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General Etiquette => Life...in general => Topic started by: sheleo on January 30, 2013, 10:31:22 AM

Title: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: sheleo on January 30, 2013, 10:31:22 AM
      My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about a year ago (amicably) and have been friendly since.  I was setting up an activity with a group of people, most of whom he knew and got along with, that I thought he would be interested in.  I had originally set the same activity over the holidays but everyone was busy so it was rescheduled.  When I originally set the activity, he had said maybe so I thought it safe to invite him again. 
     I should clarify that there is one person within my group of friends (more an aquaintence) who ex does not like (other guy is good looking and pretty sucessful.  I think there is some jealousy at play.  They knew each other before we met, within the same social circle).  He has tolerated this person before and because said individual travels frequently his attendance was doubtful.
    I received a scathing letter (and rather hurtful) from ex that  he was insulted to be invited to the same activity that other guy was invited to.  I actually expected him to say no if the other person was attending but I thought being insulted by an invitation was kind of... special.   
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: cicero on January 30, 2013, 10:37:53 AM
I guess he's an ex for a reason?

no of course he was not justified. all he had to do was say "no thanks" or "sorry, i can't make it"
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: oogyda on January 30, 2013, 10:43:15 AM
Your reply should read: "Thank you for letting me know. Rest assured, you will not be receiving further invitations."
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: sheleo on January 30, 2013, 10:44:39 AM
Actually I think I said.  Don't worry, it won't happen again  8)
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: Morticia on January 30, 2013, 10:45:30 AM
In answer to your question: he was very special.  He needs to grow up. If I were you, I wouldn't wait around until that happened. Your response was a good start.
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: #borecore on January 30, 2013, 10:52:26 AM
I think the proper way for him to respond would be, "Thanks for the invitation, but I can't make it this time. I'd like to join you for (activity) in the future, perhaps with a smaller group. Just between you and me, I have decided it's best if I'm not around Former Friend anymore. Hope this doesn't cause any trouble -- I appreciate you organizing get-togethers like this!"

What he did was so far from that as to be laughable if it weren't so rude!
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: cicero on January 30, 2013, 11:22:48 AM
Actually I think I said.  Don't worry, it won't happen again  8)
i like this  ;D
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: whiskeytangofoxtrot on January 30, 2013, 11:31:12 AM
IMO, he was over the top. My personal response would be, "Sorry to hear that, you'll be missed."
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: PastryGoddess on January 30, 2013, 12:00:13 PM
IMO, he was over the top. My personal response would be, "Sorry to hear that, you'll be missed."
Somehow, I doubt it :D 8)
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: BeagleMommy on January 30, 2013, 02:05:21 PM
You were fine, he was acting like a petulant adolescent.
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: JeanFromBNA on January 30, 2013, 02:26:53 PM
Actually I think I said.  Don't worry, it won't happen again  8)
Perfect!
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: Winterlight on January 30, 2013, 02:31:38 PM
Actually I think I said.  Don't worry, it won't happen again  8)

Well played!
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: bopper on January 31, 2013, 08:54:46 AM
Actually I think I said.  Don't worry, it won't happen again  8)
Perfect!
Perfectly Perfect.
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: weeblewobble on January 31, 2013, 09:01:56 AM
Your reply should read: "Thank you for letting me know. Rest assured, you will not be receiving further invitations."

POD.  That is quite special.
Title: Re: Was Ex a Special Snowflake or Justified
Post by: sweetonsno on February 01, 2013, 12:34:04 AM
Seems very SS to me, unless the phrasing of the "Other Guy is going to be there" heads-up was especially clumsy.