« Last post by perpetua on Today at 11:36:02 AM »
Me too, mostly because I really don't think 'time flying away from you' is a good enough reason not to honour a commitment. If you're going to a dinner party or wherever and you say you'll bring xyz, then it really should be on the to-do-list that day as a priority and other things should be worked around it. I don't think it's optional once you've committed to doing it.
I am very glad that you never make mistakes or have a whoops moment. But I don't have that same ability. Last time I didn't bring something was because I didn't realize I didn't actually have it in the house and by the time I got to the store I realized I forgot my wallet at home. I was about 5 minutes from the party so i went there instead and the host told me not to worry about it and all was well. If I had been at the Op's party I would have gone home, gotten my wallet and then gone to the store - making me an hour late - because I would rather do that then have to listen to them scold me for what pretty much amounted to carelessness on my part.
The OP has clarified that this is a pattern with her friend. So i think that talking to him is a good idea, and so is not counting on him to bring stuff either.
That's not time running away with you though, is it - that's a sequence of unfortunate events that can't be helped and I don't think anyone could chastise you for that. Time running away is more something like... "oh, I know I was supposed to make a starter for this dinner party but I had to do xyz today and then I stopped on the way home and did abc and then my Mum phoned for an hour and time just ran away from me and now I don't have time to make it or I'm going to be late". That's what I'm referring to. If you make a commitment to take something, then I think you (you general) owe it to your hosts to arrange your day so it can be done, so you don't stop on the way home to do whatever and you tell your Mum when she phones "I can't talk now, I have to do this thing, but I'll call you tomorrow", not "I'll do it if time doesn't get away from me". That sort of thing. We've all known people who try to cram too much into their day then don't follow through on their commitments because of it; it's a case of priorities, really.