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Title: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: lynnetteleigh on December 14, 2012, 10:07:39 PM
BG: I live in a duplex, meaning one wall of my home is shared with my neighbors. The occupants are a Man and Wife and Adult Daughter(AD).

I have been in this house for over a year now and have rarely heard any noise from the neighbors. Also I have a 4 year old stepson whose bedroom uses this shared wall.

Problem: The past month there has been an increase in what I consider inappropriate noise.

Event 1: Man and Wife are out of town. AD decides to throw a party. At 3am I awake in a state of panic from hearing voices in my house. I sit up in bed, hand on DH's chest ready to wake him because I think we have intruders. After waking up a bit more I realize that it isn't people in my house, it's just people talking extremely loud next-door. Loud enough to sound like they are at the bottom of my stairs. I put my ear to the wall to confirm and hear what sounds like group scrabble going on next door. It took me a couple hours to fall back asleep just because of the adrenaline rush.

The next morning my DH sends a message to AD to let her know that her party the previous night was so loud that it woke me up and made me think the house was being broke into(we do not live in the best of neighborhoods). She responds that she had a couple friends over to play card games. No apology. However it doesn't happen again during Man and Wife's vacation so I figure she got the point of the message.

Event 2(ongoing): I don't work on Mondays and Fridays, Man and Wife do. The past couple weeks it appears that AD is letting out the family dogs and leaving them out the entire day. At 8am. They are not quiet dogs. The past few weeks I have heard growling and barking starting at 8am for about 5 minutes on, 10 minutes off. Their deck is pretty much right outside my bedroom window. Also if I let my dog out she barks through the fence at them. Meaning I cannot let my dog out in the yard for more than a few minutes without her making excessive noise.

Event 3: This morning when the dogs went on their 10 minutes of quiet I start hearing excessive noise through the wall. The sounds are unmistakable. It's AD and her boyfriend playing scrabble and vocalizing it at very loud volumes.

My question is how is the best way to address this? I am on pretty good terms with the Man and Wife. However I do not want to go over there and go "I need to speak with AD about her excessive noise".

Would it be acceptable to send her a facebook message saying something about her bedroom activities being so loud that me and my stepson could hear? This is the 2nd time I've been forced to listen to this. And since my stepson shares a wall I'm pretty sure

But then I'm not sure if this need to be a 2 part thing because the dogs belong to the Man and Wife. And they may not be aware that are being left out all day, or that they bark and growl nonstop when they are.

HELP


Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Shoo on December 14, 2012, 10:14:05 PM
I know you said the daughter is an adult, but if it were me, I'd go straight to her parents and complain about the noise their daughter makes when they aren't home.  You know you're not going to get anywhere just going to the daughter, so go over her head to her parents.  It's their names (most likely) on the lease, and they are the ones ultimately responsible for anything that goes on in their home.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: atirial on December 15, 2012, 03:23:20 AM
The daughter may be an adult, but if the dogs belong to her parents and are only being let out all day when they aren't there, I would speak to them about it.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: cicero on December 15, 2012, 04:08:33 AM
I would mention it to the parents, in a "you may not be aware but noise carries pretty strongly and..." kind of way.

I wouldn't mention to daugther at all, just "the dogs were out all day and they are barking", "there was a party on X date and it went on till Y o'clock".

as for the last incident - sounds like AD and her BF were doing that on purpose...
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: YummyMummy66 on December 15, 2012, 05:01:35 AM
If you can hear the adult daughter and her boyfriend making "scrabble" noises, I would have no problem banging on the wall and by doing so, they know they can be heard.    Or have your stepson say loud enough that they can hear, "Mom, or whatever he calls you, what is that crazy noise next door?".

As far as hearing noise in the middle of the night re: card games or whtever, not much you can really do.  This has been discussed before and if you share a place with thin walls, this is life.  You must figure out ways of soundproofing.

