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Title: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on April 30, 2011, 01:53:58 AM
     A number of weeks ago I was shopping for a junk/movie night that we do maybe once every 6-9 months.
My best friend of 26 years was with me. He has an inoperable/no more operations brain tumor (8 years we have had past his predicted last weeks-YAY!) Well he was on one of those motorized carts. I had a cart and hung my cane on the babyseat along with my oxygen tank.
   Of course in amongst the regular and good for you food, I had junk food and some sodas for the other adults and kids. Like I said once in a blue moon and this was that time, these weren't our regular everyday foods right?
    So this couple walks by and the lady remarks "If my health was that bad I sure wouldn't continue with such a poor diet" And she gave me a death glare and a VERY large huff.Not the first time I have had someone make an assumption. I haven't been able due to health to go get my second fitting for my top dentures. I have had many people assume that because I have no top teeth I lost them to meth!! Makes me want to scream. I lost them due to some very teeth unfriendly side effects. If I hear it again I will definitely use this.
     After reading Kevlar's post and my experience I wonder if the grocery store was the last bastion of social graces and now it is open season. How rude is it to remark on the amount of items (Kevlar) has? having a large bio family and now a mix of 'strays' and bio I get this too. I often reply "yes I am" to 'you could feed an army/you going to feed an army' remarks. And how rude is it to comment on someone else's cart contents?
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Spoder on April 30, 2011, 08:02:52 AM
Wow, that certainly *is* rude! What on earth makes people like that think someone else's groceries are any of their busines?  ???

Good for you for not retaliating.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Raintree on May 05, 2011, 03:43:23 AM
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And how rude is it to comment on someone else's cart contents?

Very! Why on earth would they feel this is any of their business? If your health problems were due to a bad diet and you were loading up your cart with the worst food possible, it STILL wouldn't be any of their business. But they are making wild assumptions.

I frequently load up my cart with pre-prepared frozen meals. But it's for my father, who is elderly, lives alone, with mobility problems which prevent his cooking for himself, and needs his freezer stocked with things he can readily heat up and eat for the days when there is nobody there to help him. (I go over there to cook for him frequently, and he also has someone else come in a couple days a week - overall he does eat pretty healthy). I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?" Of course I know! I have my reasons for putting that in my cart. But if anyone actually SAID anything, that would be crossing a line.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Kitty Hawk on May 06, 2011, 02:33:08 AM
I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?"

That's an interesting assumption too, isn't it?  You don't know what they are thinking.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Iris on May 06, 2011, 04:09:09 AM
I'm afraid EvilIris might escape in that situation and loudly say to my friend "If I was that rude and nosy, I wouldn't go out in public". So kudos to you for keeping your cool. That woman was beyond rude.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Ms_Shell on May 06, 2011, 06:22:06 AM
I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?"

That's an interesting assumption too, isn't it?  You don't know what they are thinking.

Not at all, IMO.  She's wondering, not assuming, and she's thinking, not saying.  Therein lies the difference.  We've said so many times here that it doesn't become rude until it leaves your* mouth  - too bad grocery lady never learned that before she made herself look like a donkey's rump.   

*General you/your
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Kitty Hawk on May 06, 2011, 07:49:16 AM
I never said (or thought) that she was rude in thinking that.  I do think that her wondering about it is an assumption about what other people are thinking.  That's all that I meant.

For all she knew, they may have been thinking, "Oh that frozen rutabaga-pea-shrimp casserole looks yummy, I ought to go pick one up."
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: mharbourgirl on May 06, 2011, 11:42:00 AM
I sometimes see people looking at my cart and I wonder if they are thinking, "Doesn't she know it's cheaper and healthier to cook things yourself?"

A lot of times people are glancing at each others' carts purely out of curiosity.  Your life is different from mine, and a glance at your grocery cart is a kind of window into your life without actually intruding on you.  I find other peoples' shopping choices interesting, that's all.  You can learn a lot about a person from the groceries in their cart.

