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Title: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: sammycat on July 25, 2010, 01:24:55 AM
I've long since given up attending the movies on a regular basis, purely because of the unacceptable behaviour of some of the other patrons.  I was so 'shell shocked' after a visit on 3 January 2005 that it was 4 1/2 years till I returned.  Today though I gave in and took the boys and some of their friends to see "Karate Kid".

We were seated in the back row on the far side of the theatre.  However, we were still able to hear the ringing of a mobile phone of a couple on the opposite side of the room, not once, not twice, but three times!  Each time the girl answered it and had a conversation.  (This was on top of the other non-phone conversations this couple was having).  By the third call I complained to an usher (why I didn't complain after the first, and definitely the second I'll never know).  She handled it very well, by evicting the troublemakers.

The troublemakers didn't leave quietly though (surprise surprise ::)).  They thought it was a good idea to bash each other with their plastic shopping bags as they were arguing over whose fault it was that they'd been evicted :o (well, duh you're both to blame).  The girl troublemaker then went and complained to someone else seated in the middle of the room and sounded completely amazed that she wasn't allowed to use her phone in the middle of a movie. ???

One they'd gone that just left the 'standard' stupid, rude, ignorant people (adults) who thought it was okay to talk during the movie, the older kids (ages 8-10) from various groups who thought it was okay to stand up at random times, the rustling of the food wrappers...

The manager did give us free passes for our inconvenience/annoyance.  Not sure if I'll ever venture back in order to use them though. :-\ >:(
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Darcy on July 25, 2010, 01:46:07 AM
We've never had a huge problem with noise during movies (except for that one time during The Alamo when two older women were talking and laughing while everyone in the Alamo proceeded to die, which was so sensitive of them).

Our problem is that, when four of us went to the movies, it cost us $42 dollars for food.  We had free ticket passes; otherwise it would have cost us about $74 total.  Movie theaters really aren't worth it for us.

Now we wait for the movie to come out onto the movie channels.  We used to rent movies when they came out, but all the rental stores in our town are closed except for Blockbuster, and they want a credit card number on file (which I am not comfortable with as they automatically charge for late days, and I've had so many experiences returning items only for someone to not check them in, thus incorrectly charging me).
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: LadyPekoe on July 25, 2010, 02:13:29 AM
I always think this sort of thread is interesting.  DH and I go to a lot of movies.  I joke that once a movie is out of the theater it's dead to me because I don't like watching videos (I think I watched two dvds last year).  Last Saturday we went to 4 movies (Inception, Predators, Toy Story 3, and Knight and Day).  We didn't buy any food, so it wasn't that expensive (no problem for me, mom never let me buy the food at the theater as a kid and it's too fattening for me anyway).  And we really had no obnoxious people in any of them.   
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Shores on July 25, 2010, 02:16:58 AM
Every time I read one of the many, many threads on someone rude at the movie theater, I'm always amazed on how lucky I must be. I go to the movies at least once every 2-3 weeks and have only been annoyed by other people twice in the last oh, 10 years of movie-going. I remember both of those times BECAUSE it was so rare. Both times, it was a children's movie and the annoyances were kids that I just felt were being given a bit too free a reign, but really, considering they were children's matinees, I couldn't even be too annoyed. I wonder where all of these bad theater are... Yay Virginia, I guess. :P
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: LifeOnPluto on July 25, 2010, 02:58:28 AM
Wow that sounds highly annoying! Maybe it's because I haven't been to a kids movie in ages, but I rarely have problems with noisy people.

One thing that might help, is staying away from the big megaplex type cinema complexes. You might find quieter, politer audiences at some of the smaller and older cinemas? Just a thought.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: aventurine on July 25, 2010, 03:05:30 AM
Since the Great Pickle-Throwing Incident of 2005, I have to really, really want to see a movie in the theater.  It's a shame because DH loves going to see movies.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Viscountess on July 25, 2010, 03:21:52 AM
The only time I had issues with movie theater patrons was during a midnight showing of a Harry Potter movie (I think it was the third one).  A child about 3 or 4 years old kept asking "what's that" during most of the movie.  Other than that my experiences in the theater have been enjoyable.  Probably helps that the ushers at my local theater are super strict with the no cell phone policy.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: cicero on July 25, 2010, 03:28:07 AM
i haven't gone to the movie theater in years. it's annoying, but it got to be too expensive and too annoying (and the expense just doubled up my annoyance). the noise, the cell phones, the SMSs, people getting up and down a million times, people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: mikeylou on July 25, 2010, 05:44:38 AM
DH and I went out to see The Sorcerer's Apprentice at the local "Theater and Bar" place.  [I'd never been somewhere like that before, so it was a special occasion.  I can't wait until the one closer to us opens.]

Periodically through the 7:30pm showing we'd hear a baby crying.  You know, during the really quiet sensitive scenes? When we left the theater, I noticed a toddler leaving too, so I don't know if it was him or another child as well, but I was kinda like...  DH and I chose this place because it was our anniversary (12th) and we knew they did not permit small children -  we dropped our kids off at the local drop-in day/evening care place (they love it there - too bad DS ages out of it this coming winter).

When you check ticket availability online, it says rather clearly:

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No children under 6 are allowed at any time EXCEPT for {a bunch of exceptions that had nothing to do with us as our site was not named in the list}.

Additionally, every single page on their website has this in the footer:  18 AND UP ALL SHOWS - NO CHILDREN UNDER 6 UNLESS OTHERWISE NOTED

I should have given our server a note complaining about the crying.  I suppose it got on my nerves more than a normal theater because it was supposed to be a somewhat child-free venue.  I don't know how they got in with him.  But then again, after DH checked at the front booth with our printout, no one checked our "tickets" - I think we could have walked right in.

On the plus side, everyone heeded the 4 screens of warnings about talking and cell phone usage.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: camlan on July 25, 2010, 06:06:39 AM
Since the Great Pickle-Throwing Incident of 2005, I have to really, really want to see a movie in the theater.  It's a shame because DH loves going to see movies.

I know this is O/T, but really, you can't tell us that and leaving us hanging for the details of the Great Pickle-Throwing Incident.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: guihong on July 25, 2010, 06:13:50 AM
Since the Great Pickle-Throwing Incident of 2005, I have to really, really want to see a movie in the theater.  It's a shame because DH loves going to see movies.

Camlan beat me to it  ;D.

I've seen exactly two movies this year (in a theatre)-Karate Kid and Despicable Me.  DM was Friday evening, and perhaps that's why there weren't many kids around.  The movie was one of the best I'd seen in a long time, and everything went well.  A Saturday matinee might have been a different story.

A friend has told me that the "dollar theatre", where second-run movies play, is very pleasant and much smaller than a gargantuan multiplex.

gui
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: demarco on July 25, 2010, 06:32:50 AM
sammycat, I'm glad that you at least got some free passes.  I hope you can use them some time. 

DH and I don't go to kids' movies, we don't go on opening weekends, and, if I go alone,  I  go to the first matinee (ca 11:00 am) when there are usually only a handful of people in the theater.  These steps go a long way toward minimizing problems but there is always a chance that there will be someone who doesn't know what to do with his phone or someone who thinks if you just stand in the stairwell with the crying baby, then that's ok.  ("If they can't see us, they can't hear us."  ::))

I'm not ready to give up on going to the movie theater yet but I can understand why a lot of people have. 
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: magician5 on July 25, 2010, 06:45:24 AM
Maybe you can choose movies and theaters where the audience is almost part of the show. Aside from "Rocky Horror", I mean.

I remember 'back in the day' ... a badly-located theater that had given up trying to attract the general public ... Saturday night triple features from Hong Kong subtitled in English and two flavors of Chinese all at once ... steamed buns and squid jerky at the refreshment stand ... audiences about half Asian and half ghetto ... you never knew when someone would jump up, smack his fist into his hand and shout "kick that sucka! Yeah, smack him!"

A complete and immersive entertainment experience!
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: siamesecat2965 on July 25, 2010, 07:09:31 AM
I don't go to the movies all that often, but when I do I generallly stay away from opening nights of any big movie, and I've found my favorite time to go is on a sunday morning, first thing.  Th etheater near me has showings beginning at 10ish; that's when I saw the last Harry Potter movie. And boy did I luck out! The theater was pretty empty, and when I came out around 1, as it was raining, it was PACKED.

