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This is one of those things you just need to be matter of fact about, almost like an email signature.

You need to be clear about not only the fact that it's a scent free workplace, but what that entails, because honestly if I was coming to your office and it meant, for example, that I couldn't wear my normal deodorant that day, I wouldn't bother coming in the first place because it's just too much trouble. So you need to be clear and up front about it.

I'd go with "XYZ corp operates a fragrance-free policy in its offices. This includes (whatever the restrictions are). Thank you for your co-operation".
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The ad that pops up on this page often - 5 foods not to eat then shows a pickle being slowly bitten piece by piece.  I have to go get a pickle every time!
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DH has an obnoxious BFF (OBFF).  He was an untreated, in-deep-denial alcoholic for several years (until a few months ago) and got really bad in the past few years so his abusive, obnoxious behavior frequency went way up and to the point where DH (and other friends of theirs) wouldn't have anything to do with OBFF for several months.  After the last bout of verbal abuse from OBFF to DH, I told DH that he is not welcome in our house until he has been sober consistently for at least one year (hasn't happened yet).  I also told DH a few years ago that I'm not socializing with someone who feels it's his right to insult me then refuses to issue an actual apology to me (he apologized to DH for his behavior but won't apologize to me, the person he actually insulted because of his huge ego).

I can't stand the guy and would feel no sorrow if he goes away forever.  However, DH cares about him a lot and dwells on the past good from the guy so he still wants this friendship (the good is rare and before the almost six years DH and I have been together; I've never witnessed it or heard about it occurring since I've known the guy).  I have no patience anymore for OBFF's shenanigans so I won't deal with him, period (the shenanigans have been pretty bad); that is the deal DH must accept in order for him to have OBFF still be a part of his life and be married to me at the same time.  I wouldn't tell DH he needs to drop him as a friend (I wouldn't do that) but, at the same time, DH understands exactly why I'll have nothing further to do with him and why he is not allowed in our house or on our property (the verbal abuse towards DH was pretty bad, repeated and prolonged).  Fortunately, nice BFF (NBFF) understands my position completely and supports my feelings (NBFF's wife had banned OBFF from their house, also, but relented a little while ago).
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Humor Me! / Re: Just for Fun. Phrases or words that annoy you deeply...
« Last post by Twik on Today at 11:20:24 AM »
The word 'around' is being misused more and more as well: 'We have had discussions around job security'. 'Around' is not a synonym for 'about' or 'concerning', not in this context anyway!

It makes me imagine a scene:

Union rep: Next on our agenda is a discussion of job security.

Company rep: Yeah, say, the weather's been great recently, hasn't it? Oh, and how about those Leafs?

(10 minutes later)

Company rep: So, I thought that the conclusion to Breaking Bad was one of the best things ever on TV. Well, that concludes the agenda, right?

Union rep: Um, we never actually discussed job security.
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Some things to help you and the leader along: Yes, it may feel rude to say "Ok, time's up. Let's move on", but it's not. The other person may react as if it were rude, but it isn't rude. (Look for my Magic Words post for more on this.) Second, and more important. it is absolutely and positively rude for someone to monopolize the situation. Because the leader failed to step in, she was facilitating his rudeness at the expense of everyone else.

This. It was actually rude of the leader to not stop the speaker -- it was rude to the rest of the group who had to listen politely and it was rude to the other speakers who had followed the rules.

It is the responsibility of the facilitator to run the meeting. Sometimes that entails interrupting people in order to keep the meeting going. Might be because of time restraints or someone getting off topic or someone giving wrong information or whatever.

I've been to meetings where the facilitator was weak to the point of people dominating the meeting and resulting in a completely unproductive session. I tend to never return to those kinds of meetings.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: How on earth did this happen?
« Last post by VorFemme on Today at 11:19:54 AM »
The last week of 6th grade, my daughter had outdoor classes. She left a book behind. She searched L&F, asked at the office, looked all around the school property. The book was nowhere to be found. She even asked about it again when she returned for 7th grade. She is now in 9th grade. On Monday, she pulled this book out of her book bag. Her history teacher found it in the back of his desk, saw her name in it, and returned it to her. The middle school and high school share a campus, so no great mystery there, but how did this book sit in a desk for 2 1/2 years??

DH is a teacher.

I swear that there are things in "his" desk that were left by the previous guy - because not everyone cleans their desk out & dumps the trash.

