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Title: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 01, 2014, 06:25:01 PM
Okay, we know that cats are independent and it’s said they rule the house - not the owner.

Right before I got my kitty almost 4 yrs ago I bought a blue armchair for my bedroom.  After she settled in, I tried to “make” her do things like:

-I thought the big, soft blue chair was the perfect “perch” spot.  I used to put her in the chair, but she would jump off.  I gave up.  Then, suddenly this past week, she decided the blue chair is her new favorite spot.
-Lay in her pet bed (she would not go near it, then one day after about a year I saw her taking a nap in her bed)
-Lay on my bed (I used to pick her up, coo/talk soft, but she wanted no part of it.  Took about 2 years, but eventually she developed a routine where she would get on my bed after her dinner.  But she almost always jumps off when I go to bed.)

???  Go figure.   :-\
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: JenJay on February 01, 2014, 06:53:58 PM
We have a very lovey cat named Cosmo who will NOT come when you call him but runs to you when you call the other kitty. And yes, he knows who is who. Stinker!
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Jocelyn on February 01, 2014, 07:40:40 PM
I wanted the kitties to sleep with me, so I decided I would give them treats at bedtime. They jump up on the bed for their treats, and then run away. The only way I get them to sleep with me is to lower the thermostat.  >:D
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: greencat on February 01, 2014, 07:48:10 PM
I frequently get awakened by a small paw tapping my face and a tiny meow letting me know that the kitten is hungry and needs to be fed right now.  Right now.  Immediately.  Why does it matter that it is 5AM?
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Katana_Geldar on February 01, 2014, 09:00:12 PM
We don't give our cats wet food all the time, but if we give it to them too often they start demanding it.

They also pound on the door if we lock them out of the bedroom.

I still remember when DH and I were dating, the cats would watch us "playing scrabble" on the sofa.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: greencat on February 01, 2014, 09:04:48 PM
The adult cats are likely to get grumbled at.  The kitten gets what she wants.  She's far, far too little to not have food whenever she wants it!
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 01, 2014, 09:15:30 PM
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They also pound on the door if we lock them out of the bedroom.

Cats seem to really resent a closed door.  If I close my bathroom door when doing business, my girl is waiting when I come out.  If I leave the door open a crack while showering, she slithers in.  I have to be careful if she's still there when I step out.

And closets, oh my.  Sometimes I open all closet doors for awhile and she's in heaven!  :)
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: mechtilde on February 01, 2014, 10:44:14 PM
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They also pound on the door if we lock them out of the bedroom.

Cats seem to really resent a closed door.  If I close my bathroom door when doing business, my girl is waiting when I come out.  If I leave the door open a crack while showering, she slithers in.  I have to be careful if she's still there when I step out.

And closets, oh my.  Sometimes I open all closet doors for awhile and she's in heaven!  :)

So it's not just mine then. I have to sleep with the door open and keep a spot clear of duvet on the bed for her.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: greencat on February 02, 2014, 12:23:26 AM
I'm lucky if some members of my menagerie don't try and join me in the shower.  They don't respect water the way cats are supposed to...
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: diesel_darlin on February 02, 2014, 07:08:17 AM
I just got home from work. I walked into the house and spoke to Bubba. I then went to my bedroom to change my clothes. It took 2 minutes tops. Bubba couldn't wait that long. He had to beat on the door to let me know he was waiting outside.  ;D
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: camlan on February 02, 2014, 09:04:15 AM
I never, ever pull the shades and blinds all the way down. There is always the "cat gap" of 4 inches at the bottom. They *must* be able to see out of all the windows all the time.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Runningstar on February 02, 2014, 05:59:00 PM
I only get to cat sit for two weeks a year (DS has terrible allergies or I would have at least 2).  Stinker is a huge, beautiful Siamese mix.  He now loves me.  I am never ever ever allowed to do my nails in Stinker's home.  Cat hair is very hard to keep off wet nails when a large long haired cat decides to pounce on those wet nails.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: SiotehCat on February 02, 2014, 06:20:58 PM
This is how I sleep most of the night.

