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Wedding Bliss and Blues => Attire => Topic started by: Lady Snowdon on January 25, 2014, 09:06:24 PM

Title: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Lady Snowdon on January 25, 2014, 09:06:24 PM
Starting a spin off thread from the discussion going on in the Special Snowflake thread. 

I had my wedding dress made for me because I hated the strapless whitewhite dresses that were in style.  A strapless pure white dress would have made me resemble a marshmallow that somehow grew feet and arms.  I spent probably 1/7th of our wedding budget (probably about $1500) on the dress because it was important to me that I feel good wearing it!  Looking back, it seems a little crazed, but it was one of my few crazy moments, so I think my parents (who were paying) were wiling to go with the crazy on just the one aspect.

It ended up being a beautiful blue silk A-line dress, sleeveless, with a white lace overdress.  When I tried it all on for the first time, my reaction was, "to heck with women wanting to be princesses!  I feel like a queen - strong and powerful!".  I loved that dress!
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: violinp on January 25, 2014, 09:35:11 PM
Starting a spin off thread from the discussion going on in the Special Snowflake thread. 

I had my wedding dress made for me because I hated the strapless whitewhite dresses that were in style.  A strapless pure white dress would have made me resemble a marshmallow that somehow grew feet and arms.  I spent probably 1/7th of our wedding budget (probably about $1500) on the dress because it was important to me that I feel good wearing it!  Looking back, it seems a little crazed, but it was one of my few crazy moments, so I think my parents (who were paying) were wiling to go with the crazy on just the one aspect.

It ended up being a beautiful blue silk A-line dress, sleeveless, with a white lace overdress.  When I tried it all on for the first time, my reaction was, "to heck with women wanting to be princesses!  I feel like a queen - strong and powerful!".  I loved that dress!

That sounds beautiful!
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Sophia on January 25, 2014, 10:53:38 PM
I too would have looked like a marshmellow with feet and arms (vivid description). 
I can sew, so I made mine.  It was actually inspired by the cover art on an Orson Scott Card book.  Part of the homecoming series.  The bodice was a naval blue, corset style.  I had pattern making software, so the opening in the back was parallel.  Some sheer fabric with embroidered swirls and flowers were my sleeves and an overlay to the bodice.  The skirt was a very full silk chiffon. 
It was beautiful except, Did you know chiffon stretches when you hang it?  I didn't.  When I tried it on the night before the wedding it had grown 2 inches.  Cousin ended up hemming it the night before, because I just couldn't handle it.  Was still a little long at the wedding.  The waist of the skirt was safety pinned to my bra. 
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Bluenomi on January 25, 2014, 11:34:33 PM
I love my dress it was $2000 6 years ago which is about average around here. I didn't feel bad though, DH spent more than that getting a kilt and all the bits. Just don't work it out in cost per wear because then he's ahead  ;D

My sister just ordered hers and my mum was saying it was a lot at $2300. She was aghast when I pointed out it wasn't bad actually.
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: jedikaiti on January 26, 2014, 01:53:56 AM
I wanted to order an inexpensive one from a website I found, but Mom was afraid it would look cheap (as in cheaply made). Since it was her dime... So I ordered one that was quite nice, in ivory (I don't look like a marshmallow in white, I look *dead*), and it at least had wide shoulder straps, even if I wanted sleeves. At least I was wearing a shawl once Dad walked me down the aisle. And, on the plus side, it had a corset back (which I hadn't known I wanted until I tried it on), and since when I first tried it on it was in my size and I was the first to try it on, I got to buy it off the rack, and didn't have to wait for it to be ordered.
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Steve on January 26, 2014, 05:41:38 AM
I had passed a sari shop once when I was 16 or so, and decided then and there that I would get married in a dress like that.
My mother and MIL have taken me to several wedding shops and had me try on at least 50 dresses, all of which made me miserable. But after 4 days of that torture, they were finally willing to come with me (to the less safe parts of a large city nearby) and look at a sari.

I ended up buying a (very) white sari with silver embroidering. It is still the most fabulous thing I have ever seen and it costed us about 10% of the amount my DH spent on his suit. I believe I was done for 300 euro's, jewellery included.
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: HannahGrace on January 26, 2014, 06:01:39 AM
Starting a spin off thread from the discussion going on in the Special Snowflake thread. 

I had my wedding dress made for me because I hated the strapless whitewhite dresses that were in style.  A strapless pure white dress would have made me resemble a marshmallow that somehow grew feet and arms.  I spent probably 1/7th of our wedding budget (probably about $1500) on the dress because it was important to me that I feel good wearing it!  Looking back, it seems a little crazed, but it was one of my few crazy moments, so I think my parents (who were paying) were wiling to go with the crazy on just the one aspect.

It ended up being a beautiful blue silk A-line dress, sleeveless, with a white lace overdress.  When I tried it all on for the first time, my reaction was, "to heck with women wanting to be princesses!  I feel like a queen - strong and powerful!".  I loved that dress!

Your dress sounds so pretty!  A couple of my friends had theirs made and I think if you know what you want, that's the way to go.  I ended up finding mine in a store that sells samples so it was half of its retail cost - it is in the guest room closet right now awaiting the time when I take it for alterations and then wear it!  Still have to figure out shoes... hmm...
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Browyn on January 26, 2014, 12:00:47 PM
I wanted to order an inexpensive one from a website I found, but Mom was afraid it would look cheap (as in cheaply made). Since it was her dime... So I ordered one that was quite nice, in ivory (I don't look like a marshmallow in white, I look *dead*), and it at least had wide shoulder straps, even if I wanted sleeves. At least I was wearing a shawl once Dad walked me down the aisle. And, on the plus side, it had a corset back (which I hadn't known I wanted until I tried it on), and since when I first tried it on it was in my size and I was the first to try it on, I got to buy it off the rack, and didn't have to wait for it to be ordered.

My dress was fairly traditional but it was ivory*.  My Mother pitched a fit "what will I say to people when they ask!"  ::) I told her to remind them I was a very pale redhead who looked like death warmed over in true white.  Honestly, I was 37 - no one cared what color my dress was.

(Alfred Angelo, Around $500 plus alterations 12 years ago.)

(https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/t1/936993_4834320256391_1215778956_n.jpg)
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: NestHolder on January 26, 2014, 01:01:11 PM
I rented my dress.  Long sleeves, high neckline, lovely A-line shape which extended backwards quite a bit.  I didn't see the point of owning a dress I'd only wear the once, and I couldn't have afforded to buy it anyway.  I did buy the veil, which was wonderfully long enough to be a train!
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on January 26, 2014, 01:10:15 PM
This was mine. You can't really see the detail in it, but it was not a pure white dress either (I also look washed out in pure white) but a pretty silver. :)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v630/Savvy_Annie/Weddingday-1.jpg
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Post by: XRogue on January 26, 2014, 01:15:39 PM
I had my first one made, as I am five feet tall. It was a copy of Queen Victoria's. :) Altho alas, I had to use machine made lace and not bobbin lace. ;)

Second wedding gown, a blue and white sublimation print I bought at Cato's, a-line.
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Library Dragon on January 26, 2014, 03:04:58 PM
Mine wasn't officially a wedding dress. DH and I picked it out and bought together from a small store. It was a top and calf length skirt. I picked up the ribbon and wore matching blue ballet flats.  I think the whole outfit cost $50. The funny thing is I'm not a ruffle or lace person, but I loved this.

DH unknowingly coordinated his clothes.

(http://i1331.photobucket.com/albums/w581/Paula_Laurita/Facebook/Mobile%20Uploads/550298_705957629424782_1862152279_n.jpg) (http://s1331.photobucket.com/user/Paula_Laurita/media/Facebook/Mobile%20Uploads/550298_705957629424782_1862152279_n.jpg.html)

The back view. This was 1982, so it was actually conservative  ;D

(http://i1331.photobucket.com/albums/w581/Paula_Laurita/Facebook/Mobile%20Uploads/1555551_705951139425431_614946543_n.jpg) (http://s1331.photobucket.com/user/Paula_Laurita/media/Facebook/Mobile%20Uploads/1555551_705951139425431_614946543_n.jpg.html)
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: #borecore on January 26, 2014, 03:30:38 PM
Mine was $78 on Zappos.com last year. My mom hemmed it a tad (the models must be much taller than my 5'5" plus 3" heels!), but otherwise, it fit great.