As for the dogs, I would be talking to mom and dad.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: camlan on December 15, 2012, 07:51:19 AM
If you can hear the adult daughter and her boyfriend making "scrabble" noises, I would have no problem banging on the wall and by doing so, they know they can be heard.    Or have your stepson say loud enough that they can hear, "Mom, or whatever he calls you, what is that crazy noise next door?".

As far as hearing noise in the middle of the night re: card games or whtever, not much you can really do.  This has been discussed before and if you share a place with thin walls, this is life.  You must figure out ways of soundproofing.

As for the dogs, I would be talking to mom and dad.

In most shared living situations, like this one, I think it is perfectly acceptable to ask the neighbors to reduce/lower/eliminate noise during certain hours, like at night when everyone else is sleeping. The neighbors can stop the activity, move it to another room, or take steps to cut down on the noise. This is for non-essential activity. If they are walking to the bathroom and flushing the toilet at 3 am, or taking a shower at 5 am because they have to leave for work at 5:30, there's probably not much you can do. But if they are watching DVDs, playing games, that sort of thing, then you can ask them to quiet things down.

Then, when they don't, you take steps to reduce the impact of their noise on your life--earplugs, white noise machines, soundproofing.

Then, if that isn't enough, you go back to the neighbors, explain what you've done and ask them for a little cooperation. If you are renting, you can also take the issue to the landlord.

Then you just hope that they don't retaliate by making even more noise.

But if you can complain about a loud party with next door neighbors if you are living in a neighborhood of single family homes, you can certainly complain about loud parties with neighbors who share a wall.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Virg on December 17, 2012, 03:57:12 PM
The problem you're going to have with all of this is that you've got a mix of reasonable and not reasonable complaints, and mixing them is going to interfere with solving the problem.  I'll address them in order of presentation.

The first issue created a reasonable complaint, in that they should not be making any sort of noise sufficient to wake the neighbors at three in the morning.  You brought that up and it didn't recur so I consider that done well on both sides.

The second issue is partially reasonable and partially not.  If the dogs outside are barking excessively then it's reasonable to ask AD or Man and Wife to do something to stop it.  Confronting them with the fact that your dog barks through the fence at their dogs in their yard, however, isn't reasonable because that's your problem to solve.  They have as much right to put their dogs in their yard as you do in yours, and moreover they can reasonably expect you to stop your dog from barking through the fence.

The third issue isn't reasonable, in my opinion.  Your complaint is that they were making audible "inappropriate" noises during the day, and trying to spin it as an offense because your stepson can hear isn't going to gain you any traction.  You can ask them to keep it down, but you must ask and you must do it politely because hearing the neighbors is just part of living in an apartment and their particular choice of action isn't intrinsically rude just because you find it inappropriate for scrabble to be audible.

So, in your place I'd address the dogs and the noise to AD in a polite manner, as well as looking into ways to deal with it myself like adding soundproofing, and I'd look into training my dog not to bark at the neighbor dogs when he's outside.  If their dogs continue to bark all day you can step up to talking to Man and Wife about it, and if necessary after that with the authorities.

Virg
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Lynn2000 on December 17, 2012, 05:10:39 PM
I think Virg has a good breakdown of the situation.

Believe me, I do not care to listen to my neighbors playing scrabble all night just inches away from my head on the other side of our shared wall (built-in furniture that can't be moved, also!). But, I think it's their right to do it. My first step would be to let them know that I can hear them, in case they voluntarily want to change their habits after knowing that. After that, I figure it's on me to play music, invest in soundproofing, etc. to reduce the noise. I love my white noise machine, by the way.

One thing I'm not sure about--are these quite new developments? Maybe something has changed in their situation recently? I would approach the neighbors about the party and dog noise right away, before it becomes a habit that is difficult for them to change.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: MrTango on December 18, 2012, 06:57:44 AM
I agree with other posters: go to the parents.  They own the home.  If this were a situation where the house was a rental, it would be appropriate to go to the landlord.

