Etiquette Hell

General Etiquette => All In A Day's Work => Topic started by: TootsNYC on July 12, 2013, 08:59:12 AM

Title: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 12, 2013, 08:59:12 AM
We've been in crunch mode at work this week, and there are a bunch of us who really can't leave our desks for very long. If a folder gets to our desk, we'll need to move it pronto. So the top managers announced that they'd buy lunch every day.

But they didn't buy enough for everyone, and the first day, all the people who physically sit closer to the conference room (who are actually not the people on deadline) got there first, and *because they were busy*, the crunch team didn't get there until the food was almost out--some of us didn't get any food at all.

It brought up a lot of office etiquette issues.

1) if you're going to announce that you're buying food for the whole staff, buy enough food!

2) it is too OK to say, "I'm buying food for people who are on deadline today and can't leave. If you're not on deadline I'm not buying your lunch." This isn't a party, where you would be rude to leave some people out. This is a working lunch; it's a form of compensation, and it's also a form of work supplies.

3) If you're not on the project for which the food was purchased, you really shouldn't be rushing to get there first. To me this is where etiquette is truly coming in. Yeah, sure, the email came to you and it said "lunch is here." So by the letter of the law, it's your lunch too. But I think you should wait, you shouldn't be the first person there trying to get the food.


I couldn't persuade the guy in charge of lunch to order more food, and I couldn't get him to stop sending the "lunch is here" email to the whole group, but I did get him to send that email FIRST to the deadline time, and then 20 minutes later send it to the rest of the staff.

And he was going to have a word with one of the non-deadline department heads to tell her somewhat large team to get their own lunches--or at least to hang back and

Has your office faced a situation where only some people needed lunch? How'd you handle it?

And, do you disagree with any of my assumptions above? Maybe I'm wrong.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: stargazer on July 12, 2013, 09:43:51 AM
I don't actually agree but part of it is because of how my group handles things.  I'm part of a large group A of about 50 people under one head manger and we are divided into smaller sub-groups under our direct managers.  Our smaller sub group is on a completely different deadline schedule than everyone else.  When the rest of the groups are on hard deadlines, we generally are not or it just isn't as urgent for us.  They buy breakfast/lunch then.  I am NOT going to wait for 40+ people to get their lunch before I figure out it's okay to get mine.  Why?  Because when it's OUR crazy busy time, the head manger completely forget about us and doesn't bother to get us food.  So the only time I'm going to get this benefit is when the main group is getting it.

Really, this is just a problem of the manager not getting enough food.  We always have leftovers as it is unless we're ordering specific meals from Chipotle or something.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Phoebelion on July 12, 2013, 09:50:32 AM
Have the same problem here.

It was solved by not telling the "not in deadline mode"  employees at all.  Period.  Never.  Of course, there's way more involved than the company buying lunch in our case.

They started the non-announcing because people were actually filling up two and three plates.  Ridiculous. 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: SamiHami on July 12, 2013, 09:57:20 AM
Nope, if the food is meant for a certain group then the manager should make it clear that it is for that group only. If he is unwilling to do that, then he needs to order enough for everyone, simple as that. If he refuses to do either, I would complain to him every single time it happens. Squeaky wheel and all that. After all, he's not really buying lunch for the group it's intended for if he knowingly allows this to continue.

When I used to order lunches for certain groups in my old position, we constantly had people from other areas come in and try to grab some for themselves. It got to the point where I would go up to those individuals in line for food and flat out tell them that this is for Group X and not for them, and that they would have to leave. I would also tell them if they wanted to come back later they could see if we had any leftovers. There was some grumbling, but when I reminded them it was coming out of my areas budget and not theirs they shut up pretty quick.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: MummySweet on July 12, 2013, 10:06:35 AM

1) if you're going to announce that you're buying food for the whole staff, buy enough food!

...

I couldn't persuade the guy in charge of lunch to order more food, and I couldn't get him to stop sending the "lunch is here" email to the whole group, but I did get him to send that email FIRST to the deadline time, and then 20 minutes later send it to the rest of the staff.

Well, the biggest issue is right here, and the fault lays with the person deciding on the quantities that are ordered.  If 'everyone' is being told they are being provided lunch, there needs to be enough lunch for everyone.  In this case I don't think the recipients should have to police whether one team got lunch or not (and I am assuming that they are following basic buffet rules: i.e., take a reasonable amount, no seconds until all have gone through line, etc.). 

In a similar situation, we ordered box lunches for the people who needed them and delivered them directly to their desks.  The menu selection was a little more limited, but the people who needed lunch were fine with the 4-5 options that they had, since it meant they actually got to eat.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Lorelei_Evil on July 12, 2013, 10:12:48 AM
Have the same problem here.

