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Etiquette School is in session! => "Why would I want to do that?" => Topic started by: Piratelvr1121 on February 27, 2010, 11:08:25 PM

Title: I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on February 27, 2010, 11:08:25 PM
I was thinking about jewelry, rings specifically, and thought of a conversation I had with a former coworker once about rings, specifically engagement and wedding rings.

BG:  When my favorite aunt married in 95, she and her husband had claddagh rings, and she explained to me what they meant.  Being 1/2 Irish and proud of that heritage, it along with the meaning and story behind the claddagh made me decide at the age of 16 that when I got married, I wanted to have a claddagh as a wedding band.

Fast forward about 4 years, I met DH in college and fell in love.   I told him after we were engaged about the claddagh's meaning and that I'd always wanted to wear one as a wedding band.   He liked the idea too and so after we figured out our ring sizes, he ordered them from Ireland!  :D  Didn't ask him too, but was thrilled that he decided to.  /BG

This coworker was big into diamonds, and while I've never had anything against them, when it comes to gemstones I prefer ones with color to them, maybe with diamond chips around them.   I had mentioned that my engagement ring was a sapphire surrounded by diamond chips, and she'd seen my wedding band.   She insisted dh "Owed" me a diamond ring of some sort.  I showed her a ring DH got me for our 5th anniversary that had rubies and diamonds in it.  That didn't count.  I should have a huge "rock" and told me "You need to tell that boy to buy you a diamond!"

Had I known of e-hell then I would have definitely used this phrase! LOL! Instead I said "Nah, I don't want a diamond, so he certainly doesn't owe me one..."
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Post by: kitty_ev on February 27, 2010, 11:29:22 PM
Ooooh.... that sort of attitude makes my blood boil! You have lovely jewellery that reflects your heritage and that you adore. Why on earth would you trade that for something else? I think your coworker's attitude is incredibly immature!
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Post by: Dazi on February 28, 2010, 05:32:24 AM
I get that quite frequently and I do have a diamond engagement and wedding ring.  It is not large though (about 1/2 carat total weight. I think the center stone is 1/6 carat), but it suits me perfectly.  I have small hands and don't like big/gaudy jewelry.

I can't count the times I have had people tell me I *must* get my DH to buy me a proper sized/expensive set.   Hmmm, it is proper sized.  Technically, I picked it out, I just didn't know at the time. I was trying on rings for my friend's DH because we wear the same size.  He needed opinions as well as a hand model  ;D. He was trying to pick out a new set for their 10th anniversary.  My DH was with us, he paid very close attention to what I said she would like vs. what I liked.

I have used the "I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks" line many times.  I have given also used "why would I want to do that?".

IMO, the people that equate huge diamond engagement for the amount of love someone has for you are shallow, insecure people.  Ignore them.

***The most amusing/most vocal comments were made my one of my DH's best friend's wife.  Her DH spent a ton of time and a lot of money on a exquisite wedding band set.  She went and traded it in for a set that was exactly the same, but that had a much larger (less quality/clarity) diamond.  I thought he was going to kill her...He noticed it immediately because he had spent months looking for the perfect center stone for it (it was around 2 carats, beautiful colour/clarity).

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Post by: Diane AKA Traska on February 28, 2010, 06:17:02 AM
"But diamonds are forever just like loooooooove!"
"Diamonds are compressed coal, and a commodity artificially inflated in price due to false scarcity, and held control of through ruthlessness.  I'll stick to what I've got, thanks."

EDIT:  Just wanted to add that those who actually like diamonds, this wasn't anything trying to dissuade them from that.  They're my personal reasons for not liking diamonds, but then again I love meat, which other people might not eat because of the way that industry works.  I just figure that a good burger is a lot tastier than some rock.   ;D
Title: Re: I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on February 28, 2010, 09:44:57 AM
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"Diamonds are compressed coal, and a commodity artificially inflated in price due to false scarcity, and held control of through ruthlessness.  I'll stick to what I've got, thanks."

That made me giggle.  The woman who said this to me was pretty shallow in other ways, too, so it really doesn't surprise me that she had this attitude that my ring wasn't good enough because there were no diamonds on it.  Just a simple gold claddagh.    But the claddagh just means more to me than a diamond wedding band.   It's meaning, for those who don't know, the heart symbolizes love, the hands friendship and the crown loyalty. 

And the story behind it, from Wikipedia:
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One legend that may be closer to historical truth [opinion] is of a man named Richard Joyce, another member of the Joyce clan and a native of Galway. He left his town to work in the West Indies, intending to marry his love when he returned. However, his ship was captured and he was sold as a slave to a Moorish goldsmith. In Algiers, with his new master, he was trained in his craft. When William III became king, he demanded the Moors release all British prisoners. As a result, Robert Joyce was set free. The goldsmith had such a great amount of respect for Robert Joyce that he offered Joyce his daughter and half his wealth if Joyce stayed, but he denied his offer and returned home to marry his love who awaited his return. During his time with the Moors, he forged a ring as a symbol of his love for her. Upon his return, he presented her with the ring and they were married.


I'm a sucker for romance, can you tell? LOL!
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Post by: itsmeforever on February 28, 2010, 11:52:41 AM
I think what you have sounds lovely. Everyone has different tastes. Heck my mother didn't even have a engagement ring until after they were married! And, it's a ruby!

I had something similar happen....

My DH gave me a interlocking engagement and wedding ring 13 years ago. After 6 years, it broke twice and we found out how cheaply it was made. And to fix it properly, it would cost more than we were willing to spend. I wore a cheap wedding band for 5 years. July '08 he "stole" my set and had it remade with his mother's original wedding band and new, bigger and better quality diamond. Surprised me that Christmas with it! It had my old diamond chips and his mothers band. I was touched and teary eyed.

I saw someone that I hadn't seen in years and she actually remembered the old one and proceeded to give me a LONG lecture. That the old was sentimental and he should have kept it, he should have used a colored stone, because diamonds were for NEW engagement rings ONLY! She was so upset that he gotten rid of the old one. All I could say "I love my new ring."

Kinda took the wind out of my sails.
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Post by: Suze on February 28, 2010, 12:10:20 PM
oh POOP on them

whose finger is that ring on?  that is the only other person who SHOULD have a say in what it looks like. (the one buying it is the other)

a good friend has an engagement ring that is a colored stone and has little rubber duckies worked into the sides of the ring. (it's a thing with her)

not for me -- but it is cute. (I would rather have dragons......) and it is "her" and she and her FH are happy with it and that is the thing that counts
Title: Re: I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on February 28, 2010, 01:28:56 PM
I agree, it shouldn't matter to anyone but the ring wearer and the ring giver. 

My husband ended up getting a plain gold band after a few years. He held onto the claddagh but didn't wear it anymore because the point of the heart kept digging into his skin.  I didn't really mind, as he still wears a ring.   Someday I think it would be nice to get a band with the claddagh design engraved but it depends on how he feels.

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Post by: wheeitsme on February 28, 2010, 03:23:01 PM
My husband had a horrible time getting me my pearl engagement ring.  They kept trying to push diamonds.  I LIKE pearls.  I could care less about diamonds.  He knew that.  He ended up spinning a story about my being ethically opposed to diamonds due to the bloody diamond trade before they helped him with pearls...
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Post by: Dazi on February 28, 2010, 03:28:43 PM
My husband had a horrible time getting me my pearl engagement ring.  They kept trying to push diamonds.  I LIKE pearls.  I could care less about diamonds.  He knew that.  He ended up spinning a story about my being ethically opposed to diamonds due to the bloody diamond trade before they helped him with pearls...

Is it really bad, that I find that really amusing?
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Post by: Lisbeth on February 28, 2010, 03:40:35 PM
I showed her a ring DH got me for our 5th anniversary that had rubies and diamonds in it.  That didn't count.  I should have a huge "rock" and told me "You need to tell that boy to buy you a diamond!"

Had I known of e-hell then I would have definitely used this phrase! LOL! Instead I said "Nah, I don't want a diamond, so he certainly doesn't owe me one..."

How did she respond?

If she kept pushing big diamond rings, I'd probably lose my patience and say, "Coworker, my husband gave me what I wanted.  I don't want a diamond.  Please consider the subject closed."
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on February 28, 2010, 04:58:52 PM
Oh she rolled her eyes and made a comment about him being lucky to not have a wife who's willing to demand what she deserves.   ::)

She was a very shallow woman so it really didn't surprise me in the least that she felt like this and thought I should too.   
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Post by: Diane AKA Traska on February 28, 2010, 05:11:23 PM
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Oh she rolled her eyes and made a comment about him being lucky to not have a wife who's willing to demand what she deserves.

 :o

"What I deserve is a ring I want, not the ring you want me to have."
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Post by: trailgrrl on February 28, 2010, 05:20:13 PM
My husband had a horrible time getting me my pearl engagement ring.  They kept trying to push diamonds.  I LIKE pearls.  I could care less about diamonds.  He knew that.  He ended up spinning a story about my being ethically opposed to diamonds due to the bloody diamond trade before they helped him with pearls...

Is it really bad, that I find that really amusing?

No, I found it  funny too.

However, the thing about pearls is that they are really fragile and not well suited to every day use as rings.   I have a pearl and diamond ring that my dad gave my mom and I've had the replace pearls on it twice before I retired for special occasion use only.

