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Title: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Knitterly on November 29, 2013, 01:55:11 PM
I have been invited to a cookie swap party.  I'm looking forward to it.  I have already RSVP'd.  My husband has a nut allergy and so we have a nut free home. 

One guest mentioned that she was planning on making something with nuts.  Another guest nearly always brings nut-based cookies to playgroup. 

There aren't that many people going.  At least one other invitee (not sure if she's attending) has a child with a nut allergy.

Would it be very rude to email the hostess and ask that she make it a nut free party?  I am afraid that if I go and 2 or 3 people bring nut cookies, I will not be able to participate in the swap. 

I'm thinking of something along the lines of :
"Hey Sue,
Would it be horrible to ask for a nut-free party?  I don't want to be a pain in the butt, and I feel like I am being that just by asking.  Mr K has a nut allergy and we have a nut-free household as a result.   
I know Janet said she's bringing almond cookies, and Jodie frequently makes cookies with nuts in them for playgroup.  But Mr K is allergic to nuts and we keep a nut free home.  I'm a little worried that I'll get there and find half or more of the cookies will have nuts in them.
I'll make something other than the Rum Balls I was planning on, since I know Janet doesn't like Rum Balls (I'll probably do a batch of rum balls and a batch of sugar cookies so I have something to exchange)."

I kinda feel like my alternative would be to just change my mind and not go, but that's a really extreme reaction as these are all pretty close friends.
(At least, they are close to me, not actually close to Mr K, so there is no reasonable way to expect them to remember that he has a nut allergy.)
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 29, 2013, 02:13:55 PM
I would email the hostess to change your RSVP to 'No' but tell her why.  'Sue, a number of other people have said they are bringing cookies with nuts in them, which unfortunately, Mr. Knitterly is allergic to.  So I won't be able to participate after all.'

I do think it would be rude to ask the hostess to change the parameters of the party.  If she offers to when you decline, that's fine.  Or maybe you could ask if it was OK if you came for the party but didn't participate in the cookie swap due to the allergy.  That way, you could enjoy the comraderie but not worry about taking cookies home.  Maybe bring a small plate of something to share at the time, not to be included in the swap.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: rashea on November 29, 2013, 02:15:20 PM
I'm not sure why you can't just swap with people who bring cookies without nuts? Yes, I suppose you wouldn't get as many back, but maybe you can trade with people.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 29, 2013, 02:18:00 PM
I'm not sure why you can't just swap with people who bring cookies without nuts? Yes, I suppose you wouldn't get as many back, but maybe you can trade with people.

I'd be worried about cross contamination.  I've done a swap before and you just go around the table picking up cookies.  The chances of getting nuts into the nut free one would be too high.  If everyone brings their cookies pre-packaged and you just have to pick up the container, this could work.  But what if someone opens their nutty cookies on the spot?  It's risky for severe allergies.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: magicdomino on November 29, 2013, 02:44:41 PM
I'm not sure why you can't just swap with people who bring cookies without nuts? Yes, I suppose you wouldn't get as many back, but maybe you can trade with people.

I'd be worried about cross contamination.  I've done a swap before and you just go around the table picking up cookies.  The chances of getting nuts into the nut free one would be too high.  If everyone brings their cookies pre-packaged and you just have to pick up the container, this could work.  But what if someone opens their nutty cookies on the spot?  It's risky for severe allergies.

Cookies are good, but nut allergies are nasty enough that the cookies aren't worth the risk.  Even asking people to bring only nut-free cookies brings the risk of someone not understanding that nut-free means washing utencils thoroughly if a previous recipe contained nuts; that ground almonds are not flour; that you shouldn't snack on pecans while rolling the dough into balls, etc.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: SamiHami on November 29, 2013, 02:50:30 PM
I'm not sure why you can't just swap with people who bring cookies without nuts? Yes, I suppose you wouldn't get as many back, but maybe you can trade with people.

I'd be worried about cross contamination.  I've done a swap before and you just go around the table picking up cookies.  The chances of getting nuts into the nut free one would be too high.  If everyone brings their cookies pre-packaged and you just have to pick up the container, this could work.  But what if someone opens their nutty cookies on the spot?  It's risky for severe allergies.

