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Title: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Sign Of The Times on January 30, 2013, 03:29:40 PM
Sometimes I go to the grocery store for the pharmacy and only that. This often happens on a sunny day, so I'm wearing my prescription shades. When I go in, I could either swap out my glasses (hassle) or go without (fuzzy), but I prefer to just leave them on.

Someone told me it's rude to wear them indoors. I replied that that's only for hats, but she says no. What's the rule on sunglasses?
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: sweetonsno on January 30, 2013, 03:32:05 PM
I vote "weird." I don't think it's rude in most cases, though it does interfere with one's ability to look you in the eye. It would only be creepy if combined with some other sketchy behavior. I can't say that I think it is neutral, though. Unless you've just had your eyes dilated at the optometrist (do they even do that any more?), it doesn't strike me as a very practical decision. I'd probably assume that the person doing it was trying to look cool.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Sign Of The Times on January 30, 2013, 03:34:18 PM
I vote "weird." I don't think it's rude in most cases, though it does interfere with one's ability to look you in the eye. It would only be creepy if combined with some other sketchy behavior. I can't say that I think it is neutral, though. Unless you've just had your eyes dilated at the optometrist (do they even do that any more?), it doesn't strike me as a very practical decision. I'd probably assume that the person doing it was trying to look cool.
I don't suppose we have any pharmacists here? Because I'm wondering if there's some special stigma (socially not optically) inherent with shades when trying to pick up prescription pills. Anyone?
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: gorplady on January 30, 2013, 03:52:57 PM
It doesn't matter to me. You may have a reason to wear them.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: It's good to be Queen on January 30, 2013, 03:54:32 PM
I quite often wear my sunglasses inside stores in the summer because I have forgotten my regular glasses in the car. 
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: dawbs on January 30, 2013, 03:59:14 PM
I wear shades indoors often...I have 'persistent chronic migraines' which, with good meds, are a manageable (mostly) headache w/ light and sound sensitivity.
I have gotten a lot of comments/questions.  Some are 'trying to be funny' comments(which, FTR, I don't mine.  I claim it's my Yoko Ono impression  ;)), some are intrusive ("Why are you wearing sunglasses" is touch intrusive but I don't immediately rankle at it--although it can be asked in either neutral or incredibly hateful/accusatory/condescending tone of voice), and some are insulting ("what, did you party to hard last night?"  "trying to hide your face?")

I don't tend to share my medical reasons but the people who imply, while I'm at work-in front of my boss, that I"m hungover have gotten an (icily polite) earful.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: TootsNYC on January 30, 2013, 04:00:30 PM
And then there's me, w/ my sun-darkening regular glasses.

I wet to lunch w/a  friend, and we went into the restaurant, sat down across from each other, and started to laugh. We both had "shades" on because our lenses hadn't lightened up yet.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Cat-Fu on January 30, 2013, 04:01:26 PM
I voted neutral. I can't see how people with transition lenses should take them off. One of my coworkers is going around today with sunglasses on due to migraines, and honestly it didn't even occur to me that she was wearing them until she apologized!

However many banks prefer patrons who aren't wearing sunglasses (mine has a sign up).
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Tabby Uprising on January 30, 2013, 04:02:43 PM
I voted "fine/neutral".  While it's not often I notice people wearing shades indoors, I would just assume there was a reason for it.  A reason much along the lines of what previous posters have chimed in with. 

Or.... I might think you were a celebrity buying cauliflower on the down-low  8)
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: DottyG on January 30, 2013, 04:02:56 PM
Two words:  Roy Orbison

Made it his trademark look.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Sign Of The Times on January 30, 2013, 04:04:45 PM
Oh right -- Catfu in the bank, I definitely remove them. (The line is usually long enough for my eyes to adjust.)

Tabby, today is one of those days when I wish I were.

Dotty: You got it!
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: WillyNilly on January 30, 2013, 05:02:48 PM
I think it looks a bit weird, but it doesn't really bug me.  Sometimes it makes me break out into annoying mental songs though, and that bugs me.  I mean yeah your in the store now, but its clearly a quick trip so you are anticipating your future, to go outside soon, is so bright, you gotta where your shades?  What next, will you be wearing your sunglasses at night?
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Bijou on January 30, 2013, 05:05:22 PM
It doesn't affect me one way or the other, so I really don't care.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Judah on January 30, 2013, 05:12:17 PM
  What next, will you be wearing your sunglasses at night?

