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The Good Things in Life => Random acts of kindness and grace => Topic started by: Groundsgirl on January 25, 2007, 02:19:01 AM

Title: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Groundsgirl on January 25, 2007, 02:19:01 AM
I'm not sure if this is the proper place for this post. Please move it if there is somewhere more appropriate.

I was out at lunch with a friend this afternoon when I encountered her. The mythical polite-to-the-teeth child!! I have often heard that such children existed. However, in my experiences around my town those children must not be in public much.

I went to the ladies soon after we were sat down. A little girl of about 7 or 8 came in after me and nodded hello. As I was washing my hands, we had a bit of a conversation.

PC (polite child): Good afternoon, Ma'am. How are you today?
Me: I'm just fine. And yourself?
PC: I'm doing great. This is my favourite place to eat.
Me: I like this restaurant too.

She then holds the door open for me as I leave. Then she says, "I hope you enjoy your lunch. Have a nice day."

Interesting overall. She was rather chatty to a stranger but oh so lovely and polite. She was seated near us with her grandfather.  made a point to comment to him about what lovely manners this little girl had. He beamed. The child was an absolute delight to hear talking with the waitstaff about her order and conversing with her grandfather (Yes, I freely admit that I am a horrible horrible eavesdropper in restaurants. Occupational hazard.)

Gave me a smile for the day.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Cellardoor14 on January 25, 2007, 05:01:36 AM

That is just beautiful!

I recently this exchange with a two 1/2 at the nursery where I teach:

Child: "'Cuse what's your name?"

Me: I'm Cellardoor, what's your name?"

Child: "Joseph."

Me: "And how are you today, Joseph?"

Child: "Fine, how are you, Miss Cellardoor?"

Me: "Very well, thank you. I'm glad we've introduced ourselves."

Child: "Me too.  Bye-bye Miss Cellardoor." (Runs off for snack.)

That brighten my day  :)
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: scotcat on January 25, 2007, 05:14:02 AM
Young girl in supermarket

"Would you like to go to the checkout? I'm just waiting here for my Mum while she goes to get something"

Grateful Scotcat took Mum's place in queue.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: MissRose on January 25, 2007, 06:21:24 AM
awwwww nice stories :)

i have one to add -

I was at a 7-11 store getting a slurpee and snacks, and i was ready to leave when a grandmother & her grandson who was about 4  or 5 years old  were in the store at the same time as me, and she was paying for her stuff, the grandmother said to the boy to go to the car parked right outside with his mother there.  The kid said i wanna hold the door open for people.  My things were rang up and i paid for them then the little boy held the door for me, and i did thank the child for doing so.   ;D
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: CocoCamm on January 25, 2007, 09:29:59 AM
I was at the laundomat earlier this week and all but 3 out of 4 kids there were running amuck. But that one little girl was so cute and well behaved I swear if I didnt have eyes I never would have known she was there. I so wanted to compliment mom but I wasnt sure how to do so without at the same time insulting the parents of the brats.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: MsEva on January 25, 2007, 11:16:51 AM
I was at the laundomat earlier this week and all but 3 out of 4 kids there were running amuck. But that one little girl was so cute and well behaved I swear if I didnt have eyes I never would have known she was there. I so wanted to compliment mom but I wasnt sure how to do so without at the same time insulting the parents of the brats.

I think that you could have complimented her on how well behaved her child was and just not mention the other children. If the other parents felt insulted, well, that's not your problem. Maybe it would have brought something to their attention that they have been ignoring.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Scritzy on January 25, 2007, 03:10:57 PM
I recall a couple of years ago when Chip and I were at the beach for the Thanksgiving holidays. We were waiting at a restaurant (loooooooong wait) and there were families there with children. One little girl was getting particularly restless and started running all over jumping onto different couches, etc. Another girl who seemed a couple years older went to the restless one and said, "Would you like to play checkers with me?" (The restaurant has game tables in the waiting room, right beside the chairs and couches.) She sat with the smaller girl and set up the checkerboard, patiently explaining how to play and distracting the little one. Shortly the little one's family was called and the older child went back to sit with her parents.

Later I saw the older child's parents in the restaurant, and I went over to them and told them how impressed I was at the child's manners and her ability to calm the smaller child. The daughter smiled at me and the mother beamed and said, "Why thank you! But she does have her moments " I said, "Today she had some very good moments."

