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Etiquette School is in session! => "Why would I want to do that?" => Topic started by: Klein Bottle on March 22, 2011, 02:03:59 PM

Title: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on March 22, 2011, 02:03:59 PM
The other day at work, a friend/co-worker said to me, "You should straighten your hair."  I know that sleek, straight hair is "in", and my curls are not really stylish, but I love my hair just as the Good Lord gave me and have no interest in ruining it in the name of fashion.  So, I said this to her, and she backed off really quickly, told me I have very pretty hair, etc. 

It's nice to have a polite phrase at my ready for situations like this, and good to know that it can be so effective.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Outdoor Girl on March 22, 2011, 02:26:37 PM
I also have curly hair.  The only time I get it straightened is when I get it cut.  You did great!  I think I'd be more likely to say, 'When you come over to straighten it for me, I'm in!'

I can't physically keep my arms up that high for the amount of time it takes to straighten my hair without severe pain so it just isn't happening.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: toontownnutter on March 23, 2011, 06:11:26 AM
Well done ;D I just usually say "it'd be nice to have the time to be able to straighten it" :-[ Seriously who has the time to spend doing that?
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Shiraz_Much? on March 23, 2011, 08:46:36 AM
Honestly, I'm not sure why you would want to do that.  I wish I had curly hair....mine is stick straight.  Embrace your curls ladies...they are gorgeous! LOL
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on March 23, 2011, 05:01:15 PM
To be honest, there have been times in my life I have longed for stick-straight hair, but I guess I either don't care all that much, or I appreciate my curls more, or both.  It was harder in middle school. 

Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: gramma dishes on March 23, 2011, 05:03:57 PM
I not only have straight hair, but it's also thin.  (Not due to age; it's always been that way.)
I can't even BEGIN to tell you how incredibly envious I am of those of you who have curls!!!  I'd have signed away my firstborn for curly hair!
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on March 24, 2011, 10:38:57 PM
LOL, many of the women in my family are envious of my curls.  My grandma was famous for always remarking that she wished she had my hair, and my mama is the same way.  Obviously, I got it from my daddy's side, and a lot of my cousins on that side have the curly hair, too.  My son has straight hair, like his daddy, but it has a lot of body, and he gets bead-head.  When he was younger and his hair was shorter, I had to keep a spray bottle of water in the bathroom to tame his bead-head in the mornings before school.  He has been wearing it a lot longer for a couple years now, so it doesn't stick up as much when he gets out of bed.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Outdoor Girl on March 25, 2011, 09:07:50 AM
I HATED my curly hair when I was younger.  Of course, that might have had something to do with the Shirley Temple ringlets my mother put me in.

Now?  I get up, shower, comb out my hair with a large toothed comb and head out the door.  Couldn't tell you the last time I used a blow dryer.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on March 26, 2011, 07:30:51 PM
Outdoor Girl, that right there, just as you describe, is the extent my morning hair care routine.  I tried using a blowdryer a few weeks ago, just to see how it would look, but it just made it frizz, (even with putting extra product in my hair.) 
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: irish1 on March 27, 2011, 06:39:44 AM
I can't blow dry mine either! I tie it up when it's wet, which stops it from frizzing. Back when I blowdried it it would stand out about 3 inches from my head on both sides! Of course, since it's long, it takes a while to dry, so I get people telling me I have to blow dry it or I'll get sick...
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: T'Mar of Vulcan on March 27, 2011, 07:01:08 AM
I know that sleek, straight hair is "in", and my curls are not really stylish, but I love my hair just as the Good Lord gave me and have no interest in ruining it in the name of fashion. 

You're the first person with curly hair I've ever met who likes it that way! My SIL has the most beautiful curly hair, and she has it treated with some fancy "chocolate" stuff that costs 1800 bucks (R1800; about $260) a pop to make it dead straight, AND she has to buy fancy shampoo that stops it from frizzing. So it's dead straight and while it does look nice, I mourn her beautiful curls.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: irish1 on March 27, 2011, 11:42:38 AM
It seems to me that almost everyone wishes their hair was different to the way it is. Maybe because we know the awkwardness associated with it?
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Outdoor Girl on March 27, 2011, 09:58:08 PM
I used to hate my hair but now?  I love being able to wash and go!

My issue now is that it is starting to turn white!  And the white hairs aren't as curly as the other hairs so they tend to be noticeable at the ends.  But, fortunately, I have blond highlights so the white blends in.

No dye for me, though.  First, white hair doesn't hold the dye well and secondly, anytime I've ever used dye or highlighted my hair, it was a mess for months, until it grew out.  I couldn't get enough moisture into it.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Minmom3 on March 27, 2011, 11:05:49 PM
I usually get compliments on my grey streaks.  The ones who ask why I don't color my hair are told I am FAR too lazy to do such a thing....  And I HATE skunk stripes with a passion.  Hell, I hardly ever cut my hair, I'm not about to spend the kind of money needed to color it,  and keep it up and looking good...
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Eisa on March 27, 2011, 11:14:08 PM
That's so cool that you actually like your curls! :D My roommate has extremely curly hair, and I think it looks awesome...and when she has straightened it [she only does so VERY rarely], I think that while it looks nice, her natural curls look much better.

