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Title: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 08:06:34 AM
"... because they can't afford to get divorced."  :o

Said to me by a single woman, at a party where 3 married couples, including the hosts, were present, as well as a few assorted people. Within earshot of an 8-year-old, whose parents are, of course, married.

I couldn't even think of anything to say.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Bibliophile on December 21, 2010, 08:07:08 AM
Wow.  That is just...  No words.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: ShadesOfGrey on December 21, 2010, 08:14:20 AM
"Wow, that's a cynical enough view of marriage for 10 people!"

Or, more rudely....no, I wont go there, it's just too trite, and really not nice. 

I would have laughed as if she said something ridiculous "You cant possibly believe that?!"  "[her answer here]"  "oh...{wide eyed expression that makes it clear you think she's crazy}well, then, on to more pleasant topics! [insert topic change here]"
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Wonderflonium on December 21, 2010, 08:15:52 AM
I... she... wha?!?!  :o :o :o :o
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Ms_Shell on December 21, 2010, 08:23:18 AM
Wow.   :o  The only possible explanation I can think of is that she is herself divorced and wants to make herself feel better about it or something?  ???  I don't think I'd be able to think of anything to say to that either.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: PeasNCues on December 21, 2010, 08:26:20 AM
How does that even make sense?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: EngineerChick on December 21, 2010, 08:39:57 AM
Wow.    :o  I am having a hard time thinking how to reply politely to that comment.

Of course, I am wondering what her opinion is of people who have been married 30+ years (like my parents) or 60+ years (like my grandparents). >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 08:43:54 AM
"oh...{wide eyed expression that makes it clear you think she's crazy}well, then, on to more pleasant topics! [insert topic change here]"

This part there is what I did. My eyes bugged out, and I said that the cheese was just delicious.

Wow.   :o  The only possible explanation I can think of is that she is herself divorced and wants to make herself feel better about it or something?  ???  I don't think I'd be able to think of anything to say to that either.

I thought of the same thing, but I asked a friend later, she's never been married (the rude line sayer). Her parents are divorced though.

The word she said was actually even worse than low-class, it was closer to "redneck". It is very declassé to not have multiple divorces, it seems.  ::)


Wow.    :o  I am having a hard time thinking how to reply politely to that comment.

Of course, I am wondering what her opinion is of people who have been married 30+ years (like my parents) or 60+ years (like my grandparents). >:D

They are clearly poor people. Possibly country people as well.  ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: EngineerChick on December 21, 2010, 08:54:22 AM
The word she said was actually even worse than low-class, it was closer to "redneck". It is very declassé to not have multiple divorces, it seems.  ::)


Wow.    :o  I am having a hard time thinking how to reply politely to that comment.

Of course, I am wondering what her opinion is of people who have been married 30+ years (like my parents) or 60+ years (like my grandparents). >:D

They are clearly poor people. Possibly country people as well.  ::)

Which is hilarious, as my family are country people, and we have more than a few self-proclaimed rednecks in the family (who have all been married more than 10 years, oddly enough).  Guess I need to stay away from those city fellers with their high-falutin' ideas.  ;)

Seriously, good job on not commenting on this.  Even though you were gob-smacked, I think not commenting was probably the politest response that did not start an argument.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 08:57:08 AM

Seriously, good job on not commenting on this.  Even though you were gob-smacked, I think not commenting was probably the politest response that did not start an argument.

All that flashed through my mind was the E-Hell commandment: Do Not Engage The Crazy.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: phred246 on December 21, 2010, 09:26:48 AM
Only 10 years per couple? Between my siblings and me, there are more than 90 years of marriage! Add in my niece and nephew, make that 100 years!

Was it the Lunar Eclipse on the Winter Solstice that brought out this comment?



ETA: I forgot to use spell check!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: mechtilde on December 21, 2010, 09:38:51 AM
Thell that to The Queen and Prince Phillip  ;)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 09:39:50 AM
It was this Sunday, so lunacy may have been involved.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on December 21, 2010, 09:41:22 AM
That's one way to make yourself feel better about your inability to stay in a long-term relationship...
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: goldilocks on December 21, 2010, 09:41:55 AM
That attitude is actually rather sad.  I'm in my second marriage, and it rather makes me sad that he and I aren't likely to make 50 years due to our ages.  Many of our relatives and friends have been married 20+ years, and I'm a little envious of them.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Red1979 on December 21, 2010, 09:42:31 AM
I guess the President and the first lady are low class too, as are nearly all of our previous Presidents as well.  I probably wouldn't have been able to control myself from pointing out all the "low class" couples out there to the person so incredibly stupid and low class as to make a remark like that.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 09:43:38 AM
I've been married for 15 years and I'm 36. I'm low-class as well.  ;D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: mamakinz on December 21, 2010, 09:49:00 AM
Wow - I have no idea how I would have replied to that - but with that attitude, I'm not sure I'd want to be social with her - since she thinks I am low-class - DH & I will celebrate 18 years in Feb, my sis will celebrate 18 yrs in Sept 2011 and in 2012 my parents will celebrate 50 yrs married
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: mechtilde on December 21, 2010, 09:49:53 AM
I'm just coming up to our 10th anniversary- should I be consulting a lawyer?  >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: magicdomino on December 21, 2010, 09:56:25 AM
Ah, now we have the real reason for renewing vows.  If you renew your vows every 10 years, it's like you re-marry each time.  Kind of like renewing a lease. 

Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Amava on December 21, 2010, 09:57:46 AM
I pity the fool.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: DangerMouth on December 21, 2010, 10:11:26 AM
Ah, now we have the real reason for renewing vows.  If you renew your vows every 10 years, it's like you re-marry each time.  Kind of like renewing a lease. 

Only low-class people lease. The rich can afford to buy ;D

Kidding! Seriously, this woman seems to be confused between money and class (both the socio-economic kind, and the kind that can't be bought).
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 10:15:15 AM
Ah, now we have the real reason for renewing vows.  If you renew your vows every 10 years, it's like you re-marry each time.  Kind of like renewing a lease. 



Hahahah. It should be 5 years though, to be even classier.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jolie_kitten on December 21, 2010, 10:24:22 AM
I'd be like: "And the punchline to this joke was...?" (not sure if Ehell-approved though)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: MariaE on December 21, 2010, 10:24:48 AM
I feel terribly sorry for her! Just think how incredibly cynical / disillusioned she must feel about love to say such a thing. Of course that doesn't excuse her rudeness, but...  :( :( :(
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: CaptainObvious on December 21, 2010, 10:24:59 AM
Sometimes, there is nothing to say, a stunned (awkward) silence speaks greater volumes.

Holy Cow.

(I've been married too long, I guess....)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: hyzenthlay on December 21, 2010, 10:28:35 AM
Kidding! Seriously, this woman seems to be confused between money and class (both the socio-economic kind, and the kind that can't be bought).

Truth.

It's actually pretty easy to divorce if there are no assets and no kids. Really it's the middle class that might find a divorce costs too large a portion of their assets. The rich might wince, but they can afford it.

As far a non purchasable class, I've seen 'poor' people that had an amiable divorce and remained friends having realized they just shouldn't be together. And 'rich' people that were mean and nasty and kept the fight going for years, just because they could.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: sweetgirl on December 21, 2010, 10:28:59 AM
Actually that kid who created facebook is uber rich and he rents his townhouse. Lol. Well my comeback to that would be only rich people get divorced. And celebrities.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 10:45:17 AM
Actually that kid who created facebook is uber rich and he rents his townhouse.


This should have been my comeback when my cousin told me that I "really shouldn't adopt while living in a rental townhouse". Never mind I own an apartment worth more than my rental, but it is not in the city where I currently live, so it is rented there and I still make a little profit after taxes and mortgage. I also don't plan to live where I live much longer, but even if I did, I don't have downpayment on a second property to spare as that is exactly the life savings I amassed to raise my future child.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Twik on December 21, 2010, 11:01:22 AM
Actually, she's wrong on her statistics. Statistically, the rich stay married, and reportedly are very happy in their marriages. The lower/middle classes are the ones who are breaking up.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: TeamBhakta on December 21, 2010, 11:03:42 AM
Are you hanging around Julia Duffy's character from Intolerable Cruelty ? Eeesh

Marylin Rexroth: They bought Massey's argument. If I lied or cheated and was with Rex only for his money, then he shouldn't have to give me any.
Sarah Sorkin: Well, that makes no sense. Why else would you put in all those years?

*Cynical me wonders if the party lady has a married boyfriend she hasn't told people about yet. And hopes to pave the way for bringing him into the group with "oh he's in the middle of a divorce. everyone who's anyone gets a divorce after ten years lolz"
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Veronica on December 21, 2010, 12:42:16 PM
I'd grab DH's arm and say, "thank goodness we're poor!"
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Post by: Nora on December 21, 2010, 01:29:41 PM
I'd grab DH's arm and say, "thank goodness we're poor!"

This!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Iris on December 21, 2010, 02:51:47 PM
O.M.G. Dh and I just, like, totally had our 11th wedding anniversary. That 10 year rule is just, like, sooooooooooo five minutes ago. Doesn't she know that commitment is, like, totally in right now.

You totally need to get waaaaaaaaay cooler friends...
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 02:53:14 PM
Luckily this woman is a friend of a friend, not my friend.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: bluebirds on December 21, 2010, 05:32:40 PM
I don't know why everyone is being so sarcastic about this woman. She's clearly right. Divorces are the only true way of showing how much money you have these days - how else is the rest of the world going to know how much your spouse (and therefore you, in the settlement) is worth? I personally think that there is a real need to make divorce even more of an expensive luxury item so that only the select few can indulge in public.
If you had real class you would get divorced and tell everyone you know how much you're worth. Quit hating on the woman, she only speaks the truth.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: DangerMouth on December 21, 2010, 05:35:14 PM
I don't know why everyone is being so sarcastic about this woman. She's clearly right. Divorces are the only true way of showing how much money you have these days - how else is the rest of the world going to know how much your spouse (and therefore you, in the settlement) is worth? I personally think that there is a real need to make divorce even more of an expensive luxury item so that only the select few can indulge in public.
If you had real class you would get divorced and tell everyone you know how much you're worth. Quit hating on the woman, she only speaks the truth.

Toatally not getting your tone here. Are you being sarcastic or serious?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 05:40:51 PM
I think she was making a dig on current celebrity culture, and the fact that once people divorce, they get more publicity than before, and their assets all become public record, reposted all over the internet, therefore truly displaying their wealth.

I also wondered if celebrity culture didn't influence this woman's thinking.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: hobish on December 21, 2010, 05:42:58 PM
I've been married for 15 years and I'm 36. I'm low-class as well.  ;D

You poor, poor dear! Someone should start a fund for people like you. Maybe we could have a fun run or a bake sale or something, and get some of those raise awareness bracelets. What color isn't taken yet?