It was solved by not telling the "not in deadline mode"  employees at all.  Period.  Never.  Of course, there's way more involved than the company buying lunch in our case.

They started the non-announcing because people were actually filling up two and three plates.  Ridiculous.

He works THERE now?!  Yeah, have had those here, too.

Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Twik on July 12, 2013, 10:15:52 AM
I agree with MummySweet. It's just wrongheaded to say, "I'll only buy lunch for the people who need it, but I'll tell everyone that they can join in. Then, I'll be astonished that some of the people who need it didn't get their lunch! However could *that* happen?"

I think the boss needs to be stepped through this, so they can find the flaw in their logic.

"OK, you want the crunch team to be fed, so they don't lose time, right?"
"Yes, that's important to the business."
"And you only buy enough food for them, right?"
"Yes, we can't afford to feed everyone."
"And then you tell everyone that lunch is available?"
"Yeah, it would be rude to not invite them."
"So, you buy X lunches for your crash team, and you invite 2X people to partake. How many people do you think will end up without lunches? I have a calculator here, if that helps...."
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Phoebelion on July 12, 2013, 11:27:38 AM
We also have to remember that boss/managers (for the most part) are NOT logical.  A whole other side to the issue.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Curious Cat on July 12, 2013, 12:37:28 PM
We also have to remember that boss/managers (for the most part) are NOT logical.  A whole other side to the issue.

I find this an interesting and rude assumption.  It has certainly not been my experience.

I do think this manager is at fault though - if you send out a company wide email saying "food is here" with no other qualifiers there is no way for those non deadline crunch people to know that they are not included in that.  I think its unfair to blame them for eating food they would have no way of knowing wasn't for them.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: cwm on July 12, 2013, 12:39:53 PM
In my company, we're divided up into lots of little teams. I'm the one quirk who doesn't fall into a single team, due to how my boss was promoted and I was never moved laterally to be under a new manager. So now I'm at a similar problem. All the various teams get food from their manager, including the one other girl at my level (she IS on a team), but I get nothing. I sit with another department in our floorplan, also with lots of various teams, and THEIR teams all get food, but I still get left out.

It was made perfectly clear in my company that when the teams get food, it is for THAT TEAM and THAT TEAM ONLY, nobody else can have some because everyone has their own team, and its their manager's discretion when he orders that team food. Meaning I'm left out of literally everything and never get food.

I've been invited a few times by a former team manager to join his team for food, and I was always welcome to join their food days, but that manager's team has been mostly re-formed under a new manager, but also somewhat split, but the new manager was from another team and didn't realize that I was joining them.

Luckily I work in an office with my mom and she'll usually spring for lunch if I go pick it up, which I have no problem doing. She can't get away, I can't afford to buy all the time, so it ends up working for both of us.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: WillyNilly on July 12, 2013, 12:54:44 PM
Once people get the "lunch is here" email they are officially being told to help themselves. Its not up to them to determine if everyone else got any, was invited, is busier, etc. And its not rude for any employee who was offered lunch - by a manager, in writing - to take some. So the fault to me, lies with whoever invited the non-crunch people to partake in the lunch.

I absolutely think its fine to only buy lunch for certain groups/teams. Different jobs have different responsibilities and different perks. Sometime differences suck, sometimes they are perks, it is what it is.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: pierrotlunaire0 on July 12, 2013, 02:55:35 PM
Your boss can't have it both ways.  He wants to buy lunch for just his team.  He doesn't want to exclude non team members.  He feels compelled to make an announcement to everyone.

Obviously, it is either up to non-team members to realize that although they were invited to partake, they are to decline.  Or, team members are to police their fellow employees and tell them, "Yes, I know Boss invited you, but this is really ours."  Classy.

If I were in that situation, I would bring in my own food, preferably something that was a little fragrant so that everyone knew I brought my own.  And I would make a point of explaining that I need to eat and the current set up just.doesn't.work.