My hair is wavy, and my routine is that I wash it, occasionally condition the ends, and comb it out. No blow dryer, no products, nothing. It's almost down to my waist again. :)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Information_queen on March 28, 2011, 11:58:14 AM
When I was in middle school and high school, I would have done anything to get rid of the curls. I hated them because they were frizzy and poofy and I couldn't do anything with them. I get it from Dad, so Mom had no idea how to help me. And Dad's solution had been to grow an afro until he joined the Marines. No help there.

But in my senior year, one of my friends mentioned a trick she had used and I tried it and now I love my curls!

The trick? Hand lotion. Scrunch a little hand lotion into just damp hair (there's a little wiggle room, but dry hair just clumps and it won't stick to too wet hair) and then walk away from the mirror. I usually brush my hair first, to get any last tangles the conditioner didn't get because I get really bad bed head - in fact, I call it attack hair, it's that bad.

The lotion is just heavy enough to keep the frizz under control. Other than that, my hair does its own thing. I like it that way now. I just get a good hair cut (I can't afford any place that might have a curl expert or something if that even exists, so I have just learned to be very detailed in what I need done), wash my hair daily to get the gunk out, and then brush, apply lotion, and go. Doing my hair in the morning takes less than a minute. I love telling people that, too. They're always surprised ;D
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on March 30, 2011, 07:35:31 PM
Wow, I never heard of applying hand lotion to tame the frizz!  I am going to make a "test run" of this process one day when I don't have anywhere to go, just in case my particular hair does not respond well.  It definitely sounds like it's worth a try, because, while I like my curls, I dislike frizz.  And, living on the Gulf Coast of Mississippi, that can be a problem.    ;)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Information_queen on March 30, 2011, 07:47:04 PM
Wow, I never heard of applying hand lotion to tame the frizz!  I am going to make a "test run" of this process one day when I don't have anywhere to go, just in case my particular hair does not respond well.  It definitely sounds like it's worth a try, because, while I like my curls, I dislike frizz.  And, living on the Gulf Coast of Mississippi, that can be a problem.    ;)

I lived in Baton Rouge for a couple of years. I know what you're talking about! It was a shock when I moved up here and had to remember to get my hair cut a little shorter to get the same dry length, because my hair doesn't curl as much any more! I kind of miss that extra curl....but its not like I don't still have plenty left!

The lotion never *completely* tamed the frizz, but it brought it down to acceptable levels. I have baby fine hair, though, so it was never going to weight down everything. But for the most part it added just enough weight to calm the frizz without flattening my hair.

I hope it works for you :)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on October 22, 2011, 09:15:54 PM
Hey, Info Queen, just wanted to update you & let you know, the lotion works beautifully!  It really helped over the summer, which was *extra* hot and humid down here.  The lotion also adds just a little bit of a nice "shine" to my hair...thanks so much for the tip!  A couple of my nieces have hair like ours, and I have passed the tip on to them, as well.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Marisol on October 22, 2011, 10:17:23 PM
Maybe this is telling of my age, but growing up everyone wanted curly full bodied hair.  I had a whole lot of perms to achieve perfect puffy hair.   Now I actually embrace my straight hair but love curling it too.

Maybe your coworker just wants to see how you look with straight hair.  Some people are just overly interested in your habitual look and want to see something new. 

As for humidity,  I have the opposite problem.  In humid climates any curl I put in falls immediately out, while in drier air the curls will last me all day, and the next day it will be perfect rolling waves.  I prefer dry climates.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Information_queen on October 23, 2011, 12:49:09 AM
Hey, Info Queen, just wanted to update you & let you know, the lotion works beautifully!  It really helped over the summer, which was *extra* hot and humid down here.  The lotion also adds just a little bit of a nice "shine" to my hair...thanks so much for the tip!  A couple of my nieces have hair like ours, and I have passed the tip on to them, as well.

Awesome! I'm so glad that worked for you. I also like that I can get lotion from Walmart way cheaper than I can dedicated hair products. And it smells better, too!
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: 8cowwife on October 26, 2011, 10:00:14 AM
But in my senior year, one of my friends mentioned a trick she had used and I tried it and now I love my curls!

The trick? Hand lotion. Scrunch a little hand lotion into just damp hair (there's a little wiggle room, but dry hair just clumps and it won't stick to too wet hair) and then walk away from the mirror. I usually brush my hair first, to get any last tangles the conditioner didn't get because I get really bad bed head - in fact, I call it attack hair, it's that bad.

