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Having just had this situation happen this weekend to adult me (and wow did I not think that adults could act that way - I am Beth in this situation) if my best friend told me that she couldn't have my back because she already invited Carol and it was more important to be supportive of a brand new friend she just met then to support her friend of over 10 years I would also be reevaluating my relationship with Amy. It depends on what was said and how bad it was and I am glad that it is over without having to intervene, but it isn't as black and white as we can't take away an invitation. (FYI in my case I was also threatened and I will not be around anyone who tried to "take me outside")

I think you make some good points, along the lines of what I was thinking. Depending on the circumstances, and the level of the "not nice" things said, I think an argument could be made for somehow uninviting Carol in support of Beth. If Carol and Beth got into a dumb argument and both were being petty, then of course, it's probably best to follow etiquette protocol like Margo suggested. But if Carol was really ugly, vicious, or threatening towards Beth, then I think it would be well within the hostess' rights to withdraw the invitation based on the fact that Carol isn't a very nice person and not someone I would want to get to know better at that point, or possibly even trust in my home, depending on what was said or done.

All in all, it sounds like this situation worked out for the best; middle schoolers are full of drama, but as wolfie demonstrates, that doesn't always end with adulthood!!

Thirded. Context matters, but if Carol was seriously mean and nasty or threatening, I'd disinvite her.
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I would definitely not comment that I thought she was 'pretty' or that I loved curly hair. I might instead post more specifically about how I love that message about being true to yourself instead.

Agreed. That would be awkward at best.
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I have a front loading washing machine. It has a soap/fabric softener/ bleach dispenser above the door. Inside, there is a removable "bowl" where you can pour liquid soap. I always use liquid and put it in the removable "bowl" - but I was running short of time the other day and grabbed a box of pods since it was all the store had. I used one, but it did't completely dissolve and left goo in the "bowl".

So - should I have taken the "bowl" out and put the pod in the solid compartment?
Anyone else with a front loader and use pods?
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More making me sad, but I want to try to make the no-bake peanut butter pie (well, the filling anyway, I'm not a crust fan)

the first 4 recipes I found online involved Cool Whip or Reddi Whip  :'(
It's for the stabilization.  Regular cream wouldn't stay set.  However, you can stabilize real whipped cream with gelatin if you want.

If you don't want to use gelatin, you can also stabilize real whipped cream with cornstarch and a little powdered sugar.

Has anyone tried xanthan gum? I'm experimenting with it because of wheat and corn allergies in the extended family?
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by Dazi on Today at 06:08:04 PM »
Key'Ante

If the child is not named a wine region in Italy, well, that's still likely what they will be called on first read of their name.

I have no idea how it's pronounced (it's someone in one of my online classes), but yeah, my guess was weird spelling of Chianti as well.
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More making me sad, but I want to try to make the no-bake peanut butter pie (well, the filling anyway, I'm not a crust fan)

the first 4 recipes I found online involved Cool Whip or Reddi Whip  :'(
It's for the stabilization.  Regular cream wouldn't stay set.  However, you can stabilize real whipped cream with gelatin if you want.

If you don't want to use gelatin, you can also stabilize real whipped cream with cornstarch and a little powdered sugar.
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Humor Me! / Re: Gross out-- Not for the faint of heart
« Last post by Dazi on Today at 06:02:39 PM »
I love what Mucinex does for my sinuses, but it makes my pee reek. I feel so gross and like everyone can smell it, though I'm probably just being paranoid.

I have the same thing happen! It's so gross. The weird part is, even asparagus doesn't make my pee smell bad (I don't have the stinky pee gene for it).
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I talk to my mom once a week, with additional emails during the week if we're trying to figure something out or plan something.  I text or email with my cousins on a somewhat random basis, usually when I'm going to be in town and we're planning to get together.  When my grandmother was alive, I'd call or email her every couple of weeks. 