(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e96/Si0tehCat/Mobile%20Uploads/image_zps91af0bd3.jpg) (http://s37.photobucket.com/user/Si0tehCat/media/Mobile%20Uploads/image_zps91af0bd3.jpg.html)

Every night, around 2am, my boy cat starts crying. I call him to the bed. He lays on me and I stroke him until we both fall asleep. 

I can't remember when or how this started.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Shea on February 02, 2014, 06:59:58 PM
I'm lucky if some members of my menagerie don't try and join me in the shower.  They don't respect water the way cats are supposed to...

Mine doesn't try to join me, but she gets very upset when I take a shower or bath. Even if I leave the door open, even if the water's off and I'm just relaxing in the tub, she refuses to enter, but lies just outside the door and meows sadly. Maybe she is worried about me, surrounded by all that bad, evil water?
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: sevenday on February 02, 2014, 10:06:22 PM
I have developed a nighttime ritual. When it's disturbed - if I'm up late or go to bed early - the cats are a bit thrown off.  My boy cat will come lay on my bed and wait.  I'll do my nighttime stuff - meds, wash face, pajamas - and then climb into bed after attempting (and usually failing) to pet boy cat.  Inside of ten seconds, Cuddly Cat will appear from wherever she is (lately from the window perch Dad installed in the library) and hop up onto the bed.  I MUST spend between three and five full minutes petting her or she will keep annoying me until she's satisfied.  Then she is allowed under the blanket, where she ... eventually... falls asleep.

When Teleporting Cat suddenly appears at my head and boy cat sleeps on my feet, I know I'm in for a cold or some other icky malady because they only gang up on me when I'm ill. 

I also know that when someone attempts to kill me (i.e. lay across the dark and narrow hallway where they are particularly difficult to see) they are out of food and need refilling.  Sometimes water, or both, but mostly food. 
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Katana_Geldar on February 02, 2014, 11:07:56 PM
I knew cats could teleport! One of ours is very good at it, his sister not so much.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: GreenEyedHawk on February 03, 2014, 01:34:03 AM

Cats seem to really resent a closed door.

(http://i138.photobucket.com/albums/q273/GreenEyedHawk/Sambatail_zpsdeab6e45.jpg)

Yes.  Yes they do.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: green.and.blue on February 03, 2014, 06:34:51 AM
Ours likes to sleep in DS's top bunk. Saturday morning kitty was mewing and generally making a fuss, wandering all over the house - we couldn't figure it out. I went in to change the bedsheets, and moved the blanket that had gotten half-dragged down the ladder in DS's morning wake up. Immediately, the cat apppeared as thoug from nowhere, bounded up the ladder, and curled into a ball, looking out of the window. Poor kitty - HIS ladder was blocked!
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: camlan on February 03, 2014, 06:37:56 AM
Fred The Cat will start to meow and pace if I don't go to bed on time. When I do start getting ready for bed, he jumps up on the bed and I swear he supervises me--pajamas on, teeth brushed, face washed, hand lotion on.

Then I squiggle into bed around him. He waits about three minutes--if I haven't moved, I guess he thinks I'm asleep. So he jumps off the bed and goes and does? Who knows, but it's obviously something he doesn't want me knowing about.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Baby Snakes on February 03, 2014, 07:42:47 AM
My kitty girl must be in my bedroom whenever I'm in there, preferably with the door wide open.  Sorry sweetie, there are men in the house, I'm not changing clothes with the bedroom door wide open.  If by some chance she is locked out in the hallway she will crouch down so her mouth is right by the bottom of the door then yell her head off until someone (usually me) lets her in.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: ladyknight1 on February 03, 2014, 11:57:28 AM
I noticed on Tuesday morning, while home getting some things done (which is very much out of the normal routine on a work day), that Harley and Mocha like to follow me around the house. I was upstairs, they were upstairs, I went down to the living room, they did too. Back upstairs, they were right there. It was amusing.

