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Cat central always provides when needed!

Yup, and she's calling me right now.

You do realize that photos of this particular "silly" thing would make the rest of us very happy as well.   ;)

I've never done that before, but I will try to figure it out.  She really is a cutie. 

For some reason, she and our golden doodle of about 100 lbs or so seem to really like each other.  I've been watching very carefully of course. He is following her around, and she is chasing him and doing mock attacks.  I forgot to ask the vet, but her weight must be in the 1 lb range.
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<<Waving back to potential cousin Julian.>>

Isn't this whole DNA thing just a lot of fun?  We would never have known any of this stuff without modern science!
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Have you ever thought about using google translate, or one of the other computer translators for your questions.  You could type your concerns up, and direct them to the computer to read them.  I don't think that they'd be offended if you smiled and started with "Mi espaņol es terrible."

You are probably not the first person that they have had problems understanding.  It might break the ice if they feel that you are trying to meet them part way.  You could try to pronounce the Spanish sentences, and let them correct you. 
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: s/o Ancestry websites -- Ancestry DNA testing?
« Last post by Julian on Yesterday at 10:32:13 PM »
Yes, from memory my Scandinavian heritage was 16%.  That's a lot of Viking!   ;D 

Now Ancestry is showing two potential ancestors from the USA.  This is certainly getting interesting...

Just as a point of pedantry: the Normans *were* Vikings who settled in the Normandy region of France (historically speaking) so I'd doubt they'd have any genetic differences to their cousins who didn't move in from Scandinavia.

I did mention this in the original post, thanks.  It adds to the confusion!
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If you weren't in academia, I'd say to get another job, because your boss is terrible.

You have the responsibility of managing students, but no actual authority when it comes to disciplining bad behaviour. Your boss, who does, has basically no interest in actually managing, and is quite happy to let you put up with crap from students as long as *he* doesn't have to deal with it. His student commits public academic fraud, and he reprimands her about showing up late! He doesn't take the option of giving problem students desks right under his eye, even though that makes complete sense to do so. And the trick with the desks was a pretty nasty thing to do.

However, you're in academia, quitting a postdoc without a new one lined up is career suicide, even for justified reasons, and good postdocs are not easy to come by. What I would do is go back to your boss, and tell him that Evil Bestie's attitude is making it impossible for you to help other students effectively, and ask him directly how you should handle a student who keeps telling you to "zip it" when you're helping another student.

Ideally, what you would do is basically say "You, me, boss's office, NOW!" at which point she would be reamed out by your boss, but I doubt that he's willing to go through the effort. A reasonable boss would have put the problem students right next to his office, so he could monitor them, and would have addressed the other issues already.

But when it comes down to it, you may just have to put up with it, and do your best to make sure it doesn't impact your work productivity, or that of the more reasonable students, until you can get out of there.

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Life...in general / Re: Showing Appreciation
« Last post by baglady on Yesterday at 10:22:41 PM »
I just remembered I did work at a job where we gave the boss birthday gifts - and I resented it.     She was the HR manager, we were her 6 HR and recruitment staff.   We all "put in" equal amounts to buy gifts for birthdays.    I resented the whole process because there were 4 birthdays all in a 3 week period in November, and my budget was insanely tight.  Putting in even $30 for each person was a huge cost to me, and if I recall correctly it was as high as $50.   And I particularly hated doing it for her when I knew she was paid a 6 figure salary that was 3x what I earned.    All so she and her 2IC could buy nice purses or fancy champagne for birthday gifts.   (Interestingly enough, I was never involved in picking the gift - just expected to hand my money over, and the pressure to do so was immense).

I really feel the manager shouldn't have participated.  It felt awfully inequal and unfair.  A secret santa with a set budget of $10 each?  Sure, everybody can participate.   But beyond that it's a bit much.

At my current company the company pays for birthday cakes.   I actually feel slightly awkward when my staff present my with my cake and sing happy birthday, I can't imagine how awkward I would feel if they had paid for it out of their own pockets!   

$30 or $50 per person? That's way too much. I can't imagine chipping in more than $5 for a gift for someone at work.
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Life...in general / Re: Showing Appreciation
« Last post by Ceallach on Yesterday at 10:05:07 PM »
I just remembered I did work at a job where we gave the boss birthday gifts - and I resented it.     She was the HR manager, we were her 6 HR and recruitment staff.   We all "put in" equal amounts to buy gifts for birthdays.    I resented the whole process because there were 4 birthdays all in a 3 week period in November, and my budget was insanely tight.  Putting in even $30 for each person was a huge cost to me, and if I recall correctly it was as high as $50.   And I particularly hated doing it for her when I knew she was paid a 6 figure salary that was 3x what I earned.    All so she and her 2IC could buy nice purses or fancy champagne for birthday gifts.   (Interestingly enough, I was never involved in picking the gift - just expected to hand my money over, and the pressure to do so was immense).

I really feel the manager shouldn't have participated.  It felt awfully inequal and unfair.  A secret santa with a set budget of $10 each?  Sure, everybody can participate.   But beyond that it's a bit much.

At my current company the company pays for birthday cakes.   I actually feel slightly awkward when my staff present my with my cake and sing happy birthday, I can't imagine how awkward I would feel if they had paid for it out of their own pockets!   
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I don't even know that this is true, though. People used to read out letters to each other or let other people read letters all the time. I don't think there was ever really an expectation of absolutely privacy, especially among relatives and spouses.

Not absolute privacy, but a much higher barrier to exposure, due to the fact that text and email are more easily duplicated than letters. If you want to share a letter, you have to read it out loud to someone, or physically give the letter to them, which takes effort and access. An email can be duplicated with a single mouse click, and sent to as many people as you want, or posted on Facebook. And it's way more easy to accidentally see something on someone's iPad or a shared computer screen than to accidentally open and read someone's mail. Plus, I don't think I've ever met someone who hands over their mail for the kids to play with, while every parent I know passes their kids their iPad or phone to play with.



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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Last post by daisy1679 on Yesterday at 09:19:06 PM »
Speaking of tunnels and overheight vehicles...

Last year, a truck carrying an excavator smashed into the roof of the Parkes Way tunnel in Canberra, a major route for commuters, closing the road for a few days. The excavator wasn't stowed correctly, making the load taller than in should have been. It took more time to clear because the damaged part of the tunnel contained asbestos IIRC. This isn't a low tunnel either.

http://www.canberratimes.com.au/act-news/parkes-way-tunnel-blocked-after-excavator-collides-with-bridge-20151019-gkdayy.html

Apparently that happens often, this guy hit several bridges, completely destroying one of them, because he left the arm up on his load. Bridge had to be torn down, and they're hoping it will be rebuilt by the summer (accident happened in March).

http://www.wxyz.com/news/us-23-nb-closed-at-8-mile-in-whitmore-lake-overpass-also-shut-down

I've heard about that one in Michigan (Michigan person here). I heard its still a bit of a mess and stuff to get around in the area.

Yes, there's still no bridge. It's supposed to be done by the summer (and that bridge was getting repaired anyway, as it was in awful condition). I live just north of there.
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I just found myself trying to swipe across the page of a paper book to turn the page. Scary.
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