DH and I planned to host a big BBQ in August, and the RSVP date is tomorrow. At this time, only one person (MIL) has confirmed, and one couple is a very tentative maybe (and about 6 couples said no). So, taking advice from this related thread (http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=132052.0
), I was planning to cancel the party, but invite MIL and the other couple over for lunch instead.
I have two outstanding questions. First, do I have an obligation to try to get an RSVP out of the 15 guests who haven't responded before cancelling the party? Invites went out via email 2 weeks ago, and I can see that the guests have all viewed the invitation.
Second, one of our invitees, "Jen," just sent us (and about 7 of our guests) an invitation to her kids' party the same day/time. (Neither Jen nor any of the mutual friends have RSVP'd one way or the other to our BBQ.) What's the best way to decline her invitation -- before or after cancelling our own party? I just don't know what to say! "We're cancelling the BBQ, but we have other plans, so we can't make your party"? Or "We can't make it, because we're having a BBQ that day. (Next day) Oh, by the way, we're cancelling the BBQ." Ugh!