Other times it's people looking for inspiration.  Maybe the combination of things in YOUR cart is a combination that wouldn't have occurred to me ordinarily, but suddenly I've got a great idea for dinner or baking from something I saw you pick up.

Oh sure, people can be judgemental and make unwarranted assumptions, no question.  That's why this board exists at all.  Some of those people are no doubt making all kinds of assumptions about you, your eating habits, and your morals/ethics based on nothing but the contents of your cart.  This is why sometimes I like to put a really interesting combo of things in my cart and covertly watch the expressions on peoples' faces as I unload my Balkan yogurt, three long English cucumbers, pound of butter, and dog collar onto the conveyor belt.  They don't know that I'm making sauteed cucumbers with the first two things, plan to bake shortbreads, and my dog has lost weight and needs a new collar before she slips out of the old one on a walk.  The looks on SOME peoples' face clearly show that they're thinking all kinds of nasty things about my stuff.  This amuses me, but I never claimed that my sense of humor was any more 'normal' than the rest of me.  ;D
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Wonderflonium on May 06, 2011, 11:53:43 AM
I never said (or thought) that she was rude in thinking that.  I do think that her wondering about it is an assumption about what other people are thinking.  That's all that I meant.

For all she knew, they may have been thinking, "Oh that frozen rutabaga-pea-shrimp casserole looks yummy, I ought to go pick one up."

It's not an assumption, interesting or otherwise. She's just wondering if that's what they are thinking, not assuming that it is what they are thinking.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Kitty Hawk on May 06, 2011, 12:35:38 PM
You are splitting hairs.  I still think that her wondering about it indicates an assumption on her part.

Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Wonderflonium on May 06, 2011, 01:01:49 PM
You are splitting hairs.  I still think that her wondering about it indicates an assumption on her part.

I disagree.

Also, I'm not sure if you know, but we try to avoid using the "interesting assumption" line on other board members.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: supernova on May 06, 2011, 01:37:58 PM
Indeed, OP; you are to be praised for not retaliating.  One has to wonder at how deeply unhappy someone must be in order to make snarky comments about disabled people at the grocery store.  :(

As far as interesting grocery assumptions:  If you're ever worried that someone's going to be making assumptions about what's in the cart, just grab a large plastic tarp and a gallon of cooking oil.  ;)  That'll give them something to assume about... 
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Wonderflonium on May 06, 2011, 01:42:55 PM
Indeed, OP; you are to be praised for not retaliating.  One has to wonder at how deeply unhappy someone must be in order to make snarky comments about disabled people at the grocery store.  :(

As far as interesting grocery assumptions:  If you're ever worried that someone's going to be making assumptions about what's in the cart, just grab a large plastic tarp and a gallon of cooking oil.  ;)  That'll give them something to assume about... 

Choking on Dr. Pepper is painful!  ;D
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Fleur-de-Lis on May 06, 2011, 01:44:23 PM

(snip)

As far as interesting grocery assumptions:  If you're ever worried that someone's going to be making assumptions about what's in the cart, just grab a large plastic tarp and a gallon of cooking oil.  ;)  That'll give them something to assume about...  

Also peanut butter and turkey basters.  

I frequently look at my cart and wonder what other people would make of its contents.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Red1979 on May 06, 2011, 01:50:07 PM
Who are these people who care so much about others groceries?  What are they the grocery police?  It's ridiculous.  I tried to think about comments I've received on what's in my cart--one time I was asked about how I cook brussel sprouts (they were in the cart) and I shared my recipe.  A few times people have asked me where I found X item.  That's it.  And I've shopped for parties where I've had plenty of "unhealthy" items in my cart.  I don't think I'd be able to stop myself from going on some Julia Sugarbaker rant if anyone tried to comment negatively on what I'm buying.

Oh and if you *really* want to get some strange looks--go to the store and buy just one item--a can of whipped cream.  I once forgot frosting for a dessert I was making and took a quick trip to the grocery to get some whipped cream instead...

Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: O'Dell on May 06, 2011, 01:56:02 PM
    And how rude is it to comment on someone else's cart contents?

Very rude. You can think what you want, you can assume what you want, but you can not say it.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Iris on May 06, 2011, 07:12:02 PM


Oh and if you *really* want to get some strange looks--go to the store and buy just one item--a can of whipped cream.  I once forgot frosting for a dessert I was making and took a quick trip to the grocery to get some whipped cream instead...






I noticed the clerk's extremely frosty demeanor, but I didn't put two and two together till we were walking into the house with the groceries, and Fred said, "I don't know what was wrong with Betty -- she's usually so friendly when she waits on Wilma and I!"   :o  The penny dropped, and I had to explain to Fred just what had probably been on Betty's mind when she saw the two of us laughing and joking and hugging, while shopping for whipped cream and chocolate sauce. . .   >:D

Thank goodness Fred and Wilma have a great sense of humor -- it was a long-standing joke between the four of us, and Wilma immediately labeled me "Fred's other girlfriend!"   :D


On xkcd a while ago one of the comics involved a game - the challenge was to find the two items that would cause the most reaction in a cashier when bought together. It sounds like you two could be contenders in the championships, although technically I guess starsaphire would have to enter the couple's section  ;D
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on May 07, 2011, 06:25:56 PM
mharbourgirl and starsapphire I am so glad I had put the tea down. Takes a bit to clean it off this ancient monitor.
Iris I do believe  >:D Evil SeaSprite would approve in a different time and place of  Evil Iris.... (I am trying really hard to keep her in her cage these days)

I love the dog collar bit. It makes me want to be non etiquette approved and walk through the store with a choke chain collar and cans of whipped cream and cherry jars
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Ms_Cellany on May 20, 2011, 11:51:06 AM
On a camping trip with my sister (HungryHungryKitties) and her family, we stopped at a grocery store in the Middle of Nowhere for some last-minute supplies.

I stepped out from the store and yelled "I got the whipped cream and bungee cords!"

(for grilled bananas and a loosened tarp, respecitively).
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: ArizonaGirl77 on May 20, 2011, 11:59:57 AM
True story:

When I was pg with Z (my oldest son) I had run into the market to pick up some items for a BBQ we were holding that night. After picking up a couple of bags of chips and hot dogs I also grabbed some milk. So I head to the cash register and there is a woman ahead of me in line who keeps staring at me, my belly, and my items as she is filling out her check.

RIGHT before she leaves she turns to me and says "Maybe if you young high school girls would stop getting yourselves knocked up you wouldn't have to live on welfare and eat such a poor diet!" Then she storms out! CUE ME -  :o

First off - I was married, and 22 and wasn't ON welfare. I actually owned my own business. AND what does being on welfare have to do with a poor diet? AND I had milk!!! :)

That story sticks with me to this day!
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: wyozozo on May 20, 2011, 12:05:45 PM
I must admit I had to wonder about the purchase a 20 something, buff man was making at Walgreens the other day.

2 giant bottles of baby oil and a People magazine.


Just saying.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: padua on May 20, 2011, 12:48:39 PM
i admit to being somewhat self-conscious about what i put on the the conveyor belt. especially when i was trying to be a little more health-aware just before my wedding (and needed to drop a dress size). i couldn't help but think i was being judged on cheating just a little bit (does ice cream count as cheating? after all, dairy is a food group). for me, though, i use it to try to be a bit more balanced in what things i put in my grocery cart- i let everyone in line behind me be my conscience.