Hm. Every cookie swap I've ever attended, we prepackaged the cookies (usually in cute little holiday themed ziploc baggies or something similar), so the likelihood of cross contamination would be much lower. I've never been to one where that wasn't the case. Regional differences, I suppose?

While I don't think OP should request that all the cookies be nut free, I don't think she'd be out of line to ask suggest that people pre-package them, unless that is just completely unheard of in that area.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: SiotehCat on November 29, 2013, 02:56:54 PM
I think it would be very rude for the OP to request anything. It's not her party. She was invited. And she accepted the invitation knowing that two of the guests frequently make cookies with nuts.

I also think it puts Sue in a very uncomfortable position.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Zizi-K on November 29, 2013, 03:00:20 PM
My friends and I ran into this problem as well. We don't have allergies, but significant others or children do. So the party became a cooking-eating party rather than a cookie swapping party. Some exchange still takes place, but the point isn't to make a dozen for each person, more like 3-4 cookies per person. They can be taken or not, and there's no problem with quantities.

I would just go to the party to eat and socialize, bring cookies to give away (or just enough to sample).
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: peaches on November 29, 2013, 03:01:37 PM
I would email the hostess to change your RSVP to 'No' but tell her why.  'Sue, a number of other people have said they are bringing cookies with nuts in them, which unfortunately, Mr. Knitterly is allergic to.  So I won't be able to participate after all.'

I do think it would be rude to ask the hostess to change the parameters of the party.  If she offers to when you decline, that's fine.  Or maybe you could ask if it was OK if you came for the party but didn't participate in the cookie swap due to the allergy.  That way, you could enjoy the comraderie but not worry about taking cookies home.  Maybe bring a small plate of something to share at the time, not to be included in the swap.

POD
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Knitterly on November 29, 2013, 03:48:02 PM
:headdesk:

Apparently it's all a moot point anyway.  Mr K forgot about my function and committed himself to a work event that night.  In our house, work takes precedence over social functions every time, so he gets the car and I can't go.  :(

So my rsvp will be changed to a no anyway.

I am kind of sad, despite the nut dilemna.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: magicdomino on November 29, 2013, 03:58:53 PM
:headdesk:

Apparently it's all a moot point anyway.  Mr K forgot about my function and committed himself to a work event that night.  In our house, work takes precedence over social functions every time, so he gets the car and I can't go.  :(

So my rsvp will be changed to a no anyway.

I am kind of sad, despite the nut dilemna.

Mr. K owes you cookies. 
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Knitterly on November 29, 2013, 04:43:54 PM
:headdesk:

Apparently it's all a moot point anyway.  Mr K forgot about my function and committed himself to a work event that night.  In our house, work takes precedence over social functions every time, so he gets the car and I can't go.  :(

So my rsvp will be changed to a no anyway.

I am kind of sad, despite the nut dilemna.

Mr. K owes you cookies.

Yes.

Yes, he does. 

 :(
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: sparksals on November 29, 2013, 04:51:09 PM
I think it would be very rude for the OP to request anything. It's not her party. She was invited. And she accepted the invitation knowing that two of the guests frequently make cookies with nuts.

I also think it puts Sue in a very uncomfortable position.


I totally agree with this.  It is completely inappropriate to ask.  I think it is ok to change your rsvp to no and say why, if asked.

Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Lynnv on November 29, 2013, 05:45:13 PM
I think it would be very rude for the OP to request anything. It's not her party. She was invited. And she accepted the invitation knowing that two of the guests frequently make cookies with nuts.

I also think it puts Sue in a very uncomfortable position.


I totally agree with this.  It is completely inappropriate to ask.  I think it is ok to change your rsvp to no and say why, if asked.

Me too.  As a guest, I would back out if the host asked me to comply.  I am not comfortable that my kitchen would be up to the standards needed by someone with a severe enough allergy to require a nit-free environment.   
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 29, 2013, 06:17:06 PM
Me too.  As a guest, I would back out if the host asked me to comply.  I am not comfortable that my kitchen would be up to the standards needed by someone with a severe enough allergy to require a nit-free environment.

Well, one would hope that your kitchen is nit free.   ;D

But I do agree; I make pecan balls and almond crescents as some of my Christmas cookies so I would be uncomfortable bringing nut-free because I wouldn't be able to to guarantee that my nut-free cookies were in fact nut-free.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Lynnv on November 29, 2013, 08:17:26 PM
Me too.  As a guest, I would back out if the host asked me to comply.  I am not comfortable that my kitchen would be up to the standards needed by someone with a severe enough allergy to require a nit-free environment.