Great, now I've got that song stuck in my head...  8)
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Tea Drinker on January 30, 2013, 05:16:34 PM
I don't do it very often, but while it might look odd, I wouldn't call it rude. In some cases there are medical reasons, or other practical ones: I once wore prescription sunglasses at work for three days, while waiting for my regular prescription eyeglasses to be repaired.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: NbyNW on January 30, 2013, 05:32:16 PM
It kind of depends on the reason for the shades (which I admit I may not be privy to). 1) If you are having eye issues it seems fine to me and I would feel sympathetic because I would find wearing shades indoors to be a bother. 2) If you are wearing them because it seems to be a cool thing to do I would think it very affected and pretentious. Since people don't always tell you their reasons for doing things like this I would default to no. 1.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Yvaine on January 30, 2013, 05:33:39 PM
I'd assume there was either a medical reason or else you had the ones that are supposed to automatically adjust and don't. My college roommate had those and they never worked right. It got me really used to seeing shades indoors all the time.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: HoneyBee42 on January 30, 2013, 05:58:53 PM
I might think it odd for about a half second and then I'd totally forget about it.  I know my grandmother's glasses were supposed to auto-adjust and always seemed to be really delayed in adjusting in both directions. So I might think of her (even though she's been dead for more than 20 years).
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: QueenofAllThings on January 30, 2013, 06:07:08 PM
I do it all the time - keeps the paparazzi away. Seriously, I'm too lazy to take them off if I'm dashing in and out, but I will remove them if I'm having a conversation with someone.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: demarco on January 30, 2013, 07:26:03 PM
I used to wear the adjusting ones. They would darken fast when I went out but lightened up very slowly when I went in.  If I just dashed in somewhere they wouldn't lighten up until I was leaving the store. So, sometimes I'd be wearing shades indoors and used to  feel a little self conscious about it.

I've gone back to regular prescription shades. It is a pain to switch back and forth between prescription shades and regular glasses so I might keep my shades on if I'm running in and sometimes I even forget I'm wearing them. I might feel a little odd about it but not odd enough to care that much.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: PastryGoddess on January 30, 2013, 07:42:51 PM
I vote fine/neutral but then I wear prescription sunglasses that are so clear I forget I'm wearing them unless I walk into a dark store.  Most people don't notice...I think
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Belle on January 30, 2013, 07:47:27 PM
I'm not sure why it would be considered rude unless you're in a situation where eye contact is particularly important. I've worn sunglasses inside for several reasons. Most commonly, I forgot to grab my regular prescription glasses before entering the store (and I can't see without them). If I'm running in quickly, e.g., paying for gas, I don't bother to switch them out. Also, I have visual, migraine-like symptoms sometimes - flashing lights and floaters - that are exacerbated by bright light. Just this week I wore sunglasses at work because my office was too bright, even with the blinds down and my lights off.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: kherbert05 on January 30, 2013, 07:51:01 PM
I voted fine neutral - Would have like nobody's business.


I had a classmate who wore very dark glasses. He lost his sight falling off a roof (brain injury).  He knew the way his eyes "looked" didn't focus freaked some people out. So he felt he had more of a level playing field with the glasses on. If a sub tried to make him remove them - everyone spoke up to defend him.




I've had students who wore various tints for medical reasons. Most of them had some form of dyslexia that involved eye problems that are aggravated with fluorescent lights (often they strobe). Others had issues with headaches or other vision problems that tinting helped.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Outdoor Girl on January 30, 2013, 08:01:13 PM
When I see someone wearing sunglasses inside, I just think that they need to for some reason.  And it doesn't bother me at all.

I will wear lighter tinted glasses inside when I have a migraine.  And I have yellow lenses that I'll wear under fluorescent lights if they are bothering me.  I was just doing some training and the instructor must have noticed and started turning the lights off when we had stuff on the screen.  Neither of us said anything; I just wore my glasses when the lights were on.