Most of the time I just don't have time to go, an dfind it hard to find time to watcfh DVDs, but I can generally wait until something comes on DVD.  Although if I can, I'm hoping to see Despicable Me, as it looks cute and funny!  Love the minions.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: TylerBelle on July 25, 2010, 07:10:53 AM
A wee small voice from the back is joining the chorus of those wanting to hear about The Great Pickle-Throwing Incident of '05!

I am one also that though I enjoy going out to the movies, I usually wait for ones I'd like to see come out on dvd. I have encountered some obnoxious folks, not too bad, but ones like the guy apparently not happy with all the endings of LOTR: Return of the King and thus grumbled  and jingled his keys relentlessly ::).  Most of all though I am a great procrastinator and it's the main reason why I end up not seeing the film in the theatre but await it's dvd release. Such I'd like to see Despicable Me, and this past week I kept putting off the times I could go, so perhaps this week...



Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 25, 2010, 07:19:39 AM
I haven't had as bad an experience in the theater as the OP, but I'm always annoyed by how many patrons think that the "No talking or texting" rule doesn't apply to them.   I get easily distracted by the light of a cell phone screen in a dark theater, even if it's 5 or more rows in front of me, so it's really annoying when I'm trying to concentrate on what's happening on screen and a bright light flickers from a cell screen.    

It's like people think as long as they have their phone on silent and no one can hear it ring or chirp, it's ok to text during a movie.  

When I saw "Twilight" on opening night, there were tons of teens that screamed when the "turn off your cell phone" warning came up, when the studio logo showed, when the title showed, and when Edward or Jacob first appeared on screen.   It was annoying, but I didn't feel like I could really complain since it was opening night and I knew the age group it was aimed towards.  

For us, the cost is the deterrant for going to the movies.  We have a Regal near us so we joined the Regal Crown Club and use our card for every ticket and food purchase so hopefully one of these days it'll pay off.  Especially since we've been seeing many of the 3D movies that are more expensive than the regular showing.   That and until recently, one or both of us would have to get up and walk with the boys to the bathroom.   Now they're getting old enough that they can go alone.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: HelenB on July 25, 2010, 07:37:35 AM
I'm reminded of one of my favourite movie-going moments.  I went to the Return of the King midnight showing with a group from a LotR convention -- so it was a dedicated group of fans. Lots of people in costume, tissue boxes with elvish writing, etc. 

Before the movie started, a knight got up and waved his cardboard sword at us and said, "If your cell phone rings during the movie, you'll taste my blade!"

I've always wanted to bring a Gondorian Knight with me to the movies, ever since.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Amava on July 25, 2010, 07:40:41 AM
When I saw "Twilight" on opening night, there were tons of teens that screamed when the "turn off your cell phone" warning came up, when the studio logo showed, when the title showed, and when Edward or Jacob first appeared on screen.   It was annoying, but I didn't feel like I could really complain since it was opening night and I knew the age group it was aimed towards.  

That reminds me of something funny that happened to me when I went to the local premiere of the third HP movie. I was a big fan back then and I wanted to see the movie as soon as I could. This, however, implied that it would be a translated version (the afternoon version played was for the kids, so dubbed in Dutch, and in the evening they would play the English version with subtitles).
Anyway, for some reason I had never before seen a dubbed version of Harry Potter.

The first time I heard Hagrid speak in Dutch, he turned out to speak in an incredibly cute and funny West-Flemish accent. I couldn't help myself: I laughed out loud and literally doubled over in my chair, almost rolled out of it, it seriously struck me as THAT funny. It was fantastic.
Cue all the little ones and their parents that were sitting around me staring at me dumbfounded: "what the heck is so funny? ??? " Since the parents, not being HP fans but parents-of-little-fans, had been used to the dubbed versions ever since the first movie.
And I was the only one laughing - I had gone to the movie all by myself because my husband was still at work (it was a Wednesday afternoon and as a primary school teacher I was off school in the Wednesday afternoon).  My husband then, later that night, ALL night, was subjected to my imitation of West-Flemish Hagrid.  ;D
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: jaxsue on July 25, 2010, 09:17:07 AM
I avoid movie theaters unless I really, really have to see a movie on the big screen.

This month I saw both "inception" and "Toy Story 3."

In the first case, the theater was packed (opening weekend). The crowd was amazingly well-behaved.

In the second case, it wasn't a kid who had behavior issues; it was a grown man! You could hear him talking every few minutes. He may have been explaining things to a kid, but he wasn't even attempting to whisper.  ::)

Last December I saw "Avatar." People all around me had their cell phones lit up. I was very irritated. They were younger - late teens - if that makes any difference (having never lived without being electronically connected).
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: BabyMama on July 25, 2010, 09:18:51 AM
I've had the worst experiences the last two times I've gone to movies--and I tend to go to a lot in the summer. Last weekend I went to Grown Ups--I wanted to see Dispicable Me but the people ahead of me in the ticket line had unruly kids, so I figured an adult movie would be a better choice. Nope. There was a family (4 or 5 adults) and one mentally handicapped kid. The kid could not control his noises and made a loud bleating noise (like a goat) every 5-10 seconds throughout the entire movie. None of the adults ever took him out. An usher even came in, stood in the doorway for a while, and then left--during a part where he was particularly quiet. I think everyone in the audience was thinking, "Maybe they'll take him out in a minute..." Nope. I'm all about everyone enjoying movies but if you can't sit through a movie quietly, I don't care who you are, you should skip the movie and do something else.

The time before, we were at Toy Story 3. A mom came in with 4 kids. The youngest kid wanted to crawl around and she pretty much let him (once in a while she told one of the older kids to "watch him".) He decided he wanted to sit in the aisle ahead of where they were so kept climbing over the seats. He asked to go to the bathroom like 5 times. Two of the kids got up once to get popcorn refills and tramped noisily up and down the aisle.

lol about the Twilight movie, we sat next to a tween girl who gasped loudly (like she was aroused) every time R. Pat came on screen. Disturbing!
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 25, 2010, 10:00:27 AM
We went to a movie with the kids this spring, I can't remember if it was "Alice in Wonderland" or "How To Train Your Dragon".  We were in the second to last row and during the previews there was a man joking with his buddies with a few f-bombs here and there.   

He quieted down once the feature movie started, and my boys leaned over and said "We know, don't repeat it!"
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Elfmama on July 25, 2010, 10:19:26 AM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Minmom3 on July 25, 2010, 10:24:18 AM
I've long since given up attending the movies on a regular basis, purely because of the unacceptable behaviour of some of the other patrons.  I was so 'shell shocked' after a visit on 3 January 2005 that it was 4 1/2 years till I returned.  Today though I gave in and took the boys and some of their friends to see "Karate Kid".

We were seated in the back row on the far side of the theatre.  However, we were still able to hear the ringing of a mobile phone of a couple on the opposite side of the room, not once, not twice, but three times!  Each time the girl answered it and had a conversation.  (This was on top of the other non-phone conversations this couple was having).  By the third call I complained to an usher (why I didn't complain after the first, and definitely the second I'll never know).  She handled it very well, by evicting the troublemakers.

The troublemakers didn't leave quietly though (surprise surprise ::)).  They thought it was a good idea to bash each other with their plastic shopping bags as they were arguing over whose fault it was that they'd been evicted :o (well, duh you're both to blame).  The girl troublemaker then went and complained to someone else seated in the middle of the room and sounded completely amazed that she wasn't allowed to use her phone in the middle of a movie. ???

One they'd gone that just left the 'standard' stupid, rude, ignorant people (adults) who thought it was okay to talk during the movie, the older kids (ages 8-10) from various groups who thought it was okay to stand up at random times, the rustling of the food wrappers...

The manager did give us free passes for our inconvenience/annoyance.  Not sure if I'll ever venture back in order to use them though. :-\ >:(

If you want a relatively quiet movie experience, go to the first matinee of the day, even on a weekend.  Not everybody wants to go to a movie before noon, but those that do are pretty well mannered.  
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Shopaholic on July 25, 2010, 10:42:14 AM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

If I'm not mistaken, Cicero lives in Israel - like me.

BF and I went to see "The Prophet" a few months ago with his brother and SIL. This was at a cinematheque-style cinema that shows artsy films and we have a membership.

