« Last post by Zizi-K on Today at 09:53:37 PM »
My family is of European descent, and we still have a lot of family in countries were the double-cheek kiss is de rigeur. It would be considered very rude and strange not to "faire la bise" with that family or in that country because that is the norm. In the US, things are much more uneven. One family might only do hugs, another might do a single cheek kiss, others keep it to a handshake, etc. However, I would say in my experience, a hug is a pretty standard greeting amongst friends and family. If you hate hugging, and hate people touching you in general, I think you have to realize that you are an outlier. That doesn't make it bad or wrong or something to change necessarily, but I think you have to be upfront with people, most of whom will definitely not understand your feelings without you telling them in some way. People you see more often would need more of an explanation, I think, while it might be better to use something short and sweet with newer acquaintances. In subtle ways, we all train each other in our interactions. The first time someone goes to hug you, you just step back and put out your arm, and say with a big smile, "Sorry, I'm not a hugger. It's great to see you, though, happy holiday! How are things going..." This kind of thing wouldn't be off-putting if done warmly, but the acquaintance would likely remember this preference in the future.