Etiquette Hell

Hostesses With The Mostest => Entertaining and Hospitality => Topic started by: jpcher on September 30, 2013, 09:04:54 PM

Title: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: jpcher on September 30, 2013, 09:04:54 PM
Please help me de-stress about this.

A month ago I sent out invitations for a party that I'm hosting this coming Saturday. BIL & SIL immediately declined due to a pre-arrange dinner party that they had planned on that date. So that meant their 2 DDs +BFs would also not be attending (meaning 6 people.)

I told the DDs that they could go ahead and invite a couple of extra friends. The guest list (23 people) was set by Monday of last week.

My utmost (tight-fit) max for comfortable inside dining is 25 people. This includes the enclosed patio table, dining room table & extends to the living room couches w/coffee & end tables if necessary.

If weather cooperates, we also have seating on the deck and blankets on the lawn.

However. It's suppose to storm all weekend  :( so other than the grilling, I'm planning on an inside party.


BIL e-mailed me today and said "You know, I was thinking . . . the guests that we invited were Jack & Jill. What about if we all just came to your house? Would that be okay?"

BG: Jack was a HS friend of LDH. I met Jack & Jill maybe 3 times? When MIL last came up from out of state for BIL's DD's HS graduation, she brought up Jack & Jill. SIL chimed in and said "I remember Jack!" endBG

So, Having Jack & Jill here would be really nice for MIL and SIL. Plus! Jack & Jill have a couple of (college-age) kids . . . don't know if they'll be coming or not.

In addition, I only have 25 firm plates/flatware, so I'll have to serve everything on paper/plastic . . .


How would you handle this?
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: NyaChan on September 30, 2013, 09:07:31 PM
"I'm sorry, but I've already finalized my numbers and can't accommodate any more people."   - if it is too much trouble to rearrange for the extra people.  If you don't mind having more people, go for it - nothing wrong with paper plates and I'm sure people can find places to spread out to (if you genuinely don't have room though, I'd pass on this).
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: PastryGoddess on September 30, 2013, 09:12:30 PM
Just say no.  You don't have the space, don't need the stress, and it's just not ok to do this at the last minute.  It would completely change the flavor of the event you were planning.  Lack of planning on their part does not constitute an emergency on yours.

It's not your job to facilitate Jack, Jill, MIL, SIL, etc.  They can make their own plans.

This is when you can deploy the old e-hell favorite "I'm afraid that won't be possible".  Send a very nice message back stating that unfortunately it won't be possible to accommodate any extra guests.  End with vague plans to get together at some other time.

Remember. It's Ok to say NO.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: daen on September 30, 2013, 09:14:20 PM
I would probably say "Okay," or something similar, and then stress out about it because it wouldn't be okay.
I do not recommend this approach.

I agree with NyaChan. I can't see that there would be a problem with saying "I'm sorry, I don't have room to add anyone else at this point," if you don't want the additional guests.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: sammycat on September 30, 2013, 09:17:29 PM
I think BIL's horribly rude for even asking this. (I don't subscribe to the 'it's not rude to ask' train of thought, as sometimes it is rude to ask and I think this is one of those times). I like NyaChan's wording.

It sounds to me like BIL and SIL can no longer be bothered going to the effort of hosting Jack and Jill and are trying to palm it off onto you instead. Having their cake and (possibly) quite literally eating it too.

If you'd like to see Jack and Jill, how about suggesting you meet up at another time, with BIL/SIL, maybe at a restaurant.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: shhh its me on September 30, 2013, 09:25:53 PM
I think you can say " sorry no more room now , when you declined other guests were added"  not only without being rude but without even offended/irritating/hurting the feelings of even the most sensitive person. 

But if you want to say yes, say yes eat on paper plates and scrounge up some folding chairs.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: hannahmollysmom on October 01, 2013, 02:00:14 AM
"I'm sorry, but I've already finalized my numbers and can't accommodate any more people."   - if it is too much trouble to rearrange for the extra people.  If you don't mind having more people, go for it - nothing wrong with paper plates and I'm sure people can find places to spread out to (if you genuinely don't have room though, I'd pass on this).