It was an ivory version of this dress, and it seems to be sold in different colors this year (last year, turquoise, black, purple, and ivory, this year: black, navy, blush and coral), and I got it in an end-of-season sale: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/eliza-j-embellished-tiered-chiffon-halter-gown/3581790?siteId=J84DHJLQkR4-A_10tlBrkpHANcqnoUP02w
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Team HoundMom on January 27, 2014, 11:57:40 AM
I got married in Las Vegas so I certainly didn't want a poufy, expensive dress dragging on the sidewalk there.  I also despise strapless wedding dresses.  I found the perfect one on the Le Chateau website - about $285 including tax & shipping - it fit perfectly and my co-worker was kind enough to hem it up for me.  It was long with a halter neck that tied in the back, and the halter part had big blings on it - perfect for Vegas!  As soon as I got home I donated it to a program that gives prom dresses to those who can't afford them.  The only drag was that the material was so cheap it pilled on the chest where my arm rubbed it all day carrying my bouquet.  I couldn't believe it, ONE wearing and the dress was ruined. 
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: Twik on January 27, 2014, 01:48:09 PM
I wanted to order an inexpensive one from a website I found, but Mom was afraid it would look cheap (as in cheaply made). Since it was her dime... So I ordered one that was quite nice, in ivory (I don't look like a marshmallow in white, I look *dead*), and it at least had wide shoulder straps, even if I wanted sleeves. At least I was wearing a shawl once Dad walked me down the aisle. And, on the plus side, it had a corset back (which I hadn't known I wanted until I tried it on), and since when I first tried it on it was in my size and I was the first to try it on, I got to buy it off the rack, and didn't have to wait for it to be ordered.

My dress was fairly traditional but it was ivory*.  My Mother pitched a fit "what will I say to people when they ask!"  ::) I told her to remind them I was a very pale redhead who looked like death warmed over in true white.  Honestly, I was 37 - no one cared what color my dress was.


Now I have visions of people holding Pantone cards to the bridal gown, trying to determine her purity. "Hey, it's 'whisper white' - is that a real white or what?"
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Post by: emwithme on January 27, 2014, 02:57:17 PM
I think  I tried on every wedding dress within 50 miles that even came close to fitting me.  I am a curvy UK size 14 with a 38F bust, (US10 and 38DDD/E) and really struggled because I was too big for standard sizes and too small for plus sizes - and most wedding dresses that *did* fit me were size 20, which, as someone who had lost four stone (56 lbs) at that point, was really dis-spiriting.

Also, I knew I didn't want a white/ivory/cream dress, and I didn't want to spend a fortune for something that I was going to wear for just one day. 

So I went to eBay.  My dress cost £80 including delivery, and it then needed taking in because I had lost MORE weight (and the dressmaker also made a small alteration to the front of the dress so it mirrored the back more), and that cost £85.  The underskirt was £10 (also from eBay). 

This is DH and I walking into our wedding breakfast...

(http://i1289.photobucket.com/albums/b519/emwithme/Wedding/2012-09-24200427-32_zpsbde69d8d.jpg) (http://s1289.photobucket.com/user/emwithme/media/Wedding/2012-09-24200427-32_zpsbde69d8d.jpg.html)

Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: daen on January 27, 2014, 03:16:32 PM
I think  I tried on every wedding dress within 50 miles that even came close to fitting me.  I am a curvy UK size 14 with a 38F bust, (US10 and 38DDD/E) and really struggled because I was too big for standard sizes and too small for plus sizes - and most wedding dresses that *did* fit me were size 20, which, as someone who had lost four stone (56 lbs) at that point, was really dis-spiriting.

Also, I knew I didn't want a white/ivory/cream dress, and I didn't want to spend a fortune for something that I was going to wear for just one day. 

So I went to eBay.  My dress cost £80 including delivery, and it then needed taking in because I had lost MORE weight (and the dressmaker also made a small alteration to the front of the dress so it mirrored the back more), and that cost £85.  The underskirt was £10 (also from eBay). 

This is DH and I walking into our wedding breakfast...

(http://i1289.photobucket.com/albums/b519/emwithme/Wedding/2012-09-24200427-32_zpsbde69d8d.jpg) (http://s1289.photobucket.com/user/emwithme/media/Wedding/2012-09-24200427-32_zpsbde69d8d.jpg.html)



Wow. You look amazing, and so does the dress.

With all these stories about beautiful dresses for bargain prices, I'm beginning to feel like I spent too much - and I bought mine at a wedding consignment shop.  ;D  $550 or something like that - I've forgotten - but it was beautiful, and it wasn't strapless, which was my fiance's only stipulation.
Title: Re: Wedding dresses ... the cheap and the not-so-cheap!
Post by: GlitterIsMyDrug on January 27, 2014, 03:19:47 PM
Our wedding is gonna have two dresses! (one for each of us, not planning a costume change mid-way through....it was considered for me)

Partner's is actually one my grandma picked up years back at an estate sale (we think), to resell and never did get around to reselling it. She resold several but for some reason, not this one. Now bear with me because I have no picture and I'm not the best at describing clothes. It's a slight a-line, hits her just below her knees (on a shorter woman it'd probably be tea-length), a sweetheart neckline and straps that are just thick enough she won't have to wear a special bra. She's having some details added in that I'm not allowed to know about. I do know that it involves the color red (her favorite color). And it cost the price of free. (alterations not yet calculated)

My wedding dress is my grandma's dress from her second marriage. It's held up pretty well, and she isn't sure where she got it from, most likely a second hand store. She had originally planned on wearing a simple skirted suit but at the last minute my great-grandma (her very soon to be MIL) came home with a dress for her to wear instead. She's been married 5 times (grandma) and this was the only time she got to wear a wedding dress. It's also knee length on me (tea length on her), slight a-line, and a v in the front and back, with about...1" thick straps (in other words I also don't have to wear a special bra). The one problem with it is that the banding around has a stain on it. I'm fixing this by having a purple sash put on. Which Partner doesn't know about (I get my secrets too). So mine has also cost the price of free. (alterations not yet calculated)

I love our dresses, they compliment each other nicely but are also very individual to us. Partner's is simple, streamlined, classic. Mine is a bit funkier, retro, what you'd think someone who goes by Glitter would wear. The fact that they were free is just an upside, a big one cause that money is going to food/booze now.
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Post by: Ms_Cellany on January 27, 2014, 04:16:52 PM
Our outfits were:

Not dresses.
The Sweetie's was an outfit she already had.
I got mine at a consignment shop the day before the wedding, and still wear it to work sometimes.

(http://i822.photobucket.com/albums/zz144/Packie_Rattie/Wedding/Ceremony_6.jpg)
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Post by: Lady Snowdon on January 27, 2014, 06:36:48 PM
Here is a picture of my dress!

(https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-frc1/t1/122_7162605637_5918_n.jpg)
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Post by: TootsNYC on January 27, 2014, 09:32:51 PM
I wanted to make my wedding dress, the way my mother and little sister had. Mom and Grandma sewed lots of our clothes when we were growing up, and I wanted that for my wedding dress.

I also wanted a simple raw-silk dress, and I didn't want to spend a lot of money.

We got the fabric in the NYC fabric district for something like $4 a yard; I don't remember. I know that we spent around $25 or something, and got a couple of extra yards thrown in bcs the bolt we bought from had a flaw in the last yard.

We bought lining material, horsehair braid, and a pattern. (We lucked out and found a McCall's pattern that had all the features I wanted! V neck, pleats vs gathers on the skirt, fitted bodice, puff sleeves.)

I made a mockup out of a thick faille in what a friend called "tart red," and cut out my own dress. I sent the pieces to Mom & Grandma for them to make the basics, but I had to finish the neckline, do the back zipper, hem.

I told my MIL, "By the time you include shoes and fancy underwear, I'll have spent less than $150 on my dress."

She immediately said, "Do you think perhaps I could give you some money to buy a wedding dress from the bridal store? I have the money, I could give it to you easily."

I was thisclose to being offended.

She continued, "It's your wedding, and you should have a wonderful dress."

Still thisclose to being offended. And then I realized: She heard "cheap dress" as though it was a bad thing. In her world, you only made your own clothes if you didn't have money. And it didn't look that great.

So I had to say, "No, you don't understand--I'm getting EXACTLY the dress I want--it'll fit me perfectly, it'll be exactly the design I'm looking for. And even better, my mother and grandmother will have helped me to make it.
    "Plus, I'm *proud* of the fact that I am able to get exactly the dress I want for so little money. The fabric may have been inexpensive, but it's beautiful--100-percent dupioni silk."

It took some convincing, because she was so troubled by the idea that I was "cheaping out" on my wedding dress.
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Post by: Mel the Redcap on January 28, 2014, 02:03:11 AM
My dress was an Alfred Angelo too - cost me about $1,250 IIRC? Which is cheap, here. :P The second best one I could find was very simple, pure white (I wanted some colour, dangit!), with clear and white beads embroidered over it in flower patterns that you couldn't actually see from more than a couple of feet away, and over $3,000. What I ended up getting was AWESOME. ;D :-*

http://www.omniimaging.com.au/mel_yuri=wedding/card2webgallery/images/IMG_2868.jpg
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Post by: CakeEater on January 28, 2014, 04:12:42 AM
My wedding dress cost $1700. It was pretty standard for the time. Strapless, A-line skirt, small train, floor length. Except that it almost wasn't.