...

not that it works. i still can't pass up the ice cream aisle.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on May 20, 2011, 08:21:58 PM
This will be a bit long

ArizonaGirl the welfare=poor diet is a natural assumption in US society. Not without some merit as there are those who do indeed buy a lot of junk food with them, there are also just as many if not more that do not.
I have threee food stamps stories of which I shall share two here. I had an experience a bit similar. BG-My first dh left while I was pg (and it took several years to get divorced. Big mess) I was going to school on a "displaced homemaker" Pell Grant. Well a chunk of that went to childcare (this was a long time ago, no cc help available and stamps were still paper coupons) so in addition to be a work-study, I tutored privately, sold or traded ds' clothes with a consignment shop. That helped-you could either sell to them or get clothes in the size you need in the amount she would have paid you. I also collected cans. One night after a late lab I went to the grocery store. I purchased a lot of raw and fresh foods. A very elderly lady behind me said "Gee I wish I could afford to buy fresh strawberries. It must be nice." Now this lady had a ring on all 8 fingers with varying degrees/amounts of white stone and walked to a brand new Cadillac. I could have made quite a few assumptions-but those *diamonds* could have been glass or paste. The car could have been a gift or sweepstakes prize for all I knew. But it really didn't sit right with me because back then it was truly assumed people on food stamps bought chips and soda and used change for cigarettes and alcohol (neither of which i used nor did) You couldn't win. I had the thoughts that weren't very ehellion approved. But that was 25+ years ago. I thought "what I should put fresh fruit for my toddler back and buy chips instead? Not happening..."  and of course "Well then sell some of that jewelry and buy some" I however said neither. I also had the thoughts about the stones could be glass etc so it wasn't my place to assume she was well off.


The second one is also similar to yours. We live in town X and frequently travel to town Y. For many events. This day it was a park day with our homeschool group. Afterwards we planned to go a certain food market known for its naturals and organics. Something we don't have much of here. And though we go to Y a lot it isn't every day. Me and the kids are dressed for playing in the park. T shirt and jeans and shorts. Now we weren't covered in dirt or anything (I would have skipped the store) we are however a bit windblown and a tad sunburned. I had a cart and a half of groceries. Oh and in this story I didn't keep my shut but that too was long before E-hell. So he is paying for his purchase, looks at my carts and me and the kids. And ....opens his mouth...."You have no business using food stamps at *this* particular grocery store. You need to go to Kroger. I don't appreciate my taxes being spent so your family can have organic food!!"
I popped off at the mouth on that one and the clerk also recognized me and asked "will you be using your platinum card today?" That coupled with my statement made his eyes as big as saucers. I half expected him to have accused me of stealing my cc.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: General Jinjur on May 23, 2011, 08:06:06 AM
Oh and if you *really* want to get some strange looks--go to the store and buy just one item--a can of whipped cream.  I once forgot frosting for a dessert I was making and took a quick trip to the grocery to get some whipped cream instead...

Some years ago (before we knew one another) DH found himself running to the store for a couple of things he needed for an ice cream party for his nephews, then a date with his girlfriend later on. So he finds himself in line with two things on the conveyor belt: two cans of whipped cream and a box of jimmy hats. And who should be behind him but several of his students...of course.

Luckily he teaches college, and they thought it was really funny (at the time he was living in a very conservative area).
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Sterling on May 23, 2011, 04:51:27 PM
Because we all know that diet is the cause of all health problems  ::)

Can you imagine riding a cart in the store because you broke both ankles like one of my students.  She broke the bones while playing for the college soccar team. 
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: MrsJWine on May 23, 2011, 05:01:03 PM
Ridiculous.

We do all of our produce shopping at one store, all of our dry goods shopping at another (and most of our dry goods we get in huge quantities from the bulk foods section, which means most of our dry goods trips are for less healthy things).  At least 90% of our diet is vegetables, fruits, and whole grains, with a small amount of meat.  The things that person must think of us if she saw us in WinCo.  With two small, impressionable children, no less!  Scandal!

Seriously, though, IF I notice what's in other people's baskets, I don't generally draw any conclusions from it, except to amuse myself, as previous posters have pointed out.  I know I've brought some really hilarious combinations up to the register before.  It's not even that the assumption is the most likely explanation, though that still wouldn't make it less rude to say out loud.  If I were to try to draw a conclusion about other people's junk food quantities in their carts, there are too many possible explanations to really get anywhere (this is their monthly snack food stock-up, this is their dry goods store, they're having a party, and more).
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Stormtreader on July 11, 2011, 10:56:27 AM
I once got home to discover I had accidentally bought the most hippie basket of stuff imaginable - recycled toilet paper, faretrade chocolate, soya pudding, fruit/vegetables, the works.