Well, one would hope that your kitchen is nit free.   ;D

But I do agree; I make pecan balls and almond crescents as some of my Christmas cookies so I would be uncomfortable bringing nut-free because I wouldn't be able to to guarantee that my nut-free cookies were in fact nut-free.

D'oh!     :P
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Outdoor Girl on November 29, 2013, 08:28:26 PM
Sorry, Lynn.  That was just too good to pass up.  Especially when there is another thread going right now that was talking about using kerosene on head lice.  It just really struck me funny.   :)
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Promise on November 29, 2013, 08:32:40 PM
I'd bow out of this one. In the future, why not you initiate a nut-free cookie exchange.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: blarg314 on November 29, 2013, 10:30:09 PM

If I had a nut allergy (or egg allergy, or gluten intolerance, or other serious issue with common baking ingredients), I don't think I'd do cookie swaps in the first place - the risk of contamination is too great, even with well meaning people who are doing their best.

From a baking perspective - I could make cookies without nuts, but I couldn't guarantee 100% that it was not contaminated with nuts, because most of my Christmas baking includes them, and they are used extensively in my kitchen.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: cicero on November 29, 2013, 10:43:18 PM
:headdesk:

Apparently it's all a moot point anyway.  Mr K forgot about my function and committed himself to a work event that night.  In our house, work takes precedence over social functions every time, so he gets the car and I can't go.  :(

So my rsvp will be changed to a no anyway.

I am kind of sad, despite the nut dilemna.

Mr. K owes you cookies.

Yes.

Yes, he does. 

 :(
Sorry to hear :(
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Lynnv on November 29, 2013, 11:03:35 PM
Sorry, Lynn.  That was just too good to pass up.  Especially when there is another thread going right now that was talking about using kerosene on head lice.  It just really struck me funny.   :)

No apology needed (well, other than my fingers owing my brain an apology for failing to follow directions).  I thought it was kind of funny too once you pointed it out.   ;)

From a baking perspective - I could make cookies without nuts, but I couldn't guarantee 100% that it was not contaminated with nuts, because most of my Christmas baking includes them, and they are used extensively in my kitchen.

And this is why I think it is too much to ask.   Asking the host about this isn't just asking the host for a change.   You are asking everyone involved to change their cooking to allow for an allergy they aren't used to dealing with.   I wouldn't have a clue as to how good is 'good enough' on this.   And given the horror stories I have seen and heard with bad allergies, I would not be willing to participate if this was asked of me.   
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Dazi on November 30, 2013, 07:37:04 AM
In the future I'd recommend you just skip these type of events.  People without allergies are not accustomed to preparing or cooking allergy free products.  Even the most well meaning people don't always catch the warning labels of "processed in a facility that also processes X" or know that Y ingredient is a derivative of Z.  It's a nightmare when you are highly allergic.

I know a celiac friend who ticks people off because she always takes my word that the food I give her is GF, but no one else.  She knows that I have way more severe food allergies than she does, so I am very diligent in reading food labels.  If I do happen to come across an unfamiliar ingredient, I look it up. 

Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Roe on November 30, 2013, 09:16:15 AM
It would be extremely rude and entitled of you to ask her to change her party.  If someone did that to me, they would no longer be invited to anything that I host.

Also, as others have mentioned, I would never trust another person to keep a nut-free environment. It's shocking what items contain nuts! 
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: SamiHami on November 30, 2013, 09:49:38 AM
Sorry, Lynn.  That was just too good to pass up.  Especially when there is another thread going right now that was talking about using kerosene on head lice.  It just really struck me funny.   :)

 :o  Say what???? I missed that one.

I am envisioning a parent putting kerosene on a child's head and lighting up a cigarette or candle...

Maybe it's because I'm not a parent but I can't envision anyone putting kerosene on someone's head!
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Layla Miller on November 30, 2013, 09:54:02 AM
I am envisioning a parent putting kerosene on a child's head and lighting up a cigarette or candle...

Well...it would kill off the lice, I suppose.  Can't say it's not effective.  ;D
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: sparksals on November 30, 2013, 11:52:07 AM
I think it would be very rude for the OP to request anything. It's not her party. She was invited. And she accepted the invitation knowing that two of the guests frequently make cookies with nuts.