I think I would go with this response. It sounds reasonable to me.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: camlan on October 01, 2013, 06:03:40 AM
First, do you really want to add 8 people to the guest list? Buy food for 8 more people? Squish 8 more people into a house that, it seems, is already at capacity? Will those 8 extra people bring joy and gladness to the gathering, or a feeling of being crammed into too little space with too many people? You were planning on real plates and flatware. How will paper plates and plastic flatware affect the mood of the party? The food that you were planning to serve? (Not everything can be cut neatly on a collapsing paper plate with a plastic knife.)

IMO, if MIL and SIL and Jack and Jill really want to get together, they would have done so already. They do not need your party in order to re-connect. If MIL is coming from a distance, you could let her know right now that Jack and Jill are in town and tell her to get their contact info from BIL. Then MIL and Jack and Jill can make plans to get together outside of the both the dinner parties.

Note: BIL did not think to invite MIL to the dinner with Jack and Jill.

With all that, I'd tell BIL that, sadly, once he declined the invitation, you filled up the guest list with other guests and there is no room for him and his dinner party to attend your dinner party.

Just because he asked does not mean that you have to say yes. Just because BIL has suddenly realized that your party is going to be the happening party does not give him the right to gate-crash at the last minute.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: lowspark on October 01, 2013, 08:10:45 AM
I'm terribly sorry but when you declined my initial invitation, I invited some other people so I just won't have room for the additional eight.

Would it work for them to come for dessert only maybe? Or after dinner drinks? That way, Jack and Jill would still have a chance to see MIL and SIL.

I agree with PPs. You have a right to say No.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Zilla on October 01, 2013, 08:13:49 AM
Two ways that I can think of:

I would offer to pay for a dinner out for your daughters and their friends.

If this doesn't work, offer regrets to bil.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Hmmmmm on October 01, 2013, 08:36:22 AM
First, do you really want to add 8 people to the guest list? Buy food for 8 more people? Squish 8 more people into a house that, it seems, is already at capacity? Will those 8 extra people bring joy and gladness to the gathering, or a feeling of being crammed into too little space with too many people? You were planning on real plates and flatware. How will paper plates and plastic flatware affect the mood of the party? The food that you were planning to serve? (Not everything can be cut neatly on a collapsing paper plate with a plastic knife.)

IMO, if MIL and SIL and Jack and Jill really want to get together, they would have done so already. They do not need your party in order to re-connect. If MIL is coming from a distance, you could let her know right now that Jack and Jill are in town and tell her to get their contact info from BIL. Then MIL and Jack and Jill can make plans to get together outside of the both the dinner parties.

Note: BIL did not think to invite MIL to the dinner with Jack and Jill.

With all that, I'd tell BIL that, sadly, once he declined the invitation, you filled up the guest list with other guests and there is no room for him and his dinner party to attend your dinner party.

Just because he asked does not mean that you have to say yes. Just because BIL has suddenly realized that your party is going to be the happening party does not give him the right to gate-crash at the last minute.

I agree with all of this. Especially the part about the importance of MIL and SIL reconnecting with the friend.

