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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Update on nephews-K'nnihave's sons
« Last post by breny on Yesterday at 11:12:17 PM »
It's wonderful to hear nephew1 is figuring it out. You modeled boundary setting and limiting time with the toxics. It sounds like N1 has taken your lessons to heart. Give yourselves giant pat on the back. I Hope N2 will listen to N1 and come around, but you can't save everyone.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Update on nephews-K'nnihave's sons
« Last post by sammycat on Yesterday at 11:11:52 PM »
Honestly, I must confess here that I was sort of expecting something quite different.  I'm so glad that your update was such a wonderful and positive one instead.  It's nice to know he met YOUR expectations and not mine for him considering what he's been through as a kid. 

I can feel the pride in your "voice" and he deserves accolades for pulling himself up and out.  And so do you for helping him accomplish that.

I have to admit the same thing, so it was nice to be proved wrong.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by ladyknight1 on Yesterday at 11:10:32 PM »
My DS was propositioned today at the rest area we stopped at. His father was next to him, and DS is 16, but looks 18/19. A woman in her 30's asked him if he had "time for her". He told her no.
All In A Day's Work / Re: I Don't Want to be Your Buddy In or Out of Work
« Last post by SoCalVal on Yesterday at 11:00:26 PM »
If you say something like, "Oh, I don't like to talk about that," she'll be like, "Why? Why? Why?" like a toddler. ::) Then, she'll make an outrageous statement, I guess in the hopes of provoking you into correcting her and giving her the info she wants. Like, she'll want to know how much money your house cost, and if you refuse to tell her, she'll be like, "I bet it's a lot more than you could afford and you had to go really into debt to buy it."

I once had a coworker who was like this when I didn't want to give her particular information about myself.  She then jumped to an (incorrect) assumption similar to the above, and I simply said something like, "Okay."  You could just see her sitting there glowering because I wouldn't rise to her bait (she wanted the info about me in order to make generalizations on my personality based on the info she needed -- generalizations I think are coincidental and, otherwise, a bunch of hooey so I told her I wasn't telling her because I wasn't about to let her pigeonhole me like she was doing with the other employees).

The thing with my co-worker Grace (described above) is that if you say "Okay, sure," to her outrageous assumption, she'll be like, "Oh, so it's true, you did go into debt to buy your house!" and then dance off to gossip with it about everyone. ::) I will hear back from people, "Grace said you told her you went into debt to buy your house." To which I always reply, "Why would you believe anything Grace says?"

Oh, when I replied, "Okay," she narrowed her eyes and looked at me and said, "Yeah, you're such-and-such incorrect generalization."  I again said, "Okay" in an obvious, offhand, I-couldn't-care-less manner and kept working on whatever it was I was working on.  Coworker was still peeved because her baiting wasn't working on me (thinking about it makes me laugh inside still).  All I could think is, "I'm not about to tell you what you want to know because it's far more important to me to not give you ammo."
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by Elfmama on Yesterday at 11:00:01 PM »
Had a real life one today. Was walking home and saw a group of boys. They asked me if I wanted fifty dollars. (Yes they had a bill with them) Knowing it was most likely counterfeit (who offers money to strangers anyway?!) I kept walking.
I got a "Wouldn't even take fifty dollars" muttered after me.

Nice try scammers.

Somehow, I don't think scamming you was on their minds.

Wasn't my first thought either. Counterfeiters make fake money to get real money, if the bill was a fake they would have asked if you had change in small bills. Then you take the fake money and they now have real money.

Where they underage and not too far from a liquor store?

They were standing in front of a now closed down (i think) Hookah Lounge. And we were in a public place. With lots of stores in that plaza. And if they had tried anything, I could have run into any number of shops screaming and had the police immediately called. Not a smart move on their part. I did suspect what y'all do though (again, who just gives away money) and I walked through the middle of their group (no choice they took up the whole extra large walking space) and they didn't follow me, so who knows.

Hmmm... How to say this delicately? 

Huh, they thought or hoped you were a "lady of the evening".
A "lady of negotiable affection." A "working girl."  100 years ago, a "soiled dove."  200 years ago, an "actress."  In Ankh-Morpork, a "seamstress."  I know there are lots more...
The whole family was there, it was a family wedding, but one relative left without telling us (close family member), and we were trying to save seats for her and another relative until we were told they left. Only one cousin did not attend. It was awkward when the bride was looking for this particular relative to introduce her groom.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Change of menu
« Last post by hyzenthlay on Yesterday at 10:53:26 PM »
Thanks for the feedback.
This person is a relative, so I can't just refuse future invites.

I've heard many a story of scummy relatives playing weight police.

You can and you should consider refusal of further invites if this becomes a pattern. This isn't even about weight. You are for some reason the scapegoat, and probably always will be.
Is it rude for someone to attend a wedding, but leave before the reception? The reception immediately followed, with a 15 minute social period with an open bar in between.
I'd RSVP for the wedding but not the reception, assuming it was the traditional kind of  reception with speeches and toasts and first dance and all that photogenic stuff.  Last wedding I was at I got hammered with a major migraine at the first dance, when everyone there dragged out a camera or a phone to take pictures.  If they'd all managed to take them at the exact same instant I might have been all right, but the flashflashflashflashflashflash nailed me before I could get my eyes covered.

It didn't help that the DJ chose that moment to crank up the volume to "Exploding Volcano." :(
It was a RSVP requested event, and catered at a site next to the wedding location. It just seemed odd to me.

If the person(s) had RSVPd that they would be attending, then yes they were rude to skip the reception unless there was a very good reason like 'Mom was just rushed to the hospital this morning and we have to get back there right away' type thing.
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