It was Friday night, the theatre was 85% full, and a number of latecomers, instead of going quietly to the nearest empty seat, started arguing with a group of people who were seated in their assigned seats. These were all middle aged people. The seated refused to get up, saying that the usher had seated them there. More arguing, yelling, you name it (also stepping on my toes, but that's less to the point). Part of the yelling was done with the door open, so light flooded the theatre. SIl pointed out that they were disturbing everyone and to please be quiet, even more yelling from a 60 year old man! Eventually they left the theater

Five minutes later, two women, also middle aged, show up. They want to get to their seats which are in the middle of the row, far from the entrance. One of them gets everybody up so she could get to her seat. the other starts going around. 1st lady doesn't understand where her friend is, yells out: "Hey, I'm over here!" whilst standing and imitating a windmill. 2nd lady notices that their row ends with a barrier, and walks back around to et the entire row up so she can reach her seat.

I don't speak French, and the Prophet is not exactly a movie where you can zone out in the first few minutes. This thread reminded me of the incident - I totally forgot I wanted to write the theatre a letter about it, as the usher should have been there to keep the peace.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: KenveeB on July 25, 2010, 11:14:42 AM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

The UK does assigned seating in cinemas.  I really miss that.  It's so convenient!  There's a new fancy theater near me called Gold Class Cinema that has assigned seating, so I'm going to go there for all the big premieres from now on.  (They also have fully reclining seats, a full menu and bar, and even bring you pillows and blankets if you want!)
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: wheeitsme on July 25, 2010, 12:38:39 PM
And that is why my DH and I go to the theater with the "Over 21" theaters.  It's over 21 because they sell alcohol, but I love it because most folks who go there know how to behave.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Sirius on July 25, 2010, 01:20:10 PM
Since I can't watch a movie in a theater because all the movement on the screen triggers my vertigo and makes me motion sick (and I refuse to pay $7+ for a ticket for a movie during which I have to sit with my eyes closed) I really haven't missed the experience.  Plus, Mr. Sirius and I both love to criticize movies mercilessly, so if we're going to do that it's best if we get a video and do this in our own living room.  (He loves Mystery Science Theater 3000.)
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: aventurine on July 25, 2010, 01:38:48 PM
The Pickle-Throwing Incident:  (I think I've posted it here before, but I searched and searched and can't find it).

DH and I were in the back of the theater.  The lights had gone down and the previews had rolled.  The feature was just beginning when in came a family of about 8; I believe 3 or 4 adults and several kids, ranging in age from infant to tween.  They entered the row just in front of ours and it took them awhile to get settled, what with all the car seats and such, and the fact that they were encumbered with at least one of everything the snack bar had to offer (and two of everything crunchy).  So after several minutes of bustling, discussion, changing seats, etc, they settled in and started with the crunching-rattling-slurping-crackling-munching-belching noises. 

Okay, whatever.  I hate eating noises, but that's my issue, and even the sheer volume of food they had can't last forever.  Then the toddler got loose.  A cherubic child of about 2, she made the most horrific clomping noises running up and down, up and down, over and over down the row and back again.  Over and over and over, shrieking and giggling all the while.  I put up with this for about 5 minutes before I made my way down the row and leaned over between (I assume) her parents, and asked (politely; I don't remember exactly what I said, but I do remember being polite because I always assume people are crazy and I have a firm policy of not poking the crazy if I can help it) if they could please restrain their child; she was very distracting. 

OH THE HUMANITY.  You'd have thought I'd asked them to have her drawn and quartered.  They rose in a huff, gathered up their children and all their leftover food and most of them stormed (STORMED) out of the theater.  I was shocked; I never insinuated they had to leave!  As they were huffing away, a white-napkin-wrapped missile flashed past my face, just missing it, and thudded into DH's chest.  A pickle!  The mother had thrown a half-eaten PICKLE at us!!    :o

So the father walks down the aisle toward us, I'm stupidly thinking maybe to apologize?  Nah.  He said, "That was the RUDEST thing I've ever seen!"  Talking about me, duh.  But I smiled at him (it was dark, he couldn't see it but maybe he heard it in my voice) and said.  "I agree, and I accept your apology."

OH MAN he couldn't get out of there fast enough.  I'm just glad they didn't know what we were driving!

How bizarre, though .. it was a matinee (Fantastic Four) but all those tickets and food couldn't have been cheap.  They left about 1/4 of the way through the movie.  It remains one of the weirdest things that's ever happened to us.


Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: drebay on July 25, 2010, 01:50:48 PM
That's why we like to go to the drive-in.  I am glad that we still have one.  We saw Despicable Me Friday night.  It was better than I thought.  (We went because the kids wanted to go)
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: Phonix on July 25, 2010, 01:50:56 PM
My husband and I went to see Despicable Me (good movie for animation fans) this weekend. We rarely go on opening weekend to avoid crowds and usually hit the matinees. We missed that this weekend. This lady and her son sat behind us. I am not sure what perfume she was wearing but I tasted it with my popcorn throughout all of the movie. I know there is no right way to complain. However, her son complained though about the lady eating popcorn! throughout the whole movie. I am not sure if I was too loud (hard to credit considering the volume of the movie) or perhaps, his mother wouldn't let him have any. I wanted to turn around and offer him some or a lesson in etiquette but refrained.

If I had known the perfume was coming from her earlier, we would have moved, I am usually quite vocal in my dislike of perfumes and scented powders and she had both. Baby powder flavored popcorn is just... awful.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: aventurine on July 25, 2010, 01:51:44 PM
  (He loves Mystery Science Theater 3000.)

Yeaaaahhhh!! 

drebay:  I wish we still had a drive-in.  Good times.
Title: Re: Aargh!! This is why I don't go to the movies any more!
Post by: TychaBrahe on July 25, 2010, 03:25:03 PM
That reminds me of something funny that happened to me when I went to the local premiere of the third HP movie. I was a big fan back then and I wanted to see the movie as soon as I could. This, however, implied that it would be a translated version (the afternoon version played was for the kids, so dubbed in Dutch, and in the evening they would play the English version with subtitles).
Anyway, for some reason I had never before seen a dubbed version of Harry Potter.

The first time I heard Hagrid speak in Dutch, he turned out to speak in an incredibly cute and funny West-Flemish accent. I couldn't help myself: I laughed out loud and literally doubled over in my chair, almost rolled out of it, it seriously struck me as THAT funny. It was fantastic.
Cue all the little ones and their parents that were sitting around me staring at me dumbfounded: "what the heck is so funny? ??? " Since the parents, not being HP fans but parents-of-little-fans, had been used to the dubbed versions ever since the first movie.
And I was the only one laughing - I had gone to the movie all by myself because my husband was still at work (it was a Wednesday afternoon and as a primary school teacher I was off school in the Wednesday afternoon).  My husband then, later that night, ALL night, was subjected to my imitation of West-Flemish Hagrid.  ;D

I saw Volcano, which takes place in Southern California, in Chicago with two other native Californians.  We were cracking up at a lot of the inside jokes that no one else in the theater got.
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Post by: TychaBrahe on July 25, 2010, 03:26:23 PM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

The Regal Webster in Chicago does reserved seating on some shows.
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Post by: sammycat on July 25, 2010, 05:33:43 PM
OP here.  The showing we went to was the first of the day, and I was expecting there to be a lot of kids, but I really think the adults outweighed the kids.  The adults certainly outweighed the kids in terms of unacceptable behaviour!  The mobile phone people were probably in their early 20s, certainly not young teens.  

Come to think of it, it's generally the adults who are the worst behaved rather than the kids whenever I've encountered a theatre problem, although there have been a few notable exceptions. :-\ >:(

Unfortunately the nearest non chain cinema is at least an hour away.  There used to be a lot of them around but they were all torn down in the name of "progress" ::)  Also, we live in a newish area so when the new shopping centres are put in, they add these huge mega plexes as well.

I'll just stick to my original plan from now on of hiring a DVD from the video shop, or buying it outright at the shops.
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Post by: Elfmama on July 25, 2010, 06:17:06 PM
I'll just stick to my original plan from now on of hiring a DVD from the video shop, or buying it outright at the shops.
Me too.  It's cheaper,  you can buy or make  the snacks that you want rather than the ones that the theater wants you to buy, no one complains about what you are eating or flavors your popcorn with baby powder  :-X, and you can pause it when you need to go to the bathroom. All you miss is the really big screen.  We go to about one movie per year. The last one was the new Star Trek.
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Post by: ipsedixit on July 25, 2010, 09:30:33 PM
My last movie theater experience was the most recent Harry Potter movie that came out.  From now on, DH and I will go to the absolute latest movie available.  One kid ran left and right through the seats of the packed theater.  He'd go see his friend, then head to his parents.  The 3rd time I had to move my legs I asked him to stop.  He proceeded to give me a one figured salute.  He ran to his parents.  Our entire row cheered when the ushers came to remove them.  I felt bad for the 2 other kids that were with them, but cripes. 