My wedding set has a 1/3 carat diamond with excellent color and clarity with sapphire and diamond wrap.  The only thing I would ever change about it would be I would have preferred white to yellow gold.  It's never occurred to me to exchanged it for something different..........I've had it nearly 19 years now.
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Post by: Amalthea on February 28, 2010, 05:32:04 PM
I never knew sparkly rocks were such serious business until I started reading this forum.  I can't imagine what possesses people to make negative comments on other people's jewelry choices.  I love pretty much anything and everything that catches the light in an appealing manner, so I can't understand how someone could be so attached to one particular stone that they insist on everyone else in the world wearing it too.
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Post by: wheeitsme on February 28, 2010, 05:53:04 PM
My husband had a horrible time getting me my pearl engagement ring.  They kept trying to push diamonds.  I LIKE pearls.  I could care less about diamonds.  He knew that.  He ended up spinning a story about my being ethically opposed to diamonds due to the bloody diamond trade before they helped him with pearls...

Is it really bad, that I find that really amusing?

No, I found it  funny too.

However, the thing about pearls is that they are really fragile and not well suited to every day use as rings.   I have a pearl and diamond ring that my dad gave my mom and I've had the replace pearls on it twice before I retired for special occasion use only.

My wedding set has a 1/3 carat diamond with excellent color and clarity with sapphire and diamond wrap.  The only thing I would ever change about it would be I would have preferred white to yellow gold.  It's never occurred to me to exchanged it for something different..........I've had it nearly 19 years now.

Yeah. After the wedding I only wore it for special occasions.  Then it got stolen.  Now I sometimes wear my mother's emerald and gold band with my wedding ring.
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Post by: Sirius on February 28, 2010, 06:38:08 PM
I think it's absolutely no one else's business what someone else is wearing for a wedding ring, if anything.  For many years my mother's severe metal allergy kept her from wearing almost every type of jewelry except for pins.  Finally, my dad bought her a 24K gold band and had the inside treated, and she was able to wear that.   However, if someone had said to my mother that my dad didn't love her very much since he hadn't given her a diamond (her original wedding set had diamonds) she'd have told them what they could do with their opinion.
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Post by: BeagleMommy on March 01, 2010, 09:46:09 AM
I was given my grandmother's engagement ring as a gift.  My grandparents couldn't afford a ring when they were young and engaged.  It just wasn't financially possible.  After about 6 years of marriage, my grandfather was finally able to buy her a ring.  She didn't want a diamond.  Instead she chose a gold ring (1940s) with a cameo on a black background.  The face of the ring can be flipped over to a plain black onyx.  It is stunningly beautiful and it is my only special occasion ring (and fits me perfectly).

I defy anyone to tell me my grandfather didn't love my grandmother because she didn't get a large stone.
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Post by: kitty-cat on March 01, 2010, 10:04:34 AM
My mom's birthstone is Saphaire, and so she really prefers when her ring has saphaires in it.

My birthstone is Garnet. Mainly paired with a gold ring.... My BF knows this, or at least he should from all of the 10-ton hints I've told him...  Eh, step one is to finish college before we talk about that seriously though.

I just don't like diamonds, too flashy for my taste. I just think that a garnet stone is just prettier...
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 01, 2010, 12:01:50 PM
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I was given my grandmother's engagement ring as a gift.  My grandparents couldn't afford a ring when they were young and engaged.  It just wasn't financially possible.  After about 6 years of marriage, my grandfather was finally able to buy her a ring.  She didn't want a diamond.  Instead she chose a gold ring (1940s) with a cameo on a black background.  The face of the ring can be flipped over to a plain black onyx.  It is stunningly beautiful and it is my only special occasion ring (and fits me perfectly).

I defy anyone to tell me my grandfather didn't love my grandmother because she didn't get a large stone.

I love that story!   

From what I've been told by my own grandparents and others who had parents or grandparents during the 2nd world war, most people then did not have BWW's at all.   The couple usually went to the courthouse in a suit or military uniform for the groom and the bride's nicest dress, one she made or an inexpensive one she bought for the occasion. 

If they had a wedding ring at all, it was a simple but lovely one.   Personally I find that to be more romantic than the BWW, but that's just me.   But I'm a sucker for old fashioned romance. ;)   
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Post by: Amalthea on March 01, 2010, 12:09:18 PM
My mom's birthstone is Saphaire, and so she really prefers when her ring has saphaires in it.

My birthstone is Garnet. Mainly paired with a gold ring.... My BF knows this, or at least he should from all of the 10-ton hints I've told him...  Eh, step one is to finish college before we talk about that seriously though.

I just don't like diamonds, too flashy for my taste. I just think that a garnet stone is just prettier...

Garnets are really underrated, aren't they?  I think the only stone I'd be a little disappointed in receiving would be a ruby because I really prefer garnets for red stones.  It's my birthstone too, so I'm also a little bit biased. :D  My favorite of the moment changes just about every time I pass a jewelry store (right now it's amethyst and rose gold), but I always love garnets.   
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Post by: Mrs. Pilgrim on March 01, 2010, 06:27:27 PM
She insisted dh "Owed" me a diamond ring of some sort.  I showed her a ring DH got me for our 5th anniversary that had rubies and diamonds in it.  That didn't count.  I should have a huge "rock" and told me "You need to tell that boy to buy you a diamond!"

Am I weird for finding particularly offensive the co-worker's referring to the husband as a "boy"?

Misandry makes my eyes get all deadly.
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Post by: Daffydilly on March 01, 2010, 10:56:24 PM
I'll say one thing if any ever says I need a "bigger" stone. My sweetheart spent two months researching diamonds, listened when I asked for a small stone with a white gold setting and drove twenty hours across the country to suprise me with the ring and proposal. When he slid it onto my finger and asked me to marry him, no other ring on the face of the earth would ever hold the same value as when he put this one on my finger.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 02, 2010, 08:12:30 AM
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Garnets are really underrated, aren't they?  I think the only stone I'd be a little disappointed in receiving would be a ruby because I really prefer garnets for red stones.  It's my birthstone too, so I'm also a little bit biased. Cheesy  My favorite of the moment changes just about every time I pass a jewelry store (right now it's amethyst and rose gold), but I always love garnets.

I love garnets too.   A friend of mine let me have a marcasite and garnet ring she had that didn't fit her very well and I love it!  She also gave me an opal and diamond ring of hers that didn't fit her very well.  LOL It's like getting hand-me-downs from a cool big sis.  The cool thing is that opal and diamond are my sons birthstones (April and October) so it fits! :)

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Am I weird for finding particularly offensive the co-worker's referring to the husband as a "boy"?

Misandry makes my eyes get all deadly.

No, not weird.  I would say it might have been because she was older, but other friends who are older than us don't call DH a "Boy". 

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I'll say one thing if any ever says I need a "bigger" stone. My sweetheart spent two months researching diamonds, listened when I asked for a small stone with a white gold setting and drove twenty hours across the country to suprise me with the ring and proposal. When he slid it onto my finger and asked me to marry him, no other ring on the face of the earth would ever hold the same value as when he put this one on my finger.

AWWWWWWWWWWW!!!! Okay, that made me melt!!  That's so sweeeet!!
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Post by: Spring Water on Sundays on March 03, 2010, 10:59:20 AM
Oh she rolled her eyes and made a comment about him being lucky to not have a wife who's willing to demand what she deserves.   ::)

She was a very shallow woman so it really didn't surprise me in the least that she felt like this and thought I should too.   

What a ridiculous cow. If my DH came home with a big fat diamond for me, he'd be sleeping on the couch. Seriously. Whether I "deserve" a diamond or not, I do not want one. I bet she'd roll her eyes so hard at me that she'd see her brain.
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Post by: RubyDoomsday on March 04, 2010, 04:41:09 PM
I think the problem really comes down to the fact that we now have WAAAYYYYY too much information on what celebrities and such are getting for their rings (and even non-celebrity celebrities like the Kardashian krew et al). It puts this false idea into people's minds that getting a honking ring is the ONLY acceptable kind. And the wedding industry hasn't helped by informing us that "How do you know he is serious unless he forks over half a years worth of salary??" (because that is what those little sparkly beasts cost)

I want a diamond ring when I get engaged because I like the simplicity and the universality of the clear stone, not because it is the only way I will believe my betrothed loves me.

I think every bride needs to write the worlds "And why would I want to do that?" on her hand everyday for the engagement process in order to combat the litany of "suggestions" for ring upgrades.
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Post by: DianeRN on March 04, 2010, 08:04:54 PM
My ring has one center stone that is about 1/5 carat and four tiny channel set stones on each side. The wedding band is matching channel set. Three things make it perfect: 1. He picked it out knowing my taste; 2. it was a total surprise; 3. he paid CASH without having to save for months and months. 
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Post by: Amava on March 04, 2010, 08:12:33 PM
Ooooh.... that sort of attitude makes my blood boil!
Mine too. I don't understand it at all. I'm not into jewelry so why on earth should I spend money on it or make someone else spend money on it?

Correction: I'm not into *wearing* or *possessing* jewelry. I like looking at jewelry and I will give other's people jewelry sufficient enthusiastic attention when they ask for it. I will give it attention for its beauty - but don't start talking to me about the price cause I'll beandip. TMI for me, I don't want to know the worth of what other people wear, or how they spend their money!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 05, 2010, 10:31:10 PM
I like jewelry myself, but mostly things that I just find are really pretty and/or have some sort of meaning for me even if its because it's from someone special to me.

