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Life...in general / Re: Agreements/Favors/Promises
« Last post by lakey on Today at 05:43:31 PM »
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she suggested to D the child's problems were the result of "the way she's being parented" and did not mention she'd used the word "negligent".

That doesn't matter. "the way she's being parented" is just as bad. It's blaming the parent. I spent thirty something years teaching in elementary school. Some children have various issues. It usually isn't because of anything the parents did. Parents already worry that maybe it is their fault. The last thing they need is for people to inflict guilt on them. The focus needs to be on what can be done to help the child be successful academically and socially. D is smart to stay away from M. M effectively told him he was a bad parent. It was unreasonable to expect him to spend a day helping her.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Pet peeves at work
« Last post by diesel_darlin on Today at 05:39:35 PM »
Or singing, whistling, blasting the same playlist over, over, over, over and over again for a few years now...
Do we work at the same place?

On top of the singing and whatnot, this person has also decided to start over sharing. He regaled us with the gripping tale of how he stole batteries from Walmart because they have enough money and he didn't have ten dollars to pay for them.  >:(
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Par-Tay! / Re: Engagement Party and Hens Night AFTER the wedding?
« Last post by lakey on Today at 05:27:58 PM »
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I didn't think an engagement party in the US was a gift-giving occasion, but from googling, i guess it *has* turned into one.

You're right. It wasn't a gift giving occasion. It was more like what Aleka described in the UK. Some in the wedding industry are trying to turn weddings into over the top extravaganzas where the families try to recoup the costs by getting as much in gifts as they can.

As far as the original post, I wouldn't have a problem with having a reception or celebration after the wedding. Just don't call it an engagement party.You give a gift to people because you are happy for them, not because it is required. I would feel the same way about a "bachelorette", just call it something else, In my experience, those were never gift giving occasions.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Pet peeves at work
« Last post by Lula on Today at 04:26:21 PM »
Or singing, whistling, blasting the same playlist over, over, over, over and over again for a few years now...
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by Browyn on Today at 04:13:25 PM »
I have two students with similar names

Bre'Ette

Emi'Lee

On the first, I understand the punctuation because it changes the pronunciation, but not on the second.

Is the first pronounced "Bree-ette" or "Breh-ette" - I can understand the pronunciation changing (from "Brett"), but the apostrophe hasn't clued me in to what they want it to sound like. :-[

My brain always sees the apostrophe as a pause.  So Emma  Lee vs Emily
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When we are out as a family and I ask for a short stop at a hobby or fabric store - and then I get asked for an *accurate* estimate of how long it is going to take me (the guys only tolerate fabric shopping for short periods of time unless it is shopping for themselves - they still want to  minimize the time spent).

We got to JoAnn's after my estimate of about 20 minutes (almost doubling my real expectations) - but due to a recalcitrant data connection (40% off coupon) and a really good sale combined with an open house by the people teaching classes - it was forty minutes before I had my fabric cut and got in line (suggested that they go stand in line for me, it did not help nearly as much as VorGuy had hoped) and paid for things.  They were grumping...I was not sympathetic as going shopping with them for them at other places than a fabric store almost always takes a lot longer than forty minutes...and it's not like I make them drive me everywhere...

But I am now about to update my pattern inventory, have zig-zagged the edge of the fabric, and will be heading downstairs to start the newest fabric washing while the previous fabric is in the dryer.  Usually, you have to shrink the fabric before you cut - unless you order from *ONE* independent designer (whose name I do not remember) who drafts her patterns for the fabric that she sells - and you cuts, sew, then wash to preshrink & remove the markings & loose threads from the finished garment.  Every other fabric I've used, if it could be washed, the suggestion was to wash it...because the people who might be "helping" with the laundry don't always read labels - whether care labels or even name labels to see which garments belong to which person (Grandma's nursing home, child care center where "accidents" also happen, and some kids who stayed the night & wore home my kids' clothes....and apparently nobody noticed for several weeks at their house).