I also think it puts Sue in a very uncomfortable position.


I totally agree with this.  It is completely inappropriate to ask.  I think it is ok to change your rsvp to no and say why, if asked.

Me too.  As a guest, I would back out if the host asked me to comply.  I am not comfortable that my kitchen would be up to the standards needed by someone with a severe enough allergy to require a nit-free environment.


That's right.  It puts everyone else on the spot too.  I would be way too nervous I use something that is not allowed.  It isn't fair to put that on everyone unless from the very beginning it is specified as nut free.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Dazi on November 30, 2013, 01:08:23 PM
I think it would be very rude for the OP to request anything. It's not her party. She was invited. And she accepted the invitation knowing that two of the guests frequently make cookies with nuts.

I also think it puts Sue in a very uncomfortable position.


I totally agree with this.  It is completely inappropriate to ask.  I think it is ok to change your rsvp to no and say why, if asked.

Me too.  As a guest, I would back out if the host asked me to comply.  I am not comfortable that my kitchen would be up to the standards needed by someone with a severe enough allergy to require a nit-free environment.


That's right.  It puts everyone else on the spot too.  I would be way too nervous I use something that is not allowed.  It isn't fair to put that on everyone unless from the very beginning it is specified as nut free.

Even if it had been specified at nut-free from the beginning, it is completely unrealistic to expect someone who does not have a nut allergy or some other severe food allergy, to know how to pull off allergen free cooking/baking.  With the exception of one person, I do not know anyone that knows how to sanitize a kitchen down to severe, life threatening allergen free standards or that knows how to read and triple checks food labels.  It's just not going to be in my expectations that anyone else is going to go through all of that or something is not going to slip by them that they do not know about.

People, in general, may wipe down counter tops and other surfaces, but I don't know if they'd even think about sanitizing previously cleaned kitchen utensils/cutting boards that may still have minute traces of offending allergen.  Not to mention possible previously cross contaminated ingredients.  What if their recipe calls for a tablespoon of jam or jelly, they grab the already open jar that another family member dipped a knife with trace smears of peanut butter in when they made a sandwich? They probably just landed some peanut allergy sufferer in the hospital. Not that they meant for that to happen, but things like that happen all the time to people with severe allergies, even with the most diligent, welling meaning people.

One that happened to me was a severe anaphylactic  reaction after eating some cut fruit.  The person cutting it had cut fruit I am severely allergic too first and then just wiped everything down with a damp cloth, considered that clean, then cut the rest (knowing that I was allergic to the first fruit).  Let me tell you, not being able to breath, breaking out in anger/burning/itching/welt-raised hives, stabbing myself with an epi-pen that really (Oh, I'm a pottymouth extraordinaire!) hurts, then going to the ER to be monitored, is not how I want to spend my time because someone thought their kitchen was clean enough.


Here's a packet for restaurants on how to handle food allergies.  Starting on page 52 is a common list of allergens' other names listed on labels (not sure it's 100% complete, but it gives you an idea of how complicated it can be). http://www.foodallergy.org/document.doc?id=143
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: sparksals on November 30, 2013, 08:55:20 PM
Very good points, Dazi!  I would know not to just wipe a utensil with a cloth, but I wouldn't know to actually disinfect items to prevent the cross contamination.  Is the dishwasher enough?
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Dazi on November 30, 2013, 09:41:55 PM
Very good points, Dazi!  I would know not to just wipe a utensil with a cloth, but I wouldn't know to actually disinfect items to prevent the cross contamination.  Is the dishwasher enough?

I think the dishwasher should be fine as long as no film residue is left behind.  The protein remnants just need to be removed thoroughly...that's the usual culprit---residue.  Most people would  never think about minute traces getting stuck in a wooden cutting board, under rims of mixing bowls, stuck in utensils like whisks, or in porous items like a cast iron skillet.  It's just not something that everyday people have to think about.