The garnet and marcasite ring? Just because a friend gave it to me, really.  I also have a silver jade ring she once got for me on eBay, too, and the opal and diamond ring.   

Then there's the blue goldstone ring I recently got myself on eBay, and I love the way blue goldstone looks like the night sky. 

And I tend to make my own jewelry too, mostly necklaces and bracelets, though since I've found a really neat bead store nearby that has regular classes, I'm thinking of taking one or two to learn how to make more things.

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Post by: Martienne on March 05, 2010, 11:34:45 PM
I was once told that my ring was a piece of junk and that I should have thrown it in my husband's face. Well, it is a Sears jewelry counter special (cost less than $100) but 1.) I picked it out and 2.) if my husband had spent any more for a ring I would have rethought our entire compatibility. I'm a very practical person and I didn't care how much it cost as long as it looked pleasant and was completely unostentatious (which is apparently not a word).  I don't like to stick out. I know that's hard for some people to understand. If my husband would have decided to spend significantly more than what I instructed him I would have been pretty upset.

The thing is that the person who told me this was a man who was attempting to flirt with me. I got away from him about as fast as possible. I'm sure his underlying scheme was to convince me that I deserved better, and and by the way he is better. No thank you. I onder if anyone actually falls for that kind of thing?  ::)
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Post by: DragonKitty on March 06, 2010, 12:45:58 AM
Heh, *I'm* the one who bought our wedding rings.  I am pretty much allergic to most metals except for sterling silver.  So of course the rings would be sterling siver.  Then a friend of mine who has a small side business with jewelry had a catalog she let me look through, and I found some nice celtic knotwork rings that came in men's and women's sizes.

And I spent a whole $35 for each ring.   ;D ;D

Funny story with that, I figured on getting 2 of each, so that when DH and I lost weight, we could have them cut down.  Well, at a rpg gaming session, his ring somehow breaks at the weld, and his friends are joking that he has freedom for a little while, and I say "Don't worry honey, I have the other ring at home"  and the guys are all saying "She bought a duplicate ring?!?!? You're doomed!!!"    ;D ;D

Oh, and no engagement ring, and no diamond.  If i had to have a stone, it would probably be a moonstone, like a ring I wear on another finger.
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Post by: Orisha on March 07, 2010, 08:20:01 PM
Unfortunately, it's not just stones that people feel the need to comment on.  My engagement and wedding rings are yellow gold.  I can't tell you how many people have tried to tell me that it's "tacky" that I didn't go platinum.  I happen to like yellow gold, first of all.  Second of all, my DH couldn't afford platinum.  I wasn't about to ask him to go bankrupt and honestly, it could have been a ring out of a Cracker Jack box and I would have been happy with it - for me, it's the sentiment behind it.
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Post by: kitty_ev on March 08, 2010, 08:25:20 AM
Unfortunately, it's not just stones that people feel the need to comment on.  My engagement and wedding rings are yellow gold.  I can't tell you how many people have tried to tell me that it's "tacky" that I didn't go platinum.  I happen to like yellow gold, first of all.  Second of all, my DH couldn't afford platinum.  I wasn't about to ask him to go bankrupt and honestly, it could have been a ring out of a Cracker Jack box and I would have been happy with it - for me, it's the sentiment behind it.

Good grief, gold's supposed to be the 'eternal metal'! There's supposed to be all this symbolism about yellow gold and surviving into eternity. It's also traditionally the only yellow metal in use, so was a sign of status. Platinum is pretty, but it's another silver metal like so many others (not that any silvery metal isn't pretty, don't get me wrong- I love silver metals!). The people telling you yellow gold is 'tacky' are seriously strange.
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Post by: RubyDoomsday on March 09, 2010, 11:21:38 AM
The whole yellow gold thing is silly. I think it depends upon the woman's colouring and what looks best on her. On me, yellow gold looks cheap because I am very pale with a rose tint to me, silvers even look a little odd. Actually dark gunmetals look the best because I am so pale. However, several of my friends have darker skin and silver rings don't look nearly as nice as gold rings do against their skintones.

I blame SATC for prepetuating the myth of the "tacky gold ring." Also for putting the idea out there that it is ever okay to call the symbol of someone's love and dedication "tacky" in the first place.

(SPOILERS: for those unfamilar, in "Sex and the City" one of the characters sees a ring their boyfriend is planning to propose to them with. The ring is a pear shaped diamond with a gold ban and all the other girls go "Ewwww" in disgust when she tells them about it later....the ring is later switched for a 70K 5 carat Harry Winston ring.)
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Post by: PaddedPaws on March 10, 2010, 03:39:16 PM
If I ever get engaged, I would have a very difficult time with anybody insulting my fiance's gifts to me. Personally, I would actually prefer not to have an engagement ring. But if I change my mind, or somehow end up getting one, I would be incensed at anybody disparaging a gift of betrothal from my intendended spouse. I'm glad I have ehell to prepare me to react in a civilized manner to such a situation. I'm glad you were able to keep your cool, Piratelvr1121.
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Post by: kitty_ev on March 10, 2010, 04:07:46 PM
I think engagement rings are a perfect example of beauty being in the eye of the recipient. If the recipient is happy with his/her ring, then that's all that matters. I don't think anyone else has the right to insult their ring whether their opinion on the ring is solicited or not. Engagement rings are one of those occasions where a polite "Oh my goodness, that is beautiful!" is always warranted. Even if a ring isn't to your taste, there's always something about it that is beautiful and it's absolutely inexcusable to insult someone's engagement ring.
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Post by: RubyDoomsday on March 10, 2010, 04:46:43 PM
I think engagement rings are a perfect example of beauty being in the eye of the recipient. If the recipient is happy with his/her ring, then that's all that matters. I don't think anyone else has the right to insult their ring whether their opinion on the ring is solicited or not. Engagement rings are one of those occasions where a polite "Oh my goodness, that is beautiful!" is always warranted. Even if a ring isn't to your taste, there's always something about it that is beautiful and it's absolutely inexcusable to insult someone's engagement ring.

Agreed, I think this is like people who complain about the bride's choice in dress after the wedding. Unless you know for a fact that the bride hated her gown it is NEVER okay to say it didn't look good...and even then, you are not given the job to make her feel worse by saying "Yes, friend, that gown really did look that craptastic."

Engagement rings, babies and brides = beautiful
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Post by: FunkyMunky on March 12, 2010, 05:32:08 AM
(SPOILERS: for those unfamilar, in "Sex and the City" one of the characters sees a ring their boyfriend is planning to propose to them with. The ring is a pear shaped diamond with a gold ban and all the other girls go "Ewwww" in disgust when she tells them about it later....the ring is later switched for a 70K 5 carat Harry Winston ring.)

I have a pear-shaped diamond (white gold band). Well, sort of. It's not actually a diamond. It's a very very clever lab-created fake. However, to the human eye, it's indistinguishable. DF plans to 'upgrade' it later to a platinum band and Argyle diamond. I frankly would be happy to keep my shiny ring as is, but he's insisting. :sigh: However, I have noticed that my friend, who has a lovely pink sapphire, has got some  negative comments, whereas no-one says anything about something that LOOKS like a diamond. It's weird.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 13, 2010, 03:57:45 PM
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I'm glad you were able to keep your cool, Piratelvr1121.

Actually it was all I could do to avoid laughing at her!!  LOL!!  I tend to have strange reactions to things, sometimes.   While we were saying our vows at the wedding, while some brides might cry with happiness, I was giggling!

I guess I'm just easily amused, and instead of being insulted or mad, I was quite amused at coworkers shallow attitude!   The only thing, if anything at all, I would like if Dh offered to upgrade the ring is to get the same style with a bit of Connemara marble in the heart. 
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Post by: Mopsy428 on March 14, 2010, 02:51:14 PM
What is it with people and the emphasis on the stone? My cousin had this attitude that if her bf (now husband) really wanted her, he would get her at least a 2 carat diamond ring.  ::)

I like diamonds. It's my birthstone. I love the color blue, though, so I'm a big fan of blue diamonds. I've seen the Hope Diamond, and I have to confess that I wished it was mine!  :P

If my BF proposes, I don't think I'd care which stone he'd propose with!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 14, 2010, 08:08:42 PM
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I like diamonds. It's my birthstone. I love the color blue, though, so I'm a big fan of blue diamonds. I've seen the Hope Diamond, and I have to confess that I wished it was mine! 


My engagement ring is a heart-shaped sapphire with diamond chips around the edges so it does somewhat resemble the Hope Diamond.  AKA the "Heart of the Ocean" in Titanic.   I was a bit obsessed with the movie around the time DH proposed. :D :D

Our 10th anniversary's coming up this coming Saturday. :) :)
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Post by: RubyDoomsday on March 18, 2010, 12:39:53 PM
(SPOILERS: for those unfamilar, in "Sex and the City" one of the characters sees a ring their boyfriend is planning to propose to them with. The ring is a pear shaped diamond with a gold ban and all the other girls go "Ewwww" in disgust when she tells them about it later....the ring is later switched for a 70K 5 carat Harry Winston ring.)

I have a pear-shaped diamond (white gold band). Well, sort of. It's not actually a diamond. It's a very very clever lab-created fake. However, to the human eye, it's indistinguishable. DF plans to 'upgrade' it later to a platinum band and Argyle diamond. I frankly would be happy to keep my shiny ring as is, but he's insisting. :sigh: However, I have noticed that my friend, who has a lovely pink sapphire, has got some  negative comments, whereas no-one says anything about something that LOOKS like a diamond. It's weird.