Is this a party in honor of MIL or SIL or is it important for other guests if they attend your party? Would you mind terribly if they didn't attend yours and instead went to your BILs? If not, then I'd say "I'm sorry, I invited other guests once you declined and can't accommodate your group of 8. But I think MIL and SIL would enjoy seeing Jack so I'm ok with you inviting them to your dinner instead of them coming here."
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Arila on October 01, 2013, 03:20:46 PM
J, It's not clear to me what you want to do. Are you looking for how you could graciously host them on paper plates and not enough seating or are you looking for the polite way to say no?
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: *inviteseller on October 01, 2013, 03:47:38 PM
I also agree with telling them that when they declined, you added other people and you can no longer accommodate them.  It is very rude to say no, then yes, then add more guests, especially if they are bringing guests who just want to visit with one or two of your other guests.  Don't let them try to weasel in (oh, we can just sit on the floor, oh no, paper plates will be fine).  It is nice that MIL & SIL wants to see this other couple, but they can do that without hijacking your party.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Promise on October 01, 2013, 04:09:40 PM
I would say, "I made other arrangements by inviting others when you declined the invitation. I can't accommodate more people. I'm sure you will have a lovely time with them doing xyz."  If they try to plead and beg, stick to your guns. "It's not possible."
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Sophia on October 01, 2013, 04:12:58 PM
So, basically, they want to move their dinner party to your house?
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: TootsNYC on October 01, 2013, 04:18:37 PM
another way to say no is, "No, that's all right, you guys go on with your own dinner party. I'm sure your guests are looking forward to spending time with you."

Because BIL is sort of rude to his guests, actually, in addition to being rude to you.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: PastryGoddess on October 01, 2013, 04:32:50 PM
I don't think its necessary to tell BIL why they can't attend, just that it won't be possible for them to attend due to a full house.  I don't think you need to go into detail about how you invited other people when they turned down your invitation. 
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: jpcher on October 01, 2013, 05:23:47 PM
J, It's not clear to me what you want to do. Are you looking for how you could graciously host them on paper plates and not enough seating or are you looking for the polite way to say no?

Thanks, arila, for asking me to clarify my muddled thoughts.

Originally I posted for a polite way to say "No." Mostly due to the last minute (rude?) question of "can we all come" along with the weather forecast and my inside accommodations.

The more I think about it -- I'm leaning towards finding a gracious way to host on paper plates without enough seating for everyone.

 

MIL is coming from out of state. I'm betting this is why BIL asked . . . he didn't know that his mother was planning on coming and it's been 6+ months since he's seen her. MIL will come up on Saturday morning, stay for the party, sleep at SIL's home then breakfast with old neighbors, attend a church function and leave Monday morning. So there really isn't a time, other than the party, that BIL can see his mother . . . Jack and Jill are just a side benefit at this point.


So, I'm still on the fence . . . I do agree with everybody that BIL was rude about asking, but I do see his point and would like to accommodate.

Food-wise? I always make plenty so adding a bit more to the side dishes won't be a huge deal.

Serving on paper plates? Not such a paper-plate-friendly type of meal. Would I be a rude hostess if I had regular plates along with some paper plates (I do have the paper plate holder thingy's) on the buffet table? What about the flatware? Mix plastic with the real thing?

What about seating?


Sigh. I really want to accommodate everybody, but am not sure how to do this without being a rude hostess . . . I need to give BIL an answer tomorrow.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: jpcher on October 01, 2013, 05:27:23 PM
another way to say no is, "No, that's all right, you guys go on with your own dinner party. I'm sure your guests are looking forward to spending time with you."

Because BIL is sort of rude to his guests, actually, in addition to being rude to you.

That was another thought I had . . . If I were invited over to someone's home and then the host said "Let's have dinner at Xplace instead" I think, that as a guest, I would feel a bit awkward.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: greencat on October 01, 2013, 05:41:39 PM
Well, why don't you have your BIL and his family bring the things needed to adequately host those extra people - all the plates and utensils and serving dishes and napkins and extra chairs and extra food?
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: sammycat on October 01, 2013, 07:27:27 PM
The more I think about it -- I'm leaning towards finding a gracious way to host on paper plates without enough seating for everyone.

TBH I think that's kind of rude to your current guests. As things stand now, everyone who is attending can be comfortably accommodated. But then someone comes along who originally said 'no', then changed their minds and not only that, wants to bring extra people, which in turn will lead to the first lot of people getting a different, dare I say lesser, party to one they RSVPed for.

