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How can one pay for the next customer at Starbucks? We don't know what will be ordered. It could be a huge complicated drink and a muffin or a small hot chocolate,
You could maybe put X number of dollars towards their purchase. So you aren't paying for the entire thing, you're just paying a portion of it.

If you're at a drive-through and there's someone right behind you, then the cashier would have their total as well by the time you make it to the window.

Thanks.  Next: What about people in a line who pay for the one behind them, as I've heard is a thing now?

Isn't that what the quote tree is about???
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by o_gal on Today at 06:24:14 AM »
I believe redneck gravy means fundraisers. I was in choir. Every year we had a cookie dough fundraiser. The fundraiser helped to pay for things like sheet music and the like so we could keep the choir going. You could sell as little or as much as you wanted. No pressure. We also had other fundraisers for various things for the school in my younger years (field trips and the like). But you were *required* to sell. To help out the cause. I hated them personally, and the only one i actually liked was the cookie dough one was because well after i did it the first time I would always get "Is it cookie dough time yet?" :D people are *really really* eager to buy food.

And then there was my friend's clever way of getting out of "required" fundraisers. Every year the local HS band sells calendars. It's a good fundraiser - people in the community actually look forward to buying them. The calendar has advertisements and coupons from local businesses. But it still takes a lot of work. When asked if her son (in 9th grade, so new to band) could just give them a check, she was told no. Friend was also told that she had to work a "mandatory" 6 ballgames where the band runs a concession stand.

So she asked them how much total her son had to raise, between the calendar sale, a poinsettia sale in December, garden flower sales in the Spring, and the ballgames. Wouldn't you know it - he sold a calendar for $150! He sold 3 poinsettias at $100 each! Those hot dogs at the concession stand were fantastic, they sold for $50 each. And on and on, until he reached his total. The directors and band parents could not do anything about that, because he did his "required" fundraising  >:D
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The OP is really coming off as someone who, during the ceremony *will* object when the officiant gets to that part, then sob into her vodka martini all night or monopolize the groom.

Plus, she makes the whole no dancing bit as an attack against herself. Maybe the bride's religion forbids dancing. Maybe the venue doesn't allow it (happened at a wedding I went to. Something about the floor being too old). Maybe she's afraid her mom will make everyone do the Electric Slide and the Chicken Dance all night.
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Etiquette Hell Classics / Re: EH Classic - The Jealous Bridezilla 11-29-01
« Last post by MariaE on Yesterday at 11:52:28 PM »
"but I said fine, dancing with him wasn't something to cause trouble over or question her psycho ways."  That can be interpreted to mean that she said exactly that to him.  I will grant that it is possible that I am wrong, but that would be making an assumption.  ;)

Not really. I'd just assume it was a case of faulty punctuation.
"But I said 'Fine.' Dancing with him..." - i.e. she only said fine out loud, the rest were internal thoughts.

We still continued to talk on the phone quite often, and he started telling me about this girl he met. I note that you don't bother to tell us anything about her, not even a "great girl" or "he's in love with her"; just "this girl he met".
If talking to a friend, yes. When posting on eHell? Raises no flags for me at all.

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So things progress and I find out he is engaged to Jennifer. I wondered why since we were still great friends why he hadn't called and told me yet. We had contact through their whole relationship. Perhaps she wasn't aware of it until he proposed?  Perhaps she didn't feel she had a right to object until then?
I honestly don't understand your comment in green. You're playing the pronoun game ;) Who wasn't aware? Who didn't feel she had a right to object? And object against what?