My mother also has a pear shaped diamond with a gold band, so that is why I always remember the episode so well. I personally, do not like the style, but my mother LOVES her ring. My dad tried to upgrade it, and she refused.
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Post by: FunkyMunky on March 19, 2010, 07:02:09 AM
I personally, do not like the style, but my mother LOVES her ring.

I think this is the main thing that matters with rings, but really for most anything - if the owner or recipient loves it, that's all that matters. And if you don't like it, there's no need to rain on their parade. I personally think my sister's wedding set is gaudy, but I would never say that to her.
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Post by: M-theory on March 20, 2010, 12:21:01 PM
However, I have noticed that my friend, who has a lovely pink sapphire, has got some  negative comments, whereas no-one says anything about something that LOOKS like a diamond. It's weird.

How do they know it's not a pink diamond?

I have a taste for (that is to say, I like the look of) pink diamonds, but I told my boyfriend that I've seen that they go for an arm and a leg and I'll be just as happy with a pink sapphire.
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Post by: Carnation on March 20, 2010, 10:28:04 PM
I would tell her I consider diamonds sinful.   Not that I do, of course, but it shuts people up.
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Post by: JacklynHyde on March 21, 2010, 07:12:52 PM
Wow.  My engagement ring is an opal (his birthstone) with a garnet chip (my birthstone) on either side.  I love that it's so unusual and that my husband didn't spend a ton of cash on it.  Our wedding bands are also practical (he wears tungsten and I wear titanium) because our jobs require our jewelry be durable.  If anything, the men with whom I work seem to admire my happiness with what my husband and I could afford without going into debt.
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Post by: Esther_bunny on March 21, 2010, 10:21:11 PM
Diamonds are pretty. Rubies are pretty. Most gems are pretty.
I don't like to wear them. When BF & I get married we want to get titanium rings (I really want a black one). I have told my mom this several times and each time she says, "Well you can get a diamond ring later."
I have to keep telling her that those aren't my style.

I *might* wear a sapphire ring (birthstone) but if I wear jewelry it is either very simple or funky. I'm not a diamond type of girl and never will be.
Some people just don't get it.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 22, 2010, 10:16:32 AM
Well I did get an update to my ring as an anniversary present! :D  Well I haven't gotten it yet, but DH ordered it for me on St. Patrick's Day (the day I wish we could have gotten married on -the 20th is our anniversary)

Not a diamond on it and still a claddagh! The stone in the heart is Connemara marble, mined in the region of Ireland by the same name.  The gemstone is a peridot.    I can't wait for it to get here! :D :D

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/view.2/app.detail/params.aol_refer.false.tpl.detail.msn_refer.false.item.J147422.ref.GBA?cm_ven=GOOGLEBASE&cm_cat=Jewelry&cm_pla=Rings&cm_ite=J147422
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Post by: Spring Water on Sundays on March 22, 2010, 10:53:33 AM
That is beautiful!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 22, 2010, 11:25:47 AM
Thanks!!  I think it is too!  And supposedly Connemara marble is said to bring one luck, so that's always good for a wedding ring!  :D :D 

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Post by: kitty_ev on March 23, 2010, 04:43:31 AM
Oooooh! That's so pretty!
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Post by: Missy2U on March 23, 2010, 09:07:13 AM
Thanks!!  I think it is too!  And supposedly Connemara marble is said to bring one luck, so that's always good for a wedding ring!  :D :D 



It truly is beautiful! :D

As for wedding rings, my husband and I originally bought medieval poison rings for our wedding rings - but he bowed to pressure from our friends and family and we ended up with way more traditional rings.  The poison rings are, however, on display in our shadowbox in our coffee table (long story) and he still refers to them as our "real" wedding rings.  The goof.   ;D
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 23, 2010, 05:21:50 PM
Thanks!  It just arrived in the mail yesterday and it's so pretty! :) 
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Post by: claddagh lass on March 29, 2010, 03:59:46 PM
My Mom gets that.

The only reason my Mom's ring has a diamond is because it was on sale.

People have commented to her, "Why don't you have him [Dad] trade that diamond in for a bigger one?"

Mom would respond, "I like this ring."  One afternoon after having a particularly fustrating day someone made the remark causing Mom to snap and shout, "If you want me to have a bigger diamond ring then you pay for it!"

She never has been bothered again.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on March 31, 2010, 04:44:10 PM
That's a great reply!!!  LOL!!!   

And similar to what I say when people tell me I really ought to try for a girl since I have two boys.   I used to get this a lot when the boys were in daycare and because it was so expensive, if they really pushed the issue I'd jokingly ask "Will you pay for the daycare expenses?"  That usually got them to shush.

I get that people like all sorts of stones for their rings and that's fine, but I dislike the insinuation from some people like the woman who said DH owed me a nicer ring that the size of the diamond is in direct correlation to how much the man loves you.    ::)
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Post by: Missy2U on April 01, 2010, 09:49:43 AM
I get that people like all sorts of stones for their rings and that's fine, but I dislike the insinuation from some people like the woman who said DH owed me a nicer ring that the size of the diamond is in direct correlation to how much the man loves you.    ::)

So basically, since my wedding set was $49.99 on sale (clearance!  WOOT!!) at Target, is she saying that I'm CHEAP?  Snerk...  ;)
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Post by: phoenix on April 12, 2010, 03:36:51 PM
I have a similar-but-different problem with my ring.  I actually have a diamond, as I tend to change my mind on colors too often and wanted a simple solitaire that sparkled.

Oddly, I get harassed about it constantly.  I work in marketing, and one of our clients is a jewelry store who specialized in colored gemstones.  Colored engagement rings are really big right now, so they do a lot of that.  I cannot tell you how many times they (and my boss, a fan of theirs) make fun of my ring.  Diamonds are passe, they say.  It's such a generic ring, they say.  A ring from Zales has no special meaning, they say.  You need a ring unique as your love, they say.  On and on and on. 

I now alternate between staring at them until they stop talking and saying cheerily "this ring symbolizes a sentiment from my husband, why would I change it for you?"
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on April 12, 2010, 04:23:07 PM
I get that people like all sorts of stones for their rings and that's fine, but I dislike the insinuation from some people like the woman who said DH owed me a nicer ring that the size of the diamond is in direct correlation to how much the man loves you.    ::)

So basically, since my wedding set was $49.99 on sale (clearance!  WOOT!!) at Target, is she saying that I'm CHEAP?  Snerk...  ;)

Heck my new Connemara claddagh was $43, a St. Patrick's Day special price on QVC so if you're cheap, so am I! :)
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Post by: MDefarge on April 12, 2010, 04:43:50 PM
I agree, it shouldn't matter to anyone but the ring wearer and the ring giver. 

My husband ended up getting a plain gold band after a few years. He held onto the claddagh but didn't wear it anymore because the point of the heart kept digging into his skin.  I didn't really mind, as he still wears a ring.   Someday I think it would be nice to get a band with the claddagh design engraved but it depends on how he feels.



I actually lost my claddagh ring - I kept on taking it off because the "crown" was getting stuck on things.  The BF replaced it with a ring that looks just like this  - http://www.claddaghring.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=Wedding-Rings-LS-WED15&Click=1399 (http://www.claddaghring.com/ProductDetails.asp?ProductCode=Wedding-Rings-LS-WED15&Click=1399)  I love it & don't have to worry about getting stuck!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on April 12, 2010, 04:52:57 PM
Oh that's pretty!!  I've been looking into getting something like that for DH.  When we first got married, we both had claddaghs but the point on the heart of his ring was a bit sharper than mine was, and it ended up forming a callous on his ring finger.   So he replaced it with a plain gold band and put the claddagh in my jewelry box. 

Well sometime last year, his claddagh went missing.   I have a feeling someone took it, though I don't know who exactly and can't really say for sure.  All I know is I didn't take it out and when we moved the dresser it was sitting on, the ring wasn't on the floor, either.   

I'd like for him to have a claddagh so I want to find something with the design engraved in a band so it won't catch or dig. 
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Post by: MDefarge on April 12, 2010, 04:57:15 PM
That same site has a very similar (if not the same) ring for men. Heh, I'm actually a little miffed - the ones they are selling are cheaper than what we paid for mine!  (I guess that tells you all you need to know about how I feel about really oversized engagement rings ;))
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Post by: kethria on April 14, 2010, 01:31:52 PM
We almost got these for our wedding bands...

http://www.pyramidcollection.com/itemdy00.asp?T1=P11924+5&ID=50,1974 (http://www.pyramidcollection.com/itemdy00.asp?T1=P11924+5&ID=50,1974)
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Post by: Shea on April 26, 2010, 03:41:22 PM
My boss has the prettiest wedding ring I've ever seen. It's a white gold band with little chips of diamonds, sapphires and emeralds embedded irregularly all around the band. It looks a lot like this, but with smaller stones and a little wider:
(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd161/DanaanMI/Capture-1.png)

So very, very pretty.
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Post by: kitty_ev on April 26, 2010, 03:43:30 PM
My boss has the prettiest wedding ring I've ever seen. It's a white gold band with little chips of diamonds, sapphires and emeralds embedded irregularly all around the band. It looks a lot like this, but with smaller stones and a little wider:
(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd161/DanaanMI/Capture-1.png)

So very, very pretty.