I do get annoyed when someone keeps opening their cell phone to text.  The light is so bright in the dark!  I think they believe since it isn't making noise, it isn't disturbing anyone.
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Post by: TinyVulgarUnicorn on July 25, 2010, 09:53:38 PM
OP I totally know how you feel...it seems like every time I'm at a movie theater (which is pretty often) I see and hear a lot of rude behavior.  Let's see, about two weeks ago DF and I went to see Toy Story 3 and the family next to us decided to eat everything at the concession stand which wasn't bad in itself, but you could hear them chewing and the constant rustling of the wrappers the food was in.  Their toddler was extremely vocal throughout the movie which wasn't horrible considering its a kids movie, but they did nothing to quiet her and they ended up leaving all of their trash once the movie was done. 

A week before that I went with a bunch of friends to see The Sorcerers Apprentice and a huge family came in just as the movie was beginning.  This particular theater is older and doesn't have stadium seating and they decided to stand right in front of us as they decided who was going to sit where...as the movie was playing.   ::)
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Post by: Miss Understood on July 25, 2010, 11:48:14 PM
  (He loves Mystery Science Theater 3000.)

Yeaaaahhhh!! 

drebay:  I wish we still had a drive-in.  Good times.

I am with you both; DH and I are huge MST3K fans.  In fact, despite our general dislike of movie theaters other than little boutique movie houses, we went to a showing of Plan 9 with a new "riff" of it by the MST guys, at a big megaplex, and had a great time. 
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Post by: Miss Understood on July 25, 2010, 11:56:45 PM
Maybe you can choose movies and theaters where the audience is almost part of the show. Aside from "Rocky Horror", I mean.

I remember 'back in the day' ... a badly-located theater that had given up trying to attract the general public ... Saturday night triple features from Hong Kong subtitled in English and two flavors of Chinese all at once ... steamed buns and squid jerky at the refreshment stand ... audiences about half Asian and half ghetto ... you never knew when someone would jump up, smack his fist into his hand and shout "kick that sucka! Yeah, smack him!"

A complete and immersive entertainment experience!

Half Asian and half "ghetto"?  What exactly do you mean by "ghetto"?  And this was an "entertainment experience"?  Seriously?
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Post by: jimithing on July 26, 2010, 12:14:27 AM
I go to the movies quite often, and it's rare that there isn't some kind of distraction. It's usually either people bringing babies who cry, or people who text and use their cell phone.

I had a CRAZY movie experience a few weeks ago, and there were only about 20 people in it. A couple brought their young toddlers to see a very bloody, violent R rated movie, and when they would take them out, apparently, as little kids do, they were hitting the seats in the front section of the movie.

After the second time, this guy stood up, yelled at them, was saying the F word, etc. It was ridiculous. I also thought the guy sitting right behind us had smuggled a dog in, but I think he just had some sort of wheezing issue.

We saw Inception last weekend, and I realized after the movie that it was the greatest audience I had ever been in. It wasn't until after that I realized there wasn't a single distraction. No talking, no crying baby, no cell phone, nothing. It was great.
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Post by: iridaceae on July 26, 2010, 02:59:23 AM


We saw Inception last weekend, and I realized after the movie that it was the greatest audience I had ever been in. It wasn't until after that I realized there wasn't a single distraction. No talking, no crying baby, no cell phone, nothing. It was great.
It has been my experience that the more the movie draws you in and makes you think, the quieter the audience.

Back when Thunderheart (with Val Kilmer) came out my friend and I went to see it at the cheap seats. There were about 10 of us in a tiny little theater and the acoustics were such, at least where we were sitting, that you could plainly hear all the crinklings and crunchings and slurpings.

Then the movie started and as we watched all the sounds just stopped. Even the boyfriend and girlfriend busy whispering sweet nothings to each other.  Everyone was too busy watching.





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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 26, 2010, 08:29:42 AM
Years ago, DH and I got a sitter and went to the movies with a friend. I can't remember what movie it was, but I do remember that both DH and I got really irked with our friend during the movie. 

Friend explained that he had to leave his phone on because his wife would flip out on him if she couldn't reach him for anything.  And yes, she knew we were going to a movie.   DH and I thought, "Ok, fine, whatever, as long as he has it on vibrate (he did) and leaves the theater if she calls him."

Well...he didn't leave the theater.   Both times.   Wife calls and he talks to her in the theater, leans over to DH and I and says "Hey, what do you guys wanna do for dinner?"  We shook our heads and mouthed "Later", as in we weren't going to discuss dinner options right then.   He hung up, then five minutes later she calls again and he leans over and says "Amy REALLY wants to know NOW what we're doing for dinner!"   ::)  We shake our heads and mouth "Not NOW, hang up!"  He doesn't hang up, but at least gets up and heads to the exit.   

When we get back to their house (he rode with us), we asked Amy what was so important that she couldn't wait for us to get out of the movie to figure out dinner. (it was like, 3pm)   She says "I just wanted to know!"  ::)
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Post by: LadyClaire on July 26, 2010, 08:40:00 AM
DF and I try to go to the matinee showing after the movie has been out for 2 weeks. That tends to cut down on bad experiences, because there are fewer people in the theater and those who are there tend to be quiet.

When we went to see the matinee showing of Corpse Bride, it was us and one other couple in the theater. It was like movie heaven.
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Post by: PeasNCues on July 26, 2010, 08:44:58 AM
My family goes to movies all the time and it definitely is a gamble. Even if you go to the latest movie possible, you can't ensure there will be no misbehaving kids. I always feel bad for the kids who are fussy because they want to go to bed and the parents just shush them.
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Post by: LadyClaire on July 26, 2010, 09:01:55 AM
My family goes to movies all the time and it definitely is a gamble. Even if you go to the latest movie possible, you can't ensure there will be no misbehaving kids. I always feel bad for the kids who are fussy because they want to go to bed and the parents just shush them.

Yeah..I've seen babies and toddlers in midnight showings of horror movies. That's what I really don't get..so you have cranky, terrified children who scream during the entire movie.
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Post by: StillandSilent on July 26, 2010, 09:08:19 AM
Aim for either the earliest or latest show, they are usually the least crowded.  A blind friend and I have a standing date for the Harry Potter movies, as well as whatever else catches our fancy, and we try to aim for those.
As an additional note, I do describe the movie for him, and yes, this can be done in a very quiet voice that does not disturb those around you.  If the guy on his other side can hear you talking, you are doing it way, way too loudly. 
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Post by: Peggy Gus on July 26, 2010, 10:22:06 AM
The last couple of times I have been to the movies (and they were kids movies) the movie was so loud I couldn't have heard a cannon go off. I literally had to hold my hands over my nephews ears because it was so loud and he said it was hurting him. About halfway through someone must have complained so they turned it down some.
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Post by: MDefarge on July 26, 2010, 10:40:42 AM
We've gotten to the point that we wait a couple of weeks before we see a movie - not only is the theater usually a lot less crowded (we saw The Karate Kid yesterday I think there might have been 10 other people there!) but our local theater does $5 movies & movies are only eligible after they have been out for awhile.  So not only do we usually get a better experience, it costs us less than 1 *regular* movie ticket!
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Post by: pierrotlunaire0 on July 26, 2010, 11:57:05 AM
The theater I normally go to is very strict about young children.  They will not allow children under age 10 (I think that is the age) to an R-rated movie after 6 pm, whether or not accompanied by a parent or adult.  It has even been written about in the newspapers.  But it is fairly well known in the community that the management has no trouble with asking people to leave if they are unruly, and so disturbances there are rare and/or minor.

