Etiquette Hell

Hostesses With The Mostest => Entertaining and Hospitality => Topic started by: Gigi on January 10, 2007, 02:58:02 AM

Title: And for dessert....
Post by: Gigi on January 10, 2007, 02:58:02 AM
At a party one night I heard a woman regaling some other women about how clever she'd been the week before, and how happy her women friends were when she and her hubby hosted a dinner party at her home. She has a fabulous chef, and the sit-down dinner for 5 other couples was delicious and lovely as usual.

After the guests finished the main meal the hostess announced that dessert was ready in the study.  As the guests arrived in the study they found an out-of-town jewelry designer there with his goods displayed on a "buffet."  The husbands were expected to buy "dessert" for their wives and, of course, try to out-do each other with their generosity. 

Now all of these guys have megabucks and could easily afford a bauble or two, but who wants to be maneuvered that way?  I couldn't tell if all of the wives were in on the scheme or not.  One of the husbands was in hearing range of the storyteller though and the expression on his face said that he definitely did not appreciate the scam.

Interestingly enough, most of the wives who got dessert that night are no longer the wives of the gentlemen "marks".
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: sammycat on January 10, 2007, 03:50:35 AM
Sounds tacky.  If the wives weren't in on it then it's very, very tacky, and rude.  If the wives were in on it it's still tacky.

If I went to a dinner party and was unexpectedly confronted with this I'd leave immediately.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Evil Duckie on January 10, 2007, 11:38:23 AM
Tacky and Rude.

I would leave immediately. There is no way I would be part of this.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Gileswench on January 10, 2007, 11:49:48 AM
Tacky? I call it vile.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Clara Bow on January 10, 2007, 02:19:43 PM
That's just sick...I wouldn't even allow my husband to participate. We'd leave, and get some Ben and Jerry's for dessert....
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Gileswench on January 10, 2007, 03:11:54 PM
Oooh, Ben and Jerry's and Auntie Venom...would it be too terribly rude if I invited myself along?
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: blue_bunny_paz on January 10, 2007, 03:22:24 PM
That's remarkably rude. they could have at least invited the jewellery seller in for the main course.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Clara Bow on January 10, 2007, 03:31:34 PM
Oooh, Ben and Jerry's and Auntie Venom...would it be too terribly rude if I invited myself along?

Come on and bring your fluffy pj's, if we're going to get comfy, we should get comfy!
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: L1NDSAY on January 11, 2007, 04:53:06 AM
I can't decide whether I think it is more weird or tacky - probably a bit of both.

I know I feel awkward and embarrassed when those rose-sellers come round restaurants pressuring Boyf to buy a 5 single stem - I can't imagine how I'd feel if my friends thought we should buy jewellery during a meal!

I think we all know the rules for Selling Parties - No surprises and No pressure. This dinner party breaks both rules spectacularly.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: willow08 on January 11, 2007, 08:54:22 AM
Tricking people into buying expensive stuff they may not want or afford.... what a lovely, clever hostess. Can't wait for her Christmas party! ::)
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: MineralDiva on January 12, 2007, 12:27:19 AM
<<<Interestingly enough, most of the wives who got dessert that night are no longer the wives of the gentlemen "marks".>>>

Hard to believe!  (Not)  Did they at least keep the jewelry?  *evil Diva off*

I wanna go to Ben and Jerry's with Auntie and Guileswench  too!  Waaaaah!  Waaaahhhh!
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Clara Bow on January 12, 2007, 12:38:00 PM
More the merrier! We can keep it cold in your snow, so bring snow!
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: MineralDiva on January 12, 2007, 12:50:05 PM
I got some snow last night too!  Woo hoo!  We're all set!
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Adah on January 12, 2007, 02:20:01 PM
Wow. That's stunning. I would have expected someone to say, "Thanks but no thanks. I'm stuffed."
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Rach on January 14, 2007, 08:37:33 AM
Wow. That's stunning. I would have expected someone to say, "Thanks but no thanks. I'm stuffed."

Or maybe 'I'm  allergic' or 'it conflicts with my beliefs'
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Hawkwatcher on January 14, 2007, 03:30:07 PM
I could see hosts having a similar event to raise money for charity or for a political candidate.  However, it does not sound like the hostess in this case was trying to raise money for charity and, if she was trying to raise money for charity, she should have notified her guests ahead of time so that they could decline her invitation.

Had I attended this event, I would have been horribly offended.  Not only would my husband and I have left, but I would refuse any invitation from this "hostess" in the future.   
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Pixie on January 14, 2007, 07:08:10 PM
No, thank you.

Agreed,  I would have cut that hostess out of my life.

Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: Sharnita on January 18, 2007, 10:14:54 AM
I'm the kind of berson who would be disappointed that my "dessert" didn'y involve ice cream and hot fudge. I would probably opt out and hit DQ on the way home.
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: ccnumber4 on January 18, 2007, 10:22:42 AM
<<<Interestingly enough, most of the wives who got dessert that night are no longer the wives of the gentlemen "marks".>>>

I thought the original post said that the conversation regarded a party that was held the week before?? 

And the marriages have already dissolved?  That was quick. 
Title: Re: And for dessert....
Post by: ccnumber4 on January 18, 2007, 10:23:17 AM
Ah, understanding now!