 ::) I am, of course, totally joking.

That comment (in the OP) is so off the wall it's impossible to take seriously.

Actually, she's wrong on her statistics. Statistically, the rich stay married, and reportedly are very happy in their marriages. The lower/middle classes are the ones who are breaking up.

Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: DangerMouth on December 21, 2010, 05:45:57 PM
I think she was making a dig on current celebrity culture, and the fact that once people divorce, they get more publicity than before, and their assets all become public record, reposted all over the internet, therefore truly displaying their wealth.

I also wondered if celebrity culture didn't influence this woman's thinking.

Ah, thanks.

In that case: ;D

ETA: I only did wonder because I know people who think divorces should be very expensive and very rare, so this line kinda threw me:
"I personally think that there is a real need to make divorce even more of an expensive luxury item so that only the select few can indulge in public."

(shoulda been tipped off by the "select" ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: bluebirds on December 21, 2010, 05:46:21 PM
Oh dear - not at all serious DangerMouth  :)

Partly Jan74 - I guess it's just the idea that it has got to the point where someone might make a comment like that in everyday life as though it was completely acceptable. I do feel that it's beyond celebrity culture - there have been a few cases like this in the UK in the past few years, and with the increasing number of people in the public eye getting caught by it, it seems that we have moved on from 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person' to 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person AND let the world know just how much money I'm making out of it'.

Also, where did 10yrs come from?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 05:48:37 PM
Oh dear - not at all serious DangerMouth  :)

Partly Jan74 - I guess it's just the idea that it has got to the point where someone might make a comment like that in everyday life as though it was completely acceptable. I do feel that it's beyond celebrity culture - there have been a few cases like this in the UK in the past few years, and with the increasing number of people in the public eye getting caught by it, it seems that we have moved on from 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person' to 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person AND let the world know just how much money I'm making out of it'.

Also, where did 10yrs come from?

I think it's a figure of "long enough to have kids and get past the small kid stage, therefore no longer having to tolerate the spouse you stopped loving years ago".
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: bluebirds on December 21, 2010, 05:52:52 PM
Oh dear - not at all serious DangerMouth  :)

Partly Jan74 - I guess it's just the idea that it has got to the point where someone might make a comment like that in everyday life as though it was completely acceptable. I do feel that it's beyond celebrity culture - there have been a few cases like this in the UK in the past few years, and with the increasing number of people in the public eye getting caught by it, it seems that we have moved on from 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person' to 'I want to marry a rich/famous/both person AND let the world know just how much money I'm making out of it'.

Also, where did 10yrs come from?


I think it's a figure of "long enough to have kids and get past the small kid stage, therefore no longer having to tolerate the spouse you stopped loving years ago".

That's a really sad way of thinking. I feel sorry for that woman now.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: hyzenthlay on December 21, 2010, 05:56:47 PM
Also, where did 10yrs come from?

That is kinda a weird figure.

I know lots of marriages that didn't make it past 1,2, or 3 years. After that they tend to hold on until 15 years or so. Which is the point where kids are becoming teens and you can fool yourself into thinking they'll be just fine with all this.

I don't think I've seen all that many 7 year itch break-ups, or even 10 year itch.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 21, 2010, 06:25:55 PM
Also, where did 10yrs come from?

That is kinda a weird figure.

I know lots of marriages that didn't make it past 1,2, or 3 years. After that they tend to hold on until 15 years or so. Which is the point where kids are becoming teens and you can fool yourself into thinking they'll be just fine with all this.

I don't think I've seen all that many 7 year itch break-ups, or even 10 year itch.


Pod. I've seen 2 months later divorces, and 50 years later divorces.

But I think any less than 10 years is ok as far as she is concerned.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Shiraz_Much? on December 22, 2010, 01:01:22 PM
Wow...my DH and I are in real trouble then.  We've been married over 12 years...but we've actually been together for 20 years!!!  :o  We must be living on a park bench somewhere. lol

I actually kind of feel sorry for her too...what a sad way to live your life.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Twik on December 22, 2010, 02:44:06 PM
I saw an interview with one cheerful social commentator who felt the maximum time a relationship lasts, naturally, is two years.

I'm thinking she's the sort of person who upgrades her cellphone as soon as possible, even if the old oen works fine for her.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Auntie Mame on December 22, 2010, 08:56:21 PM
Huh.  And here I thought my Dad and Stepmom were still married because they are perfect for each other.  It turns out they're just low class.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on December 23, 2010, 02:30:39 AM
I saw an interview with one cheerful social commentator who felt the maximum time a relationship lasts, naturally, is two years.

I'm thinking she's the sort of person who upgrades her cellphone as soon as possible, even if the old oen works fine for her.

I'm a horrible cellphone-upgrader. Married 7 years in february though. :P
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on December 23, 2010, 02:51:37 PM
Well, I have known a couple or two IRL who wanted to get a divorce but didn't because they couldn't afford it.    But that doesn't make this woman right.  At all.

She is one freeze-dried whackaloon.   So DH and I are coming up on 11 years and we're still married, does that mean we're low-class?  ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Ms_Cellany on December 23, 2010, 03:03:24 PM
So this couple in their 90s goes to an attorney and says <old person voice> "We'd like to get a divorce, please",</voice>

The attorney asks them a few questions, then says, "Well, this is simple enough. I'd be happy to handle it for you. If you don't mind my asking, though, why divorce now? You've been together for 70 years and you don't have much time left."