The thing is, im the most junk/processed/snack food person imaginable - i just happened to fancy this stuff or it was on sale. If anyone was looking in my basket that day, theyd be shocked to see what I normally buy! I had to take a photo, sadly now lost through phone death, just because it really looked like id accidentally brought some elses shopping home!
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: BeagleMommy on July 11, 2011, 09:06:49 PM
I had a woman lay into me because I had a box of artificial sweetener, a tube of glucose tablets and several bags of miniature candy bars.  It was Halloween and I was putting together goody bags for the 150 or so trick or treaters I get every year.  Just because I'm diabetic doesn't mean I become the lady who gives toothbrushes on Halloween.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Twik on July 13, 2011, 01:52:37 PM
You know, if I were very ill with a terminal disease - I'd think that *then* would be the BEST time to splurge on junk food.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on July 13, 2011, 02:11:20 PM
Two college girls I knew who were roommates when I first met them went to the local SuperFresh together to get a couple things, and I can't remember the reason they were getting the turkey baster, but according to the one girl, they got a raised eyebrow from the cashier. 
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: padua on July 14, 2011, 12:07:48 PM
You know, if I were very ill with a terminal disease - I'd think that *then* would be the BEST time to splurge on junk food.


mmm... ice cream sandwiches for every meal.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: GreenEyedHawk on September 03, 2011, 08:52:37 PM
I do the same as many of you when I go grocery shopping; I look in my cart and wonder what someone else would make of its contents.  I used to buy a lot of frozen meals (like those Healthy Steamers, or Stouffer's or whatever) to bring to work with me for lunch.  And because I only would go for groceries once a month, I would really stock up.  I'd imagine people would think I had no idea where my kitchen was or how to use anything in it, LOL.

More on-topic, I was once fostering a litter of baby puppies for a local rescue; they'd been found in a local dump, along with their mother, who died a day or two later.  The pups were still very young, like their eyes weren't even open yet, and because it was quite late in the evening and no pet stores were open, I ran to the nearby drug store and picked up some powdered, lactose-free baby formula.  (Not the best thing for baby pups, but it works in a pinch until you can get your hands on actual puppy milk formula.)  These two older ladies were behind me and I could hear them commenting on "babies having babies" and how shameful it was that I was a "teen mother" and so on.  (For the record, I was 24 at the time.  Hardly a baby and perfectly old enough to be married and having kids, if I'd wanted.)  I turned around, raised my eyebrow and said, "That's quite the assumption you're making." then I just faced forward again, got to the cashier, paid for my stuff and walked out.  I wasn't buying the formula for my baby, or even a HUMAN baby, and yet it seemed surprisingly easy for those two women to judge me and automatically assume I was an unwed teenage mother.  "Trashy" was about the kindest thing they had to say about me.

However, I did choose to take it as a compliment that at 24, I still could be mistaken for 16  ;D
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on September 04, 2011, 10:19:32 AM
I might have if it was terminal. All 18 (yes 18 you read that right lol) conditions/illness are chronic but not terminal. Terminal I would possibly had done something not e-hell approved....
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Lady Snowdon on October 15, 2011, 07:44:31 PM
DH works at a food production facility, and occasionally runs out of some small ingredient that they *have* to have in order to continue production for the day.  He says you really get strange looks when you go into a store and buy 6 lbs of cilantro, or clean out the store's shelves of one specific spice blend, but nothing else!  :P

