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Title: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: NotTheNarcissist on May 06, 2011, 12:56:22 PM
Am I the only one that finds this rude? I say this because of the noises the person on the other end of the phone may hear.

I know people who do this regularly (both the office toilet & family members) and thought maybe it's just me...hence, this post to check myself.

Thanks in advance.

Edited to say: mods plz move if needed as I wasn't sure what sub-forum to place this in.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Erich L-ster on May 06, 2011, 01:06:05 PM
i would find it annoying having to hear it if i were in the same restroom, disgusting if i were the person on the other end of the call talking to somebody who was sitting on a toilet with their pants down.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: O'Dell on May 06, 2011, 01:14:39 PM
Honestly this doesn't bother me in certain situations. If it's fellow woman at a private residence and she pees and flushes, I'm fine with it. Number 2 or public restrooms or a man...yuck.

I've heard so many people complain about this that I wonder that anyone does it at all.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: WhiteTigerCub on May 06, 2011, 01:36:35 PM
Very hot topic alert.....

I agree that bathroom stalls are not an appropriate place to have a cell phone discussion. (especially in the office)
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: ncgal on May 06, 2011, 01:47:06 PM
Some links for you. Been discussed a lot on here..

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=90021.0

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=90589.0

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=7457.0

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=10768.0

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=26070.0

edit to add more links
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: NotTheNarcissist on May 06, 2011, 02:12:23 PM
My bad for not doing a search first!
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: audrey1962 on May 06, 2011, 02:22:34 PM
I find this really, really gross, yet my husband and his family do it regularly; only at home, never in a public place.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: QueenofAllThings on May 11, 2011, 02:34:04 PM
I will admit to occasionally doing this at home when on the phone with my husband (because he talks FOREVER) but never, never anyone or anywhere else.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: whiterose on May 11, 2011, 08:23:17 PM
I did it once. At work- I was not working a desk, I may have been at lunch. I was on the phone (my cell phone) with my mother. I had to go urgently. I kept talking to her while I went into the employee bathroom and did my business. She's my mother. She's a nurse. She knows my plumbing works well.

Almost anyone else I would have excused myself and called back later, though.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: VorFemme on May 12, 2011, 07:49:26 AM
I know a very few people (friends and relatives) that I have tried to POLITELY tell them that I need to get off the phone to "deal with something" and that I will call back in about five minutes - but, if they don't get the hint and end the conversation, I have been known to pee while on the phone.

I know, I need to get more assertive and just hang up...........but for some reason.............it makes ME feel rude for hanging up.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Ambrosia Hino on May 13, 2011, 08:05:14 AM
There are some people that I will continue the conversation, others that I won't. Then again, I've had a friend that one of us would sit on the vanity while the other did their business, to continue our conversations...I miss her. Yesterday would've been her 28th birthday if her health had been better.

DH does it too (the phone bit). Most of the time, nothing is overheard (I think hearing the exhaust fan clued me in).

People I'm less close to, I wouldn't do it. I guess its one of those things where if we'd continue our conversation through the door, ok...if we'd maintain the "cone of silence" then not ok?

I know a very few people (friends and relatives) that I have tried to POLITELY tell them that I need to get off the phone to "deal with something" and that I will call back in about five minutes - but, if they don't get the hint and end the conversation, I have been known to pee while on the phone.

I know, I need to get more assertive and just hang up...........but for some reason.............it makes ME feel rude for hanging up.

oops...I missed the code before...sowwy mommy. I do require clue X 4s occasionally
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: NOVA Lady on May 13, 2011, 08:32:02 AM
I think in a public restroom it is rude to the other people in the bathroom.

There is a woman at my work that does this often - she will hang out by the sink for a long time chit chatting on her cell phone. It doesn't allow me to keep MY private bathroom business private. If she's at home and wants to stand in the bathroom while her DH or her uses it - it might be rude to the person on the other end, depending on how they feel about it - but at least she isn't effecting people who have no say on the situation.

Its not hearing her talk that bothers me (though her end of the conversation often makes me  :o and  ::) depending on what she's talking about) - its that my bathroom visit is being broadcast to the person on the phone. Its private, I want it kept that way.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: SPuck on May 14, 2011, 06:39:58 PM
I can understand getting annoyed by a person having long, regular conversations in the bathroom but some times you have no other choice. In the place where I work (both the office and the hallway outside) its difficult not to have a conversation in the bathroom. In the office itself you can hear everything, and in the hallways outside your voice echos because of strange acoustics.

I've also never had a conversation in the bathroom, I just understand why someone would do it.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on May 29, 2011, 09:27:21 AM
If it's someone I'm very, VERY close to, and even then, only if it's #1 and I can't hold it any longer. 

Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: JacklynHyde on June 06, 2011, 07:12:02 PM
One of my gal pals was actually admonished in a public restroom for FLUSHING, interrupting a cell phone conversation in the next stall.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: BeagleMommy on June 17, 2011, 01:18:10 PM
One of my gal pals was actually admonished in a public restroom for FLUSHING, interrupting a cell phone conversation in the next stall.

Okay, that made me go  :o
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: SamiHami on June 17, 2011, 01:25:31 PM
One of my gal pals was actually admonished in a public restroom for FLUSHING, interrupting a cell phone conversation in the next stall.

