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General Etiquette => All In A Day's Work => Topic started by: Gail on August 25, 2013, 09:24:33 AM

Title: What do you think about this?
Post by: Gail on August 25, 2013, 09:24:33 AM
I saw this in Facebook. I think I would have words with my boss if he gave this to me, even as a joke. What would you do?

http://u1255p873.ilyke.net/my-boss-just-handed-me-this-after-an-argument-on-the-jobsite---/34970
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Thipu1 on August 25, 2013, 09:38:14 AM
I would go straight to HR about this.

It isn't funny.  It's misogynistic and homophobic.  The only thing it's missing is racial or ethnic slurs. 

This was written by a 'Real Man' who handles differences of opinion like a know-it-all 12 year-old. 
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: White Lotus on August 25, 2013, 11:34:13 AM
This is so offensive it boggles the mind.  Feminization as a way to humiliate males degrades women unbelievably.  Given to a woman, it renders me soeechless. Right to HR, and think kind thoughts of the EEOC and various similar state and local agencies.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: LeveeWoman on August 25, 2013, 01:01:35 PM
After I almost fell out of my chair laughing (I sometimes have a non-PC sense of humor), I thought that this should be taken up with HR rather quickly.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Marguette on August 25, 2013, 05:09:30 PM
What Levee Woman said. Same here.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Klein Bottle on August 25, 2013, 06:26:59 PM
Some parts of this were funny in a non-PC way, but some of it was just stupid, and it's a sure ticket to a meeting with HR. 
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Hmmmmm on August 25, 2013, 07:06:14 PM
I thought the first 2 questions could start off funny but the rest are so highly offensive it would be hard to believe the boss wouldn't be fired.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: afbluebelle on August 25, 2013, 08:00:10 PM
I think it looks better when it is filled out as the official form.

http://www.armywriter.com/DoD_FORM_IMT_WF11.pdf

I mean, if you are going to make an offensive report, at least make it look legit!
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: stkatie00 on August 25, 2013, 09:32:57 PM
I think it looks better when it is filled out as the official form.

http://www.armywriter.com/DoD_FORM_IMT_WF11.pdf

I mean, if you are going to make an offensive report, at least make it look legit!

Now, THAT one is funny!

Otherwise, straight to HR.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: KenveeB on August 25, 2013, 10:56:47 PM
The first bit of it was funny, but it quickly degenerated into very offensive territory. I can't imagine receiving this at work, and it would definitely be reported immediately.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Slartibartfast on August 25, 2013, 11:06:21 PM
Some parts of this were funny in a non-PC way, but some of it was just stupid, and it's a sure ticket to a meeting with HR.

This.  Also a sure-fire way to bring negative publicity to your company, if the picture and the company name get linked on social media.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Slartibartfast on August 25, 2013, 11:09:17 PM
I think it looks better when it is filled out as the official form.

http://www.armywriter.com/DoD_FORM_IMT_WF11.pdf

I mean, if you are going to make an offensive report, at least make it look legit!

Now, THAT one is funny!

Agreed!  It gets in the same type of jokes without being gendered - it cites "real man/woman" instead of just "real man," and the "reasons" were funny without being feminizing (i.e. insulting for men) or sexist.

Unfortunately, it's probably a lot funnier in the abstract - if I actually was complaining about something, I would be infuriated by someone brushing me off with a form like that  :-\
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: katycoo on August 25, 2013, 11:12:17 PM
It could be funny - if you have the right kind of relationship with your boss.

Without that relationship, its obscenely offensive.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Iris on August 26, 2013, 01:29:53 AM
It could be funny - if you have the right kind of relationship with your boss.

Without that relationship, its obscenely offensive.

It's obscenely offensive anyway. Yes, if a sexist person gave it to another sexist person the recipient may not be personally offended, but the form is nonetheless vile.

The air force one managed to do the same thing without dragging gender stereotypes into it which made it much funnier imo.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: stkatie00 on August 26, 2013, 10:29:52 AM
I think it looks better when it is filled out as the official form.

http://www.armywriter.com/DoD_FORM_IMT_WF11.pdf

I mean, if you are going to make an offensive report, at least make it look legit!

Now, THAT one is funny!

Agreed!  It gets in the same type of jokes without being gendered - it cites "real man/woman" instead of just "real man," and the "reasons" were funny without being feminizing (i.e. insulting for men) or sexist.

Unfortunately, it's probably a lot funnier in the abstract - if I actually was complaining about something, I would be infuriated by someone brushing me off with a form like that  :-\

Good point. It's amusing to read it, right now, when I'm not upset about anything. But were I do actually get it from someone at work, I'd become even more upset.
Title: Re: What do you think about this?
Post by: Mammavan3 on September 01, 2013, 02:39:12 PM
It could be funny - if you have the right kind of relationship with your boss.

Without that relationship, its obscenely offensive.

It's obscenely offensive anyway. Yes, if a sexist person gave it to another sexist person the recipient may not be personally offended, but the form is nonetheless vile.

The air force one managed to do the same thing without dragging gender stereotypes into it which made it much funnier imo.

Perhaps it's just me, but I found the "Air Force" form just as offensive. I see it as an extension of the attitude that it is somehow weak and unacceptable to ask for help with a problem.  It's thought to contribute to the high suicide rate of those in the military.