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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by Yvaine on Today at 01:26:33 PM »
Plus, vegan is not the same thing as 'inedible/disgusting to meat-eaters'.  I have some friends on FB who post vegan recipes that look delicious that also don't require the fake meat/dairy that can be off-putting to omnivores.

Yep. My sister was vegan for a while and we could always agree on hummus.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: DECLUTTERING
« Last post by siamesecat2965 on Today at 01:25:25 PM »
Hmmm maybe I should aim to declutter each section of the house twice a year. Every six months sounds not too overwhelming.

I went through all our medicines and toiletries, so my bathroom is looking pretty good right now!

Next up is my nightstand, at which point my bedroom/bathroom/walk in closet will all be decluttered.

I also sometimes find myself doing it while looking for something else! A few weeks ago i was looking for the vaseline. i know i had it, but just not where. That turned into me organizing my linen closet. didn't take me long, but I threw out a few things, and straightened up the rest.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by TurtleDove on Today at 01:25:11 PM »
So: if she did an etiquette no no by saying vegan only, is there anything to be done here? Although I think she handled it wrong, I do have to follow the rule right?

I think the answer depends on whether it is more important to you to be "right" or to be "happy." As other posters pointed out, it is clear you and/or your DH do not like this person. I am certain your son hears you loud and clear. I assume your DH is older than 20, like the GF, so I think he was extremely out of line to get into an argument with her and try to shame her from an etiquette standpoint. But from an interpersonal standpoint I think you and your DH might be creating a divide between you and your son that you may not be able to uncreate. I think you should consider whether this is what you intend.
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I'm coming into this late but I agree with the OP. I'd have been worried and this experience would have colored my future relationship with Lana and Mark.

As for calling the parents back home, I wouldn't have done that unless and until I was prepared to alarm them. My sons and I check in with each other when we travel, but we text each other at take off and landing, not after arrival at the hotel. I never know what hotel they might be staying at because we keep in touch via text/email on our cell phones so I don't need to know a hotel to know where to reach them if I need to.

The OP knew that Lana and Mark boarded the plane because they were already on board before the OP. They had every reason to believe that they had indeed landed safely in Mexico. After that, what happened to them was a pretty big mystery. Even if they hadn't wanted to spend their entire vacation with OP, I would have expected them to at least get together once during the trip for something, a meal or an activity or whatever.

So leaving everything else aside, including the worry and the possibility that it didn't occur to Lana and Mark that the OP would be worried, surely it would have still occurred to them that the OP could conceivable be trying to contact them for some reason or another.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by Harriet Jones on Today at 01:23:37 PM »
Plus, vegan is not the same thing as 'inedible/disgusting to meat-eaters'.  I have some friends on FB who post vegan recipes that look delicious that also don't require the fake meat/dairy that can be off-putting to omnivores.

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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by Yvaine on Today at 01:23:05 PM »
[quote author=SamiHami link=topic=142132.msg3462167#msg3462167 date=
Your husband's mistake was making a fuss about it. He should have simply made what he wanted to bring and just let folks know that it isn't vegan, so don't eat it if you prefer not to.

No. If you (general you) get invited to anything with a theme, it is rude not to adhere to the theme. You either respect the request, you RSVP no, or (if you're close enough to the hosts) you ask if it would be alright to bring something else. Just doing so because you can't be bothered following the request is rude and disrespectful.
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This. OP can always just decline.
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Holidays / Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Last post by siamesecat2965 on Today at 01:21:26 PM »


I am all in for those that want to do the big deal, the smaller deal or no deal - why do others presume to know what is best for your re1ati0nship?

I don't know, but it goes for other things as well! I can't stand it. I think it really has to do with social norms. And because a lot (I won't say the majority) of people do enjoy doing something, like going all out for valentine's day, they can't understand why others can't be bothered.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by MariaE on Today at 01:21:10 PM »
[quote author=SamiHami link=topic=142132.msg3462167#msg3462167 date=
Your husband's mistake was making a fuss about it. He should have simply made what he wanted to bring and just let folks know that it isn't vegan, so don't eat it if you prefer not to.
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No. If you (general you) get invited to anything with a theme, it is rude not to adhere to the theme. You either respect the request, you RSVP no, or (if you're close enough to the hosts) you ask if it would be alright to bring something else. Just doing so because you can't be bothered following the request is rude and disrespectful.
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Regarding asking another company: Sadly, not allowed.  The company that hired us expects us to figure this stuff out.  They likely contacted the tribes previously through a different subcontractor.  As I am not a manager, I am not allowed to contact our client directly; it all has to go through MY manager (the one who decided I should be the one to go up there!) and she doesn't want to bother the client with questions.  My company has a tribal department; my manager asked them for advice and was told that I should bring them a gift.  As for why our tribal department is not handling this whole thing... I wish I knew!

I have to agree with lmyrs in the previous post. This quoted paragraph makes little sense to me. Why would  a company who regularly deals with tribes not develop that relationship? Why would the company instead expect random subcontractors to perhaps inadvertently destroy whatever relationship had been forged? Also, what is the purpose of the OP's company's tribal department if not specifically for situations like this? Why this elongated game of telephone?
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Hosts demands for potluck meal
« Last post by Yvaine on Today at 01:16:32 PM »
I think people have a right to decide what foods can enter their home. A lot of vegans believe that it is deeply morally wrong to eat animals. OK, so some of us draw the line between food and not-food in a different place. Would you want someone to bring roast human to your house, or something made from an animal you see as a pet? And then have to wash the residue of it off your dishes? I imagine that's what it's like when you're vegan and somebody brings meat.
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