As for the rest, I agree with Wolfie. No, the OP doesn't come out smelling like roses even without your comments, but you made a lot of assumptions that made her seem even worse than she managed to herself.
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Gardening / Re: Mel Has Fun With Aquaponics
« Last post by Nikko-chan on Yesterday at 11:40:27 PM »
So Jealous, Mel! Can't wait on this hemisphere!  ::)



ETA: I am the queen of typos

Bolding mine. Right? I have 2 more weeks or so before I can even plant my seeds!
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Gardening / Re: Mel Has Fun With Aquaponics
« Last post by RevMaxx on Yesterday at 11:31:08 PM »
So Jealous, Mel! Can't wait on this hemisphere!  ::)



ETA: I am the queen of typos
 
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Gardening / Re: Mel Has Fun With Aquaponics
« Last post by Marga on Yesterday at 11:19:52 PM »
Today's tomato harvest! ;D

Awesome! Now I want to make tomato chutney. :)
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: DECLUTTERING
« Last post by guihong on Yesterday at 11:16:33 PM »
I've hit a roadblock. Apparently, one of my love languages is "gifts". As I am packing/decluttering, I find myself holding onto something because [So & So] gave it to me. I still have a set of queen sized sheets we got for our wedding 22 years ago, even though we haven't had a queen bed in over 7 years! (They were from my mom's best friend; she went to a high end department store and bought the "upgrade" to the set we registered for at Target, and they are the nicest sheets we've ever owned. I can't get rid of them.) I know I need to be ruthless, but it is hard!

I have a friend who is doing the Kon Mari program, that Japanese book about decluttering.  She addresses gifts by saying that the gift served its purpose when it was given (it brought you happiness that someone thought of you).  You always have that feeling, so the object itself can go.  That makes so much sense to me, but I'm exactly the same way-I have every gift my students gave me in China 20 years ago.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by Nikko-chan on Yesterday at 11:09:58 PM »
I belong to a Facebook group for my community. Someone made several posts asking for GoFundMe donations for their child's school trip. They need $1500 and "every nickel helps."  That amount of money suggests a plane flight and an overnight stay.

Nothing about the child, what school, the purpose of the trip, or why the family cannot pay for it themselves. It could be high school seniors going to Disneyland's Grad Night, some bright kids invited to an academic decathlon, or just about anything else, academic or social.

The mods must have talked to the people because the posts have disappear d and there are no new ones.

My DD's band required that you sell so much of some useful/useless thing or another, you couldn't just write a check for $1500 or whatever it was.  The point was that they pull together as a team and sell items themselves and raise the money, not just have parents write checks.

I'm not understanding Redneck Gravy's post. "Required" that the studends sell? I am a band HS band member from the 60s with many band trips to D.C., NYC, Boston by bus from St.Louis under my belt (or butt). All six of our grandchildren are HS and college band members when applicable. DD was in both. DS is a HS band director and traveled internationally in college, and nephew won state teacher of the year award as a band teacher and takes his bands internationally. (Just giving my credentials.) I have never, ever heard of "required to sell." The kids are all given the opportunity to sell stuff or do public service that they get paid into their "accounts" if they can't afford trips or just simply pay the cash and be done with it. Some groups allow a student to work for the general fund or another student's account.

They all work together as a team to produce quality music and understand the economics of life. The only "requirement" is that they get the cash or not. The means are up to the family, student, and partaking of the offering to earn the cash by selling, working, or not. Don't earn or don't get supported, don't go. The end.

I believe redneck gravy means fundraisers. I was in choir. Every year we had a cookie dough fundraiser. The fundraiser helped to pay for things like sheet music and the like so we could keep the choir going. You could sell as little or as much as you wanted. No pressure. We also had other fundraisers for various things for the school in my younger years (field trips and the like). But you were *required* to sell. To help out the cause. I hated them personally, and the only one i actually liked was the cookie dough one was because well after i did it the first time I would always get "Is it cookie dough time yet?" :D people are *really really* eager to buy food.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Please stop talking to me in the restroom
« Last post by GreenGuacamole on Yesterday at 10:50:08 PM »

What I do is semi ignore therm- don't really answer, give a non committal grunt or "uh huh" instead of words, etc. They usually get the hint.


I do that too!
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