The wife says <voice> "We wanted to wait until the children were dead." </voice>
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on December 23, 2010, 03:06:33 PM
So this couple in their 90s goes to an attorney and says <old person voice> "We'd like to get a divorce, please",</voice>

The attorney asks them a few questions, then says, "Well, this is simple enough. I'd be happy to handle it for you. If you don't mind my asking, though, why divorce now? You've been together for 70 years and you don't have much time left."

The wife says <voice> "We wanted to wait until the children were dead." </voice>

***Claps***
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Ms_Shell on December 23, 2010, 03:07:06 PM
Well, I have known a couple or two IRL who wanted to get a divorce but didn't because they couldn't afford it.    But that doesn't make this woman right.  At all.

She is one freeze-dried whackaloon.   So DH and I are coming up on 11 years and we're still married, does that mean we're low-class?  ::)

You're just now coming up on 11 years, right?  So that means you still have a couple of months to live high on the hog before you'll have to appear on the Jerry Springer show, don't worry.  I still have seven years left of the glamorous life, myself.  

"Freeze-dried whackaloon"...I am so totally going to steal this!   ;D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 23, 2010, 03:09:56 PM
Joke was excellent!

For real though, I often wonder about people who wait like, 50 years then divorce. At that point I might find it easier to just remain "undivorced" like that article suggested. Sounds like too much aggravation for a 70-year-old to handle.

I think it might be ok to stay married as long as you've had plenty of drama though, with cheating and separations and all. You just can't be faithful for more than 10 years. That is super low class.  ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: magicdomino on December 23, 2010, 03:14:27 PM
So if being married for more than 10 years is low class, does marrying several times make you high class if none of the marriages lasts more than a year?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Ms_Shell on December 23, 2010, 03:16:12 PM
So if being married for more than 10 years is low class, does marrying several times make you high class if none of the marriages lasts more than a year?

No. It makes you Britney Spears.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 23, 2010, 03:18:17 PM
And if you remarry the same person, it makes you super extra classy.

You know, like Liz Taylor.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on December 23, 2010, 03:41:19 PM
Well, I have known a couple or two IRL who wanted to get a divorce but didn't because they couldn't afford it.    But that doesn't make this woman right.  At all.

She is one freeze-dried whackaloon.   So DH and I are coming up on 11 years and we're still married, does that mean we're low-class?  ::)

You're just now coming up on 11 years, right?  So that means you still have a couple of months to live high on the hog before you'll have to appear on the Jerry Springer show, don't worry.  I still have seven years left of the glamorous life, myself.  

"Freeze-dried whackaloon"...I am so totally going to steal this!   ;D

Our anniversary is in March so yes, we have 3 months before we get our White Trash Card.   I can't remember where I heard the term "Freeze dried whackaloon, but I love it. :)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: immadz on December 23, 2010, 11:21:39 PM
I think she was being facetious!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 24, 2010, 05:03:04 AM
I think she was being facetious!

Her deadpan is too deadpan then, and was not followed by anything to indicate that. She has said other classist things in the past as well.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: AmethystAnne on December 27, 2010, 02:10:47 PM
<sarcastic sigh> I guess I'll have to tell DH that we are low-class rednecks. We've been married 32 years.

Did that woman say anything about people whose vehicles are at least 10 years old?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 27, 2010, 02:13:28 PM
<sarcastic sigh> I guess I'll have to tell DH that we are low-class rednecks. We've been married 32 years.

Did that woman say anything about people whose vehicles are at least 10 years old?

No, and I don't even have any idea what she drives as the party was at an apartment, not a house. But I'm curious now as well.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: seeley on December 27, 2010, 02:16:41 PM
Woo-hoo! I guess we're on our way to the poorhouse!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Hanna on December 27, 2010, 02:36:55 PM
It would have required biting my tongue to keep from saying "That is one of those words that I think people don't use if they actually have it."
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: wolfie on December 27, 2010, 02:42:24 PM
I am going to make a guess that the 10 years is because I think that is how long you have to be married to be entitled to Social Security/pension benefits - even if you divorce.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on December 27, 2010, 02:50:54 PM
I'd be tempted to say "There's a HUGE difference between being poor and being low class.   Class has nothing to do with the amount of money someone has..."
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 27, 2010, 02:55:35 PM
I am going to make a guess that the 10 years is because I think that is how long you have to be married to be entitled to Social Security/pension benefits - even if you divorce.

Our local law says that even cohabiting for 6 months in absence of a prenup gives you half of everything that person has - pensions included. That is why I guess she was coming up with a figure of "right amount of time to produce 2.3 children".
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: gramma dishes on December 27, 2010, 03:39:31 PM
Uh . . . well, what is four steps lower than "low class"? 

We've been married for 43 years. 

I guess you'll be seeing us soon at a dumpster near you.   :D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 27, 2010, 03:42:34 PM
"4 steps lower than low class" is "the people on Cops".

It goes:

Low-class
People on reality tv
People on Maury
People on Springer
People on Cops

I believe that's the official standard.  ;D
 
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: LilyRose on December 27, 2010, 03:48:09 PM
I wonder what that would make my late grandparents (dad's parents), they were married just shy of 62 years. Their anniversary was Feb 14 and they both passed in Jan 2008 (12 days apart)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: gramma dishes on December 27, 2010, 03:50:53 PM
"4 steps lower than low class" is "the people on Cops".

It goes:

Low-class
People on reality tv
People on Maury
People on Springer
People on Cops

I believe that's the official standard.  ;D
 
;D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: rockchalk on December 28, 2010, 09:16:02 PM
I'd be tempted to say "There's a HUGE difference between being poor and being low class.   Class has nothing to do with the amount of money someone has..."