When the movie "Memento" (the one where the plot runs backwards) came out, the movie projector briefly broke down about half way through.  The audience, which had been very quiet up until then, shouted as one, "Nnnnnoooooooooo!"  The movie was so engrossing that it was hard to wait the 2 minutes for it to be fixed.
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Post by: Lady Snowdon on July 26, 2010, 12:22:00 PM
DH and I went to see "The Sorceror's Apprentice" last night, and there was one thing that really bothered me.  At the end of the movie (not the credits, just near the very end), someone behind us shouted "Applause!", and a whole group of people started applauding.  Then another scene started, the applause died down, and it started again when the movie actually ended.  I commented, quietly, to DH, "There's no need for applause!" and he said "Yeah, they can't hear you!" a bit louder.  The people applauding must have heard  :-[ because they stopped applauding and when they came down the stairs, they gave us very dirty looks. 
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Post by: PeasNCues on July 26, 2010, 12:24:18 PM
I've seen people applaud, but only after a particularly good movie and ONLY after the credits started. I think it's a natural expression of appreciation.

- PeasNCues, who applauds at movies with the crowd.  ;D
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Post by: Roe on July 26, 2010, 12:26:48 PM
- PeasNCues, who applauds at movies with the crowd.  ;D
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Me too!  ;D
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Post by: drebay on July 26, 2010, 12:27:41 PM
Quite a few people applauded at the end of Despicable Me.  I think it is just like yelling at the characters.  It doesn't do any good to tell the people to NOT open that door.  They are going to do what the script wrote.  If you are into a movie, then your natural instincts take over.
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Post by: Lady Snowdon on July 26, 2010, 12:28:35 PM
- PeasNCues, who applauds at movies with the crowd.  ;D

Me too!  ;D
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If everyone's applauding, I can see joining in, but if 3 or 4 people are applauding, and everyone else is turning around and staring at them in an effort to let them know they're being noisy, then it's not appropriate!
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Post by: PeasNCues on July 26, 2010, 12:31:41 PM
If everyone's applauding, I can see joining in, but if 3 or 4 people are applauding, and everyone else is turning around and staring at them in an effort to let them know they're being noisy, then it's not appropriate!
This is true!
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Post by: Roe on July 26, 2010, 12:40:53 PM
If everyone's applauding, I can see joining in, but if 3 or 4 people are applauding, and everyone else is turning around and staring at them in an effort to let them know they're being noisy, then it's not appropriate!
This is true!

Yeah, I agree with that.  The last movie I applauded was Toy Story 3, at the end of the credits.  The rest of the threatre cheered as well.  I see much applauding with midnight showings.  Those shows are filled with a certain energy that I just love.  Honestly, I see less rudeness at midnight showings since people that go to those showings tend to be true fans of the movie, genre, actor, director, etc.
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Post by: TylerBelle on July 26, 2010, 12:53:31 PM
I've applauded at the end of movies, during the credits. I remember friends and I, plus many others in the audience, going bonkers at the end of Rocky III. Yes, true, of course the actors don't know / can't hear of your applause, but that's not the point. I see it as showing an appreciation of the work, and it's a good release if the film was especially moving for you.





OH THE HUMANITY.  You'd have thought I'd asked them to have her drawn and quartered.  They rose in a huff, gathered up their children and all their leftover food and most of them stormed (STORMED) out of the theater.  I was shocked; I never insinuated they had to leave!  As they were huffing away, a white-napkin-wrapped missile flashed past my face, just missing it, and thudded into DH's chest.  A pickle!  The mother had thrown a half-eaten PICKLE at us!!    :o

So the father walks down the aisle toward us, I'm stupidly thinking maybe to apologize?  Nah.  He said, "That was the RUDEST thing I've ever seen!"  Talking about me, duh.  But I smiled at him (it was dark, he couldn't see it but maybe he heard it in my voice) and said.  "I agree, and I accept your apology."

OH MAN he couldn't get out of there fast enough.  I'm just glad they didn't know what we were driving!

Wow, just wow. There was no point to the huffiness of the family's feeling they had to go, not to mention the wife's actions with the pickle throwing which was really inane. Simply contain the child and enjoy the movie was all they needed to do. Kudos to the smooth, quick reply to the husband's seemingly attempt to continue the tackiness.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 26, 2010, 01:59:30 PM
Quite a few people applauded at the end of Despicable Me.  I think it is just like yelling at the characters.  It doesn't do any good to tell the people to NOT open that door.  They are going to do what the script wrote.  If you are into a movie, then your natural instincts take over.

Don't open the door, don't go up the stairs, don't go down to the basement, don't go into the bar, Penhall!
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Post by: aventurine on July 26, 2010, 02:11:13 PM

So the father walks down the aisle toward us, I'm stupidly thinking maybe to apologize?  Nah.  He said, "That was the RUDEST thing I've ever seen!"  Talking about me, duh.  But I smiled at him (it was dark, he couldn't see it but maybe he heard it in my voice) and said.  "I agree, and I accept your apology."
Kudos to the smooth, quick reply to the husband's seemingly attempt to continue the tackiness.

Thanks!  Rarely do I come up with an appropriate comment in the moment, so I was surprised at myself. 

Re:  Small kids at inappropriate movies: I know I've posted before about toddlers we encountered at the original Blade.  The midnight showing.   ::)   Yeah.  They were just delighted with the experience. 
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 26, 2010, 02:15:42 PM
I just remembered that when "E.T. The Extra Terrestrial" came out in theaters, I was 4 and went to see it with my parents and favorite aunt.  Remember the scene when Elliot and E.T first see each other in the field and they both scream?   

Their screams were joined by a 3rd as I jumped into my aunt's lap and wouldn't get out till the end of the movie.   I'm sure the other patrons just loved us. 
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Post by: wyliefool on July 26, 2010, 02:35:15 PM
I'm reminded of one of my favourite movie-going moments.  I went to the Return of the King midnight showing with a group from a LotR convention -- so it was a dedicated group of fans. Lots of people in costume, tissue boxes with elvish writing, etc. 

Before the movie started, a knight got up and waved his cardboard sword at us and said, "If your cell phone rings during the movie, you'll taste my blade!"


I've always wanted to bring a Gondorian Knight with me to the movies, ever since.

That is AWESOME!! I'm totally doing that next time I go to a movie!!
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Post by: katcheya on July 26, 2010, 02:46:16 PM
I just remembered that when "E.T. The Extra Terrestrial" came out in theaters, I was 4 and went to see it with my parents and favorite aunt.  Remember the scene when Elliot and E.T first see each other in the field and they both scream?   

Their screams were joined by a 3rd as I jumped into my aunt's lap and wouldn't get out till the end of the movie.   I'm sure the other patrons just loved us. 

...not only did my step-brother scream, but he actually STOOD UP, THEN screamed, then BOLTED for the door!  Poor kid!  (His dad did go get him, but I don't recall if he dragged him back into the thater, or if they left to go home.  I never thought to ask!)
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 26, 2010, 03:46:04 PM
Poor kid is right!   

I went to see "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" with same aunt whose lap I jumped into during E.T.  and the scene where Judge Doom turned into a cartoon and tries to kill Eddie, Roger and Jessica scared the caca out of me.   
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Post by: buggurl on July 26, 2010, 04:20:11 PM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

I live in the southern US, and the closest theater to me has reserved seating.  You go online at their website or to the lobby kiosk and pick your seat when you buy your ticket.  The ticket prices are a tad higher than some of the other theaters, but I don't care.  I love this, because I like to sit in the back in the middle of the row...am not as bad as Sheldon from Big Bang Theory, but I like to be in the middle of the screen for my optimum viewing experience. : )  Also, they have balcony seating in some of the theaters that is reserved for 21+, and you can buy adult beverages and drink them up there during the movie.  (This is the only way I will go with friends to see any Twilight movie--where there are no teenage girls and I can drink.)
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Post by: jimithing on July 26, 2010, 04:22:47 PM
people not reading their tickets correctly and just assuming that *my* seat is *their* seat and starting a "show me your ticket - no, you show me your ticket" war... not worth it to me.
???  Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

I live in the southern US, and the closest theater to me has reserved seating.  You go online at their website or to the lobby kiosk and pick your seat when you buy your ticket.  The ticket prices are a tad higher than some of the other theaters, but I don't care.  I love this, because I like to sit in the back in the middle of the row...am not as bad as Sheldon from Big Bang Theory, but I like to be in the middle of the screen for my optimum viewing experience. : )  Also, they have balcony seating in some of the theaters that is reserved for 21+, and you can buy adult beverages and drink them up there during the movie.  (This is the only way I will go with friends to see any Twilight movie--where there are no teenage girls and I can drink.)