Strangely enough, the weirdest looks (and most interesting assumption) I've ever gotten was last week, when I was buying paper goods.  I needed paper towels, toilet paper, and I think canning jars.  As I was walking up to the cash registers, someone walking by paused, gave me a really strange look and then walked off muttering about people who don't understand how to keep a clean house.  ???  I guess in their mind you always buy cleaning solution with your paper towels?
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on October 23, 2011, 11:48:07 PM
Wow Dogzard that was really off and a bit out there. Wonder how that person came up with the equation of paper towels and toilet paper=poor housekeeping skills....
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on October 24, 2011, 11:27:17 PM
I am so doing something not e-hell approved-being very loud and cracking up from the personal item comeback....
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: violinp on October 25, 2011, 12:16:48 AM
I'm going to have to start using the "interesting assumption" response when cashiers comment on my cart contents... I am a single, young girl who can usually only shop sometime around 9 pm, so I've come across many cashiers/standers-in-line who try to strike up a conversation with me, and if they say something a bit insulting or intrusive I usually respond in a way that puts their foot in their mouth.

Example (that actually happened)...
Cashier: "Wow, that's a lot of (sanitary) pads! Must be that time of the month, huh? *wink wink*"
Me: "No, my husband decided to try using my backdoor and it was disastrous."

HAAAAAAAAAAAA.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: KB on November 13, 2011, 04:14:00 AM
You know, if I were very ill with a terminal disease - I'd think that *then* would be the BEST time to splurge on junk food.

My mother stopped dieting on the day she got diagnosed with brain cancer. She was very happy about it, too!

As for my story, I'm a big girl and pretty self-conscious. I eat well though, but on this particular day I was buying Diet Coke, my soft-drink of choice (I actually hate the taste of normal Coke). The woman behind me in the line looked at my groceries, looked me up and down and said, loudly, "It's not helping, you know."

I wished long and hard for an appropriate comeback, but sadly came up empty-handed. I've got one now though...
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: jazzbeat on November 22, 2011, 01:37:05 AM
I really don't understand that type of mentality.  If you bought jars of baby food, would the assumption be that you are consuming the food yourself?

A good friend of mine recently lost 50 pounds and decided to buy one treat for herself:  a regular-sized candy bar.  Since she still had about 50 pounds to lose,  one guy just assumed that was her regular diet and made some nasty comment to her.  She was upset because she had worked very hard and was starting to get into better shape and just wanted one sweet.

Assumptions are often wrong.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: SeaSprite on November 22, 2011, 07:50:36 AM
"As for my story, I'm a big girl and pretty self-conscious. I eat well though, but on this particular day I was buying Diet Coke, my soft-drink of choice (I actually hate the taste of normal Coke). The woman behind me in the line looked at my groceries, looked me up and down and said, loudly, "It's not helping, you know."

"A good friend of mine recently lost 50 pounds and decided to buy one treat for herself:  a regular-sized candy bar.  Since she still had about 50 pounds to lose,  one guy just assumed that was her regular diet and made some nasty comment to her.  She was upset because she had worked very hard and was starting to get into better shape and just wanted one sweet"

WHAT is it with these people who think they are the food police ? Especially for a perfect stranger no less?
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: lady_disdain on November 22, 2011, 09:45:22 AM
Two college girls I knew who were roommates when I first met them went to the local SuperFresh together to get a couple things, and I can't remember the reason they were getting the turkey baster, but according to the one girl, they got a raised eyebrow from the cashier. 

It is a sad world when people first consider the more unusual use of a turkey baster instead of figuring that some people like to roast. After all, I would think it more likely that college girls could cook than the alternative.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: hobish on November 22, 2011, 10:26:29 AM
I think the most curious group of items I have ever bought together was birth control, Tampax, and a giant bag of kitty litter. A friend was in line with me and commented that “exfoliate the uterus” is one of the more painful phrases in the English language. The poor cashier could not stop laughing; it was fun.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: alkira6 on November 22, 2011, 10:58:44 AM
The only real reactions I have had to my carts is when

1. I bought cases of pads, becasue they were on sale and I had stupidly good coupons. What - they store well and it's one less thing to pay full price for.

