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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Help! Gender Reveal Party!
« Last post by JenJay on Today at 01:14:48 PM »
Thumbprint tree? You have one already sketched on a canvas. Then blindfold the parents. Put each of their thumbs in the paint and then guide to the canvas. While everyone watching sequels they take off their blindfolds. All other guests add their thumbprints later. And since your artistic you can fancy it up,before giving to the couple.

I was thinking the same. They could even take the extra paint home and let other people who didn't make it to the shower add a "leaf" later.

I think i would stay away from anything where the guests could feel awkward saying they don't want to be part of the artistic expression of what gender their friends baby is. Noone cares as much as the parents what gender the baby is and having to put someone on the spot to admit that they really are there for the cake and the company and it doesn't really matter to them what the gender is could be awkward. And to then bring it home and make anyone who goes to their home have to participate or admit they don't want to could cause hard feelings.

Well, I don't think I suggested lining up the guests in front of the canvas for a one by one thumb imprint. But leaving the canvas on the easel with the paint near by gives those guest who choose to participate the opportunity to do so. If I cared so little about the gender of this new born that I wouldn't be willing to get a little paint on my thumb I probably wouldn't be invited to the party anyway. But maybe these gender reveal parties that other have attended are much larger than the very close family and friends parties I'm aware of.

ITA with the bolded. If you accept an invitation to a gender reveal party, chances are there might be some interaction of this kind. If that bugs you (general) than you probably shouldn't go in the first place.

Not that I've ever been to a gender reveal party, but the ones I've heard about don't have the guests doing arts and crafts. The parents-to-be cut a cake or pop a balloon or do something else that reveals the baby's gender. Not the guests.

So I would be very surprised to attend such a party and be asked to get paint on me, or really do anything else other than watch the reveal and eat cake.

That would have been my suggestion, too, but the mom-to-be specifically asked OP for a reveal that could become artwork in the nursery after the shower. That's why we were thinking of the thumbprint tree.  :)
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We're not supposed to reheat rice and certainly not supposed to freeze it.


 ???

I reheat rice all the time.  Sometimes, a little extra water is needed if the rice dried out, but it reheats just fine.  I also freeze rice.  Brown rice takes a while to cook, so when I do, I make extra and freeze it.

Cooked potatoes, on the other hand, rarely do well in the freezer.

Oh yes, I take the rice leftover from my Chinese take out and freeze it to put in soup later. Sure, it pretty much disintegrates, but that just helps thicken the broth.
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These threads always end up the same.  Someone says "yeah I think it's a bit off to do X" and leave it at that and 26 people come along and accuse people of "getting all up in arms".  Are we reading the same thread?  There is a difference between simply having an opinion and being mortally offended.  Can't we just have an opinion without being accused of being upset?

POD - I think it's interesting to see what different people's standards of reasonable are. For example, in my circle a steak dinner would not be a good choice for a hosted dinner because many of my friends are vegetarians. I don't imagine anyone would call me rude for planning a steak-centric dinner party (or a hot dog centric one), especially if that was clear in the invite, but it wouldn't be a great move for me as a hostess.

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I think it was Phyllis Diller who quipped "Whenever I make anything from scratch, it tastes scratchy"  ;D.  I pull that one out when I encounter the scratch police.

Although I enjoy making pie crusts, cookies (and I count the TollHouse bag as "scratch") and fudge, it's more a mood thing when I just feel like messing around with food.  For years, I didn't have the space in my kitchen to spread out.  Now I do, and with cooler weather I might get the bug again :)
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Very happy for you and your DH. 
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There's a post on the Holiday board about the family that insists on hosting Christmas dinner and refuses to allow anyone to bring any dishes or drinks.  Year upon year, this family has served ham and water.  That's it.  Ham and water. 

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=131621.0

The consensus is, a couple of sides and something to drink besides water was expected, and is good hospitality (or accept people bringing dishes/drinks to complete the meal). 

