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Wedding Bliss and Blues => Wedding Peeps => The Wedding Party => Topic started by: TheaterDiva1 on August 05, 2017, 04:48:54 PM

Title: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: TheaterDiva1 on August 05, 2017, 04:48:54 PM
I apologize if this had already come up - mods, feel free to delete this if it's a duplicate.

https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/4096562/self-absorbed-bridezilla-holds-auction-for-potential-bridesmaids-to-bid-for-a-place-in-her-wedding/

TR:DR - A bride auctioned off spots in her bridal party (including MoH) to pay for her wedding. I'm not clear as to where this happened, but I think this was posted on a British site, so I'm guessing the U.K. (in case that makes a difference). Thoughts?
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: rose red on August 05, 2017, 04:55:55 PM
I think it's a great idea. Now everyone can see what kind of people the "HC" (not to mention the mother) are and how they really view friendship.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: nutraxfornerves on August 05, 2017, 05:05:51 PM
The original Reddit thread (link in story) includes advice that sounds straight out of Ehell. Don't JADE (with an explanation of Jade). And "learn how to say 'I'm not going to discuss that, I've already said no, and my email explained why I said no. How is cousin XYZ?'"
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: gellchom on August 05, 2017, 05:24:38 PM
A single word in that story says it all:

"nutters."
Title: Re:Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her weddin
Post by: pattycake on August 05, 2017, 05:32:00 PM
The original Reddit thread (link in story) includes advice that sounds straight out of Ehell. Don't JADE (with an explanation of Jade). And "learn how to say 'I'm not going to discuss that, I've already said no, and my email explained why I said no. How is cousin XYZ?'"

It looks like the original post has been removed, though all the comments still remain.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: EllenS on August 05, 2017, 07:03:35 PM
I think the bride will get exactly the sort of wedding she deserves - though probably not the one she wants.
Title: Re:Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her weddin
Post by: gramma dishes on August 05, 2017, 07:13:19 PM

It looks like the original post has been removed, though all the comments still remain.

For me it was the opposite!  The post is there, but no comments!
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: Winterlight on August 05, 2017, 09:44:31 PM
Well. That's novel.


(I didn't say it was good.)
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: Mustard on August 06, 2017, 04:12:04 AM
Egads... If it is in the U.K. it some how seems worse as the bridesmaid don't, by tradition, pay for their own dresses, shoes, hair-dos etc. Given that many bridezillas seem to go out of their way to get a matching set of attendants, it would be interesting to see who 'wins' the auction...
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: athersgeo on August 06, 2017, 04:40:22 AM
I can actually see this being not a totally horrible no good very bad idea, but the circumstances have to be absolutely right, for example:
-The Bride and Groom are raising money for a particular charity (probably health-related)
-Everyone knows before hand that none of the money is going to the Bride and Groom
-The Bride and Groom will still pay the Bridesmaids expenses

And even then, it's still not precisely a good idea!
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: Free Range Hippy Chick on August 06, 2017, 04:46:30 AM
It's a UK site but it mentions dollars, so I would think not a UK wedding.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: TheaterDiva1 on August 06, 2017, 04:55:00 PM
It's a UK site but it mentions dollars, so I would think not a UK wedding.

Then that's even worse. At least in the U.K. the bride would be paying for the bridesmaids' dresses (right?), that the auction money would do towards that. But if this is in the US and the girls are paying for those spots ON TOP OF dresses and whatnot? I have no words... 😳😳😳
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: rose red on August 06, 2017, 05:51:54 PM
It's a UK site but it mentions dollars, so I would think not a UK wedding.

Then that's even worse. At least in the U.K. the bride would be paying for the bridesmaids' dresses (right?), that the auction money would do towards that. But if this is in the US and the girls are paying for those spots ON TOP OF dresses and whatnot? I have no words... 😳😳😳

Nobody has to bid though, not even the sister of the bride so nobody has to spend one single penny. You guilt me? I'll guilt you right back.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: Roodabega on August 11, 2017, 09:21:14 AM
It's a UK site but it mentions dollars, so I would think not a UK wedding.
However the quote from the sister said "Mum", so either they substituted the money or they substituted mum for mom.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid
Post by: MagnesiumOxide on August 11, 2017, 09:26:34 AM
It's a UK site but it mentions dollars, so I would think not a UK wedding.
However the quote from the sister said "Mum", so either they substituted the money or they substituted mum for mom.

Or they're Australian.   ;)
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: nutraxfornerves on August 11, 2017, 09:43:22 AM
The newspaper that reported the story, as given in the OP here, is in the UK.  However, the story is taken from a Reddit post. Although the Reddit OP was deleted, subsequent posts make it look like a US wedding.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: lmyrs on August 11, 2017, 11:22:39 AM
This would delight me. Honestly, being able to get out of being a bridesmaid just by refusing to bid on the spot? That is the definition of win-win for me.

I am wildly curious about the person who would bid on this travesty. Why would anyone spend money for the honour of spending more money (on a dress, hair, present, shower, etc)?

In my opinion, the bride is a dummy and her mother is worse.
Title: Re: Bridezilla holds ‘auction’ for potential BMs to bid for a place in her wedding
Post by: nutraxfornerves on August 11, 2017, 12:45:57 PM
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I am wildly curious about the person who would bid on this travesty.

In the original Reddit thread, one of the very last posts is "Am I the only one who thinks this is a wacky and kind of cool way to raise money for a wedding/honeymoon? OP is the anomaly as all the other women are willing and excited to compete." This poster goes on to say that the OP's resentment of her sister is coloring her view, and to accuse the OP of not supporting the sister & her fiancé, "but there's no indication that anyone else in the sisters life feels the same." [Actually, it appears that some, but not all, of the bride's friends are happy with it.]

The responses weren't kind, and the poster replied "I was looking at it as maybe the sister has too many good friends to choose from and didn't want to hurt feelings by picking some and excluding others... came up with an economically sound solution. I guess I just don't really get weddings in the first place though."