It would be nice if every team member did that so that the boss would realize that he is feeding everyone But those he planned to feed.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 12, 2013, 02:57:13 PM
Actually, I just ordered lunch for my subteam so we would be sure we got some. (Also because we have a couple of diet situations that aren't accommodated by the group order. A vegan and a celiac can't really eat a plain cheese pizza.)
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Free Range Hippy Chick on July 12, 2013, 03:55:34 PM
I would throw it back up the chain. 'Hey boss? You said you were buying lunch for the team today. There's nothing for us to eat. Can somebody get on that please? There's four of us over here ready to take our break now. Thanks so much.' Bonus points if you take it in turns to call every ten minutes. 'Boss? When's lunch coming? I've got a gap now but I'm going to be running in fifteen minutes.'
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: MariaE on July 13, 2013, 01:58:01 AM
Once people get the "lunch is here" email they are officially being told to help themselves. Its not up to them to determine if everyone else got any, was invited, is busier, etc. And its not rude for any employee who was offered lunch - by a manager, in writing - to take some. So the fault to me, lies with whoever invited the non-crunch people to partake in the lunch.

I absolutely think its fine to only buy lunch for certain groups/teams. Different jobs have different responsibilities and different perks. Sometime differences suck, sometimes they are perks, it is what it is.

I completely agree with this. If you tell everybody, buy luch for everybody, otherwise only tell those you buy lunch for. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. And likewise if random employee is told "lunch is here" with no qualifier there is nothing wrong with her assuming she can take some too.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: *inviteseller on July 13, 2013, 09:42:50 AM
Only the people on the deadline team should be getting in to eat as they are the ones this lunch is being bought for.  There is something about free food that just brings out the worst in people.  Your supervisor who is supplying the lunch should make it clear who lunch is for.  If the others want the free food, they should volunteer to give up all their time to work on the project.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: kckgirl on July 13, 2013, 11:19:23 AM
Is your team located in the same general area? Maybe the food could be delivered there instead of the break room. No email would be needed. It sounds like boss doesn't know how to create an email distribution list and is sending to "all" because it's easier, thereby creating the problem.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 13, 2013, 11:25:33 AM
No, the lunch-buying guy knows how to work the email system--that's kind of a wild assumption.

It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

AllI know is, if it were the folks in the other departments who were having their lunch-buying crunch time (which would come at an earlier time in the cycle than mine), I wouldn't go get the lunch until the first wave had been through.

Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: NyaChan on July 13, 2013, 03:29:46 PM
No, the lunch-buying guy knows how to work the email system--that's kind of a wild assumption.

It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

AllI know is, if it were the folks in the other departments who were having their lunch-buying crunch time (which would come at an earlier time in the cycle than mine), I wouldn't go get the lunch until the first wave had been through.

haha unfortunately, experience has taught me that this sort of thing happens a lot!  I can't tell you how many times people at school or prior jobs would just email the entire class or building because they couldn't figure out how to work the different groupings in the email system. Plus it makes so much more sense than someone being too stubborn or thick to understand that food for 10 people won't serve say 30 people  :)  That's what blows my mind.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TinyVulgarUnicorn on July 13, 2013, 03:55:11 PM
No, the lunch-buying guy knows how to work the email system--that's kind of a wild assumption.

It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

AllI know is, if it were the folks in the other departments who were having their lunch-buying crunch time (which would come at an earlier time in the cycle than mine), I wouldn't go get the lunch until the first wave had been through.

Per the bolded...not necessarily....I worked with a lady who didn't know how to send attachments via email and I had to tell all of the ladies in my office the difference between to, cc, and bc. 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: PeterM on July 13, 2013, 06:34:30 PM
It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

Would it be worth it to point-blank ask him why, if he feels he has to make the food available to everyone, he refuses to buy enough food to actually feed everyone?

"So you're buying enough food for eight people, and telling twenty-five people that lunch is here. Do you really not see a problem with that?"
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Shoo on July 13, 2013, 06:37:15 PM
It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

Would it be worth it to point-blank ask him why, if he feels he has to make the food available to everyone, he refuses to buy enough food to actually feed everyone?

"So you're buying enough food for eight people, and telling twenty-five people that lunch is here. Do you really not see a problem with that?"

Yes, I am wondering if anyone has actually asked this guy to do the math.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: JenJay on July 13, 2013, 08:15:08 PM
It's that he hasn't been persuaded to believe that it's OK to only notify the people on deadline. He thinks it has to be for everybody.

Would it be worth it to point-blank ask him why, if he feels he has to make the food available to everyone, he refuses to buy enough food to actually feed everyone?

"So you're buying enough food for eight people, and telling twenty-five people that lunch is here. Do you really not see a problem with that?"