I told DH we should become independently wealthy so I can be a cat stay at home mom. My teenage son doesn't need me as much as they do.  :P
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Hmmmmm on February 03, 2014, 01:00:02 PM
I work from home. I do lots of audio and video meetings. My boss is in another country but he and I have a standing video meeting each week. The cat knows his voice and insists on being in the room during those meetings. If he isn't in the room and the door is closed, he bangs on it till I get up and let him in. He then has to get onto the credenza behind me and watch my boss during the meeting. Thankfully, my boss thinks it's funny.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Seraphia on February 03, 2014, 01:27:28 PM
I noticed on Tuesday morning, while home getting some things done (which is very much out of the normal routine on a work day), that Harley and Mocha like to follow me around the house. I was upstairs, they were upstairs, I went down to the living room, they did too. Back upstairs, they were right there. It was amusing.

I told DH we should become independently wealthy so I can be a cat stay at home mom. My teenage son doesn't need me as much as they do.  :P

We were out of town for the weekend, and the kittepusses missed us (read: DH) terribly. When we got home Sunday evening, he unpacked his stuff and went to wind down with his book. No matter where in the house he went, he had three cats orbiting him. On the couch, there was a cat on either side and the third in the chair. In the kitchen, there were two at his feet and one at the water dish. Down in the basement, one cat in the laundry basket, one in the lounger, one on the stairs.

I was upstairs all by my lonesome until he brought them all to bed with him. I am not "Filler of the Dish," so I only get second string cuddles. :(
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: GlitterIsMyDrug on February 03, 2014, 03:54:01 PM
I work from home. I do lots of audio and video meetings. My boss is in another country but he and I have a standing video meeting each week. The cat knows his voice and insists on being in the room during those meetings. If he isn't in the room and the door is closed, he bangs on it till I get up and let him in. He then has to get onto the credenza behind me and watch my boss during the meeting. Thankfully, my boss thinks it's funny.

Well sure, he's clearly your at home supervisor. He needs to attend the meeting so he makes sure you stay on task.

I don't have cats, but my dogs also dislike closed doors. And if I go to the bathroom downstairs, they'll sit right up against the door, their tails going under the door and then as soon as they hear the toilet flush run in opposite directions because clearly they aren't that attached to mom and are fine if she goes in the little weird room and closes the door.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: blueyzca01 on February 03, 2014, 04:07:19 PM

I was upstairs all by my lonesome until he brought them all to bed with him. I am not "Filler of the Dish," so I only get second string cuddles. :(
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You know what's sad?  I AM the "Filler of the Dish" and I still don't get cuddles.  She is alllll about Daddy.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 03, 2014, 04:12:41 PM
Haha! Love the pic of tail under the door, GreenEyedHawk.  ;D

I rarely have to get up to use bathroom after I’ve gone to bed.  But If I do, I don't turn the light on, and no matter how quiet I try to be, kitty comes in for a pet/stroke while I’m sitting down.  :)
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: nuit93 on February 03, 2014, 04:16:16 PM
If I'm reading for bed, Max will come up and put his paw on the book (or just sit on it) to let me know it's bedtime now.  He'll then lay down on my chest until I fall asleep.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 03, 2014, 04:36:31 PM
If I'm reading for bed, Max will come up and put his paw on the book (or just sit on it) to let me know it's bedtime now.  He'll then lay down on my chest until I fall asleep.

