Etiquette Hell

(Background: ) My wife and I don't take separate out-of-town trips very often.  Usually we have traveled together, or, actually, the last few years we haven't had many overnight away trips at all.

The last time I took a separate out-of-town trip was about five years ago, when I attended a week-long conference related to my job.  I carpooled to the conference city with co-workers.

The first night that I was there I called home just after 9:30 P.M. to let my wife know I had arrived safely and to ask how things were at home.  When I called, my wife was watching reruns of her favorite TV shows while she crocheted.  She sounded quite annoyed that my call was interrupting her show.  It's been 5 years, so I don't remember her exact words, but I do remember her tone sounded quite annoyed.  She pointed out that she had been watching TV and had had to interrupt her crochet stitch-counting to answer the phone, and said that the boys were all playing a video game together  and she was sure they didn't want their game to be interrupted either.  I felt very hurt, but I did not say anything rude.  I think I said something like, "OK then, well I guess I'd better hang up now so you can get back to your TV show."

After that treatment on the telephone I did not feel like calling home again all week.  (And no, there were no calls to me from home all week.)

In the car, on the way back to my home city after the conference, one of my co-workers was telling us about how her husband had fared taking care of their children all by himself that week (based upon her phone calls home).  After she finished her story, she turned to me and asked, "Snappy, how did things go for your wife and sons back home this week?"

I replied by telling her that I had no idea how things were at my house.  She seemed surprised at that, so I explained about the one time I tried calling home and said that I hadn't tried any more calls home after that one.    She and the others in the car didn't seem to know how to reply to that, and quickly the subject was changed and we chatted about other things the rest of the way back.

When I returned home, I tried telling my wife how hurt I had felt.  She acted totally bewildered, said she hadn't intended to be hurtful, and since nothing unusual had happened at home she hadn't seen any reason to call me all week.
(end background.)

Question: A few weeks from now, in early June, my wife and my eldest son (who will be home from college by then) plan to drive more than 1,000 miles away to attend a cousin's graduation ceremony.  I'll be staying home with another son who will still be in school here then.

Would it be rude of me to behave as my wife did five years ago?  By that, I mean, would it be rude of me to not call my wife's cell phone at all while she is   away on this road trip?  If my wife does call home, would it be rude of me to react to her phone call the way she reacted to mine five years ago?

I'm inclined to think that it would be rude to treat her the way she treated me.  I'm thinking that while it would be so tempting, I'd rather behave myself and treat her the way I wish I had been treated.  (I'm thinking I'll feel better about myself if I take the high road here.)

But what do others think?

If I were you, OP, I'd just stop communicating with her altogether at this point. The drama is too much to bear.

Agreed. She's being silly and you don't have to cater to it.

Mine was used once for a child's movie ticket in Texas, purchased online. Small purchases, and using them online or at a gas pump are very common ways to test out the usability of a newly-stolen card or card #, I believe.

Yes.  Mine was used for a newspaper ad to sell the next purchase, an airline ticket to Saudi Arabia!  The credit card company flagged that one right away.  And really, that's a bit odd.  That was our travel card, so it had been used for other airline tickets and hotels and meals.  Wonder why that one in particular caught their attention?

4:30am. Learned the hard way that if I have a migraine, it's better not to take Excedrin Migraine at 10pm. Oops. So much for sleep.

I had the misfortune to be seated in a booth next to a family whose adults were steadfastly ignoring the two little girls with them. The younger girl stood up in her booth, and hung over the back to stare at me as if she had never seen anyone eat before. Her older sister was up and dancing in the aisle. To my right, on the other side of the aisle, was another woman dining alone; in the booth next to hers, and across the aisle from the family was an empty booth. The older girl was jumping up and down on the bench in the empty booth, and chanting.  The other woman got up to go back to the buffet, and the girl grabbed the fortune cookie from her table, and danced around singing about how she'd grabbed the lady's cookie. Mama ignored her awhile before telling her to put it back. The piece de resistance was when the girl came over to my booth and started singing and dancing to 'I have to go to the bathroom!' The dance was an attention-getting maneuver, not the sort of desperate dance of a child in need of help.  While the child may have correctly intuited that she was more likely to get my attention than her mother's, I still was not about to take a stranger's child to the bathroom, nor do I care to dine to that sort of stage show. After several choruses, she went back to her family's table, and did her song and dance. After a few repeats, the mother snapped, 'So GO!' The child was younger than I'd send to a bathroom by herself, but the mother sighed and groaned as she got up as if an elephant had sat on her, before taking the girls to the bathroom (which was out of line of sight of the mother, AND adjacent to the back door, which struck me as even more of a concern).
Is there a polite way to tell someone, 'Please keep your children with you, and entertain them yourself.'?

Should this not be posted in the "All in a Day's Work" category?