My engagement ring's a little like that, but it has a central diamond and the flanking stones are aquamarine nearest the centre, then blue topaz then sapphire. I loved the design- it reminds me of the night sky.
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Post by: Wonderflonium on May 03, 2010, 02:49:36 PM
Well I did get an update to my ring as an anniversary present! :D  Well I haven't gotten it yet, but DH ordered it for me on St. Patrick's Day (the day I wish we could have gotten married on -the 20th is our anniversary)

Not a diamond on it and still a claddagh! The stone in the heart is Connemara marble, mined in the region of Ireland by the same name.  The gemstone is a peridot.    I can't wait for it to get here! :D :D

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/view.2/app.detail/params.aol_refer.false.tpl.detail.msn_refer.false.item.J147422.ref.GBA?cm_ven=GOOGLEBASE&cm_cat=Jewelry&cm_pla=Rings&cm_ite=J147422

Pretty!!!!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on May 03, 2010, 03:59:08 PM
Well I did get an update to my ring as an anniversary present! :D  Well I haven't gotten it yet, but DH ordered it for me on St. Patrick's Day (the day I wish we could have gotten married on -the 20th is our anniversary)

Not a diamond on it and still a claddagh! The stone in the heart is Connemara marble, mined in the region of Ireland by the same name.  The gemstone is a peridot.    I can't wait for it to get here! :D :D

http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/view.2/app.detail/params.aol_refer.false.tpl.detail.msn_refer.false.item.J147422.ref.GBA?cm_ven=GOOGLEBASE&cm_cat=Jewelry&cm_pla=Rings&cm_ite=J147422

Pretty!!!!

Thanks!
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Post by: HeebyJeebyLeebee on May 03, 2010, 05:03:12 PM
My engagement ring was my grandma's.  My dad, her only child, bought it for her after he graduated from college and started his career.  It was a "Thank You" for all her love and support (and for putting him through college). 

I've had a few people comment that Sweet Pattootie should have bought me a new ring.  I did that the first time I got married.  I wanted to do something different.  Plus, I've always loved this ring.  The small Tiffany set round center diamond is encircled by lots of little bitty diamonds.  It always reminded me of a ballerina wearing a tutu.  So it was dubbed "The Ballerina Ring".   ;D  I inherited it shortly after my ExH and I separated.  When and I started talking about marriage, I knew I wanted to wear this ring.

It was never important to me that SP buy a ring.  I'd rather he use the money for something else - like food, or a down payment on a car.  And I love that this ring was originally bought with love, even it was a son's love for his mother.  Anything from Granny's marriage to my granfather would have been completely wrong to use.  My Granny R and my grandfather had a horrid marriage.  I have her wedding ring from the 1st time she married him - with the message to "Never make the same mistake twice."   8)  Sissy got the wedding ring with diamond in it from the second time she married my bacon-fed-knave grandfather.  Her message was "If you make the same mistake twice, at least get a diamond out of it."  Granny R had a really wicked sense of humor.
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Post by: phoenix on May 04, 2010, 09:29:34 AM
I actually have a Cannemara marble claddagh myself, bought it when I was there.  Wanted to take a piece of Ireland home, ya know?  Plus I had to replace the Claddagh that my ex-boyfriend had bought me...my new boyfriend (now husband) never complained, but if felt like time.
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Post by: NotCinderell on May 13, 2010, 07:09:21 AM
I like diamonds. It's my birthstone. I love the color blue, though, so I'm a big fan of blue diamonds. I've seen the Hope Diamond, and I have to confess that I wished it was mine!  :P

I felt the same way looking at Kandinsky's "Riding Couple" in the Lenbachhaus.  I wished I could hang it over my bed.
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Post by: Emmi on May 14, 2010, 04:37:33 PM
My high school ring is a beautiful pearl ring.  My parents told me that while they both got class rings they don't wear them anymore because it would be weird to wear it after being out of high school for so long.  So I though that instead of getting a traditional ring with the school's name on it and a stone to match the school colors I would buy a ring that I liked. 

People kept telling me I should just get the traditional ring, because no one will know it is a class ring. 

I like my ring, I know it is my class ring and while it doesn't look a class ring, the symbolism is still there.  My parents also loved the idea because my ring was cheaper and I will wear it for much longer.
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Post by: Sophia on May 14, 2010, 04:44:25 PM
I was just thinking the other day that I regret buying my High School ring.  I only wore it for a couple of years.  ... If only it was socially acceptable to still wear my letter jacket.  I loved that thing. 
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Post by: Odyssey on May 18, 2010, 12:22:36 AM
My big sis had her class ring lost in the mail (the company did not resend, refund, or even apologize!), so we never bought mine or my little bro's. I do have a pendant from middle school, but it stays in the jewelery box.

I still don't understand the people who think you have to pay x amount for a ring. I've fallen in love with two wonderful sapphire rings that are both less than $900. I was raving about the more expensive of the two to my step-grandmother and she said I deserved better, I almost cried right there. It was at that point I decided not to tell her I would prefer the ring in steel like our promise rings. That little $8 piece of metal actually saved my intended from losing a finger once. I wish I had the courage to say something to her about it. Value should be determined more by the emotion behind it, if he wants to prove his monetary worth than he can start a college fund for the kids so they won't start out in debt like we will.
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Post by: missmolly on May 18, 2010, 01:07:36 AM
I was having a conversation about this kind of thing with one of my friends, when her mother, famed for her wicked sense of humour, told us about her own engagement ring story. Her first husband bought her a ring with a small ruby solitaire, (her birthstone), which suited her well. One day she started getting the "he should have got you a diamond" spiel from one of her coworkers. She replied that she could never have a diamond after what happened to her grandmother, and then on the spot made up a story about a cursed diamond ring. She claims the coworker believed her until she interjected pirates into the story.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on May 18, 2010, 07:52:09 AM
I was having a conversation about this kind of thing with one of my friends, when her mother, famed for her wicked sense of humour, told us about her own engagement ring story. Her first husband bought her a ring with a small ruby solitaire, (her birthstone), which suited her well. One day she started getting the "he should have got you a diamond" spiel from one of her coworkers. She replied that she could never have a diamond after what happened to her grandmother, and then on the spot made up a story about a cursed diamond ring. She claims the coworker believed her until she interjected pirates into the story.

I love that!!   That's a great idea too!   Come to think of it there is the Hope Diamond, that is said to be cursed...
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Post by: Elfmama on August 07, 2010, 03:08:18 AM
We got it from the other side of the equation.  DH and I picked out our wedding rings together, and decided at the time that we liked the look of white gold.  When he showed them to his parents, his mother insisted that they were "too fancy" and we should just wear plain yellow gold bands.  The "fancy" set should live in the jewelry box and only be worn for formal occasions. ::)  Which would have been two or three times in the first 20 years we were married, counting the wedding itself.

The thing is, they're not fancy or gaudy.  You'd have thought my engagement ring had a 15-carat diamond surrounded by sapphires or something, instead of  a 26pt. diamond, just over a quarter-carat. There is a simple geometric  design engraved into them; my engagement ring only has half the pattern, as does the wedding ring.  The two put together duplicate  DH's ring, except  his does not have the diamond.

MIL got told "No.  We picked these out, and we're going to wear them."  And we have.
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Post by: LadyR on August 13, 2010, 01:46:14 AM
I get that all the time. I have an amethyst e-ring and matching w-ring. I don't like diamonds, never have and amethysts have special meaning for me as they are my DH's birthstone, my father's birthstone and my grandfather's birthstone. All the important men in my life were born in February. But people constantly tell me I "need" a diamond, to which I always say "why?"
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Post by: RingTailedLemur on August 26, 2010, 07:04:04 AM
I get that all the time. I have an amethyst e-ring and matching w-ring. I don't like diamonds, never have and amethysts have special meaning for me as they are my DH's birthstone, my father's birthstone and my grandfather's birthstone. All the important men in my life were born in February. But people constantly tell me I "need" a diamond, to which I always say "why?"

Yes, in the same way I "needed" to marry in a church (I told the girl we weren't Christians, she told me it didn't matter) and "needed" to wear a big white dress (because with my colouring, I'd look like a zombie - Corpse Bride, anyone?),

My boss has the prettiest wedding ring I've ever seen. It's a white gold band with little chips of diamonds, sapphires and emeralds embedded irregularly all around the band. It looks a lot like this, but with smaller stones and a little wider:
(http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd161/DanaanMI/Capture-1.png)

So very, very pretty.

That's stunningly beautiful!
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Post by: Moralia on September 29, 2010, 08:35:28 PM
It's kind of funny, my engagement ring is a lovely oval-cut aquamarine in a super-simple setting. It sparkles in the sun like a drop of water and everyone assumes that it's a blue diamond because of the finger it's on!   ;D

I don't correct them since I don't want to cause any embarrassment. >:D

If someone likes diamonds, that's just fine.
But I've never understood the NEED for a specific stone/metal in rings.
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Post by: Amalthea on September 30, 2010, 05:06:34 PM
But I've never understood the NEED for a specific stone/metal in rings.

To be fair, some people do need specific metals due to allergy reasons.  I had to stop wearing my gold jewelry recently because my reaction to it got bad enough to really bother me, so I know I won't be able to wear a gold wedding or engagement ring.  Which is totally unfair because that white gold ring with all the little stones that was posted a while back is amazingly pretty. :P
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Post by: GoldenGemini on September 30, 2010, 08:21:28 PM
But I've never understood the NEED for a specific stone/metal in rings.