2. I had a couple hundred pounds of dogfood on a cart at Sam's and had balanced some nacho cheese on top. I didn't realize that people were laughing at me/giving me weird looks until the cashier asked me how it takes. I gave her a huh look and she told me that I had been staring at the cart going something like "nummy nummy nummy, mmmmmm". In my defence, I hadn't eaten all day and my Mom had come over and made dinner, so I was really looking forward to going home and eating.

3. As far as a cart giving me a rep, try being a teacher going through the checkout with three absolutely gorgeous men, condoms, baby oil, and chocolate ice cream. I was stared at in awe and some disgust for the rest of the school year.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Irishkitty on November 22, 2011, 11:02:56 AM
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3. As far as a cart giving me a rep, try being a teacher going through the checkout with three absolutely gorgeous men, condoms, baby oil, and chocolate ice cream. I was stared at in awe and some disgust for the rest of the school year.

 >:D My mind, it wonders about the background to this... I'm making a lot of interesting assumptions!
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Mal on November 22, 2011, 11:07:26 AM
That reminds me of a sketch done by one of my favorite comedians.
She stood at the checkout with butter and a box of condoms, but got self-conscious because of an elderly woman behind her staring at her in disgust and said to the cashier: "I need them to freeze zucchini, do you have them without strawberry taste?"
To which the cashier replied conspirationally: "Come on, sometimes you just need to not give a dingdangity."
That prompted her to say: "You're right. Cancel the butter, I'll be right back with a pot of petroleum jelly."
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Post by: alkira6 on November 22, 2011, 11:13:24 AM
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3. As far as a cart giving me a rep, try being a teacher going through the checkout with three absolutely gorgeous men, condoms, baby oil, and chocolate ice cream. I was stared at in awe and some disgust for the rest of the school year.

 >:D My mind, it wonders about the background to this... I'm making a lot of interesting assumptions!

The only thing that involved me was the chocolate ice cream as it was my reward/bribe for the ride to the store. Interesting assumptions can abound with abandon for the guys.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Twik on November 22, 2011, 12:29:00 PM
3. As far as a cart giving me a rep, try being a teacher going through the checkout with three absolutely gorgeous men, condoms, baby oil, and chocolate ice cream.

I really need to know what store stocks all four of those items at once.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: hobish on November 22, 2011, 12:38:43 PM
3. As far as a cart giving me a rep, try being a teacher going through the checkout with three absolutely gorgeous men, condoms, baby oil, and chocolate ice cream.

I really need to know what store stocks all four of those items at once.

Superstores, aka the suburban plague.

Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Harriet Jones on November 22, 2011, 12:40:55 PM
Even the gorgeous men?  ;)
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: hobish on November 22, 2011, 12:45:12 PM
Even the gorgeous men?  ;)

LOL, i choked when i read that. The gorgeous men bit went right over my head :P  Yeah, i am doubting there are a whole lot of them at superstores. I haven't noticed a plethora of them, myself. Sorry - i hope  didn't get your hopes up.  ;) :)

Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Pinky830 on November 22, 2011, 12:48:29 PM
When DH and I were in college, he was about to go to the store to get some Vaseline for his roommate. The roomie was sharpening and airproofing some survival knives IIRC. Anyway, he asked the crowd in the hall at large if anyone needed anything from the store. One girl was about to make a salad and asked him to get a cucumber! He refused. He said he wasn't buying Vaseline and a cucumber at the store.
Title: Re: Wish I had thought of this a number of weeks ago at the supermarket
Post by: Iris on November 22, 2011, 02:07:28 PM
Even the gorgeous men?  ;)

LOL, i choked when i read that. The gorgeous men bit went right over my head :P  Yeah, i am doubting there are a whole lot of them at superstores. I haven't noticed a plethora of them, myself. Sorry - i hope  didn't get your hopes up.  ;) :)

You got my hopes up. Now I'm all sad  :( No gorgeous men for Iris  ;)