Because I'm  pretty tall, I had to choose from a range that would cut my dress longer. So I did, and the saleslady carefully measured how long it would need to be on me, carefully wrote it down, and then, apparently completely forgot to order it that way.

So when she rang me 6 weeks before the wedding to say that it had arrived, I asked her to check that it was the right length. Nope. It had taken 5 months to arrive already. What to do? She assured me they could re-order and rush it, and it would be fine.

So I waited, wondering what on earth I would do, and got the call one week before the wedding that it had arrived the right length. Went straight there, picked it up, took it to be altered slightly, and had it two days before the wedding.

When I went to pick it up, the saleslady said, "Oh, we could have just put a frill on the bottom if the new one hadn't come."

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Post by: Team HoundMom on January 28, 2014, 10:39:41 AM
My perfect Vegas wedding dress:

(http://i248.photobucket.com/albums/gg179/juicy_fruit_kisses/Wedding_zps70ec24d7.jpg) (http://s248.photobucket.com/user/juicy_fruit_kisses/media/Wedding_zps70ec24d7.jpg.html)

...complete with borrowed tiara, consignment store shoes, and a Coach purse.
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Post by: jedikaiti on January 28, 2014, 10:46:06 AM
My dress was an Alfred Angelo too - cost me about $1,250 IIRC? Which is cheap, here. :P The second best one I could find was very simple, pure white (I wanted some colour, dangit!), with clear and white beads embroidered over it in flower patterns that you couldn't actually see from more than a couple of feet away, and over $3,000. What I ended up getting was AWESOME. ;D :-*

http://www.omniimaging.com.au/mel_yuri=wedding/card2webgallery/images/IMG_2868.jpg

Pretty!
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Post by: cheyne on January 28, 2014, 03:14:54 PM
My perfect Vegas wedding dress:

(http://i248.photobucket.com/albums/gg179/juicy_fruit_kisses/Wedding_zps70ec24d7.jpg) (http://s248.photobucket.com/user/juicy_fruit_kisses/media/Wedding_zps70ec24d7.jpg.html)

...complete with borrowed tiara, consignment store shoes, and a Coach purse.

It is the perfect Vegas wedding dress!  You look beautiful.
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Post by: CakeEater on January 28, 2014, 03:23:30 PM
I found the picture:

(http://i796.photobucket.com/albums/yy241/mcaulir/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg) (http://s796.photobucket.com/user/mcaulir/media/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg.html)

How would this have looked with a frill on the bottom?
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Post by: Ms_Cellany on January 28, 2014, 03:29:41 PM
I found the picture:

(http://i796.photobucket.com/albums/yy241/mcaulir/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg) (http://s796.photobucket.com/user/mcaulir/media/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg.html)

How would this have looked with a frill on the bottom?

Like a sheep on its hind legs.
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Post by: GSNW on January 28, 2014, 05:05:26 PM
OOoOOOooo wedding dresses.  I love them in all styles and colors.

My dress was about $600 all said and done, and I felt like that was a lot. 

I had an off-white dress that was simple with minimal beadwork to mimic ivy vines crawling up the bodice.  That kind of became our unintentional theme... ivy around the invitations, ivy in all the bouquets, etc.  I got a veil and my grandma added a spattering of beads to it by hand, just enough to catch the light, and my mom used tea to dye my ballet slippers the appropriate off-white shade (I'm only 2'' shorter than DH, so heels were out). 

My dress now has a lovely pale green haze around the hem from walking around in the wet grass immediately following the ceremony.  It rained about an hour before our 5pm wedding started.  "Customized," right?
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Post by: katycoo on January 28, 2014, 05:51:16 PM
(I'm only 2'' shorter than DH, so heels were out). 

I'm always intruiged when people feel they must be shorter that their OH.  My DH and I are pretty much the same height - and then he slouches.  I still wore heels :)
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Post by: HannahGrace on January 28, 2014, 06:38:42 PM
I found the picture:

(http://i796.photobucket.com/albums/yy241/mcaulir/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg) (http://s796.photobucket.com/user/mcaulir/media/Stuff/IMG_0080.jpg.html)

How would this have looked with a frill on the bottom?

You look so pretty!
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Post by: Mel the Redcap on January 28, 2014, 07:35:06 PM
(I'm only 2'' shorter than DH, so heels were out). 

I'm always intruiged when people feel they must be shorter that their OH.  My DH and I are pretty much the same height - and then he slouches.  I still wore heels :)

I am a LOT taller than the Good Ethnic Boy - he can face plant in my cleavage without bending down (and did, in one of our wedding photos!  >:D). I didn't wear heels, but that was at least partly because I can only balance in really high ones - think 6" - and that would've been kinda silly. ;)
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Post by: LadyR on January 28, 2014, 07:59:39 PM
Mine was a story of impulse. I bought it off-the-rack before I was even technically engaged (though I knew the ring was coming). It was $600. A few months later, my mom found another dress that she thought was perfect for me and I LOVED it. She encouraged me to just replace the dress (the second dress was $700 new), but the second dress wasn't perfect either.

I loved almost everything about my dress: the beading, the long train, the elegant back. The other dress had similar beading, but no train and the back was plain, BUT it had a gorgeous colour trip band and the lace up (corset back) was a different colour than the dress (could be ordered in 55 colours). It was the color that I loved (like my mom had known I would).

After agonizing about it, I came up with the idea of getting the pink trim added to my dress and replacing the lace-up with a pink one. I found a seamstress who could do it and make the other alterations the dress needed and the total was $330 in alterations, so for less than $950 I got a dress that was absolutely perfect for me.
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Post by: CakeEater on January 28, 2014, 09:17:08 PM

You look so pretty!

Nyaw, thanks! That was 8 years ago - now slightly heavier and a little greyer.  ;)
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Post by: TOLady on January 29, 2014, 01:04:39 PM
I completely lucked out. I hate shopping with a passion and didn't subject my friends to go shopping with me and my mood. I found my dream dress in a dark gorgeous blue that suited me to a tee, but found out that they could order in a cream that looked sublime - that was almost 10 years ago and just found out that it is now considered a classic. A-line of 3 tiers of cream silk with crystal beading at the edges and a gorgeous jacket.

It's not a "weddingy" wedding dress. It's actually more a MOB dress, but I've been able to wear it at least 3 times a year since then! Very proud of that! It was only $500, and as soon as my Mom saw it, she said she just had to buy if for me. I had already ordered and paid for it, but she happened to be in town when it arrived and was the first to see it.

http://cameronblake.com/evening-dresses/13675/?fc=

I love that dress! ;D
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Post by: ladyknight1 on January 29, 2014, 01:48:14 PM
DH and I wanted to be debt free after our wedding and didn't have parental contributions, so we had no tuxedos and our wedding party members wore suits or dresses they had from other occasions.

I found my dress at the JC Penney outlet in Atlanta for $100. It had all the features I wanted, sleeves a scoop neckline and it was ivory. I made the veil.

(https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-0lvQAwb1hJM/ToMrTvnMdmI/AAAAAAAAKQE/4eYjrsUDblo/w469-h554-no/Wedding_13.jpg)(https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-L9ha7xW6MIE/ToMrLWH2foI/AAAAAAAAKPk/FDyEnfFPTXc/w554-h462-no/Wedding_06.jpg)
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Post by: LadyStormwing on February 02, 2014, 04:02:36 PM
I love how there are so many different styles, colors, etc for every personality, preference, and body these days! I'm getting married in September, and my gown is pretty traditional. Ok, wicked princess-style traditional, with ballgown skirt, sweetheart neckline, chapel train, and cathedral-length veil and fingertip blusher.

I really only get weird looks when I mention that 1. It's NOT strapless (I cannot physically hold up anything strapless and do not want to risk a wardrobe malfunction mid-ceremony.) It's off the shoulder, similar to Belle's yellow dress in Disney's Beauty and the Beast and 2. It's ivory. I'm a blonde Irish-Polish girl, and I'm either as white as a sheet myself or red as a lobster if I think about sunshine. There's no in-between.

Because we're getting married at the end of September and New England weather can go either way, my mother is making a light, faux fur trimmed velvet cape in case of chilly temps. My shoes are on loan from my grandmother - they were her wedding shoes 64 years ago! Not counting specialty undergarments, the whole thing is costing around $1200 with tailoring, jewelry, and the fabric for the cape. Other than the reception itself, that's the biggest chunk of change we're dropping on anything. My fiancee doesn't get to see it until I show up on that aisle!
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Post by: Katana_Geldar on February 02, 2014, 04:23:13 PM
I remember getting my wedding dress with my Mum, she wanted me to get something white with lots of beads and lace, but I wanted something similar and more classic. I tried on one dress like that, and it wasn't happy with it. In the end, got a ivory backless mermaid dress for under $500 and the veil cost almost as much as the dress!