HUUUUUGE POD. Prime example, of course, being the "lady" in the OP's example... ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on December 28, 2010, 09:34:55 PM
I'd be tempted to say "There's a HUGE difference between being poor and being low class.   Class has nothing to do with the amount of money someone has..."

HUUUUUGE POD. Prime example, of course, being the "lady" in the OP's example... ::)

I've known people IRL who have VERY classist ideas.   My mother was one of them, which always made me roll my eyes because my grandparents were NOT rich people, rather they were good, down to earth middle class folks.   Same with my other grandparents.   My uncle said at my grandmas funeral that when they would ask her if they were rich or poor she'd say "We're rich because we have each other" and I remember they both treated everyone equally. 

But I always knew that my mom did NOT approve of DH and why?  He's from a middle class family.   MIL says she remembers when my mother first saw their current house maybe a year after they moved in.   IL's live in a 2br, 2bath Cape Cod.  It is not a big house, but then it's just the two of them and that's just what they wanted, was a small house with one guest room and a basement for their dogs to stay in, and they loved this one.   My mom came in and really looked down her nose at just how small this house was.   And WHY would ANYONE live in a small house if they could afford a bigger one? They MUST be poor!! Oooh I wish I'd known the "That's an interesting assumption" line then!

Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Master_Edward on December 28, 2010, 10:40:09 PM
Huh? ??? I haven't read the whole thread, but I agree with what PeasNCues said. It doesn't make any sense. What planet is she from? So then if you have lots of money you should get divorced? There's no logic to it at all. I guess she's never heard of something called commitment then. I have to wonder sometimes if people actually listen to themselves. That's just weird. And stupid.

Ed.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: JonGirl on December 29, 2010, 04:01:51 AM


I'm confused. I've been married only 8 years.
What does that make me?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 29, 2010, 05:39:40 AM


I'm confused. I've been married only 8 years.
What does that make me?


Classy, provided you get divorced in the next 2 years. If not... low-class.  ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Master_Edward on December 29, 2010, 02:06:45 PM
I was thinking some more about this. I've decided if someone said that to me I'd ask them what they meant and why they thought that just to see what kind of rationalization they'd come up with. And when they were done explaining themselves I'd do my best Spock impression and say That's fascinating and walk away from them.

Ed.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 29, 2010, 02:18:35 PM
I was thinking some more about this. I've decided if someone said that to me I'd ask them what they meant and why they thought that just to see what kind of rationalization they'd come up with. And when they were done explaining themselves I'd do my best Spock impression and say That's fascinating and walk away from them.

Ed.

This is an excellent solution. I hope I remember it if I'm ever confronted with such a nutcase again.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Master_Edward on December 29, 2010, 04:00:46 PM
Thanks. I'm sure I'd have to walk away from them to keep from laughing in their face about the explanation they just gave me. I'd love to hear this woman's rationalization!

Ed.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Raintree on December 30, 2010, 01:58:13 PM
"... because they can't afford to get divorced."  :o

Said to me by a single woman, at a party where 3 married couples, including the hosts, were present, as well as a few assorted people. Within earshot of an 8-year-old, whose parents are, of course, married.

I couldn't even think of anything to say.

Very rude and bizarre; I hope it was said tongue-in-cheek. And perhaps in response to a tirade of "why don't you get married? Find someone!! People who don't have children are selfish!!"
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on December 30, 2010, 02:14:01 PM
"... because they can't afford to get divorced."  :o

Said to me by a single woman, at a party where 3 married couples, including the hosts, were present, as well as a few assorted people. Within earshot of an 8-year-old, whose parents are, of course, married.

I couldn't even think of anything to say.

Very rude and bizarre; I hope it was said tongue-in-cheek. And perhaps in response to a tirade of "why don't you get married? Find someone!! People who don't have children are selfish!!"

Only if the tirade happened before the party, because nobody was bullying her there to get married. It wasn't tongue in cheek either. People were not even talking about marriage itself before she said that, they had talked about someone finishing grad school though, so the segue I guess was "major life events".
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Luci on December 30, 2010, 03:05:51 PM
I'm confused. I've been married only 8 years.
What does that make me?

There is still hope for you, I guess.

DH and I decided we love being low class (44 years), and the children haven't dug themselves out of the hole, either (19 years and 15 years). And our friends! Our families! Oh, my!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: drebay on December 30, 2010, 03:17:39 PM
What would be said about the couple the just celebrated their 77th anniversary?

http://www.mlive.com/multimedia/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2010/12/jack_and_ella_essenburg_celebr.html
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Perfect Circle on December 31, 2010, 05:53:27 AM
This is truly strange. I come from a long line of low class people then.