Okay, that made me go  :o

I would be sorely tempted to flush a few more times!
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: songbird on September 07, 2011, 09:58:19 PM
The woman who cleans the restroom at our office has been known to chat on the phone while she works.  She's in the restroom several times during the day to clean and replenish supplies.  It's very awkward when she's on the phone.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Mental Magpie on September 08, 2011, 07:21:52 AM
I'll admit, I walked into the bathroom at the airport talking to my mom, but I couldn't hear out in the terminal because of all of the announcements and it was about getting a script filled that I so badly needed.

I will also talk to only 3 people on the phone while I'm going to the bathroom, it's only ever at home, and I have asked all of them if they mind; seeing as 2 of the 3 do it back to me, it's not so bad.  They are my mother, my sister, and my best friend.  Best friend rarely ever gets it but if I have to go, I just let her know she might hear some funny noises.  She and I almost never talk on the phone (honestly, I hate talking on phones for very long but that's because I have a hard time focusing) and it's usually during a break of some sort, so we don't want to hang up.  It almost never happens with her, like I said, but neither of us mind.  I guess that's what makes it different, that I have asked, they have said its okay.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Piratelvr1121 on September 08, 2011, 10:27:37 AM
My best friend and I have been known to have marathon phone conversations and there've been times I've tried to hold it but one night finally said "I'll call you back, I've gatta use the bathroom."  She said "So? Go, I don't care.  I've done it while on the phone with you before."  I was surprised cause I'd never heard a sound.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: FizzyChip on October 07, 2011, 02:39:10 AM
I used to interview people as part of my job.  First round interviews were conducted over the phone, and I always tried to tee up a convenient time for the applicant.  So, it was with great surprise that just before concluding one of these calls, some 10 minutes in, that I heard the unmistakable sound of the dreaded flush.

I think I was caught so off guard that I exclaimed "Oh my god, are you in the toilet?" to which the applicant replied nonchalantly "yeah".

I realise that some times it's the old "when ya gotta go..." moment, but I thought at the time & under the circumstances he could have been more discreet, at least held off flushing until the call was ended.

BTW - I don't know if it makes much difference, but these were quite senior positions within the company I was working for and it was very off-putting to think that I could be working with someone who apparently had so few social boundaries.

Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Redsoil on October 07, 2011, 02:55:28 AM
Is it bad that upon reading the title, the thought of a "word game" came to mind?  You know the sort - where participants keep adding to the actions, until it's so cumbersome players start dropping out/adding outrageous substitutions etc.

Soooo, anyone up for a little game?

Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet juggling cats...

Next!
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: SisJackson on October 07, 2011, 03:57:37 AM
I don't take anyone to the bathroom with me - whether I'm out with girl friends* or I'm on the phone.  I've never had a conversation so crucial that it must be carried on while one or the other of us goes to the washroom.  My mother tries this, and as soon as I can tell (her voice changes when she enters the acoustics of her bathroom) I just tell her, "Oh, I don't mean to interrupt, call me back later, bye" and hang up before she can protest - because she will, and will tell me that it's fine, she won't be but a minute.  But it's not fine with me.

If someone else wants to have a phone conversation while they are taking care of their elimination business and I happen to be in the same public ladies' room, that's up to them, but I'm not going to be quiet or anything.  I know a friend who was called out for making excessive noise while a fellow toileter was talking on the phone (she flushed twice) and she said loudly "Oh, did I pee in the phone booth again?  Goodness gracious me!  I really need to be more careful about using a bathroom next time."

*I've been informed that I will have my Woman Card rescinded because I don't request that my female friends join me in the ladies' nor do I accompany my friends when they excuse themselves to go.  I've never understood that particular "thing" that some women do.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: cattlekid on October 07, 2011, 04:02:42 AM
My husband and his BFF will have long phone conversations when both parties are on their respective loos.  I have been known to do the same thing but ONLY with DH, because he has no problem with it.  However, these are not conversations that I initiate.  It's not like I take the phone into the loo just to see who I can call.   ;D
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Danika on October 11, 2011, 05:51:40 AM
Taking this thread to a new low:
In college, I lived in a co-ed dorm. The bathrooms were co-ed because the dorm had originally been intended for singlesex and so there was only one bathroom every so often on each floor. Numerous times, I remember having a conversation with a male friend and we both needed a potty break. We'd go in together and use stalls next to each other. Carrying on the conversation the whole time, while seeing each other's feet underneath the stalls pointing in opposite directions.
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Giggity on October 11, 2011, 07:23:59 AM
I think it's nasty.

I'm also amused by people who are all "ONOZ I don't want the guy on the other end to hear me!" Well, unless it's you making the call, by definition it's someone else making the call. The odds seem statistically insignificant that Callmaker is telling Recipient, "So I'm calling from the bathroom, and that's Juana making those awful sounds, by the way."
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: Moray on October 12, 2011, 06:38:24 PM
I will freely admit that I make absolutely no effort whatsoever to stifle myself just because my co-worker has decided the bathroom is the best place to have a lovey-dovey conversation with her boyfriend.

Seriously, you initiated a conversation in the bathroom and expected there not to be bathroom noise?
Title: Re: Talking on the cell phone while on the toilet
Post by: EMuir on October 24, 2011, 10:32:05 PM
I've answered my cell in the restroom at work because it was my brother, I knew he had a "situation" happening, and I told him to call me if he suddenly needed me.  The conversation wasn't long, and I wasn't going to leave him hanging.  What I do in a stall is my business and I take the risk of bathroom noises being overheard.

A woman who works for the same company, different department, actually reported me to my boss because she overheard me take that call.  My boss hinted to her manager that perhaps her employees should have more work to do so they wouldn't have time to bug him about such inconsequential matters.