Same here. I live in Utah, and there is a chain of theaters that only does reserved seating. The one closest to me is also like a food court. There are a ton of small restaurants and food options. It's great.
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Post by: high dudgeon on July 26, 2010, 05:14:00 PM
Quite a few people applauded at the end of Despicable Me.  I think it is just like yelling at the characters.  It doesn't do any good to tell the people to NOT open that door.  They are going to do what the script wrote.  If you are into a movie, then your natural instincts take over.

I think yelling at the characters on screen is very rude (unless it's something like Rocky Horror.) I don't care how "into" the movie you are, if you aren't able to control yourself enough to keep quiet during the movie, you are not mature enough to attend movies at the theater, and should limit yourself to watching things at home on DVD or at designated children's showings where more noise is expected.

Everyone knows the character is an idiot for going into the attic or basement, or for trusting the frenemy with her reputation ruining secret, or that it's actually the alien taking a human form. We know. We all know. There's no need to shout at the screen, and it's very distracting to the people who would rather hear the movie than your advice to the characters.
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Post by: Elfmama on July 26, 2010, 05:47:09 PM
I remember shouting at the people in a movie.  There was a tsunami coming and they didn't see it, so I shouted "RUN! RUN!  HURRY!"

In my defense, I was about six.  The whole theater broke up laughing.  :-[
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Post by: kherbert05 on July 26, 2010, 06:15:35 PM
1. When ET was rereleased to the theatres. I took my younger cousins. The littlest one climbed into my lap when ET got left behind and stayed there. I whispered and asked if he wanted to leave. He said no, and didn't make a noise the rest of the movie.

2. The Ordinal Star Wars Trilogy rerelease to theatres - Different set of cousins. One of them would not stop talking to the screen. I had gone over theater rules before we went. He got one warning then I lifted him out of his seat and marched him to the back of the theatre. It was set up so there was a little alcove back there. I told him he was in time out for talking - but I still could see the other boys. After 7 min (he was 7) We went back and sat down, but only after I warned that if he talked again he would spend the rest of the movie in the alcove. (the younger cousins all seem to want to do the but you won't ruin it for the other kids so I can be a brat challenge. Doesn't work on me I still find a way to make them change their behavior)

3. Same cousins Empire rerelease - No problems from the kids (OK the oldest one said Yuck after Leia kisses Luke to get back at Hans). These adults in front of us were being very rude and crude. Completely inappropriate language about Luke and Leia. I wasn't going to confront 3 very large guys in an almost empty theatre. I whispered and told the boys we were leaving to get the manager. When an older man walked by me. He said something to the men in front - and they shot out of their chairs. Then they sat back down putting their feet on the floor, but didn't say another word.

When they left, the men in front apologized. I'm pretty sure they were military, because they had day glow vests with reflective tape and motorcycle helmets. (the only people I saw wearing those vest were military. They were required to wear them when riding motorcycles according to my friends from the base.) I pretty sure the man behind me who spoke to them was an officer.
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Post by: C0mputerGeek on July 26, 2010, 07:05:35 PM
Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

I am not Cicero, but I live in Los Angeles. Some of the Landmark Theatres have reserved seating. The ArcLight does as well. You choose your seat when you purchase you're ticket.  It's pricier, but it's well worth it.

Every time I read one of the many, many threads on someone rude at the movie theater, I'm always amazed on how lucky I must be. I go to the movies at least once every 2-3 weeks and have only been annoyed by other people twice in the last oh, 10 years of movie-going. I remember both of those times BECAUSE it was so rare. Both times, it was a children's movie and the annoyances were kids that I just felt were being given a bit too free a reign, but really, considering they were children's matinees, I couldn't even be too annoyed.

For me, it depends entirely on which theatre I patronize. I have learned to avoid certain theatres like the plague.
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Post by: libraryliz on July 26, 2010, 11:18:41 PM
I've had a ton of bad movie experiences.  My old hometown is notorious as an area wherein middle school kids are dropped off at the movies (I remember it from when I was a 12 year-old).  One theater had four rows of them (yes all friends and all together, no parents) and they were texting, talking, and climbing over each other the entire time, so bad the movie was stopped and the manager came in and lectured them on proper movie behavior.  (The adults in the theater all applauded him.)

Went to see the fourth Harry Potter movie at midnight on opening night.  Totally packed theater.  I'm sitting in front of a family of about 8 people who have brought a 3 year-old.  The movie gets dark and the child cries.  But mostly he walks up and down the seats in front of his family hitting every seat in the row in front of him and baby talking to himself.  Every now and then his mother would grab him, slap him loud enough we could hear it echo, and say "hush your mouth".  I was younger then and didn't say anything (and had a date who was physically restraining me because I wanted to say something), but I jumped at the end credits and spun around as did the rest of my aisle.  The horror family had left five minutes before the end.

Now I recognize that my netflix subscription costs less per month than one movie ticket.  And I can usually buy the DVD of the movie for less than two tickets (for BF and me) and the food in the theater.  We still see movies occasionally (saw Toy Story 3 yesterday), but we like to cuddle on the couch at home.
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Post by: Wendy Moira Angela Pan on July 26, 2010, 11:46:34 PM
Where do you live, Cicero?  I'm asking because I've never gone to a movie theater in the US that had reserved tickets.  You pay your money, go to an empty seat, and sit down.

I am not Cicero, but I live in Los Angeles. Some of the Landmark Theatres have reserved seating. The ArcLight does as well. You choose your seat when you purchase you're ticket.  It's pricier, but it's well worth it.

I LOVE the reserved seating at the Landmark. I like being able to tell without buying a ticket first if there are any remaining seats worth sitting in.

I was part of That Group once. I went to see the 5th Harry Potter movie with a big group of friends on the first day it came out. At the scene where Harry and Cho kiss, the whole auditorium made that whooohooooooo noise, and my brother yelled, "Silence Muggles!" in this really deep voice. Everybody laughed and one girl turned around and said, "I love you!" It was really funny, but also kinda rude and annoying of him to keep the noise going when it would have died down if he hadn't said anything.
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Post by: Amava on July 27, 2010, 08:27:19 AM
The last couple of times I have been to the movies (and they were kids movies) the movie was so loud I couldn't have heard a cannon go off. I literally had to hold my hands over my nephews ears because it was so loud and he said it was hurting him. About halfway through someone must have complained so they turned it down some.

And THAT's why I stopped going to the movies.  It's too blasted loud!  I've complained and complained, but I usually get treated like some poor old lady and given a lame excuse like, "We have to play the previews this loud to warm the speakers up for the movie".  What a crock.   So I cut down my movie-going experience to only Harry Potter movies (and Sex and the City), and I bring earplugs at all times. 


Same. If I dare go to a movie, I come out of it with a headache. I can't help it, I just don't deal well with loud noise.
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Post by: Elfmama on July 27, 2010, 01:36:59 PM
It's probably turned up that loud so that people can hear the movie over people talking and kids screaming and the sound of chomping and rustling.  ::)
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Post by: esteban on July 27, 2010, 02:18:33 PM
I rarely go to movies anymore just because of the cost, Netflix streaming to my TV, plus the fact that with 3 kids it is cheaper to just buy the DVD makes theatres a rare occurance for me.

Since a few others have posted about kids and what they did at movie theatres, I'll drop my cute story here.

My son was about 5 when Star Wars Episode 2 came out, he is a huge Star Wars fan (as are his parents) so we all went together for opening night, with some friends for the 7 pm show (so DS wouldn't be up too late).  We spent the day discussing theatre behavior, and how he was going to sit between mom and I and he could whisper us questions, but no louder than a whisper.

We got to the movie and got good seats, on an aisle so if we needed to leave we wouldn't bother others.  The movie engrosssed him, I had never seen him sit silently for almost 2 hours.  Then the scene where Yoda pulled out his lightsaber to battle Dooku came on, there was a gasp from the whole crowd, and then from next to me "MOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER, YODAHASALIGHTSABERLOOKMOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER" In the most excited voice you can imagine.  I was super embarrassed for about 15 seconds, and then the entire theatre broke into laughter because it was obvious that DS was just so into the movie and the character.

