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21 general / Re: Musical performance in a bar
« Last post by PippaGrae on Today at 02:39:11 AM »
If I had paid to go and hear this performer, I'd be pretty upset at others talking over the music. There are free places to talk where those around you didn't pay to experience an event you are now compromising.
Attire / Re: What should the officiant wear? DECISION MADE Post #33
« Last post by MMHou on Today at 02:37:49 AM »
I've been following this thread, but I didn't post earlier because I really didn't feel like I had any valuable input. But seeing the dress you chose I have to say two things...(1) I do think that was a great choice, and (2) I want that dress!!
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Dear Dog...Dear Cat
« Last post by atirial on Today at 02:37:08 AM »
Sigh. Once again, Missy Mouth.

Whilst I do understand that the dishwasher is a noisy kitty warmer, you are NOT allowed on the counters. You have a wonderful comfy and warm waterbed to sleep on, and currently it has a warm human to cuddle up with. Why do we have to do this every night?

PS, if you didn't knock things off the counter, I probably wouldn't wake up and come out and push you off.

The grumpy human who isn't in the comfy bed.
Dear human,

If you didn't leave things where I sleep, I wouldn't have to knock them off.

Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Friendship dealbreakers/what is "normal"?
« Last post by atirial on Today at 02:35:41 AM »
Outright lies just for the sake of drama. A few years back our group dropped a friend. She had claimed to have cancer and received a lot of help and support (and cash!) from the group, but apparently had forgotten that a few of us either were cancer survivors or had them in the family. Her story fell apart quite quickly as time progressed. We're not friends anymore, largely because she didn't think she did anything wrong.
Family and Children / Re: Can't you bathe your kids at your own house?
« Last post by MariaE on Today at 02:28:57 AM »
Seems really normal to me. Happens all the time at my parents' place (with my sisters giving their kids a bath) - although I think this is less because of "gotta bath on bath day" and more because of the kids loving the novelty of "grandma and granddad have a bathtub and we don't!"
Guests / Re: Pictures for everyone?
« Last post by lmyrs on Today at 02:24:15 AM »
I think that, while there are exceptions to every rule, guests infringing upon the professional shoot is usually disruptive. It adds a level of distraction that is unnecessary. I can easily see one or two people not being a huge problem. But I apply a simple rule to most of these situations: I may be able to be discreet and unobtrusive. But if everyone else there did the same thing I'm doing will it cause a problem? Because if it's ok for me, then it's ok for everyone else. And I do mean everyone. Imagine the entire reception following you out to take their specific photo. That's a nightmare.

I wouldn't do it. I think it's inconsiderate of the photographer and the bride and groom that are paying for the service.
I have two questions before I can say either way, OP.  It feels rude but it also feels jerk eating crackers (they did other annoying things, therefore this is annoying logic).

1. Do they leave a mess?  Towels everywhere, water on the floor, mess in the tub (hair) or do they clean up after themselves?
2. You say they go away from the gathering.  How long does it take for the children to be bathed?

I'm thinking if it's more that you're annoyed with towel / shampoo supply use, to ask them to bring their supplies with them.  It's not out of left field and they still can have their kids take the bath.  Just know that, if it's ever reversed, you'll need to have your own supplies with you.
28 general / Re: Sold something I gave her for free
« Last post by Lindee on Today at 02:14:09 AM »
So she knew you wanted to sell it, hinted strongly that she wanted it knowing that the group ethos is helping each other out in this sort of situation, then sold it for herself without telling you?  You have been taken advantage of and she is not your friend.

You are a better person than I am if you can manage not to say anything to her, even if it it only to ask how the change table is working out to see if she confesses to selling it or lies about it.   I would let her know I was hurt and felt taken advantage of and then quietly make sure she got nothing from me in future.
Family and Children / Re: Can't you bathe your kids at your own house?
« Last post by CakeEater on Today at 01:49:53 AM »
Seems really normal to me. I, and family with kids have done this a lot.

But how does it start? Did you just go into the bathroom and start bathing your children?  Or did you ask permission first?  As someone who does not have children, this is bizarre. 

And OP if you're not ok with it, then just because other people do it doesn't mean you have to do it.  Like, if I feel something is weird, then I'm not going to do it because other people are doing it.  I'm not a lemming...

My SIL actually started it in our family. Everyone in DH's family all live 1.5-2 hours from each other, and she asked to bath her daughter a couple of times before a trip home.

When we had kids, it sounded like a good idea to me - kids get a bath, if they go to sleep on the way home, we can throw them into bed, already in their pyjamas.

No-one makes a huge mess, using one towel and a washcloth isn't that much of an imposition.

I don't know what would be weird about it.
This is an instance when cultivating a good smirk would go a long way. 
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