The only time I've seen sunglasses be questioned is at a ball game.  The guy carting the beer around insisted that one guy remove his dark sunglasses before beer guy would sell him a beer.  I think it had to do with trying to determine if the guy was drunk or not.  Guy refused; beer guy refused to serve him.  He didn't make me take my glasses off but mine were lighter in tint and I also hadn't been ordering beer all game.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Hmmmmm on January 30, 2013, 08:04:31 PM
I voted other.  If your running in and out, no issue.  If you have a condition that requires limited light, no issue.  But if your out a at a club/restaurant partying and you keep your shades on, I find it odd.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Adelaide on January 30, 2013, 08:08:14 PM
When I have a black eye or I got my eyes dilated, I'll wear them indoors. Other than that I don't. I think it does look a little off, but I wouldn't necessarily classify it as "rude".
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: AngelicGamer on January 30, 2013, 10:54:20 PM
Depending on how my eyes are, I might need to keep my sunglasses on inside due to fluorescent lighting.  I have glare issues due to my eye disease - I'll go for someone thinking I'm weird if i don't strain my eyes and give myself a headache. 

And yes, I do wear my sunglasses at night.   ;D  Easier on me due to headlight glare.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: WillyNilly on January 30, 2013, 11:00:26 PM
And yes, I do wear my sunglasses at night.   ;D  Easier on me due to headlight glare.

in other words, so you can, so you can
See the light that's right before your eyes?

 8)
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Rohanna on January 30, 2013, 11:12:59 PM
I'm not allowed to wear them at work even when I'm hovering around a migraine, because (and I agree) eye-contact is important at my job. Instead we just make sure to put the blinds down and I wear a hat with a visor (technically against dress code but allowable for medical reasons). It happens so rarely it's not a big issue for me- if it was more frequent I'd probably have to switch to a position without patient-interaction so I could wear glasses.

For every day errands I don't consider it a problem and have had to do so occasionally myself. If I had to socialize and wear them, I'd try to make sure i didn't have "mirrored" glasses on, pick a pair where at close range you could at least see my eyes somewhat, if possible, and explain briefly to my friends why I was wearing them. Nothing extensive- but just so they weren't confused/uncomfortable or thinking I was being "stand-offish ("Sorry, I feel a migraine coming on, so the glasses are staying put today"- or something like that)/

Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: jalutaja on January 31, 2013, 02:40:31 AM
I did vote different.

As I have had such glasses and as I assume other people are like me - able to afford only one pair of glasses at a time*, so I would think that they have glasses that do change fast enough.

In fact - after some years my glasses remained tinted all the time

* currently I have splurged on pair of dark lenses one puts on top of the usual glasses - it makes me look weird, but as after certain age woman became invisivble anyway, so it makes no difference how I look.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Geekychick1984 on January 31, 2013, 05:14:57 AM
I vote neutral.  I honestly don't see why anyone would care.  It's no one else's business (unless it's an issue with a work dress code or something).
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: wyliefool on January 31, 2013, 07:32:56 AM
Fine, especially if they're prescription. DH wears glasses and there's no way he's carrying around 2 pairs and swapping them out all day if we're on an excursion somewhere. He'd wind up losing one or dropping it or something. I usually take mine off, but they're not scrip and they make it hard to see indoors.

My MIL often forgets she has her (scrip) sunglasses on and when I remind her exclaims 'oh it's not nighttime yet!'  :D
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Thipu1 on January 31, 2013, 07:35:05 AM
Neutral because we both wear transition lenses and it's pretty obvious that these aren't sunglasses per se. 

Seeing others with sunglasses indoors doesn't bother us at all.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: audrey1962 on January 31, 2013, 07:53:17 AM
Not rude for the reasons others have provided. And while medical reasons have been mentioned already, I'd like to single out glaucoma. Those glasses are UGLY, but necessary.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: bopper on January 31, 2013, 08:45:40 AM
I think people in general want to be able to see other people's eyes.
However, if you have a legitimate need to wear them, then ya gotta do what you gotta do.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: whiterose on January 31, 2013, 08:52:56 AM
I had to wear shades indoors recently due to a mild laceration making my right eye extra sensitive to light. When I wore my shades, it was nowhere near as painful.

Everybody at work was cool with it.

Honestly, why would it be rude if it does not affect a second person in any way?