I have to try this!  I am in Mississippi and half the time this summer I looked like I had stuck my finger in a light socket I had so much frizz.   Thanks for sharing the tip.
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on October 29, 2011, 10:26:43 PM
But in my senior year, one of my friends mentioned a trick she had used and I tried it and now I love my curls!

The trick? Hand lotion. Scrunch a little hand lotion into just damp hair (there's a little wiggle room, but dry hair just clumps and it won't stick to too wet hair) and then walk away from the mirror. I usually brush my hair first, to get any last tangles the conditioner didn't get because I get really bad bed head - in fact, I call it attack hair, it's that bad.

I have to try this!  I am in Mississippi and half the time this summer I looked like I had stuck my finger in a light socket I had so much frizz.   Thanks for sharing the tip.

Nice to meet another ehellion in Mississippi!    ;D  I totally feel you on the humidity.  Having lived here all my young life, till I left for college at 18, then returning in 2005, it's nothing "new" to me, and I usually am not bothered by it.  However, I am always looking for tricks and tips to maintain the curl and diminish the frizz.  We didn't have all these nifty hair products when I was a young'un.    ;)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: delphinium on October 31, 2011, 02:17:42 PM
I have naturally curly hair and I love it!    :) I just go to the hairdresser's and get it cut, washed and blow-dried.  Why would ANYBODY want to get it straightened? ::)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: diesel_darlin on November 15, 2011, 09:12:10 PM
I've always had mid-back to waist length poofy curly hair. Recently, my Mama lost her hair due to chemotherapy. I told her that when her hair went, mine would too. I got it cut to about 6 inches long. I was convinced I was going to be a walking q-tip because my hair is usually so frizzy. This has been the best. Haircut. Ever. It just curls so pretty and takes little maintenance. I still may try the lotion thing though.  ;D
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Klein Bottle on November 26, 2011, 09:16:56 AM
I've always had mid-back to waist length poofy curly hair. Recently, my Mama lost her hair due to chemotherapy. I told her that when her hair went, mine would too. I got it cut to about 6 inches long. I was convinced I was going to be a walking q-tip because my hair is usually so frizzy. This has been the best. Haircut. Ever. It just curls so pretty and takes little maintenance. I still may try the lotion thing though.  ;D

I am thinking of getting mine cut, too, but have also been worried about the q-tip thing.    ;)  It's been many years since my hair was short; I have been growing it out, with minimal trims, for almost nine years now, but usually wear it up, or back.  It's just not working for me anymore, and it's pretty useless having long hair when it's never worn down, anyway.  Your story gives me hope! 
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: diesel_darlin on November 26, 2011, 11:43:22 AM
Good luck! I was the same way with my hair. Buns or ponytail. That's it. I kept a headache cuz of all that hair knotted up on my head. I kinda miss pulling it back, but I've started using the Goody® elastic headbands to keep it out of my eyes.  8)
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: Roe on January 28, 2012, 12:42:06 PM
Good luck! I was the same way with my hair. Buns or ponytail. That's it. I kept a headache cuz of all that hair knotted up on my head. I kinda miss pulling it back, but I've started using the Goody® elastic headbands to keep it out of my eyes.  8)

I'm thinking of the pretty curly hair on the redhead from Dazed and Confused.  Her hair was just too cool.  Love the curls. 

My hair curls but not tightly.  It's more loose curls so I just straighten it.  If I fall asleep with my hair wet, I wake up looking like Mufasa! ;)  Lots of crazy curls. 
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: diesel_darlin on February 02, 2012, 09:10:22 PM
Good luck! I was the same way with my hair. Buns or ponytail. That's it. I kept a headache cuz of all that hair knotted up on my head. I kinda miss pulling it back, but I've started using the Goody® elastic headbands to keep it out of my eyes.  8)

I'm thinking of the pretty curly hair on the redhead from Dazed and Confused.  Her hair was just too cool.  Love the curls. 

My hair curls but not tightly.  It's more loose curls so I just straighten it.  If I fall asleep with my hair wet, I wake up looking like Mufasa! ;)  Lots of crazy curls.


Mufasa! LOL! I wake up looking like Albert Einstein with curly hair. If I go to sleep with wet hair I have to re wet it in the morning or walk out the door looking like I have stuck my finger in a light socket.  ;D
Title: Re: Used This Exact Phrase!
Post by: norrina on April 19, 2012, 02:20:24 PM
I recently discovered that I have curls after years of thinking I had slight waves with a lot of frizz. I'm still learning how to manage the curl, so I don't love it as much as I thought I would all my childhood years of wishing I had inherited my mother's curls. That being said though, I do appreciate the curls as part of who I am, and therefore only straighten my hair on rare occasion. I was actually very pleased that when I went to a new stylist the other day if I preferred her to style my hair straight or curly after the cut. I felt like she really cared about me as an individual, and not just another cookie-cutter appointment.