I'm not at all against parties where people eat off paper plates (I've done it heaps of time myself), and/or there's inadequate seating (BTDT) - if that's the plan from the beginning, which this wasn't.  There's also the possibility of Jack and Jill's kids coming as well, which take it beyond the 8 mentioned in the title, and would make things even more crowded.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Phoebe on October 01, 2013, 07:32:33 PM
Well, why don't you have your BIL and his family bring the things needed to adequately host those extra people - all the plates and utensils and serving dishes and napkins and extra chairs and extra food?

Great idea!
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Zizi-K on October 01, 2013, 07:33:33 PM
I think you could politely ask BIL to bring not only the additional plates/cutlery that you'll need, but also some extra chairs. I personally detest eating away from the table. I hate eating sitting on a couch, I have balancing my plate on my knee, I inevitably spill or drop something, and it's just no way to enjoy good food and drink. Perhaps BIL could also bring a couple of card tables as well.

Alternatively, you could allow BIL to graciously withdraw his attendance from your party so he can attend the other one with his mother.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Deetee on October 01, 2013, 08:31:20 PM
I like the desert option. Would that fly in your family/friends?

Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: PastryGoddess on October 01, 2013, 09:55:48 PM
To me it sounds like you are are accommodating a small group of people, by inconveniencing a larger group of people.  Yes, it would be nice if BIL, SIL and MIL, could all get together.  but its not your problem.  Are you the only one who knows that they will all be in town at the same time.  When MIL RSVP'd yes, and made plans to stay with SIL, is it plausible that they didn't think to contact BIL to let him know MIL would be in town?

Looking at MIL's schedule, it doesn't look like they made any plans to meet up with BIL in the first place.  So while your event is a great place for them to get together, it looks as if it wouldn't have happened anyway based on MIL's schedule. 
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: WillyNilly on October 02, 2013, 12:07:53 AM
Whats your budget? If you have some cash to spare, you can perhaps buy some plates and utensils at a thrift shop for a few cents per piece. They wouldn't be a perfect match to your other plates but they wouldn't be paper and plastic. While you are at it, large throw pillows can make comfy floor seating, especially for teens (maybe if your kids start sitting on them, their friends will follow suit). Alternately perhaps some friends or BIL have some folding chairs they can lend you for the party.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: Hmmmmm on October 02, 2013, 08:37:51 AM
With the additional guests, you end up with 31 and places for 25 to sit to eat.

Would your DD's and their friends be willing to eat picnic style? Set up a  blanket on the floor and then top with a cool picnic blanket, have basket of flowers to put in the middle of it and then provide them with really sturdy paper products. You could even throw some cushions down for them if you have some.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: wolfie on October 02, 2013, 08:44:42 AM
So what is important to you - all the guests that you invited to a party? Or making sure your In-laws have a mini get together that they apparently didn't feel the need to arrange for themselves?

I don't think you should ignore the comfort of your other guests so that you can facilitate your inlaws getting together. Based on the fact that you have kids in college they have to be 40+ years old. If they want to get together they can do it themselves and don't need you to tie yourself into knots to do it for them.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: doodlemor on October 02, 2013, 12:09:10 PM
I have always thought that your comments here are very gracious and kind, jpcher.  I bet that your family cherishes the time that they spend with you, and the things that you do for them.

It's understandable that you want to be able to include everyone in your party.  I really like greencat's idea of asking BIL to bring stuff.  Perhaps you could compromise by using the paper and plastic, but gently tell BIL that you don't have enough chairs, and could he please bring X number of chairs with him.  Maybe you could ask for a table, too, if you are planning that everyone has a table place for the meal.

I suspect that you likely have a way that you could ask for the extra seating without causing offence.  Hopefully BIL would then know that his request was a bit out of line.  He would have the option of being inconvenienced with bringing chairs, or he would have to entertain his own guests. 
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: ladyknight1 on October 02, 2013, 02:38:38 PM
I hope things work out for your event, OP. I would be stressed by the additional people and that is not a good thing.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: gramma dishes on October 02, 2013, 02:41:36 PM
Just say no.  You don't have the space, don't need the stress, and it's just not ok to do this at the last minute.  It would completely change the flavor of the event you were planning.  Lack of planning on their part does not constitute an emergency on yours.