Unless the shades are so dark it is a safety hazard, that is. But in my case, they were not.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: siamesecat2965 on January 31, 2013, 09:11:08 AM
I don't see any issue with it at all. Some people do it due to medical reasons, others becuase its easier than switching from sunglasses to regular ones, and others, well, they just do.

Doens't bother me in the least. And half the time, I probably don't even notice.  I wore them insidie once after going to the eye dr. as my eyes were QUITE sensitive to light, and even with them on, I still had some issue. Had I not had something that needed to be done that afternoon, I would have simply gone straight home. as it was, I did my task, then left.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Isisnin on January 31, 2013, 09:56:10 AM
I should've read the OP's post before I voted rude!

To just go into a store or some public place like that, not rude.  Just like it's okay to not take your hat or coat off.

But when you're spending time in a home or office and talking to people for lengths of time, it's rude (except for medical reasons).  Eyes are an important part of communication and to not let the person you're speaking to see your eyes (again, except for medical reasons), it's like your back is turned to them.

Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Judah on January 31, 2013, 10:01:51 AM
I wouldn't even notice unless we were having a conversation. If we are having a conversation, I really need to see your eyes or I feel like I'm talking to a cyborg. 
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: WillyNilly on January 31, 2013, 10:22:02 AM
Not rude for the reasons others have provided. And while medical reasons have been mentioned already, I'd like to single out glaucoma. Those glasses are UGLY, but necessary.

Do you mean the cataract after surgery dark glasses?  Because I have glaucoma, my dad has glaucoma (and had the surgery on both eyes), my grandmother had glaucoma, a few friends have it, etc and never has anyone ever had to wear dark glasses as part of the disease, ever (unless you are counting for an hour or so after dilation at a yearly eye exam, at which point you choose your own glasses to wear).  Glaucoma has nothing to do with light, it creates pin vision. Now cataracts on the other hand... after the (rather common) surgery, people's eyes are very very sensitive to light and they wear those giant black plastic sunglasses.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: magicdomino on January 31, 2013, 10:26:43 AM
I figure there is a medical reason for the glasses and ignore them.  Even if it is just to look cool, I don't care.  I'm not real big on staring into the windows of other people's souls anyway.   ;)
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: mstigerlily on January 31, 2013, 10:49:57 AM
Glaucoma has nothing to do with light, it creates pin vision. Now cataracts on the other hand... after the (rather common) surgery, people's eyes are very very sensitive to light and they wear those giant black plastic sunglasses.

Actually that's not true, different types of glaucoma can be affected by light. I know someone with glaucoma whose condition makes them particularly sensitive to glare so he wears cataract sunglasses quite often, even indoors if there is a lot of sunlight or glaring lights.

Because of cases like that I vote not rude.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: DaDancingPsych on January 31, 2013, 11:27:07 AM
I much prefer to talk to someone when I am able to look into their eyes. I just feel like the contact is more personal. So, I typically remove my glasses prior to interacting with someone. However, many posters have provided good reasons for wearing them and I don't know that etiquette says that you shouldn't.

Last summer, I took a trip into Canada from the States. The Canadian border officer was wearing these shades that greatly intimidated me... I'm sure that was the reasoning!!! Had she removed her glasses, I would have found her to be more warm and fuzzy. She was excellent at her job!!!
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Emmy on January 31, 2013, 11:30:50 AM
I remember in college, a friend of mine dated a really odd guy.  One time we went on a double date to a restaurant in the evening (we ate indoors) and he wore his sunglasses the whole time.  That incident was just one of the many incidences of strange behavior we saw from him.  We saw him on other occasions without sunglasses so I assume he didn't have a medical issue.  Every time I hear the song "I wear my sunglasses at night", I think of that guy.

I don't think there is anything wrong with wearing sunglasses for a quick trip to the drug store or similar errands and I certainly don't see how that is rude.  That is something I would probably not even notice.  Like others have said, in circumstances where eye contact is expected, wearing sunglasses would be a bit odd.   
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: mmswm on January 31, 2013, 11:34:55 AM
I'm horrible about forgetting to put my regular glasses in my purse and finding myself in a store with just my sunglasses.  This was never a problem before I started wear bifocals a couple years ago.  Now I find myself in stores, wearing my sunglasses, looking doofy, and being unable to read labels. 