One of my favorite movie-going memories.
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Post by: nannyogg on July 27, 2010, 02:27:27 PM
One of the best movie experiences was when we were in Florida on holiday.  We went to the theatre in Celebration to the see Batman The Dark Knight and there were 4 other people apart from us and it was heaven.  On a side note, the teens manning the consession stand were awesome because we asked for popcorn but they pointed out that their popcorn was salted and they knew that people from our country expected it sweet.  Totally lovely of them and much appreciated.  We had M & M's instead!

A couple of our worst are - The last Harry Potter movie....we got there mad early to get good seats and in comes a family of 4 (as are we) literally two minutes before the movie is due to start.  There were very few seats left and they were all singles.  I guess we must have looked ummmm daft because the mum comes over and states that we should move so that her family could sit together....cue the four of us looking at each other and the kids starting to laugh.  (Rude I know but I think it was a case of I don't know how to react so I'm getting a fit of the giggles).  I quite mildly stated that I'm afraid that won't be possible (thanks guys) She retaliated with "But I have children"  I stated so do I...She replied "What am I supposed to do?"  DH states "Get here early enough to get seats?"  They stomped out of the cinema and we didn't see them again.

Robert Redford and Brad Pitt movie.....about spies I think and for the life of me can't think what it was called..anyhoo, was there with DH, my sister and my sisters BF (bodybuilder, could crack walnuts with one hand...this is important, but a very sweet, non confrontational guy)  A group of (we call them hoodies or chavs over here, dunno what you guys across the pond would call them...lets just say feral youths who would not know how to behave in public if it jumped up and bit them in the butt)  The movie had been on for about 10 minutes when the noise starts, shouting among themselves, text messages, loud phone conversations, throwing popcorn, swearing etc.  I lost it and marched down and informed them that I had paid to see the movie, not find out all the details of their friends personal lives and could they please quiet down.  This resulted in a serious amount of verbal abuse to which I did not take kindly.....the next shout was "JERRY!"  So down Jerry comes.  All 6'4" of him.  (He's nearly as wide too!)  He quietly informed them that if they didn't either shut up or leave he wouldn't be held responsible for the consequences.  They cleared out after that.  I did ask Jerry what the consequences were and he said "I would have had to get the usher"  We got to enjoy the rest of the movie in peace that the rest of the cinema gave him a round of applause!
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Post by: nannyogg on July 27, 2010, 02:30:37 PM
My son was about 5 when Star Wars Episode 2 came out, he is a huge Star Wars fan (as are his parents) so we all went together for opening night, with some friends for the 7 pm show (so DS wouldn't be up too late).  We spent the day discussing theatre behavior, and how he was going to sit between mom and I and he could whisper us questions, but no louder than a whisper.

We got to the movie and got good seats, on an aisle so if we needed to leave we wouldn't bother others.  The movie engrosssed him, I had never seen him sit silently for almost 2 hours.  Then the scene where Yoda pulled out his lightsaber to battle Dooku came on, there was a gasp from the whole crowd, and then from next to me "MOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER, YODAHASALIGHTSABERLOOKMOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER" In the most excited voice you can imagine.  I was super embarrassed for about 15 seconds, and then the entire theatre broke into laughter because it was obvious that DS was just so into the movie and the character.

One of my favorite movie-going memories.

Totally adorable, that would have cracked me up!
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Post by: catlady106 on July 27, 2010, 04:45:59 PM
My son was about 5 when Star Wars Episode 2 came out, he is a huge Star Wars fan (as are his parents) so we all went together for opening night, with some friends for the 7 pm show (so DS wouldn't be up too late).  We spent the day discussing theatre behavior, and how he was going to sit between mom and I and he could whisper us questions, but no louder than a whisper.

We got to the movie and got good seats, on an aisle so if we needed to leave we wouldn't bother others.  The movie engrosssed him, I had never seen him sit silently for almost 2 hours.  Then the scene where Yoda pulled out his lightsaber to battle Dooku came on, there was a gasp from the whole crowd, and then from next to me "MOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER, YODAHASALIGHTSABERLOOKMOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER" In the most excited voice you can imagine.  I was super embarrassed for about 15 seconds, and then the entire theatre broke into laughter because it was obvious that DS was just so into the movie and the character.

One of my favorite movie-going memories.

Totally adorable, that would have cracked me up!

This reminds me of the time when our high school band saw Spiderman while on a band trip.  There were some kids in the audience, and they all seemed very engrossed and into the movie.

At one part of Spiderman, there was a major fight between Spidey and another character, can't really remember who.  The whole theater was fairly quiet.  Then, the "evil" character knocked Spidey down.  From the front of the theater, we heard a young voice loudly cry "No, Spidey!  You can do it!  Get up!"

Cutest thing ever.   
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Post by: Ginderette on July 27, 2010, 05:31:37 PM
This reminds me of when I went to see Mr. & Mrs. Smith. The scene is in their battle ruined home with guns pointing at each other.

Dead silence.

From a young girl, "Just SHOOT him!" The rest of the audience laughed at loud, for that was a curious break from the tension.

The other time where the audience got very active was when I watched The Three Musketeers - when the Prince of France finally upper cuts the evil cardinal there was cheering to be heard.
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Post by: KenveeB on July 27, 2010, 06:20:01 PM
There's a big difference to me when people are just really into the movie and when they're being obnoxious and self-absorbed.  So someone who cheers or shouts something out at a tense moment is, to me, a fun part of the theater experience.  Someone chatting loudly with their companion the whole time is not.  It's a matter of whether it's a brief exclamation or a repeated thing, and how aware they are of the people around them.
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Post by: high dudgeon on July 28, 2010, 08:30:12 AM
There's a big difference to me when people are just really into the movie and when they're being obnoxious and self-absorbed.  So someone who cheers or shouts something out at a tense moment is, to me, a fun part of the theater experience.  Someone chatting loudly with their companion the whole time is not.  It's a matter of whether it's a brief exclamation or a repeated thing, and how aware they are of the people around them.

It really doesn't make any difference to me. Whatever their reason for talking, whether they are really into the movie, or too young to handle it, or developmentally delayed, or just being self-absorbed, it still doesn't make it any easier for me to hear the movie I paid to hear, and it's very distracting. While I'm sure many people found the kids' outbursts to be cute, I'm sure there were just as many rolling their eyes and wondering why their parents weren't putting a stop to it immediately and thinking about getting an usher. If the children are too young or immature to control their own behavior, no matter how awesome or exciting the movie is, then I think they need to be at the designated children's showing, or watching it on DVD at home.
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Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 28, 2010, 08:53:20 AM
Our local Regal theater has children's showings on Tuesdays and Wednesdays at 10am, I think.   They're not new movies, usually ones that have been out for a year or so, like "Tale of Sir Despereaux" or "G-Force".    I've heard of some theaters that have showings geared towards those with developmental delays, autism, aspergers, etc.   It's not as dark or loud as most theaters, to avoid triggering any sensory issues.

I think it's a great idea, so that parents with small kids or ones with challenges can still take their kids to movies without worrying about disturbing other patrons if their child gets upset, or needs to get up and move around or talk.   

I do think that if a little kid really gets into a scene and just shouts out once, and is quiet the rest of the movie, it's not too bad.   It's when kids are talking constantly and the parents don't show any sign of stopping them, or if the kids are scared and wanting to go home and the parents don't take them out cause they want to see the movie. 
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Post by: rose red on July 28, 2010, 08:56:17 AM
When I go to the movies, I never expect complete silence.  If I want and expect that, I will stay in my living room.  Clapping during the credits is fun.  One surprised reaction is tolerable.  That lasts a few seconds and then it's over and done.  However, talking on the phone or with companions, a running commentary, or doing that fake screaming throughout the movie is not tolerable.
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Post by: high dudgeon on July 28, 2010, 09:04:52 AM
I'd certainly understand that people can't help a gasp or a laugh or something like that. And I don't expect dead silence, because people can't help but make a little noise just by existing. But "MOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER, YODAHASALIGHTSABERLOOKMOMDADYODAHASALIGHTSABER" or "Don't go down to the basement! You'll be killed" are not appropriate theater behavior for a non-children's showing.
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Post by: Cellardoor14 on July 28, 2010, 09:08:24 AM
Robert Redford and Brad Pitt movie.....about spies I think and for the life of me can't think what it was called..anyhoo, was there with DH, my sister and my sisters BF (bodybuilder, could crack walnuts with one hand...this is important, but a very sweet, non confrontational guy)  A group of (we call them hoodies or chavs over here, dunno what you guys across the pond would call them...lets just say feral youths who would not know how to behave in public if it jumped up and bit them in the butt)  The movie had been on for about 10 minutes when the noise starts, shouting among themselves, text messages, loud phone conversations, throwing popcorn, swearing etc.  I lost it and marched down and informed them that I had paid to see the movie, not find out all the details of their friends personal lives and could they please quiet down.  This resulted in a serious amount of verbal abuse to which I did not take kindly.....the next shout was "JERRY!"  So down Jerry comes.  All 6'4" of him.  (He's nearly as wide too!)  He quietly informed them that if they didn't either shut up or leave he wouldn't be held responsible for the consequences.  They cleared out after that.  I did ask Jerry what the consequences were and he said "I would have had to get the usher"  We got to enjoy the rest of the movie in peace that the rest of the cinema gave him a round of applause!