I really don't like the ubiquitousness of strapless dresses though, it meant that some shops were simply not options for me at all, as they had little but strapless.
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Post by: Nikko-chan on February 02, 2014, 04:25:41 PM
you guys all look lovely!
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Post by: katycoo on February 02, 2014, 04:53:58 PM
I really only get weird looks when I mention that 1. It's NOT strapless (I cannot physically hold up anything strapless and do not want to risk a wardrobe malfunction mid-ceremony.) It's off the shoulder, similar to Belle's yellow dress in Disney's Beauty and the Beast and 2. It's ivory. I'm a blonde Irish-Polish girl, and I'm either as white as a sheet myself or red as a lobster if I think about sunshine. There's no in-between.

I'm really surprised by that.  Strapless has been on the way out for a couple of years now, and ivory has always been a common 'white' alternative.  My dress was ivory.  In fact, MOST people I know wore ivory.  White-white suits very few people.
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Post by: CakeEater on February 02, 2014, 07:14:20 PM
I really only get weird looks when I mention that 1. It's NOT strapless (I cannot physically hold up anything strapless and do not want to risk a wardrobe malfunction mid-ceremony.) It's off the shoulder, similar to Belle's yellow dress in Disney's Beauty and the Beast and 2. It's ivory. I'm a blonde Irish-Polish girl, and I'm either as white as a sheet myself or red as a lobster if I think about sunshine. There's no in-between.

I'm really surprised by that.  Strapless has been on the way out for a couple of years now, and ivory has always been a common 'white' alternative.  My dress was ivory.  In fact, MOST people I know wore ivory.  White-white suits very few people.

Yep - mine above is ivory. I actually ended up getting ivory because I thought it looked richer next to the burgundy bridesmaid dresses.
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Post by: jedikaiti on February 02, 2014, 07:48:43 PM
I really only get weird looks when I mention that 1. It's NOT strapless (I cannot physically hold up anything strapless and do not want to risk a wardrobe malfunction mid-ceremony.) It's off the shoulder, similar to Belle's yellow dress in Disney's Beauty and the Beast and 2. It's ivory. I'm a blonde Irish-Polish girl, and I'm either as white as a sheet myself or red as a lobster if I think about sunshine. There's no in-between.

I'm really surprised by that.  Strapless has been on the way out for a couple of years now, and ivory has always been a common 'white' alternative.  My dress was ivory.  In fact, MOST people I know wore ivory.  White-white suits very few people.

Strapless was definitely NOT on the way out when I was shopping for mine (fall 2012 for 2013 wedding). If I was lucky I could find things that were not spaghetti straps, but sleeves were impossible. I was lucky to find a dress with a nice halter top, and another with wide shoulder straps.

Getting ivory instead of bright white was thankfully quite easy, however - I looked dead in white, but ivory was much better!
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Post by: katycoo on February 02, 2014, 09:38:02 PM
I really only get weird looks when I mention that 1. It's NOT strapless (I cannot physically hold up anything strapless and do not want to risk a wardrobe malfunction mid-ceremony.) It's off the shoulder, similar to Belle's yellow dress in Disney's Beauty and the Beast and 2. It's ivory. I'm a blonde Irish-Polish girl, and I'm either as white as a sheet myself or red as a lobster if I think about sunshine. There's no in-between.

I'm really surprised by that.  Strapless has been on the way out for a couple of years now, and ivory has always been a common 'white' alternative.  My dress was ivory.  In fact, MOST people I know wore ivory.  White-white suits very few people.

Strapless was definitely NOT on the way out when I was shopping for mine (fall 2012 for 2013 wedding). If I was lucky I could find things that were not spaghetti straps, but sleeves were impossible. I was lucky to find a dress with a nice halter top, and another with wide shoulder straps.

Getting ivory instead of bright white was thankfully quite easy, however - I looked dead in white, but ivory was much better!

Sleeves, not coming in so much, but straps are.  Most celebrity weddings over the past 2 years have had dresses with straps.  Thats usually a good indicia of trend.
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Post by: Mel the Redcap on February 03, 2014, 12:26:38 AM
On 'ivory' dresses -

I quite like the sort of 'ivory' that translates as 'cream'. Pale ivory, if you will. My problem (and the Good Ethnic Boy's) was that the shade being called 'ivory' here in Australia in 2009 was a horrific (to us at least) dark yellowy ivory, almost a tea-stained sort of colour. As he put it, "they look like they've been hanging in an op-shop window for about ten years".

If people like that colour and look good in it, awesome! More power to you! I would love to see pictures of you in your dress! But dear gods, when it looks horrible on you and you know it and it's the only option apart from pure virginal white (which also looks pretty bad on you, it's why I wanted some red on my dress) in all but one of the stores you visit, it gets old fast. ::)
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Post by: Marozia on February 03, 2014, 02:28:48 AM
I myself, do not consider strapless dresses very flattering on my frame.  Yet, they are very popular.
Good for you for getting your own style made.  If no-one else liked it, too bad for them.
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Post by: Bethalize on February 03, 2014, 02:58:14 AM
I had my wedding dress made. It was couture (apparently - I had no idea what that meant at the time). I was happy to buy off the peg or second hand but I simply could not find a wedding dress with sleeves in 2006. I have really fat arms - I'm fat all over - and my personal sense of modesty meant that I only wanted to show so much skin. I was having a church wedding after all. My mum was really supportive and went dress shopping with me all over the country, including overnight stays to a shop that specialised in large sizes you could try on. You STILL couldn't get dresses with sleeves. We found a very nice young designer who took the classic style I wanted, added some creative touches and used the most wonderful silk satin to make the dress. First she made a muslin then she made the dress and hand embroidered it, stitching on little pearls and the odd blue crystal. It was about $4000 (at today's conversion) but cuss it all to tarnation, I was my heaviest ever and I just wanted to look nice at my wedding. My mother paid, and I let her because it was important to her. It did mean I got the gorgeous material I loved, which was a large part of the cost. Looking at my photos now I'm so glad I covered my arms.
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Post by: GlitterIsMyDrug on February 03, 2014, 09:23:56 AM
I so don't get the obsession with strapless dresses. Sure, if you want to rock a strapless dress, rock on girl. But ya know...sleeves and straps aren't like evil. I hate wearing strapless, I'm always worried its about to slide down, or I feel like popping out of it. Plus I find strapless bras incredibly uncomfortable (though according to one of my married friends, some wedding dresses are designed so you don't wear a bra? I dunno...that's one day I'm gonna need the girls looking their best), so strapless...not so much for me. My BFF did strapless bridesmaids dresses for us, but then decided to have us all attach spaghetti straps to them (they came with the dresses), so at least I didn't have to worry about it slipping down, still had to wear the strapless bra. Her dress was also strapless, and she said she did worry that it was going to slide down at some point. It didn't, and she looked fantastic, but she says that's one of the few things she'd change. She felt she got "talked into" strapless because it's what all brides want, according to the shop person. And what most of the brides she'd known had done so....she did it. Never been more thankful for my rebellious attitude. I don't care what anyone else did, I care what I'm doing.

Partner and I are both thrilled to have dresses with straps! Real straps that will hide our bra straps! 
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Post by: ladyknight1 on February 03, 2014, 09:28:40 AM
(https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-wDNPokk45ko/SUch8BVnbMI/AAAAAAAAEqc/VOnf8OmvMdM/w961-h641-no/DSC07997.JPG)

This dress is the only strapless dress I own. I won't wear it for longer than a few hours, because it slips.
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Post by: Nikko-chan on February 03, 2014, 12:41:36 PM
I wore a strapless dress to my homecoming one year.... never again. Wanna know why? It was too big for me in a certain area. I spent the entire night when I was dancing pressing myself to my then-boyfriend. And did I mention it had a slight train that people stepped on? I was just waiting for that thing to come down....
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Post by: cabbagegirl28 on February 03, 2014, 01:31:34 PM
I must be one of the few people on whom strapless dresses ride up. I've never had a problem with strapless dresses falling down, but straps drive me crazy. My shoulders are really low and thin (relatively; I'm not skinny by almost anyone's estimation), and all the straps I have for tank tops, sleeveless dresses, bras, etc. fall off of my shoulders.
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Post by: alkira6 on February 03, 2014, 01:51:43 PM
I made my dress. Broke college student whose weight was fluctuating on the heavy side.  Simple white sheathe dress with small side slits. I made a lace jacket that came to my knees and carried a small drawstring purse on my wrist.  Shoes came from payless.  All told, less that $100 for the whole thing and a long, long lesson on putting in proper bust darts.
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Post by: katycoo on February 03, 2014, 02:02:17 PM
I so don't get the obsession with strapless dresses. Sure, if you want to rock a strapless dress, rock on girl. But ya know...sleeves and straps aren't like evil. I hate wearing strapless, I'm always worried its about to slide down, or I feel like popping out of it. Plus I find strapless bras incredibly uncomfortable (though according to one of my married friends, some wedding dresses are designed so you don't wear a bra? I dunno...that's one day I'm gonna need the girls looking their best), so strapless...not so much for me. My BFF did strapless bridesmaids dresses for us, but then decided to have us all attach spaghetti straps to them (they came with the dresses), so at least I didn't have to worry about it slipping down, still had to wear the strapless bra. Her dress was also strapless, and she said she did worry that it was going to slide down at some point. It didn't, and she looked fantastic, but she says that's one of the few things she'd change. She felt she got "talked into" strapless because it's what all brides want, according to the shop person. And what most of the brides she'd known had done so....she did it. Never been more thankful for my rebellious attitude. I don't care what anyone else did, I care what I'm doing.