I generally assume somebody wearing sunglasses indoors to either be dealing with a medical issue or forgot to switch out their sunglasses for their regular ones.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: BeagleMommy on January 31, 2013, 12:38:36 PM
I voted different.  After having two eye surgeries in one year I was given "fit over" sunglasses to wear over my regular prescription glasses.  In the first few weeks after the surgery any type of light made my eyes very sensitive so I wore the fit overs inside as well as outside.  My physical therapist referred to this as my "Bono stage"  8) ;D.

Thankfully, I found a company that makes very attractive fit overs so I don't look like I'm wearing black goggles.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Cosmasia on January 31, 2013, 05:36:18 PM
Voted fine.

I have anxiety and I found out that wearing dark tinted sunglasses somehow made me feel less horrible, I'm guessing because I feel hidden when wearing them.

Sometimes I wear them while shopping because of that and/or because I look particularly bad that day. Or because my eyes are being sensitive to light.

I'd like to also note that mine are red and heart shaped. So yeah, it might look attention seeking to some people.

Honestly there are so many reasons for someone to wear them indoors, I really don't get why anyone would automatically assume the "worst", which still doesn't affect them anyway. :P
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Margo on February 01, 2013, 07:49:09 AM
Fine.

In my case, I can think of 3 situations where I'd be wearing sunglasses indoors without having any wish to look cool ..

I wear prescription glasses. I need to wear them (or contacts)  all the time. My current lenses are the 'transitions' ones which darken automatically. As they get older, they seem to get slower to react so it could often seem that I'm wearing sunglasses when it is simply that they haven't 'cleared' yet.

If I'm wearing contacts and it's sunny then I may wear sunglasses as well - and then, because I'm used to wearing glasses all the time I just forget I have them on even indoors.

I have prescription sunglasses. If  I haven't also got my regular glasses with me (or if I'm only going to be indoors for a short period and it's not worth changing them) then I'll wear the sunglasses insider because otherwise I can't see.

And as PPs have said, there may be lots of medical reasons why someone would be doing this.

I think it is a little situational, though - because of the lack of eye contact it could feel rude if you are (say) speaking to someone one-on-one in a social setting, so in those sorts of situations if someone looked uncomfortable I'd  mention that I've leaving them on bacuase I forgot my normal specs, or that the lenses would lighten up given time, or whatever.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: mmswm on February 02, 2013, 09:41:10 PM
I had to post on this thread because I'm walking around the house, in the dark, with my sunglasses on.  Even the light of the stars seems to be too bright.  A major migraine hit me late this afternoon and I can finally function enough to use the computer, but only barely.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Itza on February 03, 2013, 06:11:42 AM
I chose 'Different Answer' because when I first started working, a guy in the office wore heavily tinted glasses indoors. He had some sort of issue with his eyes that he had to keep these tints on, even indoors.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: Diane AKA Traska on February 03, 2013, 08:05:11 AM
I suppose it all depends on how bright your future is.  ;)

(But seriously, fine/neutral/NOYB)
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: gena264 on February 03, 2013, 09:46:25 AM
I wear my prescription sunglasses almost all day , everywhere, until it gets dark outside. I have something wrong with my eyes ( I forgot the technical name for it now) that makes my eyes feel more comfortable with sunglasses on. I also have tinted prescription eyeglasses, but those are just not tinted enough in places like Target or Walmart where the lights in there are so bright.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: schweinsty on February 04, 2013, 08:25:43 PM
I voted fine. I'm photosensitive, and in some stores it can be bright enough that it makes my eyes ache, so sometimes I keep my sunglasses on inside. I don't see why it would be such a big deal.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: LEMon on February 04, 2013, 10:33:56 PM
Medically necessary most of the time in my case to wear sunglasses in stores, in movie theaters, at friend's houses (I spent the Superbowl wearing my sunglasses, and no one felt that was rude), at church, most everywhere.
Title: Re: Wearing shades indoors
Post by: zyrs on February 05, 2013, 08:44:48 AM
I voted fine/neutral.  I'm another who would have liked to see a choice of 'none of my business.'