My brother and his wife used to have a very bratty (but beautiful) Siamese who would put her paws on whatever they were trying to read.  I remember once we spread a map out on the floor and tried to talk about directions to (whatever), but Geisha was having none of that in HER domain.  She created quite a disruption.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Yarnspinner on February 03, 2014, 04:50:22 PM
I've been cat sitting for almost six weeks now.  My friend's cat continues to go from closet to closet, crying and batting at the closed doors.  I think she believes if we open them enough times and in the right order her "real" Mom and Dad will be there.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Jocelyn on February 06, 2014, 02:31:57 PM
Yarnspinner, that's exactly what the cat thinks. When I was a kid, we had a cat who would go up the stairs and meow at my sisters' door after they left for college. We had to go up and open the door and let him see that they were not in there, and after a few days, he'd quit. He did the same when I went to college, Mom said. But Ching was an exceptionally smart cat, and he hated to look foolish, so those two facts would combine to make him give up his search quickly.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 06, 2014, 05:46:51 PM
^^ awww. bless his heart.  :(
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Alli8098 on February 06, 2014, 06:11:51 PM
My kitties used to be allowed in our room and used to sleep in there at night.  But then I developed asthma and then when we became pregnant with our first child (5 years ago) I completely banned them from bedroom.  To this day every time that door is open I'm trying to catch little fur missiles as they try to get in my room.  Even that cat we got two years ago and was never allowed in there tries it.  Although I found out when I can't get them out of the room I send in the 4-year old and they usually run right back out.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Hmmmmm on February 06, 2014, 06:33:29 PM
Yarnspinner, that's exactly what the cat thinks. When I was a kid, we had a cat who would go up the stairs and meow at my sisters' door after they left for college. We had to go up and open the door and let him see that they were not in there, and after a few days, he'd quit. He did the same when I went to college, Mom said. But Ching was an exceptionally smart cat, and he hated to look foolish, so those two facts would combine to make him give up his search quickly.
My DD went off to college this year. During the fall we didn't really notice much change with our cats but when she came home for Christmas the boy cat spent most of his sleeping time in her room with her for the month. Now every time I go into her room he follows me in and walks around meowing for her.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: ladyknight1 on February 07, 2014, 07:38:37 AM
Mocha woke me up my rubbing her face on my hand and laying on my side two minutes before my alarm went off. I hope she does that again Monday, as that was a more pleasant way to wake up.  ;)
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: diesel_darlin on February 07, 2014, 01:08:18 PM
We had a cat when I was younger that knew exactly what time my sister and I would get off the school bus and would be waiting at the door every day.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: guihong on February 07, 2014, 01:40:07 PM
When I was a girl, our cat Charlie would wait on the back of a chair for the mailman to come to the door.  When he saw him coming, Charlie would race through the kitchen and around to the door, then splat himself over the window next to the door as if defending his home.  The mailman always gave him a scritch through the glass :).  Charlie would look so satisfied.  I think it was the highlight of that cat's day.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: greencat on February 07, 2014, 06:34:40 PM
My cats tend to awaken me before the alarm goes off with high decibel meowing an inch from my face.  That is not a pleasant way to awaken. 

Recently, I've moved to a new position with a very different schedule, and my cats keep waking me up - mostly, by tapping me with their paws.  I think they're checking to make sure I'm not dead!
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Outdoor Girl on February 07, 2014, 07:22:27 PM
I used to have a recliner with a fairly wide top on it.  And a cat that loved to lay across the top of the recliner so she was close to me but not too close.  And then the tail would switch in front of my face, like a windshield wiper.  I'd put up with it for a while and then I'd finally just grab and hold her tail.  She'd complain; I'd let go.  We'd do this a few times before she finally got pissed off enough with me to climb down and go lie somewhere else.

guihong, that is hilarious!

I have fibromyalgia.  So good sleep hygiene is really important for me.  The cats are not allowed in the bedroom, ever.  But if I have a snooze on the couch, that's when the cats get to sleep with me.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Nikko-chan on February 08, 2014, 02:26:22 AM
I have a closet door without the little thing on the side that makes it close properly. Yes this is important to the story. Because I also have a lovely little house panther. When said house panther decides that mama needs to get him his gushifud breakfast, he manipulates the door in such a way that it bangs against.... well I don't know what.

 So I hear BANG! BANG! BANG! for as long as the little brat erm, lovely little darling decides to go on for, which honestly, he's a cat so, its until I get fed up and decided to go feed his sorry little erm I mean wonderful lovely house panther. Did I mention what I wonderful little house panther he was and how much his human mama loves him? *sideways glance*

Send help. Five pointy ends hurt! Also, I think he's building an army. *sends another sideways glance the cats way*
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Mel the Redcap on February 08, 2014, 05:11:33 AM
We had a cat when I was younger that knew exactly what time my sister and I would get off the school bus and would be waiting at the door every day.