Partner and I are both thrilled to have dresses with straps! Real straps that will hide our bra straps!

I think this is something that a lot of people don't realise - particularly with the rage of cheap knockoffs from Asia which are now available.

A properly constructed strapless dress has boning through the bodice and is specifically designed to act as undergarment as well as dress.  THey suppose the frame of the body and the breast, creating a smooth line over the torso, and appropriate lift and support for your breasts.  Whether it i s laced, buttoned or ziped, wearing a bra underneath is completely unnecessary if it has been properly fitted to you.  Because of its structure and fit, it won't ride up or slip down.  They can be stiff to move around in - that is the payoff for support.

Most off the shelf dresses (bridesmaid oo other formal dresses) if under say $500 don't contain that supportive bodicework.  Its a good chucnk of the purchase price - and boy does it make a difference, particuarly on bigger girls where there is more to support.  A lovely friend of mine who is quite large got married the other year, and from the photos I could tell that her dress was a knock off - the design was lovely but it didn't sit on her or hold her like it should have, and while I'm sure budget was a concern (wedding dresses are expensive!) it was a shame as I know hoe much lovelier a properly constructed dress would have made her look.
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Post by: Sophia on February 03, 2014, 02:35:50 PM
I so don't get the obsession with strapless dresses. Sure, if you want to rock a strapless dress, rock on girl. But ya know...sleeves and straps aren't like evil. ...

I know why, and it isn't the consumer driving this. 

From the manufacturers perspective, a strapless dress with corset lacing is the easiest dress to fit on a woman.  You don't have to worry about wide or narrow shoulders, wide or skinny arms, shoulders held back for forward, sloping or square shoulders.  With the corset lacing, the sample model will also technically fit a wider range of sizes.  That means it will look nice on a larger percentage of shoppers (at least from  the front), and a bride that doesn't have to pay from alternations will pay more up front. 

I don't think sleeves on wedding dresses will be easily available until more woman say No to the strapless.  I have some friends who bought strapless just because it was all that was available.
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Post by: Jones on February 03, 2014, 08:08:16 PM
Please excuse the scrapbook aspect, it was all the rage in my group back then.

The back:
(http://i358.photobucket.com/albums/oo24/chandanista/IMG_06991_zps1ff783ab.jpg) (http://s358.photobucket.com/user/chandanista/media/IMG_06991_zps1ff783ab.jpg.html)

The front:
(http://i358.photobucket.com/albums/oo24/chandanista/IMG_07041_zps1cbec62b.jpg) (http://s358.photobucket.com/user/chandanista/media/IMG_07041_zps1cbec62b.jpg.html)

I think it was $125 on Ebay and shipping. I couldn't say no as it was the prettiest thing I'd ever seen. It fit without any alterations! I have other pictures where I'm holding my arms normally, I swear I didn't walk around like that all day, these two pics just photographed the best when I was trying to find some to share here.

I'm just disappointed that the wind came up so instead of being outdoors the reception moved into my parents' garage and house. It cleaned up nicely and it was free, but I wanted outdoors by the lilac bushes with the small fountain and gazebo. I could have married later in the year hoping for better weather but really, if I want lilacs that's only April, and any time of year here can be hit by frost, rain, wind, dust storms, etc. Just glad we had the backup plan.
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Post by: Vall on February 03, 2014, 08:18:22 PM
Jones, that's beautiful and was a great price!  I've always liked wedding dresses with long sleeves that are pretty.
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Post by: Bottlecaps on February 03, 2014, 10:14:45 PM
My dress budget is $100. That's very low in today's wedding world, but not undoable by any means. :) The first dresses I looked at were strapless - then I came to realize that strapless just isn't an option. I would not be comfortable, and on my budget, I would just be asking for a wardrobe malfunction in a dress with which I couldn't wear a strapped bra. I've found quite a few online that I really like that are within my budget, and contain straps that will hide my bra. I want the girls looking their best on my wedding day - but I don't want everyone to see them! :-P
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Post by: LtPowers on February 04, 2014, 08:46:55 AM
Tip for brides who want sleeves: Look at Mormon wedding dresses.  They're just as beautiful but they all have sleeves for religious reasons.  Your local bridal shop can order them.


Powers  &8^]
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Post by: Thipu1 on February 04, 2014, 10:18:48 AM
This may be a bit OT but, since we have so many wonderful Geeks and Nerds here that I thought it might be relevant. 

In the 1950s, an engineer named Charles E. Siem wrote an article titled, 'A Structural Analysis of a Strapless Evening Gown'.  Siem specialized in the construction  of bridges.  If you search on the title you'll get many good hits. 

Happy reading. 
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Post by: OSUJillyBean on February 04, 2014, 11:44:07 AM
I bought my dress online for less than $75.  They don't sell them anymore (that I can find) in white but this is what it looks like in red:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0029XRKEA/ref=oh_details_o05_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Not strapless and not much structure but we were getting married on the beach in the Florida keys so I wanted something lightweight and swishy that I wouldn't trip over in the sand.  I wore a pair of skin-colored shorts that were really just the control-top of a pair of pantyhose, in case of stray wind.

I love my dress and my husband loved the price!  :)
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Post by: CakeEater on February 04, 2014, 03:08:40 PM
I bought my dress online for less than $75.  They don't sell them anymore (that I can find) in white but this is what it looks like in red:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0029XRKEA/ref=oh_details_o05_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Not strapless and not much structure but we were getting married on the beach in the Florida keys so I wanted something lightweight and swishy that I wouldn't trip over in the sand.  I wore a pair of skin-colored shorts that were really just the control-top of a pair of pantyhose, in case of stray wind.

I love my dress and my husband loved the price!  :)

And so pretty and appropriate for a beach wedding! I went to a beach wedding once where the bride was in a full ball gown. Apart from just looking odd wearing a ball gown on the beach, she looked so uncomfortable. She had to hold it up the whole time, and the train collected sand and sticks. She seemed much more focused on negotiating the dress than on getting married.
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Post by: emwithme on February 04, 2014, 03:18:01 PM
Tip for brides who want sleeves: Look at Mormon wedding dresses.  They're just as beautiful but they all have sleeves for religious reasons.  Your local bridal shop can order them.


Powers  &8^]

Also, dresses worn in (orthodox) Jewish weddings are more modest and involve sleeves and shoulder coverings. 
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Post by: LadyL on February 04, 2014, 03:24:51 PM
I think this is something that a lot of people don't realise - particularly with the rage of cheap knockoffs from Asia which are now available.

A properly constructed strapless dress has boning through the bodice and is specifically designed to act as undergarment as well as dress.  THey suppose the frame of the body and the breast, creating a smooth line over the torso, and appropriate lift and support for your breasts.  Whether it i s laced, buttoned or ziped, wearing a bra underneath is completely unnecessary if it has been properly fitted to you.  Because of its structure and fit, it won't ride up or slip down.  They can be stiff to move around in - that is the payoff for support.

POD. My bridal salon had an option that for $100 extra they would change the cup size built into a strapless dress from the standard size, a C, up to a larger size. It provides more coverage for bustier brides and means that the bodice of the dress essentially does double duty as a long line bra. The salesgirl had it done to hers and she didn't have to wear a strapless bra with her dress (which can create additional bulk and lumpiness), and it stayed up all night. I went for it, figuring worst case scenario, I would still wear a bra underneath. Well, it turned out I didn't have to - between the boning, thick satin fabric, and the properly sized cups, that dress was not going ANYWHERE. I literally jumped up in down in it (my litmus test for strapless) during the fitting and it didn't budge. I danced in it and ran around all night and didn't once worry about "wardrobe malfunctions."
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Post by: Katana_Geldar on February 04, 2014, 03:38:08 PM
I remember we watched a bride leaving home with her bridesmaids, not even in the car yet, and she was already pulling up her strapless dress. She would be doing that all day unless do done gad dress tape.

My dress was backless and mermaid line, so no real room for underwear as it showed off everything. Fortunately I had a bra built in to the dress and I wore seamless panties.
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Post by: rose red on February 05, 2014, 05:59:07 PM
Just let me first say I'm not wedding-crazy ;).  Don't like to attend weddings and wouldn't want a big fancy one.