It's not your job to facilitate Jack, Jill, MIL, SIL, etc.  They can make their own plans.

This is when you can deploy the old e-hell favorite "I'm afraid that won't be possible".  Send a very nice message back stating that unfortunately it won't be possible to accommodate any extra guests.  End with vague plans to get together at some other time.

Remember. It's Ok to say NO.
 

I agree totally.  Every word. 
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: jpcher on October 02, 2013, 07:06:05 PM
Thanks, everybody, for your input.

I really was on the fence here and I honestly took the advice about "Just say No." The most important advice I took into consideration was the thought of inconveniencing my other guests by making the gathering uncomfortably crowded, using paper plates, etc. All of your comments made a lot of sense to me. In fact I even drafted an e-mail to BIL because I strongly agreed with all of you.


I think there were two factors in making my decision . . .

First, the back of my mind I had a niggling thought of MIL saying something like "Oh, you should have invited them. It's been years since I've seen Jack and Jill! We would have made it work." Actually, MIL has too much grace and probably wouldn't have said that out loud but it was my own self-guilt-trippy thing. I love MIL and enjoy doing special things for her (she's almost 80.) I think that Jack and Jill coming would be a wonderful surprise for her.

Second, and really the deciding factor, is that due to the weather I was toying with the idea of renting a tent anyway. Didn't really want to spend the extra money, but even without the extra people this probably would have been a good idea . . . gives people more roaming room. So I bit the bullet and rented a tent, an extra table and chairs. Doing this really put my mind at ease.


Back-n-forth e-mails between me and BIL: There will only be 6 extra people (BIL, SIL, younger DD & BF, and Jack  & Jill). BIL said that SIL will be bringing a bunch of appetizers and I asked if they could bring plates and flatware (especially steak knives.)

So, I think it's all going to work out and everybody will be happy. ;D



Just had to add another reason for me wanting to please everybody:

Just because BIL has suddenly realized that your party is going to be the happening party does not give him the right to gate-crash at the last minute.

This is the happening party of the year! ;D ;D

This is an annual event (horseradish, anyone? ;)) and I'm betting that's why BIL asked if it would be okay for him to bring his guests. When he actually called me with his regrets (instead of our usual e-mails) he sounded very disappointed about having to miss this event.



Again, I thank everybody for your thoughts and advice. Even though I went against most of what you all posted, reading your words helped me decide . . . because BIL doesn't usually have a rude bone in his body.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: Deetee on October 02, 2013, 07:35:43 PM
Congrats! You made the right decision!

Right decision: The one that you really want to make taking into account the event, the guests, your personal workload and your affection for them all, but excluding guilt and pressure.

And, if I recall you completely cancelled this party one year. That was also the right decision!
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: Hmmmmm on October 02, 2013, 07:45:00 PM
Glad your making it work and I'm sure your MIL and BIL will appreciate your generosity.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: hannahmollysmom on October 03, 2013, 01:57:31 AM
Glad your making it work and I'm sure your MIL and BIL will appreciate your generosity.

I wish sometimes we had a "like" button! Glad it's all working out.

I live by myself so down sized to a smaller home. But, my place is still the go to for celebrations (hostess to the mostess, I guess,  :o) but I manage to make it work. Best investments: 2 folding tables, and a few folding chairs. Stored in the basement but they come out often!
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: PastryGoddess on October 03, 2013, 02:02:14 AM
Now that you have a tent...it won't rain :)
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: gramma dishes on October 03, 2013, 10:43:26 AM
Now that you have a tent...it won't rain :)

Then the tent can protect them from the blistering sun!   ;D
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right?
Post by: TootsNYC on October 03, 2013, 10:57:53 AM
The more I think about it -- I'm leaning towards finding a gracious way to host on paper plates without enough seating for everyone.