And I must add that a teenage boy held the door open for me at Outback the other night. When I thanked him, he said, "You're welcome, ma'am." Wow.

There is hope for humanity.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Mammavan on January 25, 2007, 04:36:40 PM
We went to a lovely brunch this weekend.  It's in an old inn and very charming, not what I would consider a "family-type" restaurant, but because the brunch is pretty reasonable ($22), there were a lot of family groups.  I would estimate that one out of every two or three tables had smalll children.  In the two hours we were there, I saw absolutely no poor behaviour.  Although it was a buffet, no children were scampering around; they walked decorously to and from the room in which the buffet was situation, closely accompanied by their adult.  When thrilling narratives sometimes caused little voices to rise in excitement, they were quickly brought back to an appropriate level.  The one very small child who began to cry was immediately whisked from the room by his father. 

Everyone there seemed to be having a very enjoyable meal, the children themselves no less than anyone else.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Katharine on January 25, 2007, 05:23:01 PM
I was at DisneyWorld not to long ago and a young boy maybe 7 was sort of swinging his arms around being bored and he hit me lightly. He immediately apologized and stopped doing it. I was impressed.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: kherbert05 on January 25, 2007, 06:32:03 PM
I was at the laundromat earlier this week and all but 3 out of 4 kids there were running amuck. But that one little girl was so cute and well behaved I swear if I didnt have eyes I never would have known she was there. I so wanted to compliment mom but I wasnt sure how to do so without at the same time insulting the parents of the brats.

 I had to laugh at your post. According to our book study this year - complementing the good child to the parents is exactly what you should do to change the bad parents actions.

For example Johnny, Sammy, and Terry are always late because their Moms don't want to get up to get them to school. (Yes we have K, 1, 2 grade parents that inform us that 7:40 is to early a starting time and they want to sleep in. Since the kids are too young to get themselves up and walk across the street - the kids are often 2 hours late.) Instead of sending a newsletter home saying Kids must be on time - excessive and patterned tardies will be reported to the proper authorities. You thank the other parents for getting their kids to school on time, and emphasise the important lessons done earlier in the day. This will (according to the author) make the slacker parents feel guilty.

We disagreed because the author was assuming the slacker parents would read the news letter. Since the 3 sets of emergency forms that have been sent home, the notices about parent/teacher conference (Fall), notices about Possible retention conferences (January), are still crumbled up in the bottom of the child's back pack - We are betting the newsletter would enter that back hole also.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Joannie81 on January 26, 2007, 09:09:14 AM
It's always great to see a well behaved child.  The other day, my dd and I went to a restaurant.  The service wasn't so great, but the child behind me was.  Towards the end of the meal, I was looking around for my server and suddenly noticed the child.  I didn't even know she was there!
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: ccnumber4 on January 26, 2007, 09:17:06 AM
These are great stories!  I am annoyed that I can't seem to come up with my own right now.  Surely there must be SOME well-behaved kids in my town!
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: IndianInlaw on January 26, 2007, 09:56:24 AM
I have a kindergartener who thanks me EVERY time she (and Dad) crosses at my corner.

The other day, she forgot what she was supposed to say and after some confusion, said "Have a nice day!".

Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Clara Bow on January 26, 2007, 10:08:45 AM
We went to a birthday party last weekend for a friend of my son's. The kids had a ball and everyone was pretty good (as good as any kid can be tanked up on chips and cupcakes!) but one kid really stuck out in my mind.
When they had the pinata and all the candy finally fell out an eight year old boy was scooping up candy and sharing it out into the bags the smaller kids had. The smaller kids (son included) were a little confused by what was going on and intimidated about getting in the middle of the big kids. So this boy was nice enough to give the candy he was able to get to the little ones so they wouldn't miss out.
I complimented his parents profusely on his good behavior.
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: hobish on January 26, 2007, 03:56:18 PM

There are several times i have been amazed at how good kids are at baseball games.