We had a similar experience watching a film in a dodgy area of north London.  Mr Cellardoor is a pretty mild-manner looking guy (long hair, glasses..etc).  He is also not a large man, but he does easily speak his mind.  Anyway, we were watching a show when around 10 minutes in, twenty hoodie teenagers entered, and made a real fuss when trying to sit down.  They kept getting louder and louder until Mr Cellardoor said in a loud voice. "Quiet in front! The movie's started."  The kids whispered to each other, and one said in an affected deep voice "Who said that?".  Mr Cellardoor came back loudly with "I said it. Now quiet down or else!"  

And you know what?  All the kids sat down, and didn't make a peep the rest of the movie.   ;D

Edited to Add:  Of course afterwards when asked about about the "or else" bit, Mr Cellardoor replied "Or else I was going to have to talk to the management."
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Post by: KenveeB on July 28, 2010, 01:10:20 PM
There's a big difference to me when people are just really into the movie and when they're being obnoxious and self-absorbed.  So someone who cheers or shouts something out at a tense moment is, to me, a fun part of the theater experience.  Someone chatting loudly with their companion the whole time is not.  It's a matter of whether it's a brief exclamation or a repeated thing, and how aware they are of the people around them.

It really doesn't make any difference to me. Whatever their reason for talking, whether they are really into the movie, or too young to handle it, or developmentally delayed, or just being self-absorbed, it still doesn't make it any easier for me to hear the movie I paid to hear, and it's very distracting. While I'm sure many people found the kids' outbursts to be cute, I'm sure there were just as many rolling their eyes and wondering why their parents weren't putting a stop to it immediately and thinking about getting an usher. If the children are too young or immature to control their own behavior, no matter how awesome or exciting the movie is, then I think they need to be at the designated children's showing, or watching it on DVD at home.

Well, a one-time outburst is just that, an outburst.  It's not something prolonged that's going to keep me from being able to hear and enjoy the movie.  If it keeps going longer than that, then it goes into the "obnoxious and self-absorbed" category.
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Post by: PeasNCues on July 28, 2010, 01:17:34 PM
There's a big difference to me when people are just really into the movie and when they're being obnoxious and self-absorbed.  So someone who cheers or shouts something out at a tense moment is, to me, a fun part of the theater experience.  Someone chatting loudly with their companion the whole time is not.  It's a matter of whether it's a brief exclamation or a repeated thing, and how aware they are of the people around them.

It really doesn't make any difference to me. Whatever their reason for talking, whether they are really into the movie, or too young to handle it, or developmentally delayed, or just being self-absorbed, it still doesn't make it any easier for me to hear the movie I paid to hear, and it's very distracting. While I'm sure many people found the kids' outbursts to be cute, I'm sure there were just as many rolling their eyes and wondering why their parents weren't putting a stop to it immediately and thinking about getting an usher. If the children are too young or immature to control their own behavior, no matter how awesome or exciting the movie is, then I think they need to be at the designated children's showing, or watching it on DVD at home.

Well, a one-time outburst is just that, an outburst.  It's not something prolonged that's going to keep me from being able to hear and enjoy the movie.  If it keeps going longer than that, then it goes into the "obnoxious and self-absorbed" category.

See, I can understand that the obnoxious and self-absorbed statement can be a little strong, but I hate when people have outbursts at the movies because it's very distracting from the moment. It's hard to bury yourself in an important/epic point in the movie when a kid can't contain his excitement. :)
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Post by: Wendy Moira Angela Pan on July 28, 2010, 01:24:03 PM
I so know what you mean PeasNCues. I went to see Inception last weekend, and there were some emotional moments toward the end that I was getting really into. But apparently this kid behind me thought they were cheesy or something because he was laughing loudly. It was so annoying and distracting. Like, yes, we see you're very cynical and you think this is lame. Thank you.
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Post by: Outdoor Girl on July 28, 2010, 02:40:18 PM
I was at a movie where a group of young teens came trooping in to the front of the theatre during the previews, trooped back out to get popcorn and trooped back in with much giggling and chatter after the movie started.  And didn't settle.

My companion was getting more and more tense and I knew her outburst would be non-Ehell approved so I decided to speak up.  I was a little rude (pre-Ehell days) but much better than my friend would have been:

'Would you children either sit down and shut up or get out.  The rest of us are here to watch this movie.'

You could have heard a pin drop.  Then a quiet 'Sorry' from the front row and applause from behind us.
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Post by: libraryliz on July 28, 2010, 03:29:26 PM
I so know what you mean PeasNCues. I went to see Inception last weekend, and there were some emotional moments toward the end that I was getting really into. But apparently this kid behind me thought they were cheesy or something because he was laughing loudly. It was so annoying and distracting. Like, yes, we see you're very cynical and you think this is lame. Thank you.

I was at the last Harry Potter movie and it was packed.  During a very emotional scene, when I was fighting tears and other people were audibly crying (opening night) and the young enlisted man (military town) next to me was laughing.  I turned to my officer BF and asked if he could order him to be quiet.  But apparently that's not the way the military works.
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Post by: pierrotlunaire0 on August 09, 2010, 08:57:01 AM
Had to dig this thread up, because yesterday my sister and I went to the theater I said was so good about handling disturbances.  The movie was "The Other Guys," and the theater was packed.

In the row in front of us, but just to the right of my sister was a group of 4 - 5 teenagers.  During the ads and attractions, they were loud and getting louder with each passing minute.   The ad which told the audience to silence cell phones, and no texting in particular seemed to set them off.  One kid even waved his cell in the air, "Look at me, I'm texting!" 

I was sitting there thinking, "And here I was just writing what a good theater this was, and now I've got to get up and go get an usher or something."

Just then, the actual movie started.  From the row in front of the teens, a man turned around and said loudly, "Okay, NOW, shut up!"

From behind us, another man chimed in, "Yes, shut up!"

In front of me, the man leaned forward, and caught the eye of the teen who had waved his cell phone.  He said nothing, but even in that dim light, his glare spoke volumes.

Quiet.  Blessed quiet.  Now once the movie started, everyone was laughing, but I heard no talking from the teens.  It was nice that the theater has established a reputation for maintaining order, so that audience members felt comfortable about speaking out.
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Post by: jaxsue on August 09, 2010, 02:07:50 PM
Had to dig this thread up, because yesterday my sister and I went to the theater I said was so good about handling disturbances.  The movie was "The Other Guys," and the theater was packed.

I have to ask: did you enjoy the movie? It looks very funny.
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Post by: pierrotlunaire0 on August 09, 2010, 02:25:25 PM
Had to dig this thread up, because yesterday my sister and I went to the theater I said was so good about handling disturbances.  The movie was "The Other Guys," and the theater was packed.

I have to ask: did you enjoy the movie? It looks very funny.

It was hysterically funny, almost surrealistic humor at points.  The police captain was Michael Keaton.
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Post by: Sirius on August 09, 2010, 07:50:47 PM

I saw Volcano, which takes place in Southern California, in Chicago with two other native Californians.  We were cracking up at a lot of the inside jokes that no one else in the theater got.

I saw Blade with Mr. Sirius and a bunch of his lab technician co-workers.  The parts that took place in the police lab had them practically rolling on the floor with laughter.  One of the other patrons gave me a strange look (there were only about 20 of us in the theater) and I said, "Lab techs."  He nodded knowingly and returned to the movie.  Watching them was a lot more entertaining than watching the movie, believe me.  (Vampire movies are not my thing.)