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Life...in general / Re: houseguest towel etiquette
« Last post by Zizi-K on Today at 03:53:47 PM »
Fair enough.  And I understand that things are different with parents than others.

The OP said it feels invasive for her mom to change the towels and compared it to her mom doing her own (the OP's) laundry.  And I can't see where it's anything like that.  I don't know exactly what she said to her mom, but she did note her mom seemed hurt, and I can't help but think 'was it really necessary to bring this up and make your mom feel like her hosting was somehow subpar over a fresh towel?'  It all just seems really unnecessarily nitpicky.  And then to have others come in and say "yep, that's weird and she's wasting water and who washes towels after one use, etc.", just makes me think we've really run out of things to complain about.

Yeah, I didn't understand how the mom got to feeling "hurt" or how she went from being told "you're doing too much!" to hearing "you're telling me my hosting is subpar!" If anything she was told her hosting was hypo-par or uber-par, or whatever the prefix would be. I'm sure a lot of it has to do with the OP's wording and tone, as well as her own attitudes.

If I know EHell, we will never run out of things to complain about!  : )
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I think that you have valid points, thanks (even though it is a wee bit hard to hear).   
I'm glad that I didn't say anything else to her about it.  It has been a long summer I guess, and I've become a grouch.   

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I have been called up twice and had to go twice. Both times, I was excluded from being in the jury, when I made it to the courtroom.
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funny you mention Pizza Luce-- I'm the OP in the 'other' pizza thread, and some of us suggested getting our pizza from there once, but there was resistance because the flavors were "too weird."  ::)  Legend has it that they used to claim that if you ask for a topping they don't have, they *will* have it the next time you order.

Do you happen to have 17 year cicadas around your area?  >:D

We are in the territory for brood X. When they came out in the late 80's, my DH was attending Univ. of Cincinnati. A regional pizza place, Snappy, always ran a radio commercial with the jingle: "Snap! Snap! Snappy Tomato Pizza!" When the brood emerged and took over the area, they changed the jingle to "Snap! Snap! Snappy Cicada Pizza!". They actually offered them as a topping to whoever was brave enough. DH never tried them, but he knew some people who did. Apparently they are a unique but not very good pizza topping.

Oh, lordy. The Snappy commercial. 1987, I remember the cicada pizza well.  I never knew anyone who was brave enough, and I was a teenager at the time...you'd think someone would have done it on a dare. LOL

Snappy is still around and still uses the same jingle.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Dear Dog...Dear Cat
« Last post by atirial on Today at 03:39:30 PM »
My dog absolutely adores canned tuna.  I think he likes it more than the cats do.  It might be a less expensive option for you to tempt him to eat?  You can even mix it with kibble to make the kibble more appetizing.
Unfortunately he's on a special diet and tuna is rationed (another reason I am an evil kitty-owner). Equally unfortunately he hates it and steals food anywhere he can get it. He should be transitioning back to his normally allowed cat food now...but he's got other ideas.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Funny misread signs
« Last post by RainyDays on Today at 03:39:11 PM »

ETA : I know I'm not the only person to read 'shoplifters' on the side of a van when it actually says 'shop fitters'.

No, you are not the only person!  I also mentally insert an "i" in the middle of signs saying "To let"

There is a sign as you (general) drive into the village where my mother lives, which says "Slow Baby Otters Crossing"

I've always thought that was cruelly judgemental.  >:D


The sign that says 'Cats eyes removed' on the A46 is just cruel....

 ;D ;D


We had a family joke when we were children, to shout "Watch out for the blind cats!" every time we saw that sign when driving.

Okay, I'll bite.  I don't get it.  What does the actual sign say/mean?

I just found out that cats eyes are not called cats eyes everywhere: in the U.S. Botts dots, apparently.  The sign did actually read 'cats eyes removed' as in the reflective lane dividers were no longer there.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat%27s_eye_(road)

Huh. I assumed it meant the plant, and was trying to reconcile why they would need signage for the removal of them.
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Life...in general / Re: Bad fences make bad neighbors, what to do?
« Last post by MyFamily on Today at 03:34:11 PM »
Thank you for that Lady Snowdon.  I can't think of an equivalent organisation to HOA in the U.K. but  I was beginning to wonder how people in the land of the free had got themselves into a position where such draconian dictates exist..