My hobby is scrapbooking/paper crafting, etc.   Every year, there is a "shop hop" in my area that involves about 12-14 stores for about a two week period.  You get your booklet stamped at each store you visit and depending on how many stamps you get, I believe there are two sets of prizes.   Last year, my hubby was my driver.  So sweet of him.  We hit almost all stores, but one I think, in two days.  He took his Ipad and was fine waiting in the car while I shopped.   This happens in the Berks/Lancaster Counties, PA area and his only requirement was we stop at a "Killer Hat" place.  We ate, we talked, we had a great time.  He also will do the same if we are out and I want to stop at a craft store and vice versa if he needs to go to a store I do not want to go into.  No complaints and it works for us.
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Par-Tay! / Re: Engagement Party and Hens Night AFTER the wedding?
« Last post by VorFemme on Today at 03:13:57 PM »
I didn't think an engagement party in the US was a gift-giving occasion, but from googling, i guess it *has* turned into one. 

From what I've seen, a lot of things have turned into "gift-giving occasions" in the minds of the honorees (or hosts, if you prefer to refer to them that way) - but not all. 

I do remember kids collecting change for a UN (UNICEF) charity for the last forty or more years at Halloween, while trick or treating, not just candy - but they were asking for change & carried small "banks" not pillowcases, like they might have done for the candy...
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When we are out as a family and I ask for a short stop at a hobby or fabric store - and then I get asked for an *accurate* estimate of how long it is going to take me (the guys only tolerate fabric shopping for short periods of time unless it is shopping for themselves - they still want to  minimize the time spent).

We got to JoAnn's after my estimate of about 20 minutes (almost doubling my real expectations) - but due to a recalcitrant data connection (40% off coupon) and a really good sale combined with an open house by the people teaching classes - it was forty minutes before I had my fabric cut and got in line (suggested that they go stand in line for me, it did not help nearly as much as VorGuy had hoped) and paid for things.  They were grumping...I was not sympathetic as going shopping with them for them at other places than a fabric store almost always takes a lot longer than forty minutes...and it's not like I make them drive me everywhere...

But I am now about to update my pattern inventory, have zig-zagged the edge of the fabric, and will be heading downstairs to start the newest fabric washing while the previous fabric is in the dryer.  Usually, you have to shrink the fabric before you cut - unless you order from *ONE* independent designer (whose name I do not remember) who drafts her patterns for the fabric that she sells - and you cuts, sew, then wash to preshrink & remove the markings & loose threads from the finished garment.  Every other fabric I've used, if it could be washed, the suggestion was to wash it...because the people who might be "helping" with the laundry don't always read labels - whether care labels or even name labels to see which garments belong to which person (Grandma's nursing home, child care center where "accidents" also happen, and some kids who stayed the night & wore home my kids' clothes....and apparently nobody noticed for several weeks at their house).
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Life...in general / Re: Agreements/Favors/Promises
« Last post by Semperviren on Today at 01:49:36 PM »
No, as I said upthread, my response to M was more or less well, what did you expect?

Beyond the one discussion with M, Im not going to try to convince her. Shes in her fifties and its not the first time shes offended someone.

I think that was a great response - I'm just intrigued as to what she said in reply!

I think D is fine, and it's great that he's standing up for his child, and M might learn to be more reasonable...

Or she might just end up with fewer friends as the years pass by. :-\

We did a couple of rounds of

"I don't see what was so wrong with what I said."

"Well, people are sensitive when it comes to their kids, and possible disabilities, and it sounds like your delivery was rather harsh. You also suggested D's not being a good parent."

"Well, I don't see how."

You can only do so much of that before it's clear the other person "doesn't see what's wrong with what they said" because they don't WANT to.

I should note that in M's version, she suggested to D the child's problems were the result of "the way she's being parented" and did not mention she'd used the word "negligent". I didn't hear that quote until I spoke with D.
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Food / Re: Favourite biscuits (cookies)
« Last post by AmethystAnne on Today at 01:08:44 PM »
Anything that is not chocolate.

In particular, my favorite is Vienna Fingers.
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