Also, if I got woken up at 3:00am by any sort of loud noise coming from the neighbors' house, I'd call the police.  That's ridiculous.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: lynnetteleigh on December 18, 2012, 08:13:34 AM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.




Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: MrTango on December 18, 2012, 08:39:47 AM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.

Don't bother.  It won't do any good.  Just call the cops or her parents (the homeowners) and let them deal with it.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: TurtleDove on December 18, 2012, 08:52:19 AM
I agree with Virg.

I wouldn't make this about "scrabble" noise but rather loud noise, if it really is that loud.  It does seem the late night noise has been adressed.  I would let the couple and the daughter know the noise is bothering you (they may not be aware you can hear them) but unfortunately, noise is a part of shared living.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: LeveeWoman on December 18, 2012, 09:15:04 AM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.

Don't bother.  It won't do any good.  Just call the cops or her parents (the homeowners) and let them deal with it.

Calling anyone at the moment won't stop the noise, but banging  on the wall will do just that.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: MrTango on December 18, 2012, 09:42:51 AM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.

Don't bother.  It won't do any good.  Just call the cops or her parents (the homeowners) and let them deal with it.

Calling anyone at the moment won't stop the noise, but banging  on the wall will do just that.

Not necessarily.  I've known people to intentionally get louder in response to banging.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: TurtleDove on December 18, 2012, 10:42:13 AM

Not necessarily.  I've known people to intentionally get louder in response to banging.

Unless and until this happens, I think it's over the top to call the police, who have better things to do and who would likely ask, "Did you ask the neighbors to keep it down?"
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: gollymolly2 on December 18, 2012, 10:59:50 AM
I agree. Calling the police should be reserved for important situations. They are not adult-babysitters.

I also agree with Virg - sort out which of your comlaints are reasonable and calmly approach your neighbors about those issues.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Mr Wigglybones on December 19, 2012, 04:13:36 AM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.

Don't bother.  It won't do any good.  Just call the cops or her parents (the homeowners) and let them deal with it.

Calling anyone at the moment won't stop the noise, but banging  on the wall will do just that.

Not necessarily.  I've known people to intentionally get louder in response to banging.

You would call the police on someone for having sex in their own home? Why? That would be a huge waste of time for the police and quite a silly call. Also, what exactly have we learned so far that would make you conclude that they are voyeurs?
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Margo on December 19, 2012, 06:37:56 AM
If there are excessively loud noises then go around and complain at the time, if you possibly can.

Regarding the dogs - they are your neighbour's dogs - speak to them , not AD about leaving them out all day (I agree with the PP that your dog barking through the fence at them is your issue to solve).

If going round and speaking to AD at the time she makes excessive noise doesn't help, then at that point, speak to the neighbours to tell them that there have been problems with excessive noise, that you've spoken to AD and it hasn't helped, and can they please address the issue. I think it is irrelevant whether the noises are due to Ad having sex, or having arguments, or simply watching loud TV or playing music. The relevant issue is that it is excessively loud to the extent it is disturbing you.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: MrTango on December 19, 2012, 07:12:42 AM
You would call the police on someone for having sex in their own home? Why? That would be a huge waste of time for the police and quite a silly call. Also, what exactly have we learned so far that would make you conclude that they are voyeurs?

I would call the police on someone for making noise loud enough that it wakes me up at 3:00am.  It wouldn't matter if they were playing scrabble, playing Scrabble, or giving a piano recital.

There are noise ordinances for a reason.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: TurtleDove on December 19, 2012, 08:35:59 AM
I would call the police on someone for making noise loud enough that it wakes me up at 3:00am.  It wouldn't matter if they were playing scrabble, playing Scrabble, or giving a piano recital.

There are noise ordinances for a reason.