They always start out mild, merely enforcing the things that the local government should be enforcing. But, I think the inherent problem is that people willing to serve on a board are either very conscientious or very officious.  The officious people often take over and enact more laws and more laws.   I have some friends in an HOA with a rule named after them.  Their neighbor didn't like the color they painted their house.   So, he got made a big fuss and got a rule passed that no one could paint their home anything but brown. 

DD's Godfather lives in a gated community.  Because of the gate, there is an HOA because it has to be maintained and staffed.  There is also a rule that people can't solicit in the community.  That all sounds very reasonable.  Except that there is a woman on the board, who walks up to anyone seen working on a house and pretends to need work done on her house.  Then she gets them banned from the community for soliciting.   DH used to do home repair, but now he is a stay-at-home Dad.  He will do work for this friend because they are really too vulnerable to have strangers in their house, but for no one else.  The woman pushed so hard trying to get him to 'solicit' her for work that he eventually had to be rude.

Both of your examples are not the fault of it being a HOA, but the fault of people not being willing to stand up to bullying.  My parents used to live in a HOA and there was a board member who tried to impose her will on people because she felt she had the power to do it.  My parents and other neighbors got together and per the HOA guidelines were able to remove the bullying board member.  It took some work but it was doable.  If no one does anything, then the bully gets away with it.  And that is, in my opinion, the reasons behind 90% of the complaints I hear about when it comes to a HOA - people not standing up to bullies or not willing to do anything to change extra strict rules. 

There are no HOA's in the city where I live, and if we could move out of the city (my dh's job requires us to live in the city), I'd happily move into a HOA.  Yes, there are some restrictions that I may not enjoy, but I also don't enjoy the horribly painted house across the street from us (garish colors and they used the wrong type of paint, so we can see the streaks), and neither did I enjoy when another house on our block was a single family rental property that had a revolving door of tenants and there were so many of them they were sleeping on mattresses in the living room.  The city couldn't do much (though they did what they could) but a HOA could have helped a lot with that situation.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Funny misread signs
« Last post by Mustard on Today at 03:32:17 PM »

ETA : I know I'm not the only person to read 'shoplifters' on the side of a van when it actually says 'shop fitters'.

No, you are not the only person!  I also mentally insert an "i" in the middle of signs saying "To let"

There is a sign as you (general) drive into the village where my mother lives, which says "Slow Baby Otters Crossing"

I've always thought that was cruelly judgemental.  >:D


The sign that says 'Cats eyes removed' on the A46 is just cruel....

 ;D ;D


We had a family joke when we were children, to shout "Watch out for the blind cats!" every time we saw that sign when driving.

Okay, I'll bite.  I don't get it.  What does the actual sign say/mean?

I just found out that cats eyes are not called cats eyes everywhere: in the U.S. Botts dots, apparently.  The sign did actually read 'cats eyes removed' as in the reflective lane dividers were no longer there.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat%27s_eye_(road)
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Until three years ago  I had been called every  couple of years since 1983. Each time I (along with others) was kept from Monday to at least Thursday. Many times the jury was completed before I was questioned. No matter, many cases meant that we were kept until there was no further possible need for us "extras".  I probably served on three juries.

However-in 2007 I was chosen for what turned out to be a trial dealing with  very gruesome murders(so bad that the defendant admitted guilt to spare his mom any more details. The prosecutor told us that he had not planned to put into evidence all of the defendant's crimes.) The judge thanked us and said that we would not be called for 4 or 5 years. 

One of the last times I was called it was for Grand jury duty that was supposed to be one month but morphed into three.

I have considered it a civic duty and a privilege.
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Facecrooks is a good site to get FB scam information. Here is their current Top 10 Facebook scams to avoid. This particular one is #1.
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