Luckily I've only been married four years. We can have another great five and half years and then of course to maintain our social status we must divorce. It's a bit of a shame as so far we are very much in love, but hey, it's the apperances that count..
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on December 31, 2010, 12:29:20 PM
What would be said about the couple the just celebrated their 77th anniversary?

http://www.mlive.com/multimedia/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2010/12/jack_and_ella_essenburg_celebr.html

They're incredibly trashy.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jolie_kitten on January 01, 2011, 06:06:24 AM
Now I'm kind of cracking up picturing the woman with a look of deeeeeep disdain on her face, telling Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth & Prince Philip(married for over 60 years or so) : something like "you trashy people, you! You low-class people!" >:D >:D >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 01, 2011, 08:16:15 AM
Now I'm kind of cracking up picturing the woman with a look of deeeeeep disdain on her face, telling Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth & Prince Philip(married for over 60 years or so) : something like "you trashy people, you! You low-class people!" >:D >:D >:D

I think they'd get an exception on the divorce cause they are royals. But she'd expect them to hate one another's guts, and avoid one another as much as possible - after all, how can you stand anyone after 10 years?
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: TeamBhakta on January 01, 2011, 10:38:32 AM
Now I'm kind of cracking up picturing the woman with a look of deeeeeep disdain on her face, telling Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth & Prince Philip(married for over 60 years or so) : something like "you trashy people, you! You low-class people!" >:D >:D >:D

Married 60+ years and keeps cereal in Tupperware on the breakfast table. That's one step away from standing outside describing to reporters how the tornado sounded
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on January 01, 2011, 04:12:59 PM
Now I'm kind of cracking up picturing the woman with a look of deeeeeep disdain on her face, telling Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth & Prince Philip(married for over 60 years or so) : something like "you trashy people, you! You low-class people!" >:D >:D >:D

Married 60+ years and keeps cereal in Tupperware on the breakfast table. That's one step away from standing outside describing to reporters how the tornado sounded

And describing what the UFO looked like. :)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: blue2000 on January 01, 2011, 04:43:41 PM
Now I'm kind of cracking up picturing the woman with a look of deeeeeep disdain on her face, telling Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth & Prince Philip(married for over 60 years or so) : something like "you trashy people, you! You low-class people!" >:D >:D >:D

Married 60+ years and keeps cereal in Tupperware on the breakfast table. That's one step away from standing outside describing to reporters how the tornado sounded

And describing what the UFO looked like. :)

"Wal, dagnabbit, Ah wuz just finishin' up mah beer, and Elsie there wuz scrubbin' the gravy stains offn' the crown, when that dang alien done made off with it!! How the hay-el are we goin' to explain this'un to the peasants? They'z already ticked about that thayre Camilla droppin' the scepter down the john!"
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on January 01, 2011, 05:17:12 PM
HEEHEEHEEHEEHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!   

Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 01, 2011, 05:58:02 PM
I love Tupperware. I'm extra low-class.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Lynda_34 on January 02, 2011, 10:22:20 PM
I used to sell tupperware, :D but I was married 15 years ;) been divorced over 20 :o where do I fall on this spectrum? >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 02, 2011, 11:23:42 PM
I used to sell tupperware, :D but I was married 15 years ;) been divorced over 20 :o where do I fall on this spectrum? >:D

You should have been married and divorced at least 3 times in 35 years, I guess.  >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Emmy on January 03, 2011, 11:07:28 AM
It's 5 years for us in March - half way to white trash!!

It's really an interesting assumption to think that anybody who is married more than 10 years is still married just because they can't afford a divorce.  Did it ever occur to this woman that people stay married 10 years and much longer because they want to stay married.  If somebody really feels that marriages shouldn't last over 10 years, what would be her view of marriage overall?  The definition of marriage is committing your life to somebody.

I think people who are used to sad/unhealthy relationship have a tendency to make outlandish assumptions about other people's healthy relationships.  DH's best friend's now ex girlfriend said my marriage with DH 'sucked'.  DH and I are very happy and love to spend time together as well as pursuing our own interests with friends, respect one another, are rarely fight.  DH's friend's girlfriend was very clingy, would get very upset and insecure if he wanted to spend time with his friends, they fought all the time, and she was upset he hadn't proposed after years of dating.  DH and I are glad our relationship sucks by her definition.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 03, 2011, 12:00:21 PM

I think people who are used to sad/unhealthy relationship have a tendency to make outlandish assumptions about other people's healthy relationships.  DH's best friend's now ex girlfriend said my marriage with DH 'sucked'.  DH and I are very happy and love to spend time together as well as pursuing our own interests with friends, respect one another, are rarely fight.  DH's friend's girlfriend was very clingy, would get very upset and insecure if he wanted to spend time with his friends, they fought all the time, and she was upset he hadn't proposed after years of dating.  DH and I are glad our relationship sucks by her definition.

When I was dating my husband, I was told that I must not "really like" him, cause I didn't throw fits of jealousy, keep track of where he is at all times, and I "let" him go out by himself.  ::) I do think some people have very soap opera based views of what a relationship should be like. I can't imagine tracking where someone is 24/7 so they don't cheat on you, but for some people, that is what it is like.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: PeasNCues on January 03, 2011, 12:04:27 PM
Our cousin's boyfriend told ShieldMaiden that their marriage was passionless and doomed because they did not have screaming, yelling fights.

ShieldMaiden and ShieldMan are two very rational thinkers. They do disagree, but generally just talk it out instead of yellling.

So they are doomed to fall out of love.

 ::)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: DangerMouth on January 03, 2011, 12:06:46 PM
Thanks. I'm sure I'd have to walk away from them to keep from laughing in their face about the explanation they just gave me. I'd love to hear this woman's rationalization!

Ed.

I'm not sure laughter would actually be inappropriate here. She said something funny, right? :D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jolie_kitten on January 05, 2011, 12:28:35 AM
When I was dating my husband, I was told that I must not "really like" him, cause I didn't throw fits of jealousy, keep track of where he is at all times, and I "let" him go out by himself.  ::) I do think some people have very soap opera based views of what a relationship should be like. I can't imagine tracking where someone is 24/7 so they don't cheat on you, but for some people, that is what it is like.
Our cousin's boyfriend told ShieldMaiden that their marriage was passionless and doomed because they did not have screaming, yelling fights.