TBH I think that's kind of rude to your current guests. As things stand now, everyone who is attending can be comfortably accommodated. But then someone comes along who originally said 'no', then changed their minds and not only that, wants to bring extra people, which in turn will lead to the first lot of people getting a different, dare I say lesser, party to one they RSVPed for.

I'm not at all against parties where people eat off paper plates (I've done it heaps of time myself), and/or there's inadequate seating (BTDT) - if that's the plan from the beginning, which this wasn't.  There's also the possibility of Jack and Jill's kids coming as well, which take it beyond the 8 mentioned in the title, and would make things even more crowded.

when I accept a dinner invitation, I don't assume that I know anything about whether the hostess will use paper plates or not!

It's not a restaurant, where I am making an agreement with someone in what should be an even exchange (my money; their food & service).

Jpcher's hospitality is a gift. They're accepting the pleasure of her company, not her food and china. And do they even know whether they'll be sitting down, eating on paper plates, etc.? So I don't see this as being a problem in terms of "getting a different party than the one they RSVPed for."

I do like the idea of asking BIL to help with some of the hosting logistics. In a way, it's appropriate because you are now jointly hosting. You're primary host; he's secondary. Sort of  "sous" host. Ask him to loan you stuff.
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31
Post by: Arila on October 03, 2013, 02:26:40 PM
Glad we helped you (in some roundabout ways) to make a decision you are at peace with.

Your pride at hosting "the happening party" of the year really shone through and has me smiling. I'm sure it will be GREAT! ;D
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: jpcher on October 03, 2013, 06:27:05 PM
Just an LOL I wanted to share, because at this point I'm simply rolling with the flow. Whatever will be, will be. ;D

I got a call from my mother last night, which completely surprised me because my parents were off on a 2 week vacation to their favorite campsite in their wonderful motor home. They never call anybody while they're away. I was a bit concerned so I asked "Is everything okay? Where are you?"

Mom (Big Sigh): We're home. We got kicked out of our campsite and all the other national parks are closed so we couldn't go anywhere else.

But the good news is . . . We can come to your party! ;D

Me: Great! We have plenty:P of room!

Which is actually true since the extra 8 turned into 6, so it's a really good thing I rented the extra table and chairs! ;D

(I don't think I want to answer my phone until after the party. ;))


and I really LOL'ed at this:

Now that you have a tent...it won't rain :)

Then the tent can protect them from the blistering sun!   ;D


Thanks for the laugh! ;D

Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: PastryGoddess on October 03, 2013, 09:42:14 PM
Tell everyone your phone blew up
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: Arila on October 07, 2013, 02:53:48 PM
So, how did it go? Was it a case of "The More the Merrier"?
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: jpcher on October 07, 2013, 05:40:39 PM
Yes it was, arila. Thanks for asking. :)

Getting the tent & extra table/chairs turned out to be a great plus. Quite a few people opted to sit out there instead of around the dining table. (Extra expense, but very happy guests . . . thanks, again, everybody for pointing out the guest-comfort thing.)

The weather held out, it was overcast but still nice, until (of course ::)) about 20 minutes after I lit the grill. There was such a torrential downpour (I moved the grill to underneath the awning) and people still hung out under the tent. The storm lasted only about 40 minutes or so then the skies cleared up again.


The best part? Were the guests. You should have seen the look on MIL's face when Jack & Jill showed up. It was priceless. It wasn't awkward for J&J at all, they mingled with everybody . . . I don't remember Jill being such a personable person. I think I really like her! :)

It turns out that Jack just recently "found" BIL because he was looking to reconnect with LDH. He didn't know that LDH passed away. So I'm really glad I was able to accommodate them and didn't turn them away.


Yeah. A good time was had by all. ;D

Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: ladyknight1 on October 07, 2013, 05:58:45 PM
Hurrah! I am so glad things went well!
Title: Re: So, What's 8+ more people? No biggie, right? DECISION MADE #31 -- LOL #39
Post by: hobish on October 07, 2013, 06:13:34 PM
Awww! How sweet! I love that update!