To be fair, some people do need specific metals due to allergy reasons.  I had to stop wearing my gold jewelry recently because my reaction to it got bad enough to really bother me, so I know I won't be able to wear a gold wedding or engagement ring.  Which is totally unfair because that white gold ring with all the little stones that was posted a while back is amazingly pretty. :P

Me too!  It's looking like platinum is the only type that will work for me atm, but I am still open to other rings.  The specific stone I don't need, but pretty and sparkly is always good, no matter what the colour!

And Mrelia, the description of your ring is gorgeous.  :)
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Post by: JacklynHyde on September 30, 2010, 08:28:38 PM
May I also suggest titanium as a wedding band material?  It's solid as all heck, hypoallergenic and can be made into lovely designs.  Mine has two interwoven strands that form a band of infinity signs.
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Post by: Dazi on October 01, 2010, 02:34:31 AM
But I've never understood the NEED for a specific stone/metal in rings.

To be fair, some people do need specific metals due to allergy reasons.  I had to stop wearing my gold jewelry recently because my reaction to it got bad enough to really bother me, so I know I won't be able to wear a gold wedding or engagement ring.  Which is totally unfair because that white gold ring with all the little stones that was posted a while back is amazingly pretty. :P
Also, you can have old rings electroplated with Rhodium (it is a metal in the platinum family).  I did that to a few rings and other jewelry that were gold because I break out from it.  I do have to have it done every few years for pieces I wear a lot.  http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/rhodiumplating_skvm.htm
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Post by: HeebyJeebyLeebee on October 01, 2010, 08:24:03 AM
But I've never understood the NEED for a specific stone/metal in rings.

To be fair, some people do need specific metals due to allergy reasons.  I had to stop wearing my gold jewelry recently because my reaction to it got bad enough to really bother me, so I know I won't be able to wear a gold wedding or engagement ring.  Which is totally unfair because that white gold ring with all the little stones that was posted a while back is amazingly pretty. :P
Also, you can have old rings electroplated with Rhodium (it is a metal in the platinum family).  I did that to a few rings and other jewelry that were gold because I break out from it.  I do have to have it done every few years for pieces I wear a lot.  http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/rhodiumplating_skvm.htm

My wedding set from my ExH was white gold with rhodium plating.  The plating keeps is very shiny and more scratch resistant too.  I wore the engagement ring from the set for about 3 years before I had them replated.
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Post by: Cz. Burrito on October 01, 2010, 09:58:36 AM
Me too!  It's looking like platinum is the only type that will work for me atm, but I am still open to other rings.  The specific stone I don't need, but pretty and sparkly is always good, no matter what the colour!

And Mrelia, the description of your ring is gorgeous.  :)

Titanium should work for you as well.  It's pretty bio-compatible, though not as readily available as platinum.

I was so sad to find out that tungsten-carbide usually contains nickel.  I love the look of those rings, but they would likely make me itchy. 
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Post by: Kaymyth on October 01, 2010, 11:18:07 PM
Me too!  It's looking like platinum is the only type that will work for me atm, but I am still open to other rings.  The specific stone I don't need, but pretty and sparkly is always good, no matter what the colour!

And Mrelia, the description of your ring is gorgeous.  :)

Titanium should work for you as well.  It's pretty bio-compatible, though not as readily available as platinum.

I was so sad to find out that tungsten-carbide usually contains nickel.  I love the look of those rings, but they would likely make me itchy. 

A less expensive alternative to platinum is palladium.  Not all jewelers are set up to work with it, though, as it has a reeeeeally high melting point.  It's only been in the last few years that the techniques for casting it have been developed, but if you can find a jeweler who carries it, it's got all the qualities of platinum (including being hypoallergenic) at a fraction of the price.

My own ring is a white gold/palladium alloy.  It's one of the few golds you can get with no nickel at all, you just have to ask for it.  I love my ring; it's a dusky silvery color that doesn't need rhodium plating to hold its color.
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Post by: Delta on October 05, 2010, 01:29:53 AM
I love the rings that have been pictured here!! My BF and I have discussed the kind of rings we want to get when we eventually marry (no rush, going to wait until I finish college) and both of us like simple understated rings, without any stones that "stick out", and have decided we'll get these with a blue sapphire instead of a diamond. I absolutely love them.

(http://www.seawear.com/images/rings/wave-ring~104d.jpg)
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Post by: Seraphia on October 23, 2010, 10:48:38 PM
I'm going to say up front that I had no say in my e-ring. DH bought it as a surprise from a cousin of his who, as he put it: "has a bad habit of buying jewelry a little too early." That said, I love my little diamond ring. It looks a lot like my Mom's, and it's from DH, so I love it.

Anyone who gave me grief for wearing it, for whatever reason, is not going to be taken seriously. Who cares if somebody thinks I need a 2c compass setting in platinum, or a sunstone ringed with angel tears set in mithril?

Unless he or she's buying, in which case, my right ring finger's a 7 and a half. :D
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Post by: Snooks on October 24, 2010, 01:34:23 PM
I had it in a shop when we were looking for rings.  My engagement ring is set low so getting a flat band seemed my only option.  One ring shop recommended a horseshoe ring (with a bit cut out - think that's the name for it!), I told the guy I didn't like those as I thought it would remove the option of wearing just my wedding band his reply was "Well everyone else likes them", needless to say we didn't buy the bands from that shop!
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Post by: Delta on December 08, 2010, 11:36:02 AM
I love the rings that have been pictured here!! My BF and I have discussed the kind of rings we want to get when we eventually marry (no rush, going to wait until I finish college) and both of us like simple understated rings, without any stones that "stick out", and have decided we'll get these with a blue sapphire instead of a diamond. I absolutely love them.

(http://www.seawear.com/images/rings/wave-ring~104d.jpg)

I haven't visited in a couple months, and just had to share - while I had *assumed* that I wasn't going to get an engagement ring (I had told him it wasn't important) HE had other plans...

He proposed 10/10/10. Here's the ring. I was (and still am!) blown away. Until I had it on my finger, I never dreamed that I'd ever WANT an engagement ring!!!

(http://www3.telus.net/agstone/sapphirering.jpg)
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Post by: Jan74 on December 08, 2010, 11:43:45 AM
That is a gorgeous ring.
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Post by: HeebyJeebyLeebee on December 08, 2010, 11:50:03 AM
Stunning!  I'm glad you love it!
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Post by: nonesuch4 on December 11, 2010, 08:31:14 AM
That is one gorgeous ring!!! If I didn't work with my hands, and didn't have short stubby fingers, and I liked to wear rings, that's one I'd like to have!

One year a friend noticed the lack of jewelry in my wardrobe, and smiled slyly at me when she said she and her husband tried to convince DH to "get something for my jewelry box."  I'm glad he knew me better, because it would have stayed in the box forever.  A cordless drill would be the way to my heart.

I find gemstones,  precious and semi-precious, beautiful and absolutely fascinating - on someone else.
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Post by: channa17 on February 11, 2011, 06:58:32 AM
I didn't get any flak, surprisingly, for our choice of engagement ring (I picked it out and now-husband agreed it was perfect for me...and affordable despite being 24K gold). Maybe that's because we live in Asia, where the "YOU MUST HAVE A DIAMOND ZOMGGG" isn't quite so strangulating. By the time we visited home, everyone who I'd show it to knew that it wasn't a diamond.

Oh, yeah, and it was super cool with a dragon. A DRAGON. C'mon, a dragon beats a diamond anyday, and few others can say that their engagement ring has an awesomepants dragon on it.

(http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5059/5435605513_9008075df3.jpg) (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605513/)
AWESOME DRAGON RING (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605513/) by jenna masala (http://www.flickr.com/people/53660106@N02/), on Flickr

Our wedding rings are also Asian 24K gold, but we plan to eventually by long-term wear tungsten rings.

(http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4116/5435605799_91e8f08186.jpg) (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605799/)
photo by Keira Lemonis (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605799/) by jenna masala (http://www.flickr.com/people/53660106@N02/), on Flickr
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Post by: LilyRose on February 11, 2011, 06:00:30 PM
I didn't get any flak, surprisingly, for our choice of engagement ring (I picked it out and now-husband agreed it was perfect for me...and affordable despite being 24K gold). Maybe that's because we live in Asia, where the "YOU MUST HAVE A DIAMOND ZOMGGG" isn't quite so strangulating. By the time we visited home, everyone who I'd show it to knew that it wasn't a diamond.

Oh, yeah, and it was super cool with a dragon. A DRAGON. C'mon, a dragon beats a diamond anyday, and few others can say that their engagement ring has an awesomepants dragon on it.

(http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5059/5435605513_9008075df3.jpg) (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605513/)
AWESOME DRAGON RING (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605513/) by jenna masala (http://www.flickr.com/people/53660106@N02/), on Flickr

Our wedding rings are also Asian 24K gold, but we plan to eventually by long-term wear tungsten rings.

(http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4116/5435605799_91e8f08186.jpg) (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605799/)
photo by Keira Lemonis (http://www.flickr.com/photos/53660106@N02/5435605799/) by jenna masala (http://www.flickr.com/people/53660106@N02/), on Flickr

I just want to say that I think the dragon engagement ring is BEYOND AWESOME.

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Post by: BB-VA on February 21, 2011, 02:07:06 PM
My MIL didn't get an engagement ring - she got an engagement watch.  Watches were OK jewelry in their church community, plus she married just after WWII, so money was still pretty tight for non-useful stuff.

