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"I'm not sure why you keep asking for my opinions on things. You always tell me that I'm wrong, so I don't think I am a good person for you to ask."
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To be honest, I wouldn't really engage in much conversation with someone like that. She's your neighbor so maybe you just have to chat sometimes, but when she asks a question, I would just give noncommittal answers and end the conversation as quickly as I could.

She's not actually looking for advice or alternative opinions. She's looking to express her own and this is how she does it.

She knows the ants are coming because her kitchen is messy and she knows her dogs need more attention, even if she doesn't want to admit it. And she's already decided that she is going to C restaurant because Other Friend recommended it.

She's just using you as a sounding board. Whether you want to allow her to continue to do so is up to you, but the way to stop it really, is to just quit engaging.
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Normally I love my credit union, but earlier this year I had a  ::) ::) ::) interaction with them.

Bittybartfast is 5 now, and I figured it was time she got her own bank account and didn't have to share with her big sister. I went in, tried to open a linked account, they said I needed her actual social security card and birth certificate to prove I'm the parent. Fine. Came back the next week with those, we got the account set up, and... "oh, you wanted to link that to your regular account? Sorry, your husband is primary on your account, he has to come in in person and okay that. You'll have to be there too, since you're the adult on record for this one."

So when I come in saying I wanted a child's LINKED ACCOUNT (where I can transfer money back and forth on the website and don't have to jump through extra hoops), they wait until the account is actually in the system before saying sorry, you're authentic enough to open an account for your 5yo but not authentic enough to connect it with *your own account* which *you are on.* Oh, and sorry, it's not possible to change who the primary is on the account, unless you want to close it and set up a whole new one (and lose some accumulated rewards in the process).

That was two months ago and we still haven't found a time where DH and I can go in during business hours without the kids hanging on us the whole time. Hopefully after school starts next week...

So wait, was your husband with you the 2nd time?  Because it doesn't sound like he was and they told you the time before that he needed to be there.
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I think we all know people like that.

For a chronic offender I just throw the question right back at them.
"I really wouldn't know. What do you think?"

Sometimes they just want an audience for their own theories. Sometimes they're just really annoying individuals. With my father, I can say "if you're going to tell me that I'm wrong, then why bother asking in the first place!?" but I can do that with my father. I wouldn't with a more casual acquaintance.

Yup.  It's one of those things where we can't control what others do, but we can control how we interpret it.  I'd stop seeing her questions as a request for your opinions (even though she's wording it that way) and see it as an introduction for her telling her opinion.  Cicero's "What do you think?" or a "Why do you ask?" won't change that she's not actually interested in your views, but at least can skip that step where you bother giving good information and get frustrated when it's dismissed.  She probably won't even notice.

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Humor Me! / Re: Word Association Game
« Last post by Gladly on Today at 07:12:46 AM »
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I think we all know people like that.

For a chronic offender I just throw the question right back at them.
"I really wouldn't know. What do you think?"

Sometimes they just want an audience for their own theories. Sometimes they're just really annoying individuals. With my father, I can say "if you're going to tell me that I'm wrong, then why bother asking in the first place!?" but I can do that with my father. I wouldn't with a more casual acquaintance.
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I worked with someone like that  :(

I'd try a simple "I don't know\have an opinion"
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I've learned to respond to my family-arguer [when they're in that mindset]: "I'm sure you'll figure it out..."  Or: "I don't know. Beandip?"

The "and I don't care!" part of "I don't know" never leaves the sanctity of my head, but it's pretty loud in there. ;)
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by o_gal on Today at 06:18:03 AM »
I should add they have a big A-frame sign the whole time, that says "Yard Sale Saturday". So people know what is going on.

And that's why people felt they had the right to rummage through things and take stuff. There's a weird mindset where people think that stuff out for a yard/garage sale is free for the taking. Around here, people have begun camping in their yards when they are having a sale and stuff is out overnight (the large stuff that isn't easy to move.) I've talked to a few people and they say that people don't look on it as stealing, since it was going to sell for "next to nothing anyway"  ::)
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Food / Re: Local Food Combinations
« Last post by Nibsey on Today at 06:15:08 AM »
I'm both hungry and horrified reading some of these!

Spice Burgers / Batter Spice Burgers. The ultimate comfort food. They almost went out of existence but are back going strong. https://www.irishtimes.com/news/spice-burgers-back-on-the-menu-due-to-popular-demand-1.691538

Irish Chipper Special: Curry sauce, Rice & Chips or Chips, Cheese and Curry Sauce (French Fries are our Chips).

A 99 with a flake and Thick Cut Sour Cream and Onion Crisps - That's a whipped icecream served in a waffle cone and it comes with a half size flaky chocolate bar and you dip crisps into it (American Chips)

A Battered Sausage... We have amazing Italian style chippers in Ireland and my local one did a fabulous battered sausage, I sampled it far to many times!  ;)

Coddle, it's a very local dish. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coddle I have gone through periods of loving and hating it due to having it too often as a child.

You forgot about a spice bag :D lol
Chips, fried onion, crispy chicken, peppers, red chili and some mystery spice!
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