I don't have a problem with the children being fed separately or having a different meal, but the adults got FIVE side dishes.  The kids got a bun...and ketchup.  I think some of those sides could have easily been shared with the rugrats.  Whether hot dogs are healthy or the meal was well-rounded is not the biggest issue.  It was uneven hospitality.





I read a lot of responses that said they'd stop going (which is an appropriate response).  This would be my response to the OP (or anyone else) who cannot eat a meal unless it's perfectly balanced.

Being a bad hostess just makes you a bad hostess....it doesn't necessarily make you rude.



Hmm, maybe I missed the responses that said that they would stop going because a hot dog was served with no sides. 

I think we are just using the word rude differently.  I can get on board with bad hosting instead of rude, it's just semantics then.
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There's a post on the Holiday board about the family that insists on hosting Christmas dinner and refuses to allow anyone to bring any dishes or drinks.  Year upon year, this family has served ham and water.  That's it.  Ham and water. 

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=131621.0

The consensus is, a couple of sides and something to drink besides water was expected, and is good hospitality (or accept people bringing dishes/drinks to complete the meal). 

I don't have a problem with the children being fed separately or having a different meal, but the adults got FIVE side dishes.  The kids got a bun...and ketchup.  I think some of those sides could have easily been shared with the rugrats.  Whether hot dogs are healthy or the meal was well-rounded is not the biggest issue.  It was uneven hospitality.

I read the consensus as...it's weird not to serve sides, but even weirder that the family would allow them to monopolize the holiday dinner hosting when they clearly don't like the level of hospitality provided.

My answer in that thread was very similar to my answer here...which is, you don't have to like it, but you can't insist on something else.  The family already knows that they will just get ham and water and yet the accept the invite.  In doing that, they accept the level of hospitality offered.  The ham family isn't rude...they are just different and odd.

I read a lot of responses that said they'd stop going (which is an appropriate response).  This would be my response to the OP (or anyone else) who cannot eat a meal unless it's perfectly balanced.

Being a bad hostess just makes you a bad hostess....it doesn't necessarily make you rude.

Being that this hostess actually called the OP ahead of time, told her the menu, gave her the option to do something different, and allowed it, tells me she was a good hostess.  She anticipated and accommodated for the preferences/needs of her guests.  There's no reason for me to assume that she didn't do that for everyone else.  The only child the OP needs to worry about is her own...and hers was fed and supervised to her standards.  To assume that the other parents (even in reading 'facial expressions' ) weren't given that same consideration, seems like a jump.
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Life...in general / Re: No thanks, I don't want to compete with you
« Last post by Zizi-K on Today at 01:01:18 PM »
I think I might take the approach of saying, "You know, it just isn't fun for me to think about or approach exercise/running in that way. I know some people get a kick out of timing and mileage and being super competitive with others, because it helps them progress as runners. But I have to tell you, it really sucks the joy out of it for me. What I groove on is the experience of being outside, wind in my hair, having time to myself to think/zoning out to my tunes. How fast or far I go? Not such a concern. So what's your favorite thing about the experience of running?"
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There's a post on the Holiday board about the family that insists on hosting Christmas dinner and refuses to allow anyone to bring any dishes or drinks.  Year upon year, this family has served ham and water.  That's it.  Ham and water. 

http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=131621.0

The consensus is, a couple of sides and something to drink besides water was expected, and is good hospitality (or accept people bringing dishes/drinks to complete the meal). 


Yep, having more than one item on a plate is standard hospitality, I agree.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Help! Gender Reveal Party!
« Last post by wolfie on Today at 01:00:36 PM »
Yes, the parents find out at the party. A friend gets the information and sets up the reveal portion.

The one I am most familiar with happened a few weeks ago, and the interior of the cake was the color for the gender, blue in this case. It's a fairly small party from what I have seen with 10-15 people, smaller than most showers.

I have to say that is the idea that appeals to me the most.
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