I still think the police would ask whether you first asked the culprits to quiet down.  Police have actual crime to deal with and I just don't think it is a good use of community resources to tattle on people who are a bit overzealous in their scrabble playing, for example.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Twik on December 19, 2012, 08:47:54 AM
Do you have their telephone number? EvilTwik might call to chat whenever the scrabble noises get too loud.  >:D

EvenMoreEvilTwik might give them advice on the phone - "No, dear, he's doing it wrong. He really needs to...."
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: BeagleMommy on December 19, 2012, 11:19:17 AM
Do you have their telephone number? EvilTwik might call to chat whenever the scrabble noises get too loud.  >:D

EvenMoreEvilTwik might give them advice on the phone - "No, dear, he's doing it wrong. He really needs to...."

Twik, Diet Dr. Pepper through ones nose really hurts!  Thanks for that!  ;D
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: wolfie on December 19, 2012, 11:26:32 AM
You would call the police on someone for having sex in their own home? Why? That would be a huge waste of time for the police and quite a silly call. Also, what exactly have we learned so far that would make you conclude that they are voyeurs?

I would call the police on someone for making noise loud enough that it wakes me up at 3:00am.  It wouldn't matter if they were playing scrabble, playing Scrabble, or giving a piano recital.

There are noise ordinances for a reason.

That was once and the OP says it hasn't happened again. The noises are now happening in the afternoon.

I would go over and tell the daughter that she is being loud and please quiet down. If I were the parents I would be surprised that you would go to me first instead of speaking to the adult that is actually causing the problem.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Cat-Fu on December 19, 2012, 11:32:53 AM
I put my ear to the wall to confirm and hear what sounds like group scrabble going on next door.

Wait, what!?!? Why??

Maybe I'm just squeamish, but I wouldn't want to confirm! :-X lol!
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Twik on December 19, 2012, 01:15:58 PM
I put my ear to the wall to confirm and hear what sounds like group scrabble going on next door.

Wait, what!?!? Why??

Maybe I'm just squeamish, but I wouldn't want to confirm! :-X lol!

I think it's like smelling the month-old milk just to see if it's gone sour. You know you probably won't like what you find, but you just have to know.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: AmethystAnne on December 19, 2012, 01:46:48 PM
The first place that DH and I lived after we got married was a side-by-side duplex.

Our bedroom shared a common wall with the bedroom of the neighbors' DD's. We could hear talking, but it was no big deal. Months went by. I was pregnant (due in late Feb.) with our first child. In late Jan/early Feb, in the middle of the night, I heard a child call out suddenly, "MOMMY!!!!" I was up out of bed, and halfway to the nursery, before it occurred to me that I was still pregnant.  ::)
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: lynnetteleigh on December 19, 2012, 01:54:09 PM
I put my ear to the wall to confirm and hear what sounds like group scrabble going on next door.

Wait, what!?!? Why??

Maybe I'm just squeamish, but I wouldn't want to confirm! :-X lol!

I think it's like smelling the month-old milk just to see if it's gone sour. You know you probably won't like what you find, but you just have to know.

In my defense I was half asleep when I put my ear to the wall. I was still in panic mode and just wanted to confirm that it was coming from next door and not in my kitchen. Also when half asleep its surprisingly difficult to determine the emotion behind the screaming... :-[
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Twik on December 19, 2012, 02:58:01 PM
Also when half asleep its surprisingly difficult to determine the emotion behind the screaming... :-[

From living in apartments, I can say this is true. When muffled, the sounds of scrabble, fighting and reacting to a sudden-death goal in a playoff game are surprisingly similar.
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: VorFemme on December 19, 2012, 03:20:30 PM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.



Too bad it's been so long since Bo Derek starred in "10".

Because playing Bolero on the stereo whenever the "noises" started would get the message across to most people who remember seeing the movie.

Is there another possible tune - say a generation or so more recent - that might give the person the idea that "we hear what's going on - so here is a sound track to drown it out on our side of the wall but that YOU might find romantic"?

I suppose any music that's ever been played at the same point in a James Bond movie might make the same point...if they like James Bond movies...
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: nuit93 on December 19, 2012, 04:23:42 PM
Do you have their telephone number? EvilTwik might call to chat whenever the scrabble noises get too loud.  >:D

EvenMoreEvilTwik might give them advice on the phone - "No, dear, he's doing it wrong. He really needs to...."