No kidding! That's like a Bride who says "I don't care that I can only afford catering for 100 people - I want to invite 200!" You either provide food for everyone you've invited or invite only those you are willing to pay for. The fact that he does this knowing some of his employees will end up with NO lunch is ridiculous!
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Green Bean on July 13, 2013, 10:06:29 PM
Years ago, my company had a major software implementation that went... Poorly. Very poorly. They pull a sizable number of resources from my larger (150+) department into a crises team to reconcile issues over months. Daily, thus team was fed breakfast, lunch, dinner, and ongoing snacks and beverages to help ease the pain of the project. It was well known in our department that the food on conference room A was only for the crises team. Others couldn't have any (and lots of the food catered from nearby restaurants smelled so good), but hey, they weren't burning the midnight oil or working 7 days a week, either.

Reflecting back on the situation, I believe it was handled well. It was done under special special circumstances to both enable the team to accomplish their tasks with minimal interruptions, as well as acknowledge in a small way the sacrifices they were making.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: rigs32 on July 15, 2013, 10:41:08 AM
So what is the ultimate result on days like that?  The deadline team, the one the lunch was intended for, goes hungry?  How does that help anyone? 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Shoo on July 15, 2013, 10:43:12 AM
So what is the ultimate result on days like that?  The deadline team, the one the lunch was intended for, goes hungry?  How does that help anyone? 

I was wondering that too.  Do the hungry team members then have to leave the office to go get lunch anyway?  Seems like that would defeat the purpose. 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: amylouky on July 15, 2013, 10:47:47 AM
So what is the ultimate result on days like that?  The deadline team, the one the lunch was intended for, goes hungry?  How does that help anyone? 

I was wondering that too.  Do the hungry team members then have to leave the office to go get lunch anyway?  Seems like that would defeat the purpose.

That would actually be my approach to solve the problem. I'd tell Boss, "Hey Boss.. since entire office was invited to lunch but only half enough was bought, we're going to have to go ahead and take a lunch break.. we'll be back in an hour."

Nothing makes bosses/project managers scramble to fix things faster than thinking they may lose out on work time!
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: DavidH on July 15, 2013, 02:28:35 PM
Your assumptions seem fine except they depend on the wording of the email.  An email that says, lunch is here for the XYZ team is fine and suggests that it's only for them.  An email that says lunch is here suggests that is is for all the recipients.  If your boss won't buy for the entire office and feels compelled to email the lunch announcement to all, then at the minimum it should be clear about who lunch is for.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 15, 2013, 03:53:02 PM
So what is the ultimate result on days like that?  The deadline team, the one the lunch was intended for, goes hungry?  How does that help anyone? 

I was wondering that too.  Do the hungry team members then have to leave the office to go get lunch anyway?  Seems like that would defeat the purpose.

Well, after 1 week of this nonsense, with us thinking he'd order more food the next time, the deadline team either going hungry or ordering on their own, my team just gave up, and I ordered for us.
  The other step was that the guy who ordered the food started telling the deadline team first, so they could get in to get it.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Sneezy on July 15, 2013, 11:28:06 PM
I usually take the delivery and go from desk to desk to personally deliver the food. Leftovers go to the break room. It may take a while, but my taking about 20 minutes delivering food saves a bunch of time as well as gives me a chance to see how the quieter people are doing and get them what they need to meet the deadline.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: BeagleMommy on July 17, 2013, 01:44:23 PM
We had a similar situation at a previous job I had.

Once a month we would have marathon meetings that all employees were required to attend.  You had two choices for breakfast and lunch:  bring your own or contribute $20.00 and boss would bring in enough donuts and pizza for however many gave money.  One woman would always sniff and say "I don't DO donuts and pizza".  Okay, no problem.  Other people brought their own food so it's not as if someone would go hungry.

Well, once the meeting started she would take a plastic knife and cut a small piece out of one donut and eat it.  A few minutes later another piece, etc.  She would do the same thing with the pizza by only cutting off a piece of the crust each time she passed the boxes.

Boss pulled her aside and told her that she was not allowed to "pick" at the food if she wasn't going to contribute. 

If the boss only wants to feed the deadline team he shouldn't send the email to everyone.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Zizi-K on July 17, 2013, 01:50:13 PM
We had a similar situation at a previous job I had.

Once a month we would have marathon meetings that all employees were required to attend.  You had two choices for breakfast and lunch:  bring your own or contribute $20.00 and boss would bring in enough donuts and pizza for however many gave money.  One woman would always sniff and say "I don't DO donuts and pizza".  Okay, no problem.  Other people brought their own food so it's not as if someone would go hungry.

Well, once the meeting started she would take a plastic knife and cut a small piece out of one donut and eat it.  A few minutes later another piece, etc.  She would do the same thing with the pizza by only cutting off a piece of the crust each time she passed the boxes.

Boss pulled her aside and told her that she was not allowed to "pick" at the food if she wasn't going to contribute. 

