This is more Hen Party related than strictly Wedding Party, but I'm asking for a bit of help and advice, if my lovely fellow eHellions are able.
I'm a bridesmaid and sort of MOH for my best friend in the world (let's call her Bride). We haven't been friends all that long, I met her about 3 and a half years ago, but we clicked immediately. Very similar interests and outlooks.
There are two other bridesmaids.
The first is her sister (let's call her Sister) is well, tempestuous. A spoiled child grown into a spoiled adult. She's 24 but acts about 12 most of the time. She is a bridesmaid because, to be fair, it was going to be more stressful for Bride to refuse to have her in the wedding party. Family drama and all that. She's very self-centred, and doesn't like compromising.
The other is her long-time friend, (let's call her Friend). They've known eachother since they were little kids, still quite close, but quite different people now. She's very shy, very introverted, and a notorious flake.
You can probably already see where my issues are, but let me spell them out a bit.
For a start, neither of them seem to care much about the wedding. Neither of them have shown any interest in helping with the invitations or any other wedding-related things. They were both entirely unavailable to go dress shopping with the Bride for her dress (we ended up going alone). Bridesmaids' dress shopping had to be rescheduled several times due to one or the other of them having issues (Friend had to switch her day off, Sister had a really bad hangover, etc.)
To be fair, we are planning this in "advance". The wedding is in September. Perhaps they will get more excited as the date draws closer, but it's really getting to Bride, and I don't know how to help other than just being there for her.
I suppose it's really come to a head because of the hen party.
Given that we are all busy people, and the fact that the activity Bride and I came up with (archery and assault rifle shooting at a place near Bride's home) does need to be booked in advance, I started trying to get a date about a month ago. We finally all settled on September 3rd, about 2 weeks before the wedding. Perfect. I booked the activity, and sent actual invitations to all the people involved.
Friend messages the group saying she thinks she'll have to work that weekend. Never mind that it's seven months away and she hasn't even attempted to get the day off. She says she can't come. Don't worry about switching the date. She'll see if she might possibly be able to come have drinks in the evening.
Then Sister (same day), says that the following day is her boyfriend's brother's birthday, so she'll be down at their family home (other side of the UK) all weekend. Won't be available at all. Can we switch the dates?
Well, no. Since we decided on the date, other plans have been made, and now it really is the only day that Bride can do. And there's not much point doing it without her.
Bride is annoyed and upset that Sister would rather spend time with her boyfriend's family than go to her hen party, and that Friend has dropped out without even a token attempt at getting the day off. Even more as it's another in a string of let downs.
Apologies for the long post. So, any advice? Is it worth confronting them myself, letting them know how much it's hurting their sister/friend, or should I leave it up to the bride?