That reminds me of a story that has been passed  in my family. My great-great-grandmother was a schoolteacher in a village in the Eastern part of Romania. As most of the village population back then was uneducated,  the schoolteacher was not only an educator for the children but also a respected advisor the whole community was turning to when in need.
So, one day, great-great-grandma is visited by this sobbing young peasant girl.
-Ma'am, she says, I'm desperate, I don't know what to do... my husband doesn't love me.
-What makes you think he doesn't? Great-great-grandma asked her.
-It's because he never beats me!!

Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Rosey on January 05, 2011, 06:49:37 AM
I'm sorry to say that this is not snakes in a restaurant.

There are a lot of people who are still married right now because they can't afford to get divorced. I didn't read this as her saying, "The only reason anyone stays married more than ten years is because they can't afford to get divorced."

I read this as her saying, "If you want to get divorced BUT you're still married after ten. long. years. of not wanting to be married, it must be because you're poor."

Obviously I could be wrong since I wasn't there and everyone else seems to have read it differently, but this just didn't come across as some insanely offensive and ignorant statement. I read it is a fact regarding the current state of the economy and divorces.

Of course, my reading relies on the idea that she used "low-class" meaning "not-of-middle-class-income" and not "people who are not classy."
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 05, 2011, 07:36:47 AM
When I was dating my husband, I was told that I must not "really like" him, cause I didn't throw fits of jealousy, keep track of where he is at all times, and I "let" him go out by himself.  ::) I do think some people have very soap opera based views of what a relationship should be like. I can't imagine tracking where someone is 24/7 so they don't cheat on you, but for some people, that is what it is like.
Our cousin's boyfriend told ShieldMaiden that their marriage was passionless and doomed because they did not have screaming, yelling fights.

That reminds me of a story that has been passed  in my family. My great-great-grandmother was a schoolteacher in a village in the Eastern part of Romania. As most of the village population back then was uneducated,  the schoolteacher was not only an educator for the children but also a respected advisor the whole community was turning to when in need.
So, one day, great-great-grandma is visited by this sobbing young peasant girl.
-Ma'am, she says, I'm desperate, I don't know what to do... my husband doesn't love me.
-What makes you think he doesn't? Great-great-grandma asked her.
-It's because he never beats me!!



The whole "screaming fight, break the plates" thing is just the politically correct version of the same sentiment that peasant girl expressed.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 05, 2011, 07:39:34 AM
I'm sorry to say that this is not snakes in a restaurant.

There are a lot of people who are still married right now because they can't afford to get divorced. I didn't read this as her saying, "The only reason anyone stays married more than ten years is because they can't afford to get divorced."

I read this as her saying, "If you want to get divorced BUT you're still married after ten. long. years. of not wanting to be married, it must be because you're poor."

Obviously I could be wrong since I wasn't there and everyone else seems to have read it differently, but this just didn't come across as some insanely offensive and ignorant statement. I read it is a fact regarding the current state of the economy and divorces.

Of course, my reading relies on the idea that she used "low-class" meaning "not-of-middle-class-income" and not "people who are not classy."

The word she used translates better as "rednecks", but I didn't wanna be offensive to people who have been called rednecks or anything, so I went with the more neutral "low-class". So she definitely didn't mean it as "poor", she meant of "of poor taste". It was said with a sneer, the same way one would say "Only tacky people still have mullets", or something like that.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Elfqueen13 on January 05, 2011, 08:39:41 AM
I seem to recall that Donald Trump's prenup with wife #2 had a 10-year clause in it that gave her a larger settlement after year 11?  Maybe that's where she's getting it from.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Twik on January 05, 2011, 09:15:21 AM
I'm sorry to say that this is not snakes in a restaurant.

There are a lot of people who are still married right now because they can't afford to get divorced. I didn't read this as her saying, "The only reason anyone stays married more than ten years is because they can't afford to get divorced."

I read this as her saying, "If you want to get divorced BUT you're still married after ten. long. years. of not wanting to be married, it must be because you're poor."

Obviously I could be wrong since I wasn't there and everyone else seems to have read it differently, but this just didn't come across as some insanely offensive and ignorant statement. I read it is a fact regarding the current state of the economy and divorces.

Of course, my reading relies on the idea that she used "low-class" meaning "not-of-middle-class-income" and not "people who are not classy."

But that's not true either. There are a lot of people of good incomes who don't get divorced even if the thrill is gone. Sometimes it's for the children. Sometimes, it's to look good to the outside world. Sometimes, it's because they have so *much* money, that they fear what they'll lose to the other partner. (It's one thing to lose half-interest on a second-hand car, and pack up the apartment furniture, quite another to visualize losing your vacation home in the Bahamas.) Sometimes, it's just apathy. If she meant, "people who don't get divorced because they can't afford it, can't afford it," she's being redundant.

And anyone describing someone else (even hypothetically) as "low class" is insulting them. There are lot of people with little money who would consider being called "low class" fighting words.

ETA: Further, she didn't qualify her statement as "people who want to get divorced for ten years", she said "people who are married for ten years". If she didn't mean that, she made a complete foot-in-mouth mistake.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Luci on January 05, 2011, 09:39:47 AM
And some of us stay together to honor our vows which are there because marriage has its ups and downs in freshness, joy and passion. We know we don't need to scratch everything we have built together just because we go through a short period of not feeling like honeymooners. We know that we'll get the feeling back again soon, and we do, because through it all we love each other.