If the boss only wants to feed the deadline team he shouldn't send the email to everyone.

That sounds rather excessive...For $20 you can get your own large pizza and dozen donuts! Methinks he was making money on this deal...
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Amanita on July 18, 2013, 12:26:10 PM
Yeah, $20 sounds just a wee bit over the top, especially for just pizza and donuts.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: White Lotus on July 20, 2013, 12:30:04 PM
Add beverages and side things like a green salad and some fruit (oh, goodness, I hope so!) and it could add up to $20 per. 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Otterpop on July 20, 2013, 11:23:57 PM
Yeah, $20 sounds just a wee bit over the top, especially for just pizza and donuts.

ITA, $20 is a steak dinner in a lot of places ($5 for a hamburger meal combo).  Why would they chip in that much for a meal of basically bread?
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: AngelicGamer on July 20, 2013, 11:39:29 PM
Yeah, $20 sounds just a wee bit over the top, especially for just pizza and donuts.

ITA, $20 is a steak dinner in a lot of places ($5 for a hamburger meal combo).  Why would they chip in that much for a meal of basically bread?

Depends on the city, IMO.  $20 is enough for large pizza with sausage and extra cheese from my favorite pizza place.  I'm in the Chicago suburbs.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: rose red on July 21, 2013, 09:10:52 AM
Yeah, $20 sounds just a wee bit over the top, especially for just pizza and donuts.

ITA, $20 is a steak dinner in a lot of places ($5 for a hamburger meal combo).  Why would they chip in that much for a meal of basically bread?

Depends on the city, IMO.  $20 is enough for large pizza with sausage and extra cheese from my favorite pizza place.  I'm in the Chicago suburbs.

Yes, but I assume each employee don't eat one whole pizza by themselves.  For $20, I'd rather buy that pizza for my family.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: HorseFreak on July 21, 2013, 09:33:12 AM
For $6 I can get a lunch special at an amazing pizza place including salad, slice of pizza and drink.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: LifeOnPluto on July 21, 2013, 10:35:49 PM
If the email simply said "Free lunch, in the conference room, now!" I guess technically, the other employees weren't rude by taking the food.

BUT - it also seems (and correct me if I'm wrong, TootsNYC) that:

1. The other employees knew full well that your team was under pressure, and didn't have time to step outside to get lunch;
2. The amount of food was limited. Ie, there wouldn't be enough for all staff; and
3. This had been going on for at least a week.

In that case, I do think the other employees were somewhat inconsiderate for rushing over to grab "first dibs" on the food.

As for a solution, I wonder if it would have been rude, after Food Guy send out the initial email, to quickly send another email to everyone saying "Thanks Boss. My team and I are working really hard, and don't have the opportunity to step outside. Lunch in the conference room sounds great. We'll be there in

That gives everyone the heads up that your team intends to have some of the food. And hopefully the other staff will back off, and leave enough for your team.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 22, 2013, 09:18:26 AM
That email wouldn't be rude in the least. But it wouldn't be effective either.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: Shoo on July 22, 2013, 09:24:09 AM
That email wouldn't be rude in the least. But it wouldn't be effective either.

The solution seems so simply, Toots.  I'm having a really hard time grasping why this is even a problem in your office.  The guy who sends out the email to everybody .... how can he NOT understand the problem that is creating? 
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: TootsNYC on July 22, 2013, 11:01:39 AM
Yeah, I don't get it either. He thinks it would be rude to officially exclude other people.


As I said, he tried to fix it by telling all the crucial teams first, and that sort of worked.

But the solution that was my favorite was mine--I just ordered lunch for my own team, and we didn't even lose time from going to try to beat our way through the crowds to get the food. And we got exactly what we wanted.
Title: Re: If you aren't on the deadline team, don't eat the lunch
Post by: siamesecat2965 on July 22, 2013, 12:46:13 PM
Yeah, I don't get it either. He thinks it would be rude to officially exclude other people.


As I said, he tried to fix it by telling all the crucial teams first, and that sort of worked.

But the solution that was my favorite was mine--I just ordered lunch for my own team, and we didn't even lose time from going to try to beat our way through the crowds to get the food. And we got exactly what we wanted.

I don't get it either. It's not like its a social event, where you're excluding certain people. It's work, some are busy, so busy they don't have time to eat, so food is ordered in so they can both eat and get the work done.

He sounds like a people pleaser, and is afraid of having someone not like him. I know if it were me, and some other group who was working their behinds off to get something done had lunch ordered in, I wouldn't think twice that I couldn't partake.

Glad you were able to come up with a solution for your group.