I've had neighbors I was tempted to do that with...based on the sounds alone, I could tell the male was not a very considerate scrabble partner ;)
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: LeveeWoman on December 19, 2012, 04:26:52 PM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.



Too bad it's been so long since Bo Derek starred in "10".

Because playing Bolero on the stereo whenever the "noises" started would get the message across to most people who remember seeing the movie.

Is there another possible tune - say a generation or so more recent - that might give the person the idea that "we hear what's going on - so here is a sound track to drown it out on our side of the wall but that YOU might find romantic"?
I suppose any music that's ever been played at the same point in a James Bond movie might make the same point...if they like James Bond movies...

Me So H***y by 2 Live Crew?
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: Cat-Fu on December 19, 2012, 04:44:01 PM
I put my ear to the wall to confirm and hear what sounds like group scrabble going on next door.

Wait, what!?!? Why??

Maybe I'm just squeamish, but I wouldn't want to confirm! :-X lol!

I think it's like smelling the month-old milk just to see if it's gone sour. You know you probably won't like what you find, but you just have to know.

In my defense I was half asleep when I put my ear to the wall. I was still in panic mode and just wanted to confirm that it was coming from next door and not in my kitchen. Also when half asleep its surprisingly difficult to determine the emotion behind the screaming... :-[

I suppose I shouldn't find that funny... but I keep giggling :P
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: VorFemme on December 19, 2012, 05:46:44 PM
Thanks all.

These are all new developments. I've been in this house for over a year and all the noise problems have started in the past few months(when they got the new dog and their daughter moved back in). For the most part I do not hear anything through this wall. Normal conversations cannot be heard. The only time I hear voices is when they are screaming at football games. Which is why being able to hear scrabble noises is not appropriate in my mind because the volume was extremely excessive. I will be banging on the wall the next time that occurs.

This past friday/weekend I didn't hear any early morning dog noise so they may have realized how much noise the dog was making or someone else complained. I will be approaching the Man and Wife(who own) about the dog noise if it continues.

The dog noise is so audible because our bedroom window overlooks their porch/backyard which means it pretty much sounds like the dog is in the room with me.



Too bad it's been so long since Bo Derek starred in "10".

Because playing Bolero on the stereo whenever the "noises" started would get the message across to most people who remember seeing the movie.

Is there another possible tune - say a generation or so more recent - that might give the person the idea that "we hear what's going on - so here is a sound track to drown it out on our side of the wall but that YOU might find romantic"?
I suppose any music that's ever been played at the same point in a James Bond movie might make the same point...if they like James Bond movies...

Me So H***y by 2 Live Crew?

Possibly "Your Love is Whack" for the couple who someone else mentioned the guy was either not very good or not very considerate as a partner......Snarky and Evil want to go through and pick out all the marginally appropriate songs - but they are snickering so much that they can't hear the music......
Title: Re: Inappropriate noise from neighbors
Post by: turnip on December 19, 2012, 07:34:44 PM
You would call the police on someone for having sex in their own home? Why? That would be a huge waste of time for the police and quite a silly call. Also, what exactly have we learned so far that would make you conclude that they are voyeurs?

I would call the police on someone for making noise loud enough that it wakes me up at 3:00am.  It wouldn't matter if they were playing scrabble, playing Scrabble, or giving a piano recital.

There are noise ordinances for a reason.

That was once and the OP says it hasn't happened again. The noises are now happening in the afternoon.

I would go over and tell the daughter that she is being loud and please quiet down. If I were the parents I would be surprised that you would go to me first instead of speaking to the adult that is actually causing the problem.

I completely agree with this.   It's certainly not my job to mediate noise levels between my adult daughter and my neighbor.  For all I know the neighbor is absurdly sensitive and my daughter is doing nothing wrong.