« Last post by Winterlight on Today at 07:06:56 PM »
Having just had this situation happen this weekend to adult me (and wow did I not think that adults could act that way - I am Beth in this situation) if my best friend told me that she couldn't have my back because she already invited Carol and it was more important to be supportive of a brand new friend she just met then to support her friend of over 10 years I would also be reevaluating my relationship with Amy. It depends on what was said and how bad it was and I am glad that it is over without having to intervene, but it isn't as black and white as we can't take away an invitation. (FYI in my case I was also threatened and I will not be around anyone who tried to "take me outside")
I think you make some good points, along the lines of what I was thinking. Depending on the circumstances, and the level of the "not nice" things said, I think an argument could be made for somehow uninviting Carol in support of Beth. If Carol and Beth got into a dumb argument and both were being petty, then of course, it's probably best to follow etiquette protocol like Margo suggested. But if Carol was really ugly, vicious, or threatening towards Beth, then I think it would be well within the hostess' rights to withdraw the invitation based on the fact that Carol isn't a very nice person and not someone I would want to get to know better at that point, or possibly even trust in my home, depending on what was said or done.
All in all, it sounds like this situation worked out for the best; middle schoolers are full of drama, but as wolfie demonstrates, that doesn't always end with adulthood!!
Thirded. Context matters, but if Carol was seriously mean and nasty or threatening, I'd disinvite her.