Soap, water, and good old elbow grease works fine, though diluted bleaching is a good idea (409 and other commercial cleaners work well on counter surfaces).  Hand sanitizers do not work for removing food allergens from hands...washing hands thoroughly with soap and running water is definitely the way to go.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: BigBadBetty on November 30, 2013, 11:04:14 PM
My sister had a reaction from food that was in a plastic bowl. The plastic bowl had been washed. However, there was enough residue to land her in the hospital. Situations like these are why some people may not trust you to make their food. Don't be insulted, they just probably had a trip to the hospital due to food that was supposed to be safe.

I made cookies for a nut-allergic co-worker's birthday. I was so paranoid that I bought new sugar and flour just in case I had contaminated my already opened bags. He ate several with no reaction so it was worth it.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: perpetua on December 01, 2013, 03:10:18 AM
See, this is why I'm really enjoying being on this forum. Thanks to threads like these, I knew last night to check with my GF friend about making her a loaf in the bread machine after I'd been making normal bread and whether I needed to do anything special to the pan or measuring spoons beforehand. This never would have occurred to me in a million years before. Thanks all!

On topic, I'm another who doesn't think you can ask for the nature of the party to be changed, I'd just change my RSVP in that kind of situation.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: NyaChan on December 01, 2013, 10:59:12 AM
This is going to sound bad, but I swear there is a reason why I do this!

When I am baking for a larger group of people and don't know about their restrictions or allergies, I actually prefer to include nuts in the recipe.  It is not so that any people in the group who might have nut allergies don't get dessert - I want them to have dessert too!  But I am terrified that someone will ask "Are there nuts in these cookies?" and I'll say no, because I ran out of the pecans I wanted to use, only to find out when they are gasping on the floor for breath that they have an allergy and my nut-less cookies were made with sugar that I store next to the walnuts or some such thing. 

I don't want any doubt in anyone's mind about the safety of eating that cookie.  It is of course different if I have reason to believe someone does actually have an allergy because then I can ask and see if there is a way for me to accommodate them.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: MurPl1 on December 01, 2013, 05:57:11 PM
I realize the OP is not getting to attend the cookie party, but I did want to add my perspective.  We have a neighborhood exchange every December and a few of us really get into it.  Especially my DH.  We start talking about cookie choices in October and by the time the invite comes, I've already got my cookie choice planned.  To be told later that I'd potentially have to scrap my choice would take all the fun out of the event for me.  And likely, I'd not waste my time the next year or just do some random dial-in plain ol cookie that you can get anywhere.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: workerbee on December 02, 2013, 02:31:45 PM
I realize the original situation is resolved, but just to add my two cents -- I don't think it would be reasonable to request that the cookie exchange be nut free, for many of the reasons already stated. I would probably be so nervous about somehow contaminating my cookies, that I would just end up not participating.

As an alternative, I would suggest maybe asking the host to send a "reminder" to guests that some guests may have nut allergies, and to perhaps consider these folks in your holiday baking....That might spur me to bring my usual special cookies with nuts, and then purchase a nut-free option for the exchange as well.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: sparksals on December 02, 2013, 05:27:10 PM
I realize the original situation is resolved, but just to add my two cents -- I don't think it would be reasonable to request that the cookie exchange be nut free, for many of the reasons already stated. I would probably be so nervous about somehow contaminating my cookies, that I would just end up not participating.

As an alternative, I would suggest maybe asking the host to send a "reminder" to guests that some guests may have nut allergies, and to perhaps consider these folks in your holiday baking....That might spur me to bring my usual special cookies with nuts, and then purchase a nut-free option for the exchange as well.


I don't think this is appropriate either.  It puts the additional guests on the spot.   It sounds almost like a guilt trip.

Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Knitterly on December 02, 2013, 05:41:40 PM
Well, I am still going to be participating, yay.

Here's how it went down:
I emailed the hostess to let her know I could not attend.  We talked and I decided to drop off my cookies anyway, since I'm going to be right by her house the day before.  She will then facilitate my part of the exchange.
I'm going to be making a simple sugar cookie and some rum balls.

I let her know that since Mr K has a nut allergy, we don't have nuts in the house.  So, could she please bypass the cookies with nuts in them.

She will do that for me.

I will pick them up from her the following day.

The cookies are all separated into individual baggies, so I don't have to worry about cross-contamination too much.