One that stands out is when we had seats in the upper level. The couple behind us had five kids with them, and they all looked pretty young. They were so good throughout the whole game. The two youngest fell asleep, and one of the older ones took his jacket off & layed it on one of the littler ones. I don't even like kids & thought it was just so sweet.
When we were leaving i did what i now know was kind of annoying & asked, "are they all yours?" but then told them i'd never seen a group of kids who were so well behaved, and that it was really nice to sit near them. The parents said it was because they were tired, but the looks on their faces said they were proud. :)

I like this thread ... i easily forget that not all kids are sticky little brats. :)
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Xanthia, Maker of fine Tin-foil hats since 2007 on January 26, 2007, 04:10:34 PM
Quite a while back, I was grocery shopping and a small boy with blond curls and the brightest blue eyes, maybe 3 or so, was mildly distracted by something and bumped into me gently, he was not running, just looking at things walking next to him mom.  He stopped smiled and said "Excuse me very much please." and then...he bowed at the waist, with the one arm across his waist and one behind him.

I smiled and said "You are excused very much, and you are very polite!" he beamed and went along his way.

It made me smile for the rest of the day!
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Alida on January 26, 2007, 05:27:26 PM
Quite a while back, I was grocery shopping and a small boy with blond curls and the brightest blue eyes, maybe 3 or so, was mildly distracted by something and bumped into me gently, he was not running, just looking at things walking next to him mom.  He stopped smiled and said "Excuse me very much please." and then...he bowed at the waist, with the one arm across his waist and one behind him.

I smiled and said "You are excused very much, and you are very polite!" he beamed and went along his way.

It made me smile for the rest of the day!

It's making me smile - what a sweet child!

I love this thread - it's so nice to hear about all the good children that are out there, reminding us that there are still many children being raised with manners.

Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Thipu1 on January 26, 2007, 07:18:08 PM
I'm happy to say that I've seen beautifully behaved children in my neighborhood.  There are two little boys in my building who, when they were about three, always tried to hold the door open when their mothers came through with a baby in a stroller.  At that time they needed help because they were little and the door is heavy.  They're a few years older now and, when they're on their way to school and I'm on my way to work they always open the door with a pleasant, "Good Morning Ma'am".  Of course, they're always thanked and the greetings are returned.

I started to see the turn when Mr. Thipu and I were having lunch in a sushi restaurant.  It was a quiet place and there were only a few tables being used.      One of the tables was occupied by an adult couple, their son and a friend of their child.  The boys who were about 7 or 8 years-old had just come from a soccer match they'd won.  10 years ago kids like these would have been rampaging all over the place and demonstrating their great kicks in the restaurant.

These children did not.  There was some laughter from the table as plays were recounted but the laughter was subdued.  The boys seemed perfectly content to eat their food and talk in a polite way with the adults.  I may also say that the boys were perfectly comfortable eating sushi with chop-sticks.           

     
Title: Re: The most beautifully behaved child ever
Post by: Scritzy on January 26, 2007, 10:39:05 PM
I have to add another one after tonight.

Chip and I tried out a relatively new restaurant. I'd describe it as an upscale family restaurant great selection on the menu from burgers to pasta to roast turkey (which Chip ordered and adored you can't find a good turkey dinner just anywhere, he says). Lots of older people, families, teens, young adults and children.

A couple sat at a table next to our booth. They had a little girl. I can't begin to guess her age, but she was old enough to have teeth and to use a sippy cup and eat "real" food. She couldn't converse as yet, except for laughing and some quiet happy sounds. She was also cute as a bug.

That little adorable thing sat in her high chair patiently playing with a spoon until her mommy and daddy were served. Then she sat quietly eating food that her parents put on her plate. No matter what it was, the child tried it. She didn't eat all of it, but what she didn't want she left on the plate. She didn't throw it, scream, kick the table, try to climb out of the chair, etc. She picked up her sippy cup with both hands, drank, and put it down quietly. Then she would turn around to grin at me or at Chip.

She did commit one faux pas she wanted to wipe her mouth, and not seeing a napkin nearby, she leaned over and wiped her mouth on the tablecloth. Her mother was horrified and said, "No, we don't use the tablecloth as a napkin, honey!" and handed the child a napkin, which she used. (I had to turn my head away so the child wouldn't see me laughing at that one.)

Cutie was also extremely interested in our dessert. Chip and I split an apple crisp with ice cream and the child was fascinated by it. Chip said, "Next she'll tell the waiter, 'I would like one of those, please.'"

As we left, I complimented the parents on their adorable child and the child's good manners. The parents beamed, and the mother said, "And thank you for keeping her entertained! She enjoyed being around you."

I can't remember the last time I saw such a young child with such good restaurant manners. Maybe never.