitely did when I was younger but I think it has moved more to cheek kisses the older I got.  I think I'm the only kid still willing to kiss my dad or have a snuggle, but whatever.  I live very far away from my parents so when I get the chance I will definitely cuddle up to them on the couch.

I try not to kiss my babies on the lips, but only because they are super slobbery and the baby for sure doesn't understand closing your mouth for a kiss.  I've had to have several conversations with my older son about what kinds of kisses are appropriate because he likes to kiss uh... with a lot of energy.  He's only four, so I treasure the "kiss and a huggle" he requests before bedtime because I know it won't be long before he doesn't want them anymore. 
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: suzieQ on November 02, 2012, 08:13:04 AM
I only kiss my husband on the lips. To me, it's a sexual thing too. My cousin always kissed her parents on the lips growing up, and I tried it with my parents once, but it just felt weird. Our family mostly hugs. Lots of "I love you" but no kissing.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: 2littlemonkeys on November 02, 2012, 10:41:29 AM
I only kiss my husband on the lips too.  To me, it just seems too intimate to do it to anyone else in my family.   I never kissed my kids on the mouth because I didn't want to give them my germs and now that they're older, I give them the same directions.  We do forehead or cheek kisses.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Lynnv on November 02, 2012, 10:49:31 AM
I really don't kiss my mom or sister.  And certainly not the in-laws.  So that just leaves DH.

I really am not a hugger either.  Most of the ladies in my motorcycle club are, so I have worked on getting used to it (to a degree).  But I am still pretty okay with a hearty handshake.    8)
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Jones on November 02, 2012, 10:56:23 AM
I have a couple of friends I've kissed on the cheek, but with family it's only hugs, and only rarely. My sister recently came home from a long stay in another country (18-20 months), and she was shaking hands with family at first.  :) She got back into hugging pretty quickly.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: WillyNilly on November 02, 2012, 11:08:28 AM
I'm loving the answers!  Thanks for posting.

I answered upthread I don't come from a huggy-kissy family.  But as someone else posted upthread, NYC (where I live) is a place where friends and acquaintances often kiss as a greeting; as a result I have become more kissy then I learned int eh home.

But its interesting to read the answers because honestly in the last year or so one of DH's friend's acquired a new girlfriend/now wife.  She and I see each other often and while not close, are certainly friends.  She is a lip kisser.  It always freaked me out a tad.  She's I think toned it down a bit and I've learned to turn my head more, and ultimately it doesn't bother me that much, so its all good, but I'd thought it was weird.  Its interesting to read that for many people, its just commonplace.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: shivering on November 02, 2012, 11:21:19 AM
I'm a hugger. Kiss on the lips only to a significant other. Kiss on the cheek to parents and immediate family (although I recall my parents kissing me on the lips when I was really little). I'm not one to initiate a kiss on the cheek, but it doesn't bother me if someone else does it to me.

My friend's fiance is French and he does the kiss on both cheeks which is fun. Although it threw me off the first time he did it.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: CLE_Girl on November 02, 2012, 11:37:01 AM
I'm in the "lips are for romatic/sexual relationships only" camp.  The only person I kiss on the lips is my DH. 

Apperantly, my mom used to kiss me and my brother in the lips.  At about 6 years old, I cause her great distress by I telling her it was gross and I didn't want to do that anymore.  She respected that request and now we only do cheek kisses. 

Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Thel on November 02, 2012, 02:14:22 PM
In Catalonia, lip-kissing only happens between romantic partners, but we are liberal cheek-kissers. Family and close friends get kisses and hugs, and it is customary to kiss (or air-kiss) on both cheeks when making a new acquaintance. I remember watching American films as a kid and getting freaked out at parents and children kissing on the lips! :o I soon understood that it had to be a cultural difference, because ew! (Of course, "ew" from my POV, to many others I'm sure kissing virtual strangers is far more icky! ;))
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Bethczar on November 02, 2012, 03:10:28 PM
Also my partner's father always kisses on the lips and I try to avoid that, but I'm not always successful  :-[
Ok, I'll kiss my own parents on the lips, but not my inlaws. I can't imagine them trying that, though.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Girlie on November 02, 2012, 04:31:10 PM
When I was a teenager, I would kiss my mother on the lips. As I've gotten older, it's mostly just hugs, but a cheek kiss every now and then.
The only other person I kiss is my DH. And my cats.