Mr K's allergy is not anaphylactic.  He will, however, break out in painful hives and eczema that can last days or weeks (and he has been hospitalized for such reactions in the past).
So if someone makes a cookie in a house with nuts, the liklihood of having a severe reaction is actually small.  Sorry I wasn't clear about that.  He will react if he eats a cookie containing nuts or if his cookie is sitting on top of nuts, etc.  Peanuts are by far his worst allergy, but again they won't kill him.  They will make him itchy and uncomfortable for days.

Interestingly, I am not the only person participating in the exchange who has a nut-free house. 
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Peregrine on December 02, 2013, 10:01:13 PM
The way my social group has dealt with exchanges is to invite all.  Usually about half the attendees participate in the swap, but we all sample the goods.  Those not exchanging will generally bring a bottle of wine, an appetizer to share, or some other nibblies to pass.  This way everyone gets to come and enjoy themselves, and there is no pressure to participate in the swap.  This works really well for a group comprised of stay-at-home moms with more time and our work-out-of the home sisters who want to socialize but haven't the time to bake.  We also generally bring multiple copies of our recipes so we can share those as well too.

I have participated in both cookie, and soup swaps :)
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: lowspark on December 05, 2013, 03:20:00 PM
Good solution.

I'm late to the thread but my take on it is to do what you're doing. Attend (if you could have), just take the cookies that are nut free, and say no more about it.

I'm a pretty social person so any excuse to go to a party works for me. I was invited, a long time ago, to a cookie exchange party even though I'm Jewish (so therefore don't celebrate Christmas in any form). In addition to the cookie exchange the hostess requested everyone briing an ornament for a gift exchange. Well heck, you know, I don't exactly have any ornaments hanging around the house, nor do I need any. But what the heck, it's a party!

So, I baked my cookies, and bought an ornament and participated fully and had a great time. I went home with an ornament, which I later gave to another friend and ate up lots of yummy cookies.

So yeah. You go with the flow. Even if I couldn't take home any of the cookies, I'd still go, just for the fun of attending the party and socializing. But I definitely agree that it's not cool to ask the hostess to make a change that would affect everyone else she invited.

Asking for a nut free party? No.
Holding your own next time? Sure!
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Knitterly on December 06, 2013, 07:43:08 PM
UPDATE:

My mother in law offered to watch Little Knit at the last minute so I could go.
And I went.

And you know what?  No one had cookies with nuts.  A few people had cookies for which the original recipe called for nuts, but remembering that Mr K has an allergy, they chose not to include the nuts.

And you know what?  I'm glad I didn't ask for special consideration.  It really made me realize what amazing and special friends I have.  <3
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Nikko-chan on December 06, 2013, 08:02:08 PM
UPDATE:

My mother in law offered to watch Little Knit at the last minute so I could go.
And I went.

And you know what?  No one had cookies with nuts.  A few people had cookies for which the original recipe called for nuts, but remembering that Mr K has an allergy, they chose not to include the nuts.

And you know what?  I'm glad I didn't ask for special consideration.  It really made me realize what amazing and special friends I have.  <3


Awesome! And now reading this thread has made me want to bake. It's great that your friends did that for you knitterly.
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: cabbagegirl28 on December 07, 2013, 02:34:55 PM
UPDATE:

My mother in law offered to watch Little Knit at the last minute so I could go.
And I went.

And you know what?  No one had cookies with nuts.  A few people had cookies for which the original recipe called for nuts, but remembering that Mr K has an allergy, they chose not to include the nuts.

And you know what?  I'm glad I didn't ask for special consideration.  It really made me realize what amazing and special friends I have.  <3

Pardon the pun, but that's really sweet. I'm glad you have such great friends
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: bloo on December 08, 2013, 05:33:44 PM
UPDATE:

My mother in law offered to watch Little Knit at the last minute so I could go.
And I went.

And you know what?  No one had cookies with nuts.  A few people had cookies for which the original recipe called for nuts, but remembering that Mr K has an allergy, they chose not to include the nuts.

And you know what?  I'm glad I didn't ask for special consideration.  It really made me realize what amazing and special friends I have.  <3

Pardon the pun, but that's really sweet. I'm glad you have such great friends

I agree. That is soooo nice! :)
Title: Re: Cookie swap allergy requests?
Post by: Roe on December 08, 2013, 10:09:11 PM
Though I agree that it was a nice thing for them to do, I'd still be careful as the odds of them baking in a nut free kitchen is low.  It's amazing to me what items contain traces of nuts.