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  • May 25, 2017, 11:52:41 AM

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That I just had to pay over $100 to rent a custom textbook that is basically worthless, but is required.  ::)
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Life...in general / Re: Cars blocking sidewalk, leave a note?
« Last post by SamiHami on Today at 09:19:24 AM »
A lot of people will take a note the wrong way. Just let the proper authorities deal with it. That way yo uare not opening yourself up to retribution.

This exactly. Call the non-emergency police line and ask them to handle it. Think of it this way--it's reasonably easy for you to work your way around a car blocking the sidewalk, but you said yourself that someone with mobility issues (such as a wheelchair) would have a terrible problem. Having it addressed by the proper authorities will make it easier for you, but also for others. It's not a hardship to expect people to follow basic rules, but when they don't, they often create a hardship for others, whether they meant to or not. Consider it doing a service for the community.
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I'm exhausted. Plus, I have a rather large mystery bruise on my tush.It's tender and sore. It looks like I may have backed into a door knob from the size/location.  :-[

I have a giant one on my shin but i know what its from. I opened my car door into it the other day, and the pointy corner whacked me good.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Dear Dog...Dear Cat
« Last post by TracyXJ on Today at 09:01:14 AM »
Dear Dabo and Kona,

You do not need to growl and bark at every noise.  Especially in the middle of the night just as we are falling asleep.  You know that those little footsteps are DS's.  Now stop scaring the poop out of him when he comes to our room after a nightmare! 

Love,
Mommy

PS - at least your barks don't scare him as much as "the deers" do.  Sharks, dinosaurs, and tigers are awesome, but "the deers" are gonna eat him.
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Guests / Re: Who is right?
« Last post by SamiHami on Today at 08:53:47 AM »
The guest is 100% wrong. He said, "You don't write names on the envelope, they should be on the actual invitation." That is wrong. You write the names of the invitees on the envelope. All of the invitations I have ever received have been pre-printed and you do not write on them. You put them in the envelope and mail them.  I have never in my life (and at my age, I've been invited to a lot of weddings and have never seen someone write on the invitation.

This guy is a boor and should be uninvited. He seems to have lost sight of the fact that he is being invited to a celebrate a very special moment in someone's life. Dates should never be assumed when it comes to a wedding. If your name is not on the envelope, you are not invited, period. If he wants to go on a date he can do it on his own dime.

ETA: after reading other posts, it appears that in other countries it may be considered appropriate to write names on the invitation itself. I contend, though, that since the wedding is a celebration of the marriage of the happy couple, that he shouldn't be bringing along a random date. If he were in a relation-ship with someone or had a long-term significant other, possibly. But to want to invite a stranger (to the couple) to their wedding? I find it difficult to believe that would be considered appropriate. I still say if he wants to take someone out to an expensive dinner and get all dressed up that is great! But he needs to pay for it himself and not use someone else's life events to entertain his random date.
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Guests / Re: Who is right?
« Last post by Margo on Today at 08:46:52 AM »
The post makes clear this is in the UK, where names do go on the invites and it is sloppy and lazy to leave them off. My comment was about this specific situation.

It's very common here to see people critical of things which are perfectly normal in places other than the US, it doesn't mean that they are insulting those other countries or their customs, it simply means they are applying local norms to a local situation.  In the same way, responding to a post about a UK situation and applying UK norms is not an insult to the US or customs there.
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If someone approached me and said that a particular color was theirs and was off-limits to others, I would have to stop myself from laughing because a statement so ridiculous could only be a joke.

I wish the LW had taken this approach - but then we might not have this thread.  This reminds me of the empath letter, where something is so far out there that one might actually burst out laughing in the face of someone.  (but then would we consider them rude for laughing out loud?)
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Holidays / Re: Your holiday hill to die on.
« Last post by Redneck Gravy on Today at 08:27:42 AM »
We are almost halfway through the year and I have treated myself better by not gifting for every birthday this year. 

I struggle trying to find a good gift or gift card for my siblings and exInlaws - this year I have sent a greeting card for every birthday and felt much better.  It is so much easier on me and I still call and wish happy birthday without all the financial burden and stress I bring onto myself shopping for just the right thing. 

May the year continue in peace!  Why didn't I do this sooner?

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Guests / Re: Who is right?
« Last post by MurPl1 on Today at 08:26:42 AM »
Please do not insult etiquette from other countries just because it is different.  In the US we do not put names on the invitation and it is proper to put the names of those invited on the envelope. It is not considered sloppy or lazy in this country.
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Guests / Re: Who is right?
« Last post by Margo on Today at 08:16:32 AM »
They are both wrong.

The bride and groom should have made sure that they put the names of the people they were inviting on the invitation. having them only on the envelope is sloppy and lazy, and runs the risk of all sorts of issues. (I would not have predicted this particular situation, but people don't automatically keep envelopes, so I would have thought that things such as people forgetting / not being sure if children were invited would have been a potential issue.)

The guest should have checked before inviting anyone else - it's never OK to assume that you have a plus 1, (Plus, when you open the envelope and realise the bride and groom haven't bothered to personalise the invitation to put your name on it, expecting them to have personalised the RSVP to distinguish between I and We is a stretch!)

They were then both rude to each other, and the bride errs again talking about the cost of the reception.

If I were the guest, I'd not longer want to go to this person's wedding.
If i were the bride or groom, I probably wouldn't want him there any longer.


If I were the bride or groom, I
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