I don't have an engagement ring, and never wanted one.  My wedding band is plain yellow gold with a beaded edge, and cost $22.00 in 1973.  My husband doesn't have a ring - he says jewelry is a waste of good engineering material.

That said, I do like nice jewelry but I'd rather look at it than wear it.  I do love looking at shiny rocks!!!
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Post by: General Jinjur on May 15, 2011, 03:01:45 PM
I have a tungsten ring, which I love - it's actually a man's ring, all the women's rings looked so odd on my sausages. It doesn't fit right now since I'm still shedding baby weight (that's the one downside - they cannot be sized) so I've been ringless for quite a while. I'm kind of getting to like it. It's comfortable and that's one less thing to lose.
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Post by: Setsu on July 06, 2011, 07:15:39 PM
My wedding ring looks like this (http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41%2B86q480RL._SY150_.jpg)
It's titanium with woven carbon fiber. I love it. My engagement ring was silver and abalone shell, but I dropped it and it broke. Constantly I was told I needed a "real" engagement ring, which was usually responded to with either why would you think that, or a silent stare
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Post by: Nora on August 16, 2011, 11:17:32 AM
Dragons do beat diamonds any day.
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Post by: jackmanifesto on August 21, 2011, 07:28:49 PM
:) I wasn't able to read through the entire thread, so I'm not sure if it was mentioned...but a Jewish tradition (Still practiced mainly by the very conservative and orthodox subsets) is to not have a ring at all before the couple is actually married, and an engagement jewelry piece is chosen instead! This can be anything, really, as it is simply a token to represent the impending marriage! Most couples choose to have a necklace or bracelet, and these pieces can cost as much or more than a ring! (Just to add to the background; After the wedding, most couples DO get a sparkly/meaningful ring to go with their plain wedding bands if the bride wants one. For some couples, the engagement token is something relatively cheap and most of the money goes towards a ring, but for others a ring is never bought and the token is worn very prominently every day!)

I'm much more religious/traditional than my family members are, and most of my friends etc. follow this tradition as I also intend to do- without fail, every time I've told my mother or nonJewish/nonobservant friends that XYZfriend got such a beautiful necklace/watch/bracelet/whatever for their engagement I always get a very snarky response! It doesn't matter that the couple is very happy with their choice, or that it is their tradition, or that the token can be more expensive/impressive than the ring they THINK the couple should have...the point is that it isn't a diamond ring on her finger, and for some reason that means that the couple isn't actually engaged or the groom to be is a cheapo! But of course, after the wedding when the ring is on the new bride's finger, clearly the groom had some sort of light bulb go off that he shouldn't be an awful person. (Of course, this after the tradition is explained for the 3294328459348323011 time. :-\ )

Somehow, I imagine I'll be having a very tough time with my family when the time comes for ME to be engaged!  :P
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Post by: glacio on August 22, 2011, 05:09:55 AM
I will probably end up with a very traditional looking ring because of my school ring. It is very traditional looking (and is worn by everyone who graduates from my university; I will never go to a business meeting without it) and so any of the more unusual rings just do not look right with it. That said it will not be a real diamond gosh darn it. I refuse to add to the De Beers conspiracy! I have actually written economic papers on the diamond industry, and I am far too analytical to not think about that every time I see a diamond. And I'd be scared stiff carrying around that much wealth.

I am surprised, however by some of my friends. Some of these guys are buying 8,000 to 15,000 dollar rings, while they're still in school! I choked on my drink when my friend told me. My etiquette training did not kick in fast enough for me to not show my shock, I'm afraid.
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Post by: Mental Magpie on August 22, 2011, 11:48:31 AM
I will probably end up with a very traditional looking ring because of my school ring. It is very traditional looking (and is worn by everyone who graduates from my university; I will never go to a business meeting without it) and so any of the more unusual rings just do not look right with it. That said it will not be a real diamond gosh darn it. I refuse to add to the De Beers conspiracy! I have actually written economic papers on the diamond industry, and I am far too analytical to not think about that every time I see a diamond. And I'd be scared stiff carrying around that much wealth.

I am surprised, however by some of my friends. Some of these guys are buying 8,000 to 15,000 dollar rings, while they're still in school! I choked on my drink when my friend told me. My etiquette training did not kick in fast enough for me to not show my shock, I'm afraid.

The only way that my sister will ever wear a diamond is if it is an heirloom.  She also has written economic papers :) and thus regaled me with her stories of why only an heirloom do.

I told Dark Boyfriend to get me a colored gem (I hinted at emerald by conspicuously and exaggeratedly winking while I reminded him my favorite color is green), and if no gem, the metal better be a silver color.  Other than that, I don't care; I don't wear yellow gold at all and diamonds just aren't my thing.
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Post by: Wonderflonium on August 22, 2011, 12:58:14 PM
I love emeralds, but I wouldn't want one for an engagement ring because they are so soft and I'm hard on my hands (in other words, clumsy). I've cracked an emerald before.  :(
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Post by: Kittymama on August 24, 2011, 06:55:58 PM
I have a Canadian diamond. Have I been contributing to the De Beers conspiracy without knowing it? I thought my diamonds were "clean," so to speak.
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Post by: Tigger on August 24, 2011, 07:20:49 PM
I too have a Canadian diamond and I was under the impression they're conflict free.  Please correct me if I am wrong  :(
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Post by: Wonderflonium on August 24, 2011, 07:30:20 PM
The DeBeers conspiracy is a reference to the fact that they were the company that started the whole "2 months' salary" thing. They also helped jack up the price of diamonds overall. It's a completely separate issue from conflict diamonds.
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Post by: Tigger on August 24, 2011, 07:50:35 PM
Oh that conspiracy!!  We definately didn't fall for THAT one.  I have a wonderful ring that I picked out http://www.claddagh-house.com/index.php?page=shop.product_details&flypage=shop.flypage&product_id=155&category_id=20&option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=26 (http://www.claddagh-house.com/index.php?page=shop.product_details&flypage=shop.flypage&product_id=155&category_id=20&option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=26)
I sent the link to my DH and he loved the fact I took the stress out of shopping.  My ring is with a Canadian diamond and in 14K gold.

The extra money we saved on not spending two months salary went into our house  ;D
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Post by: glacio on August 25, 2011, 12:14:49 AM
Sorry, the "conspiracy" that I mentioned is the back holding of diamonds to run up the prices. Diamonds are not that uncommon and so the prices should actually be a lot lower. De Beers managed to greatly decrease the supply while running up the demand with their ads. Historically, when they had a lot of bigger diamonds, they would push the large engagement rings and a shipment of smaller diamonds meant a push for eternity rings.

It's an incredible business strategy and worked brilliantly. They even managed to get around the US's monopoly laws, although I can't recall how now (I think the executives weren't allowed to set foot in America for awhile).

As I said in my previous message, I am very analytical and so this is what a diamond means to me. It doesn't matter where they were mined or any of the other social "issues", diamonds have been demoted to a business case study for me.

I'm a dork. I know.
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Post by: Mental Magpie on August 25, 2011, 02:51:11 AM
I love emeralds, but I wouldn't want one for an engagement ring because they are so soft and I'm hard on my hands (in other words, clumsy). I've cracked an emerald before.  :(

I've never had one; and now that I think of it, as long as it's green, I don't care :)

You have made me think, though, because it's not that I'm all that clumsy with my hands (just the rest of my body), but I tend to do very rough things with my hands.
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Post by: artk2002 on October 05, 2011, 05:46:05 PM
I love emeralds, but I wouldn't want one for an engagement ring because they are so soft and I'm hard on my hands (in other words, clumsy). I've cracked an emerald before.  :(

I've never had one; and now that I think of it, as long as it's green, I don't care :)

You have made me think, though, because it's not that I'm all that clumsy with my hands (just the rest of my body), but I tend to do very rough things with my hands.

There are green diamonds:  (http://img.auctiva.com/imgdata/4/2/4/9/5/0/webimg/223393023_tp.jpg)
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Post by: Mental Magpie on October 05, 2011, 06:12:08 PM
I love emeralds, but I wouldn't want one for an engagement ring because they are so soft and I'm hard on my hands (in other words, clumsy). I've cracked an emerald before.  :(

I've never had one; and now that I think of it, as long as it's green, I don't care :)

You have made me think, though, because it's not that I'm all that clumsy with my hands (just the rest of my body), but I tend to do very rough things with my hands.

There are green diamonds:  (http://img.auctiva.com/imgdata/4/2/4/9/5/0/webimg/223393023_tp.jpg)

 ;D ;D ;D
I knew there were black ones and yellow ones and blue ones, but not green ones.  You just made my very happy!
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Post by: artk2002 on October 08, 2011, 08:40:56 PM
I knew there were black ones and yellow ones and blue ones, but not green ones.  You just made my very happy!

Glad I could help.  That one is Mrs.k2002's engagement/wedding ring.  She's pretty rough on her hands, so having the diamond helps.
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Post by: Valentines Mommy on October 08, 2011, 08:59:32 PM
Try tsavorite or chrome diopside for green too.
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Post by: Mental Magpie on October 08, 2011, 10:09:00 PM
The funny thing is, I know a lot about rocks, but just about nothing about gems.

I have a really pretty termaline necklace that I love, but it's not polished and thus not shiny.