But I will always remember the wedding dress I was really tempted to buy even though I wasn't even dating anyone ;D.  It was about 15 years ago in a small shop.  The dress was romantically medieval looking yet still very simple.  I've never saw one like it or since.  It was only around $200 and I wanted to grab it for my future wedding.  Happily (or sadly) I came to me senses which was a good thing because I haven't even gotten close to getting married. 
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Post by: Ceallach on February 05, 2014, 06:29:38 PM
I'm also somebody who had no idea people cared about pure white vs. off-white!   My sister and I both had ivory because it suits our skin tone.  Nobody commented on it to my knowledge!   (And one of us was "eligible" to wear pure white by the ridiculous traditional standard, the other one wasn't  ;) that was not a factor we even remotely considered relevant!).   

I was a young bride and a bit self-conscious of people thinking I was just getting married for a big dress and fun.    I was scared people wouldn't take me seriously so thought I should have a sensible dress.   DH however dreamt of a beautiful princess gown - he even drew me a picture!   ;D    I ended up getting a dress from my favourite wedding dress designer who I'd admired for years.  It had a very flattering long corset waist which gave me shape, and meant the fit was great.    It cost $1500.  The surprising thing was I ended up strapless which was something I'd never liked, but it worked really well.  It's the only time I've ever worn a strapless dress, ever!  It looked amazing though, and I loved the feel of the high quality fabric and beading.  Also because this designer specialises in the corset waist it was a very well-made strapless gown and fitted perfectly.

I actually did go dress shopping with my sister to the store she bought her dress from which were cheap imports from China and very affordable.   The dresses looked nice, but I could tell how cheap the fabrics were, and it just didn't appeal to me.  I just don't like cheap lace.   She was happy with her dress, and the photos are lovely, it just wasn't something to my taste.    I've had other friends who have also been very proud of their affordable wedding dresses, and I've been happy for them, but in all honesty I thought the dresses looked cheap in terms of fabric, cut and fit.   Which is fine because if they're happy that's all that matters!!   I guess I just have expensive taste when it comes to fabric??  In my day to day life I am somebody who happily and typically shops at cheap department stores for my work clothes and everyday wear - I'm definitely not a designer girl.    But for me a fancy dress needs to be made with good quality fabric in order to sit nicely and feel beautiful to wear.   All of my "fancy" dresses are higher end and lovely fabrics.   I have seen some stunning home-made wedding dresses made from good quality fabric, so I think that is one way to do it affordably if you have the sewing skills available.  In my case I was afraid of it not turning out the way I'd envisioned so preferred to buy off the rack.  (Mine was made to order but based on a floor model so I knew exactly how it would look).   So far I've never seen a really, really cheap wedding dress in person that I personally thought looked really great, but that's just been my experience - I have seen some nice ones posted on eHell so it's possible in other parts of the world there are some more affordable options available that are better quality!    But based on my experience, when I hear somebody boasting about how little they spent I don't think "Wow that's awesome!" I just think you get what you pay for, and if they're happy with what they spent good for them.   It's a choice though.
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Post by: jedikaiti on February 06, 2014, 01:23:10 PM
The "looking cheap" is why my Mom dissuaded me from ordering my dress online, as I initially wanted to do. A valid concern - aside from checking reviews and BBB, I had no way of knowing if they would be stitched well enough to hold together, or if it would really look all that good on me. I wish I could have gone more expensive, and maybe gotten a dress I liked better, but hey - it's only one day, and now I am selling it. And it did look good!
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Post by: ladyknight1 on February 06, 2014, 01:25:25 PM
I am not a big fan of super shiny fabric, so that was also important to me. Also, I wanted no lace on my dress.
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Post by: bridalviolet on February 08, 2014, 10:41:17 AM
I sewed my own wedding dress, for a lot of reasons. 1) I love to sew. 2) I'm a difficult fit, short, plump and busty. 3) I had NO MONEY to get married on. I was working only part-time and my family are not rich.  My folks were able to give me $1000, and I had $500 saved on my own, so the whole budget for the whole wedding was $1500. I bought a pattern from Folkwear--the 1912 Garden Party dress. I splurged on some really fine lace and silk; my shoes cost $50 from a local shop; and I was given a straw hat by a friend, which I covered with a bit of veiling and some silk roses from Hobby Lobby. Entire wedding outfit cost: $300.
As for the rest, I got more silk flowers to decorate the church and the reception hall. (Hall rented for a total of $45.) My sister made my wedding cake. I sewed bridesmaids dresses for her and another friend, and a flower-girl dress for my niece. We were married at 2 pm with the reception from 3-6, so the only food we needed was cake, punch and a few appetizers which several friends provided. Our music was CDs of classical and big-band music which another friend played for us during the reception. Yet another friend was a professional photographer and gave us a good deal on pictures.
Was our wedding spectacular, elegant, a perfect fairy-tale day? No. But it was the day I married the love of my life, and 18 years later we are still blissfully happy.
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Post by: CakeEater on February 08, 2014, 03:49:58 PM
Was our wedding spectacular, elegant, a perfect fairy-tale day? No. But it was the day I married the love of my life, and 18 years later we are still blissfully happy.

It sounds like you put on a lovely event for your guests, and that you have lots of family and friends who love you and could help out. I'm actually making a wedding cake as a gift in a couple of weeks for a lovely young couple without lots of money and I'm thrilled to be able to do it. I suspect that it will be a lovely, thoughtful wedding, without a lot of bells and whistles, and that I'll enjoy it very much.

Lots of money doesn't always make for a classy event, and vise versa.
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Post by: bridalviolet on February 09, 2014, 10:27:29 AM
That's the key--love, not money. And remembering that the important thing is not the WEDDING, but the MARRIAGE that follows!
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Post by: soon2bemrsf on February 15, 2014, 12:09:35 AM
I got super lucky. I have a friend that got married only a few years ago and she sold me her dress for about $150 plus I have to pay for alterations. We have pretty similar builds, I just have to get it hemmed and it needs to be taken in at the shoulders a bit. It's gorgeous, much nicer than anything I would have been able to afford if I'd bought it new. :)
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Post by: GSNW on February 16, 2014, 02:53:41 AM
(I'm only 2'' shorter than DH, so heels were out). 

I'm always intruiged when people feel they must be shorter that their OH.  My DH and I are pretty much the same height - and then he slouches.  I still wore heels :)

I am a LOT taller than the Good Ethnic Boy - he can face plant in my cleavage without bending down (and did, in one of our wedding photos!  >:D). I didn't wear heels, but that was at least partly because I can only balance in really high ones - think 6" - and that would've been kinda silly. ;)

My DH is a little sensitive about his height.  He's 5'8", not exactly short, but I would have hated to see him uncomfortable on our wedding day!
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Post by: glinda on February 26, 2014, 08:50:44 AM
This:  http://www.lightinthebox.com/sheath-column-queen-anne-floor-length-stretch-satin-and-lace-mother-of-bride-dress-682760_p682760.html is my dress.

I ordered it in Ivory.  Just waiting for it to come in.  :)
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Post by: ladyknight1 on February 26, 2014, 10:37:09 AM
That is gorgeous!
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Post by: Sterling on February 26, 2014, 02:51:38 PM
This was my dress only I wore it in ivory.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Petite-Strapless-Lace-and-Tulle-Slim-Gown-7CWG352_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Trend-Lacy-Looks

Looking at it now I am kinda sad because 2 years ago they were selling it for $1200.  I paid $600 for it second hand.

I loved the dress though.  I was married in a Victoria hotel so the dress really suited the venue.

Edit to add: I did have the back modified.  Since I bought second hand on ebay I had to order what was available and that was a dress 2 sizes too small.  i had the back changed to a lace up corset style with a modesty panel which allowed the dress to go up a few sizes.  My seamstress added the bra cups and for less than $50 in alterations that dress fit like a glove and didn't budge at all.
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Post by: glinda on February 28, 2014, 11:29:36 AM
Thank you ladyknight.   :) It arrived yesterday and it suits me to a T.  I'm very happy.
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Post by: ladyknight1 on February 28, 2014, 01:15:35 PM
Hurray! We need pictures after the ceremony!
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Post by: hannahmollysmom on March 04, 2014, 01:00:35 AM
I bought my dress in 1985 in a "head shop". It was a Gunny Sax that I spent $75 on. It was made of that filmy Indian cotton, with lace and a high neck. It reminded me of the Victorian/turn of the century dresses. I dressed it up with a satin sash around the waist that tied in a bow in the back. I didn't have a veil, but wore a hat with some netting, which was popular in the mid 80's.  I wore it with a hoop slip. It was the perfect choice as we got married in August and it was quite warm.

My husband had an all white tux, but the men wore gray tuxes with suspenders. I opted not to go with the cumber bunds or vests,  as I wanted them to look like Victorian gentlemen out on a summer day. They did have baby blue bow ties.