I'm not a hugger.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: HonorH on November 02, 2012, 05:02:36 PM
I kiss my parents on the cheek. My sibs and I usually just hug, though. But I've known plenty of families who'll kiss each other on the lips, and it doesn't bother me to see it. But I would be uncomfortable if they tried it with me.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: CakeEater on November 03, 2012, 12:18:02 AM
I willingly kiss my husband on the lips.  I kissed my children on the lips when they were little, but nowadays I'm lucky to get a headbutt before they leave the house.  :-\

I prefer hugs to lip kisses from anyone else.  Unless, of course, one of my TV boyfriends wants to give me a good smooch.

This made me giggle.

I'm a bit over spending my day with toddlers, but I do try to enjoy the kisses and cuddles I get from them, because I know this is coming.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Foureyesonemouth on November 03, 2012, 12:24:10 AM
I don't kiss anyone on the lips except for my fiance'. If I have children, I probably won't kiss them on the lips either.

We hug in my family particularly the girls. My brother came to visit the other day and my mom of course gave him a huge hug goodbye then asked me "Aren't you going to hug your brother goodbye?" We looked at each then made really weird faces and said "BYE" in really weird voices. I told mom that "I don't need to cut off his air supply for him to know I like him."  ;D There's about a foot difference in our heights. It really can cut off the poor guy's breathing if we hug him around the neck.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: hobish on November 12, 2012, 01:54:09 PM
Many of you would be very uncomfortable with my family based on the posts here. We hug and kiss and pat and snuggle everyone! We kiss on the lips usually, even extended family. And not just on arriving and leaving, we are just a very demonstrative bunch :)

My family, extended and otherwise, is a mixed bag; but my friends are the most huggy kissy snuggly people i have ever met. I love it.
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: bonyk on November 12, 2012, 04:41:26 PM
My dog gave me a drive-by lick on the mouth once when I was napping on the couch. I was not appreciative of that one!

My cat managed to lick the inside of my mouth.  I still get grossed out when I remember that one!
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Samgirl2 on November 13, 2012, 07:43:21 AM
Growing up we always kissed our parents on the lips (quick peck, nothing weird!) gave them a big hug. Nowadays I still sometimes give my mum a peck on the lips when we're saying goodbye as she lives a few hours away, but always cheek kiss and hug my Dad. But that came from following his lead once I reached being a teenager, he thought it was weird to kiss on the lips which when I think about it, it probably is!

My sister gets a hug, my cousins and uncle and aunt do the 'clutch forearms and cheek kiss' and my Grandma doesn't really do affection so a cheery hello is fine!

Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: mw8242 on November 13, 2012, 12:39:01 PM
Being in the NYC area I've gotten used to friends of friends kissing on the cheek as that's how they say hello. But I'm more of a waver - so when leaving if I can I hang back or am the first one out with a wave. I'm just not comfortable touching strangers.
I hug my parents and I'm very affectionate with my bf but otherwise a wave is good. My friends are used to me now so it's not a big deal.
It drives me nuts when people can see my unease but always say "Sorry! I'm a hugger" - I know it's rude to say "Sorry, I'm not" so I get a hug/assault. Why is your desire to hug ok?
Title: Re: Kissing parents/family members (not children or partner): lips or cheek?
Post by: Judah on November 13, 2012, 12:41:16 PM
It drives me nuts when people can see my unease but always say "Sorry! I'm a hugger" - I know it's rude to say "Sorry, I'm not" so I get a hug/assault. Why is your desire to hug ok?

It's not rude to say, "Sorry, I'm not". Go ahead and say it and refuse to hug.  Someone else's preference for a hug don't trump your preference not to.