I've sat there and pulled out dried up catsup packets, gum wrappers, and the like that somehow got stuck in the drawer for "just a minute" because he's on the way to class...and he's never gone back & looked at the stuff to see if it was any good (the gum wrapper had been left looking intact - he'd slid the stick of gum out - so he apparently didn't look at it closely enough to see that it was just the wrappings - no gum).

I plan to "help" him clean it out when he retires - and use the change to run the vehicle we use to bring his stuff home through the car wash after we empty it....
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If you told me your office was scent-free, I'd think I would have to go out and get unscented laundry detergent and deodorant and shampoo. Is that the case in your office? Because it might be helpful to your visitors to know if they need to simply abstain from perfume for the day, or if they need to re-wash all their clothes and buy all new unscented shampoo/lotion/deodorant before they show up.

I wouldn't assume that.  I would assume I just needed to avoid wearing added scent from perfume, cologne, body spray or lotions.  So if it needs to be more vigourous than that, you need to be clear about that, too.  And if that was the case, I probably wouldn't do business with (general) you because I would consider those to be unreasonable accommodations.

I have scent sensitivities and I work in a workplace with a scent-free policy.
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My niece is in a school district that is not urban/inner city. It is decidedly suburban/middle class. It tries to follow the current nutritional standard, but it just fails so miserably in practice. My niece, if she wanted, could have pizza four days a week. Sure, it's "whole wheat" crust, but it's still pizza. Four days a week. And your side for the pizza? "Cheezy bread stix." My SIL is livid. She says one day a week she could get behind. But four?! No. They don't provide anything that doesn't come out of a bag that they can pour directly into a chaffing dish or a box that was frozen.

And my niece is picky when it comes to her lunches. She doesn't like cold cuts and she has decided she doesn't like cheese. And she's in a nut-free room, so she can't bring a peanut butter sandwich. My SIL is at a loss of what to feed Niece that will keep her full and be healthy other than soup, and what child wants to eat soup five days a week?

Niece loves soy sauce. They were going to have her try tofu.

My sympathies to your SIL. Sounds like she's between a rock and a hard place.

They could try homemade (or healthy storebought) chicken fingers for her soy sauce, kebabs are fun for a child (stick on whatever bits of things she will eat), or soybutter instead of peanut butter if the school will allow that.

They are also in a position of not having a lot of money. They pay more in rent to stay in that particular school district (b/c it's so much better than the alternative in our part of town) so the budget gets cut elsewhere. I don't know how much soybutter costs in comparison to peanut butter. Brother is a chef, so I know she eats well at home. The girl loves her salmon ("pink chicken") and I've seen her eat three chicken legs in a sitting. She always has her milk and grapes. It's just tough to keep things hot. I think SIL needs some better quality insulated containers.

My daughter was a lot like your niece - she doesn't like lunchmeat of any kind, would only eat cheese sparingly, and she was also in a nut-free classroom.  I sent a lot of hard boiled eggs, greek yogurt with nut-free granola, roasted or fried chicken legs in a heated lunch bag and bagels with flavored cream cheese.   She also likes cold shrimp with a mild cocktail sauce, but that is an occasional treat for her. 

I've tried a number of them, and I've found that the kid sized thermoses just don't have enough volume to keep food sufficiently warm for the roughly 5 hours it is from packing til lunch.  When I want to send her something like soup or spaghetti, I've bought an adult sized thermos and just commit to wasting the excess. 
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When someone uses "gender" when he/she means sex.  The current "gender reveal party" thread name is driving me nuts!  I didn't want to derail the thread by kvetching about it though so here I am, LOL.

That bugs me too!
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I agree with daen, don't *ask* people not to wear scents, *tell* them.

On the phone, "We are a scent-free workplace. Please don't wear anything scented to our office." It's polite, firm and gets the message across with no doubt as to what you mean.

If you get push-back, "We have several employees who become ill when exposed to scents." No other explanation is necessary.

Several years ago, I had a colleague who was allergic to perfume, but who had no problem with scented hand lotion on other people, or scented deodorant or shampoo or things like that. She didn't use them, but it wasn't an issue if other people did.

If you told me your office was scent-free, I'd think I would have to go out and get unscented laundry detergent and deodorant and shampoo. Is that the case in your office? Because it might be helpful to your visitors to know if they need to simply abstain from perfume for the day, or if they need to re-wash all their clothes and buy all new unscented shampoo/lotion/deodorant before they show up.
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