The girls wore baby blue tea length dresses.
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Post by: VorFemme on March 04, 2014, 09:46:53 AM
This:  http://www.lightinthebox.com/sheath-column-queen-anne-floor-length-stretch-satin-and-lace-mother-of-bride-dress-682760_p682760.html is my dress.

I ordered it in Ivory.  Just waiting for it to come in.  :)

I love that!
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Post by: glinda on March 04, 2014, 12:55:58 PM
Thank you too VorFemme.

LadyKnight - I'm getting married in August - but I will try to post a picture afterwards.   :D

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Post by: Katana_Geldar on March 11, 2014, 05:05:26 PM
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/dl-weddings/99-hm-dress-is-the-best-thing-that-will-ever-happen-to-the-wedding-industry-20140311-34jku.html

Interesting article, particularly with the signaling thing. So, my dress which was $450 meant I didn't take the wedding or the relationship seriously? I just couldn't justify in my kind spending that much on a dress I was going to be wearing once.
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Post by: Ceallach on March 11, 2014, 06:58:21 PM
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/dl-weddings/99-hm-dress-is-the-best-thing-that-will-ever-happen-to-the-wedding-industry-20140311-34jku.html

Interesting article, particularly with the signaling thing. So, my dress which was $450 meant I didn't take the wedding or the relationship seriously? I just couldn't justify in my kind spending that much on a dress I was going to be wearing once.

I do really hate the whole "They’re conspiring to rob you" thing as perpetuated in that article though.   It's not as if we are forced to buy a wedding dress in order to marry, and forced to pay exorbitant prices.  There are alternatives.    Ultimately there are many brands and products in this world that I personally consider to be a huge rip-off, I don't see any value in paying more than $100 for a handbag or a pair of shoes for example, and doubt that would change even if I were a gazillionaire.     But I understand the concept of other people valuing the brand - I don't think they are being "robbed" or "conned" they are just choosing what items are worth to them.  Likewise with wedding dresses, I paid $1500 for mine but I value the work that specific designer does, the quality of the materials and workmanship, and the high quality customer service of the salon.   I don't think anybody should spend money they don't have or more than they think an item is worth, but that doesn't make the rest of us gullible victims for choosing to spend more.

I think it would be a boring world if everything were the price or the same mark-up.   People vote with their wallets and if there's a market, there's a market. 
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Post by: CakeEater on March 11, 2014, 08:17:13 PM
^^I agree.

Plus, the myth that vendors just mark up the price unreasonably when they hear the word 'wedding' is just untrue.

I'm involved in cake, but I'm positive that it's the same with other industries. The idea in the article that anything over $99 for a wedding dress, or a wedding cake is just a 'weddng mark up' is a bit insulting, actually. I spent about 25 hours making a three tiered wedding cake last week. I'm not slow at making cake. It just takes that long. Should I earn $4 an hour for my trouble, and just donate the ingredients so that people don't have to spend more than $99 on their cake?

People who are horrified that a cake can cost into the hundreds or thousands of dollars because it's 'just flour and sugar and eggs' can go and get some flower and sugar and eggs and attempt to make something that doesn't end up on Cake Wrecks.

Same with the example in the article of the write being horrified at spending $150 on a posy of native flowers. Sounds ridiculous. But where did they have to transport the flowers from? How many places sell the kind of native flowers the bride wanted. How easy are they to grow? How long did it take to arrange that small posy? Anyone who does any kind of craft knows how people who haven't done it under-estimate the time available. And sometimes there are legitimate extra costs for a wedding. That posy has to last, not just in a vase with some water, but being held, carried, photographed all day, and still look good when it gets thrown that evening. It takes skill to do that properly.

I think people forget that they're not just paying for materials and a markup, they're paying for the skill, knowledge and time of the person who has created it.
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Post by: lady_disdain on March 11, 2014, 10:59:50 PM
Yes, specially when people compare the cost of a wedding dress with a fast fashion dress. The fashion dress will sell thousands, the buyer will expect very little help from salespeople, little alterations (so no need to have a seamstress, alterations room, marking, etc), not to mention simpler construction, etc.

A wedding dress salon will only see a few people each day, since each bride requires a dedicated salesperson for a good while. Each style will sell fewer dresses, with more customization, so the costs won't be diluted as much (designing, setting up, marketing, etc as well as the cost to have dresses made to more measurements - bust, waist, shoulder - instead of a simple size set). A salon needs to maintain a large inventory of sample dresses, which tie up money (whether the salon's or the maker's doesn't really matter, as it goes into the value chain regardless and has to be paid for at some point) and require a lot of square footage, which also costs money.

I wish more people understood the value chain of products before criticizing price. The writer decided that the dress shop was out to get her, instead of thinking why things are that way. Why is there an appointment? Because you need a dedicated salesperson to carry huge dresses out, help you into them, pin them so the sample dress fits and so on. Why the questionaire? Because a bridal shop is not organized like a clothes store, where everything is out on the floor. Since the dresses can be delicate and dirty easily, they can't really be out on the floor. There is often a lot more dress choices than would be viable to put out on display. So, the shop asks questions to understand what the bride wants and is willing to pay, so they can show her what she wants, instead of pulling out every sheath, mermaid, ballgown, empire, lace, bead and satin in stock.

She didn't even bother to do a little basic research first. It is quite easy to identify the high end, beginning at $4000 salon or the more cost conscious alternative.

Sure there are people out to scalp the client and squeeze every possible dime out of them. But, generally, the open market does weed these out, specially in a competitive industry like bridal.
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Post by: Katana_Geldar on March 12, 2014, 01:37:02 AM
I really didn't like how the DJ's dresses were appointment only as I wanted to browse dresses first to make sure the shop was worth making an appointment in. If theybdifntbhavevabythibg I likes I simply wouldn't waste mine or their time.

Besides, I got my dress off the rack and walked out with it the same day. Not sure how I would have liked waiting for it to be made.
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Post by: CakeEater on March 12, 2014, 03:01:02 AM
I really didn't like how the DJ's dresses were appointment only as I wanted to browse dresses first to make sure the shop was worth making an appointment in. If theybdifntbhavevabythibg I likes I simply wouldn't waste mine or their time.

Besides, I got my dress off the rack and walked out with it the same day. Not sure how I would have liked waiting for it to be made.

I'm tall and weirdly shaped - there is very little chance of finding anything long enough to reach my ankles in any item of clothing anywhere - I really needed to have a dress made.

I understand not wanting to wait to make an appointment if you can find a dress off the rack, though - especially if you don't know if the shop has what you want.
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Post by: lady_disdain on March 13, 2014, 08:04:38 AM
But in most cases, there isn't a way for the customer to just browse: the dresses are bagged up to avoid dirty and tearing of delicate fabric, the trains may be pinned up, etc. Sure, there are dresses that look just fine on the hanger but the store isn't going to have a separate area for the "browsable" dresses.

I am glad you got your dress off the rack but that is much more the exception than the rule and the shops reflect that.

One good way to know if it is worth while to make an appointment is to browse online, see a few dresses you like and are in budget (which helps so much!) and call ahead, asking if they have those available.
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Post by: Katana_Geldar on March 13, 2014, 04:14:31 PM
Most shops I went in had a rack of dresses, or at least a book I could browse. But the websites rarely had prices, just pictures.

I really hated that with wedding stuff, no one tells you how much stuff costs.
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Post by: alkira6 on March 17, 2014, 01:30:08 PM
I really didn't experience the whole markup scam when I bought my few actual wedding items.  The most expensive was my reception and my bouquet, and my bouquet was about $30 worth of out of season flowers that lasted for over a week. I was very pleased with my white and purple roses and white and purple freesia in September.
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Post by: alkira6 on March 17, 2014, 01:38:44 PM
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/dl-weddings/99-hm-dress-is-the-best-thing-that-will-ever-happen-to-the-wedding-industry-20140311-34jku.html

Interesting article, particularly with the signaling thing. So, my dress which was $450 meant I didn't take the wedding or the relationship seriously? I just couldn't justify in my kind spending that much on a dress I was going to be wearing once.

Okay, just read that article. So the author has no problem taking (for free) a design that someone else spent days and hours drawing, tweaking, adjusting, searching for materials, making mockups, probably changing some material because it wouldn't fall properly when actually made, sourcing wholesale materials, contracting a fabricator, paying for models and a photo shoot, and paying for advertisement.  Yet a trip to Bangkok for a getaway and a sweatshop knockoff is completely A-Okay.  Sooooo, if you want it, pay for it.  If it's too much or you don't want to pay that much, don't steal.
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Post by: LtPowers on March 22, 2014, 10:09:09 AM
Okay, just read that article. So the author has no problem taking (for free) a design that someone else spent days and hours drawing, tweaking, adjusting, searching for materials, making mockups, probably changing some material because it wouldn't fall properly when actually made, sourcing wholesale materials, contracting a fabricator, paying for models and a photo shoot, and paying for advertisement.  Yet a trip to Bangkok for a getaway and a sweatshop knockoff is completely A-Okay.  Sooooo, if you want it, pay for it.  If it's too much or you don't want to pay that much, don't steal.