My late and dearly beloved cat Cen - an excellent example of a house panther if ever there was one - knew what time I would get home from work, and met me at the end of the driveway most days. Then I went to Japan for a year on a university student exchange.

According to my housemates, every single day that I was gone, Cen went to the end of the driveway at about the time I would have been getting off the bus, and waited there for half an hour. Then she would come back into the house, sit in front of my room, and meow tragically for several minutes. Every day, for the whole year.

You know that thing cats do when you've been away for a while? "I'm mad at you for abandoning me, so I'm going to sit just out of reach and glare at you like you're a stranger?" Yeah, when I got home she did that for about fifteen seconds, then decided that was enough and plastered herself to me, purring until she was hoarse. :-*
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: BarensMom on February 08, 2014, 10:37:01 AM
We had a cat when I was younger that knew exactly what time my sister and I would get off the school bus and would be waiting at the door every day.

You know that thing cats do when you've been away for a while? "I'm mad at you for abandoning me, so I'm going to sit just out of reach and glare at you like you're a stranger?" Yeah, when I got home she did that for about fifteen seconds, then decided that was enough and plastered herself to me, purring until she was hoarse. :-*

When my mother would go on trips lasting more than a day, her cat would be all lovey-dovey.  Once Mom was lulled into a false sense of security, the cat would bite the stuffing out of her.  Then Mom would chase her into the garage and things would be frosty between them for a few days.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: veronaz on February 08, 2014, 01:03:04 PM
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My late and dearly beloved cat Cen - an excellent example of a house panther if ever there was one - knew what time I would get home from work, and met me at the end of the driveway most days. Then I went to Japan for a year on a university student exchange.

According to my housemates, every single day that I was gone, Cen went to the end of the driveway at about the time I would have been getting off the bus, and waited there for half an hour. Then she would come back into the house, sit in front of my room, and meow tragically for several minutes. Every day, for the whole year.

aaawww  :'(

Amazing how pets know what time it is.  My nephew's dog used to get excited and look out the window at exactly the same time every day......a few minutes before the school bus dropped him off.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: diesel_darlin on February 08, 2014, 01:24:47 PM
Awwwwww
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: daen on February 10, 2014, 04:51:32 PM

My late and dearly beloved cat Cen - an excellent example of a house panther if ever there was one - knew what time I would get home from work, and met me at the end of the driveway most days. Then I went to Japan for a year on a university student exchange.

According to my housemates, every single day that I was gone, Cen went to the end of the driveway at about the time I would have been getting off the bus, and waited there for half an hour. Then she would come back into the house, sit in front of my room, and meow tragically for several minutes. Every day, for the whole year.
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Oh. my. Poor kitty.

I don't know how my cats did for the year that we were gone - the cat sitter didn't tell us much about that - although they were quite clingy when we got back. I know I was a wreck leaving them behind for a year. Didn't cry about being homesick or missing friends and family, or not seeing my nephew for the first three months of his life,  but I cried about missing my cats.

During that year, I met a woman who was going overseas for three years. She had four cats, which were being rehomed to two places. I just... no, I'm not sure I could do that. Three years? No.
Title: Re: Cats…..a reminder who is in charge
Post by: Katana_Geldar on February 10, 2014, 06:57:30 PM
We left our cats for about a week while we had our baby moon and wedding anniversary holiday. Our cats were left at home with a woman we hired to come in every day, feed them and play with them. They love her and they're much, much happier at home than boarding somewhere. We stayed with DH's parents for a few days then on our first night in the nice hotel, we got a call saying one of them had had some sort of seizure, so the woman took him to hospital. DH was half resolved to fly back the next day, as he couldn't that night, but did get a friend to stay at our place for a few nights so the other cat wasn't alone. It was an anxious worried night.

Next morning he was eating, washing himself and using his tray so they sent him home, having no idea what caused the seizure. When he got home he was quiet and sleepy but otherwise normal. And when we arrived home he was very much his usual self, barring a few "attacks" (no fits, thank goodness) where we have managed to care for him and help him out.

But it was that night our realised that our cats were more than pets, they're part of our family.