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'She thinks everything becomes her' meaning somebody who thinks that everything she says or does is right and attractive and The Proper Thing.
My mum used 'Sweet FA' to mean 'nothing at all'.
It has an interesting beginning; a young girl was murdered in 1867 and her body dismembered. From Wikipedia:
'In 1869 new rations of tinned mutton were introduced for British seamen. They were unimpressed by it, and suggested it might be the butchered remains of Fanny Adams. The way her body had been strewn over a wide area presumably encouraged speculation that parts of her had been found at the Royal Navy victualling yard in Deptford, which was a large facility which included stores, a bakery and an abattoir.
"Fanny Adams" became slang for mutton or stew and then for anything worthless – from which comes the current use of "sweet Fanny Adams" (or just "sweet F.A.") to mean "nothing at all". It can be seen as a euphemism for "(I can't express myself without swearing) all" – which means the same. The large tins the mutton was delivered in were reused as mess tins. Mess tins or cooking pots are still known as Fannys.'
Actually that's what SIL wants, an entire weekend all about her. Saturday afternoon is the wedding followed by the reception, where OP and her husband are expected to be present; Sunday for presents opening, also with the expectation that OP and husband attend.
The OP explained exactly why the birthday celebration could not be held on her birthday. She has not said anything about another celebration on her actual birthday - the suggestion that OP and her husband can celebrate on Sunday comes from MIL, not from the OP...so not an entire weekend, one night.
The notion that a wedding trumps everything else isn't a universal belief any more than whether or not adult birthdays should be celebrated.
I agree, especially with the parts I bolded.
I may be in the minority, but I don't hold weddings above all other social occasions. With the exception of my children and possibly nieces, my decision as to whether to attend a wedding depends on a number of factors. In this case, taking into consideration the exam, my own pre-planned event, and the 90 minute drive I would be leaning 90% towards not going. Add in SIL and MIL's absolutely dreadful attitude and that would go up to a full 100% in not going.