Fashion designs are not, in general, copyrightable.  There may be some jurisdictions where they are, but it's not the norm, AFAIK.  Thus, knock-offs are not "stealing"; they're not even fraud unless there's an attempt to pass them off as the real thing.


Powers  &8^]
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Post by: alkira6 on March 23, 2014, 01:19:21 PM
Okay, just read that article. So the author has no problem taking (for free) a design that someone else spent days and hours drawing, tweaking, adjusting, searching for materials, making mockups, probably changing some material because it wouldn't fall properly when actually made, sourcing wholesale materials, contracting a fabricator, paying for models and a photo shoot, and paying for advertisement.  Yet a trip to Bangkok for a getaway and a sweatshop knockoff is completely A-Okay.  Sooooo, if you want it, pay for it.  If it's too much or you don't want to pay that much, don't steal.

Fashion designs are not, in general, copyrightable.  There may be some jurisdictions where they are, but it's not the norm, AFAIK.  Thus, knock-offs are not "stealing"; they're not even fraud unless there's an attempt to pass them off as the real thing.


Powers  &8^]

It just rubbed me the wrong way for her to say that the people who make the dresses are "conspiring to rob her" by making a profit on their hard work yet she has no problem robbing them of the fruits of their labor.  Too much of a me, me, me, screw you vibe going on.

**also posted as someone who has had SS demand (yes, demand) recipes and or/patterns for items that I have created myself while the product was for sale right there in front of them.  So I'm supposed to give away my hard work or make no profit, or even more insulting make below minimum wage for my items because you don't want to pay for my hard work?  No.

Legally right does not always translate into fair.
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Post by: Bellantara on March 23, 2014, 02:44:38 PM
Fiancee and I haven't set a date yet, but we have a vague notion of getting married on Boston Common in the spring. Not even for me will she put on a dress  ;D, but we've agreed this is my dress (in blue): http://holyclothing.com/index.php/catalog/product/view/id/5570/s/bella-peasant-maiden-satin-lace-up-corset-a-line-dress-gown/
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Post by: ladyknight1 on March 24, 2014, 08:49:33 AM
I have several of their dresses and one in divine blue.  :D
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Post by: GleefullyMacabre on April 23, 2014, 11:16:50 AM
My dress is the last thing I'll be buying, and entirely based on what's left of the budget. But I'm DESPERATELY hoping to get something from Modcloth (http://www.modcloth.com/shop/special-occasion-dresses#?color=white,cream&sort=newest), complete with poofy crinoline.
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Post by: Sirius on April 27, 2014, 12:21:51 PM
I sewed my own wedding dress because I figured I'd never find a dress in my size (US 24) on the rack, appropriate for a 39-yo bride, at a price I could afford.  I made it out of white satin, and the sleeves were lace.  The yoke was lace underlined with satin.  The whole thing cost me $60 for fabric, and I already had the pattern.  I made my own veil and all the bouquets, and I told Mr. Sirius that if I ever have it to do again I'm eloping, because that was so much work.  He wore a black suit, a black silk shirt, and a white bow tie.
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Post by: Delta on April 29, 2014, 04:28:50 PM
Is "on the cheap" *and* "non-bridal" acceptable here? Hubby and I got married outside, on 12-12-2012 at the Robert Frost farm. Since temps were in the low 30's, we bundled up - my Mom had bought me the coat I wore, and I loved it. No dress for me, just a blouse and slacks. I felt every inch a "bride" despite my unorthodox attire!

(https://farm9.staticflickr.com/8481/8268063747_3bd97950fb_o.jpg)
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Post by: jedikaiti on April 29, 2014, 05:28:32 PM
Awesome!
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Post by: ladyknight1 on April 29, 2014, 06:20:53 PM
Clothes are clothes. It's your heart and your partner's that make you married.  ;)
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Post by: gmatoy on June 19, 2014, 12:47:41 AM
I got married in the 70's when dresses had sleeves. Every single person who has ever seen my wedding picture has oohed and aahed over it. It came with a veil which was edged with lace that matched my dress. The veil was longer than the train of my dress.

It was the first dress I tried on and it was perfect! Including the fit. I didn't know that you couldn't just buy the dress off the rack. So I tried to buy it and got  told that you can't just buy it. It must be ordered. I explained that I was in the Army and on leave. I had to buy it so I could take it back to my duty station. The clerk kept telling me that it couldn't be done. So I asked if I could speak to the manager. I explained my situation and she okayed the sale. Cue tears of sheer joy!!

The fit was perfect except that I'm short and the dress needed to be hemmed. Even that was no big deal as only the front panel had to be hemmed.
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Post by: Cali.in.UK on February 01, 2016, 06:52:00 PM
Just wanted to restart this thread, I hope it is okay, it seems timeless.

I'm getting married this upcoming summer, and I really want to have a budget wedding, it is what will make me happy. A big expensive wedding is not my thing at all. I knew that I wanted a dress with long sleeves but not a big puffy skirt, I'm tall and curvy and I don't like big cinderella dresses on myself. I went to a bridal store and tried on pretty much all of their long sleeve dresses but all of them had huge skirts. I told the sales-girl that I wanted long sleeves with a sleek skirt and she said they didn't exist, and all those dresses were much more than I wanted to spend on a one-time dress (this is a personal thing, no judgement to people who get expensive dresses at all, every bride is different). I left the bridal store empty handed.

Well, I heard about a high-end second hand store that had a bridal section. I went with my mom and I found my dress with sleeves and a high collar, in a soft airy fabric with a sleek skirt for less than $200 and it was actually a never-worn dress. Literally my dream dress situation!
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Post by: ladyknight1 on February 01, 2016, 08:43:53 PM
Congratulations!
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Post by: HannahGrace on February 01, 2016, 09:27:46 PM
That's fantastic! Bridal kismet.
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Post by: lakey on February 02, 2016, 12:25:13 AM
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Well, I heard about a high-end second hand store that had a bridal section. I went with my mom and I found my dress with sleeves and a high collar, in a soft airy fabric with a sleek skirt for less than $200 and it was actually a never-worn dress. Literally my dream dress situation!

A friend of mine did the costuming for a high school's musical every year. She would hit all the second hand stores, Goodwills, and so on. She said that there are a surprising number of new clothes on the racks, often with the tags still on. I've donated items that I had bought with the idea of altering them, or wearing them when I lost weight. Congrats on your find.
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Post by: crella on February 02, 2016, 04:47:31 AM
That's a great find! Congratulations!
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Post by: gmatoy on February 03, 2016, 12:05:07 AM
Just wanted to restart this thread, I hope it is okay, it seems timeless.

I'm getting married this upcoming summer, and I really want to have a budget wedding, it is what will make me happy. A big expensive wedding is not my thing at all. I knew that I wanted a dress with long sleeves but not a big puffy skirt, I'm tall and curvy and I don't like big cinderella dresses on myself. I went to a bridal store and tried on pretty much all of their long sleeve dresses but all of them had huge skirts. I told the sales-girl that I wanted long sleeves with a sleek skirt and she said they didn't exist, and all those dresses were much more than I wanted to spend on a one-time dress (this is a personal thing, no judgement to people who get expensive dresses at all, every bride is different). I left the bridal store empty handed.

Well, I heard about a high-end second hand store that had a bridal section. I went with my mom and I found my dress with sleeves and a high collar, in a soft airy fabric with a sleek skirt for less than $200 and it was actually a never-worn dress. Literally my dream dress situation!

Congratulations on holding out for the perfect dress and in the budget, too! And best wishes on the upcoming wedding!
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Post by: Cali.in.UK on February 03, 2016, 12:26:38 PM
Just wanted to restart this thread, I hope it is okay, it seems timeless.

I'm getting married this upcoming summer, and I really want to have a budget wedding, it is what will make me happy. A big expensive wedding is not my thing at all. I knew that I wanted a dress with long sleeves but not a big puffy skirt, I'm tall and curvy and I don't like big cinderella dresses on myself. I went to a bridal store and tried on pretty much all of their long sleeve dresses but all of them had huge skirts. I told the sales-girl that I wanted long sleeves with a sleek skirt and she said they didn't exist, and all those dresses were much more than I wanted to spend on a one-time dress (this is a personal thing, no judgement to people who get expensive dresses at all, every bride is different). I left the bridal store empty handed.

Well, I heard about a high-end second hand store that had a bridal section. I went with my mom and I found my dress with sleeves and a high collar, in a soft airy fabric with a sleek skirt for less than $200 and it was actually a never-worn dress. Literally my dream dress situation!

Congratulations on holding out for the perfect dress and in the budget, too! And best wishes on the upcoming wedding!

Thank you!  ;D
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Post by: Winterlight on February 03, 2016, 07:05:20 PM
Congratulations on scoring a great dress!