Money and society have nothing to do with it.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 05, 2011, 09:42:41 AM
And some of us stay together to honor our vows which are there because marriage has its ups and downs in freshness, joy and passion. We know we don't need to scratch everything we have built together just because we go through a short period of not feeling like honeymooners. We know that we'll get the feeling back again soon, and we do, because through it all we love each other.

Money and society have nothing to do with it.

And this is what she can't even imagine exists.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Elfqueen13 on January 05, 2011, 09:50:02 AM
And some of us stay together to honor our vows which are there because marriage has its ups and downs in freshness, joy and passion. We know we don't need to scratch everything we have built together just because we go through a short period of not feeling like honeymooners. We know that we'll get the feeling back again soon, and we do, because through it all we love each other.

Money and society have nothing to do with it.

And this is what she can't even imagine exists.

But sometimes people are just disastrously ill-suited to each other and the 7 to 10 year mark is when they decide that enough is enough.  I remember seeing somewhere the the most common times to divorce are before Year 2 (wrong from the start), between 7 and 10 (enough is enough) and between 25 and 30 (kids are grown).
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Twik on January 05, 2011, 10:12:53 AM
EvilTwik would just murmur, "Yes, those grapes *do* look sour, Little Fox!" and move on.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: gramma dishes on January 05, 2011, 10:18:49 AM
EvilTwik would just murmur, "Yes, those grapes *do* look sour, Little Fox!" and move on.

 ;D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: boxy on January 05, 2011, 01:31:31 PM
I like Evil Twik.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: HermioneGranger on January 06, 2011, 12:31:26 PM
I've been married for five years.  Guess that makes me half-classed.   >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 06, 2011, 12:48:56 PM
I've been married for five years.  Guess that makes me half-classed.   >:D

Start planning the divorce, daahling. It is what all the high class people are doing these days.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on January 06, 2011, 01:51:51 PM
I've been married for five years.  Guess that makes me half-classed.   >:D

Start planning the divorce, daahling. It is what all the high class people are doing these days.

LOL!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Iris on January 06, 2011, 05:20:38 PM
And some of us stay together to honor our vows which are there because marriage has its ups and downs in freshness, joy and passion. We know we don't need to scratch everything we have built together just because we go through a short period of not feeling like honeymooners. We know that we'll get the feeling back again soon, and we do, because through it all we love each other.

Money and society have nothing to do with it.

And thank you for demonstrating how very wrong this woman is with your classy, classy answer.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Nora on January 06, 2011, 05:33:02 PM
And some of us stay together to honor our vows which are there because marriage has its ups and downs in freshness, joy and passion. We know we don't need to scratch everything we have built together just because we go through a short period of not feeling like honeymooners. We know that we'll get the feeling back again soon, and we do, because through it all we love each other.

Money and society have nothing to do with it.

And thank you for demonstrating how very wrong this woman is with your classy, classy answer.

Yeah, you really made it sound like it is. Like us. Darn you! ;)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: wendelenn on January 07, 2011, 08:35:36 AM
I've been married for five years.  Guess that makes me half-classed.   >:D

Start planning the divorce, daahling. It is what all the high class people are doing these days.

No, no, you can't!  You and Ron are meant for each other, despite all the bickering!  And you have Rose and Hugo to think about!  Hang in there!   :)
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: SamiHami on January 24, 2011, 01:22:01 PM
I think I would have busted out laughing at that idiotic comment.  I just don't think I'd have been able to stop myself. 
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 31, 2011, 07:27:14 AM
UPDATE:

I'm going to a birthday party next weekend where this woman is likely to be present.

I look forward to amuse you all with whatever new outrageous thing she may say.  ;D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Luci on January 31, 2011, 07:51:36 AM
Yes, please! We can hardly wait!
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: TeamBhakta on January 31, 2011, 06:43:59 PM
I hope you'll hum the song "Friends In Low Places" in her presence  >:D
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on January 31, 2011, 06:47:05 PM
I hope you'll hum the song "Friends In Low Places" in her presence  >:D

Bwahahah! She wouldn't get it though, sadly.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Jan74 on February 05, 2011, 06:52:20 PM
She did not show up. I'm sad now.  :P
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Iris on February 05, 2011, 07:47:14 PM
So am I.  :(
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: thatwave on February 22, 2011, 01:42:49 AM
Wow my first official post here even though I've been reading for years and even have some contributions in the archive!

Anyway, I just found this thread and have to comment. While the person who said this was making a huge, rude generalization, there is the tiniest tidbit of truth to it. I was in an incredibly abusive marriage and one reason I stayed was I had no money to get out. (One of my abuser's behaviors was to throw a fit and refuse to let me work or drive.) I personally don't correlate class with money, but there is some truth to the idea that poor women in particular might stay married because they feel they cannot support themselves alone. I know several low or no income women who are in miserable marriages but stay because they can't afford to leave. It is just one of the reasons a woman will stay in an abusive marriage. I also know a few men who refuse to get divorced because they fear they will lose everything they own. So I guess if you define "low class" as "low income," you could come to a roundabout conclusion that that lower class people are more likely to stay married.

On the other hand, recent studies show that higher education leads to later, but longer lasting marriages as well.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: drebay on February 22, 2011, 10:49:27 AM
I would never equate low income = low class.  Some of the lowest class people I have met had oodles of expendable income.
Title: Re: "Only low-class people stay married more than 10 years these days..."
Post by: Shiraz_Much? on February 22, 2011, 01:14:54 PM
Money doesn't buy class.