Thanks for the tips artk2002 and Valentines Mommy!
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Post by: Deetee on October 09, 2011, 09:18:33 AM
I too have a Canadian diamond and I was under the impression they're conflict free.  Please correct me if I am wrong  :(

*Looks out front door*

Nope, no bloody civil war raging here.
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Post by: lkb on December 20, 2011, 08:05:49 AM
I'm not sure what the DeBoers controversy is (though I can guess), but if it has to do with the old saw that an engagement/wedding band must equal a certain percentage of the giver's salary, I say "hogwash." How on earth does that matter in any way?

I have a plain wedding band and a matching engagement ring with a simple diamond. Not a speck but not a huge honkin' rock either. It's like my mother's and it's all I've ever wanted. Just not into jewelry.
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Post by: Portugal79 on December 20, 2011, 08:30:58 PM
My cousin has an allergy to gold, so her engagement and wedding rings are silver. very nice, simple and elegant with no gem stones. the amount of people who think her husband is cheap for not splashing out on a rock the size of an eyeball

also when my sister was pregnant naturally her very slender finders swelled up, as she couldn't wear her wedding ring or any of her normal rings i told her she could help herself from my jewellery box (my fingers are fuller then hers) i thought she would pick my favourite ruby or sapphire ring. instead she choose a skill and cross bones ring that was a left over from my goth days. i think she loved for 6 months showing people new new wedding ring!
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on December 20, 2011, 09:50:41 PM
My cousin has an allergy to gold, so her engagement and wedding rings are silver. very nice, simple and elegant with no gem stones. the amount of people who think her husband is cheap for not splashing out on a rock the size of an eyeball

also when my sister was pregnant naturally her very slender finders swelled up, as she couldn't wear her wedding ring or any of her normal rings i told her she could help herself from my jewellery box (my fingers are fuller then hers) i thought she would pick my favourite ruby or sapphire ring. instead she choose a skill and cross bones ring that was a left over from my goth days. i think she loved for 6 months showing people new new wedding ring!

Heehee!! That rocks!  I have a skull and crossbones ring too, though I'm sure it's a lot cheaper than yours is, as I think I got it at Walmart for $10 tops.   
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Post by: Portugal79 on December 21, 2011, 02:08:45 PM
My cousin has an allergy to gold, so her engagement and wedding rings are silver. very nice, simple and elegant with no gem stones. the amount of people who think her husband is cheap for not splashing out on a rock the size of an eyeball

also when my sister was pregnant naturally her very slender finders swelled up, as she couldn't wear her wedding ring or any of her normal rings i told her she could help herself from my jewellery box (my fingers are fuller then hers) i thought she would pick my favourite ruby or sapphire ring. instead she choose a skill and cross bones ring that was a left over from my goth days. i think she loved for 6 months showing people new new wedding ring!

Heehee!! That rocks!  I have a skull and crossbones ring too, though I'm sure it's a lot cheaper than yours is, as I think I got it at Walmart for $10 tops.


acatually mine is about the same in the uk (about 7 english pounds), i was a goth for most of my teenage years. until i realised i didn't have to wear the "outfit" to enjoy (and i still do the music). i am still friends with people from the goth scene and they are still shocked when i go to the goth pub down the street, wearing casual clothes...but can still scream out Nine Inch Nails but regarding my sister as she fell pregenent so soon after her wedding and it was a overseas affair, most of my family hadn't seen the ring. So you can imagine at family gathering, my sister sith her expanding stomach showing off that ring. the best thing was , she never corrected them and naturally being polite they usually complimated her "unique choice"
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Post by: rashea on December 21, 2011, 02:11:31 PM
I love emeralds, but I wouldn't want one for an engagement ring because they are so soft and I'm hard on my hands (in other words, clumsy). I've cracked an emerald before.  :(

I've never had one; and now that I think of it, as long as it's green, I don't care :)

You have made me think, though, because it's not that I'm all that clumsy with my hands (just the rest of my body), but I tend to do very rough things with my hands.

There are green diamonds:

 ;D ;D ;D
I knew there were black ones and yellow ones and blue ones, but not green ones.  You just made my very happy!

Yup, it's a rarer color, which makes them a bit pricey, but they are out there. I'm wearing one now, it was my Grandmother's (Grandpa was a jeweler).
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Post by: Ms_Cellany on December 21, 2011, 02:47:47 PM
I'm always glad of an excuse to show off my ring (engagement ring when we were engaged, wedding ring now that we're married).

This is from the jeweler's site:

(http://www.jameshardwickjewelers.com/photogallery/photo00011265/jr174ruby.jpg)

Mine is made of white gold, with amethysts, lapis, opal and sugillate (like lapis, but purple)
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Post by: Portugal79 on December 22, 2011, 05:15:13 AM
I'm always glad of an excuse to show off my ring (engagement ring when we were engaged, wedding ring now that we're married).

This is from the jeweler's site:

(http://www.jameshardwickjewelers.com/photogallery/photo00011265/jr174ruby.jpg)

Mine is made of white gold, with amethysts, lapis, opal and sugillate (like lapis, but purple)


it's stunning. i've never seen a ring like that before.
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Post by: RingTailedLemur on December 22, 2011, 05:30:12 AM
That's an amazing ring Ms_Cellany!  I love it!
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Post by: Softly Spoken on January 05, 2012, 07:50:31 PM
Sorry OP had to deal with that boor of a coworker  :-\ but I also love this thread.   ;D

Creativity and individuality are very important to me and I appreciate it in others. I love personalized/specialty jewelry that has a story behind it. When I see a diamond engagement ring I don't think "oooh how many karats" I think "meh, how conventional."(not to dis those of you with traditional diamond rings, just not my thing!).

It's the thought behind the ring; the fact that it was given in the first place that's important IMHO.  ;)

FWIW, if I ever get married I don't even want an engagement ring. If my FH was looking to get something to propose to me with he would a) spend a reasonable amount of money bc I'd kick his hiney for blowing money on jewelry instead of a down payment on a house, b) know to get me a necklace bc I don't wear rings, and c) prepare an awesome proposal speech bc I'd value words I can hold in my heart forever over sparkly trinkets that I have to worry about losing down the bathroom drain.

Even though diamonds are my birthstone I wouldn't necessarily want one. I like amethyst bc purple is my favorite color, and I like blue/turquoise. There is a rainbow colored stone that I think is awesome but I can't remember what you call it.

Actually, I haven't gotten through the whole thread yet so I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this topic, but what about real diamonds vs. manufactured?  ??? I've heard that synthetically made diamonds can actually be just as good if not better looking then the real thing, and they come without the environmental/political/economical issues attached to real diamonds.

People stereotypically comment on the karat size, but has anyone ever gotten static for the presumed authenticity of their engagement rings?

So much fuss over a little compressed rock! Darn that Marilyn Monroe (sp?) and her catchy song!  ::)
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Post by: Amalthea on January 05, 2012, 10:49:11 PM
Actually, I haven't gotten through the whole thread yet so I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this topic, but what about real diamonds vs. manufactured?  ??? I've heard that synthetically made diamonds can actually be just as good if not better looking then the real thing, and they come without the environmental/political/economical issues attached to real diamonds.

I've actually been doing a lot of research about this recently.  Shiny things + science = fascinating for me.  For man made diamonds, the technique for making clear stones hasn't really been perfected yet, so they're still about the same price as mined diamonds.  They're usually smaller stones, and they're flawless since they're lab grown.  Most man made diamonds are colored, and they do look amazing.

There are also lab grown stones that look like diamonds, like cubic zirconium and moissanite, but are much less expensive.  Cubic zirconium has a bad reputation as cheap costume jewelry, but there are actually some companies that make beautiful, high quality stones.  Moissanite is my personal favorite.  It has a higher refractive index than diamonds, which means it makes more rainbows.
Title: Re: I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks!
Post by: Softly Spoken on January 06, 2012, 01:52:15 AM
Amalthea: "There are also lab grown stones that look like diamonds, like cubic zirconium and moissanite, but are much less expensive.  Cubic zirconium has a bad reputation as cheap costume jewelry, but there are actually some companies that make beautiful, high quality stones.  Moissanite is my personal favorite.  It has a higher refractive index than diamonds, which means it makes more rainbows."

Hee, you just made me flash back to when I got my ears pierced as a teenager: the studs were cubic zircon and I thought they looked awesome, mom had to break it to me that they weren't real diamonds but I didn't care.

Manufactured = same price as real thing? Awwwww.... :( Phooey. Well, I'm betting the DeBeers (sp?) ppl have a sniper on the payroll for when someone does figure out how to manufacture cheaper... >:D

I have always suspected that a lot of people (not counting jewelers with their little eyepiece thingys) couldn't tell good costume jewelry from the real thing if their life depended on it. I'd rather wear good fakes - waaaaaay less pressure, especially when walking over grates and storm drains.   :P

Here's something ironic: I've always thought that bigger stones, whether real or costume, look fake precisely because of their size - if the stone is too large it just looks guady and tacky to me. I also used to think (before I read up a little on gemstones), that 'real' jewelry sparkled and fake jewelry was duller. Obviously I know nothing about jewelry, but I love hearing other people talk about it. And looking at the pretty 'sparklies.'

Moissanite makes more rainbows? *squeal* I have a new favorite gemstone! ;D

*edited to fix an irritating little spelling error  :P
Title: Re: I like my wedding ring just fine, thanks!
Post by: Nora on January 06, 2012, 04:29:30 AM
(http://www.moissanitejewelry.com/images/jfire.jpg)

Do want moissanite ring!