We see my IL's at least once a month, usually more like every couple of weeks, between monthly dinners and other occasions.  I hardly ever talk to my IL's on the phone though.  Email is once or twice a month, usually just to confirm details of when we're getting together.  I'd be happy if it was less contact, honestly. 
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Humor Me! / Re: Gross out-- Not for the faint of heart
« Last post by Julian on Today at 05:21:10 PM »
I had to clean a room in the hospital I work at after the patient left. The entire room smelled of rancid pee, and it was so pungent you could smell it from 3 rooms away in either direction. The co - worker cleaning with me finally managed to find some kind of cleaner that killed that smell, but I will never get that smell out of my nose. Not even breathing in the hand sanitizer for a second while I was cleaning my hands killed that, and it's killed some pretty pungent smells (and probably my nostrils too, lol).

I certainly don't blame the poor patient, because you can't help being sick, and likely the illness had something to do with that, if the room smelled that bad, but yuck!
Well there's a job I'm glad I avoided.  Saved me getting fired at least for umm...adding to the clean up.

Just a hint for the future, if you've got a stinky mess, a surgical mask with Tinc Benz Co (just a couple of drops) or a smear of Vicks vaporub.  When I worked in the operating rooms we would get the occasional extremely stinky pus or something, and the mask/TBC combo, while it doesn't totally kill the smell, makes it semi-bearable.
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Par-Tay! / Re: MLM Bridal Shower
« Last post by gellchom on Today at 04:41:44 PM »
This is terrible! I like 31 products just fine, I think some of them are great and some are overpriced, but I'm very happy with the items I've purchased. I could easily see some of their products making great wedding/shower gifts. I would expect a fSIL who sells 31 to purchase something from 31 as a gift for the bride to be, and maybe even 1-2 friends or family members of SIL's to also purchase gifts from 31. But that's where the line should have been drawn! NO ONE in this world has any need or use for 30 products from their line. Especially if this is a younger couple starting out, they probably do need toasters and towels and plates a little more than personalized blankets and cute storage tote bags with a monogram. Even if they aren't starting out, and already have the essentials, it's still quite a stretch to think that they would want 30 specialized items from one company. I can't help but think about where I would store all of these items, and we have a 4 bedroom house for 2 people! I'm just picturing 31 products everywhere in their home, like a sitcom plot or something  ;D

Of course, no one is obligated to purchase from a registry, or to purchase gifts at all, but I mean, if you're going to throw someone a shower, then throw the shower for them, not yourself!!

Add to that the fact that all the games/activities were 31 related, it's pretty obvious that fSIL saw an opportunity to host a home show for herself, make some $$, score some free product and look like the gracious hostess all at the same time. Hope the OP declines the baby shower that SIL offers to host when the time comes!!  >:D

I went to a MLM bridal shower years ago. The gifts were useful to any young bride, and she got the hostess gifts from the party. I think it depends on what the items are and if the bride would actually use them. In this case, I think many Thirty One items is a bit much. At the one I attended, the bride knew in advance and was excited to get the items.

To me, this is about the only acceptable way to throw a shower based on MLM products - the guest of honor is okay with it, can use the items, AND gets the bonuses related to having a party!

This, especially the bolded!  Well put.

Even if the bride is good with an MLM shower and doesn't mind all the gifts being from the MLM catalog, I would still hate it as a guest.  I don't care for MLM parties, and even the items I've liked are IMO quite overpriced.  The couple of times I've been at them, I felt very pressured, despite all the assurances to the contrary.  No one pushed me at all; it's just the set up and knowing that my friend will be disappointed if no one buys that inherently makes me feel somewhat obliged.

Which is not to say that MLM parties are bad and no one should have them -- many people enjoy them, and that's fine.  But many do not.  And that's the biggest reason why I think they are a bad idea for a shower: it's easy to decline if you are invited to an ordinary MLM party.  But if it's the shower for your niece or something, it's not just the type of party itself that matters; you go, or you miss the shower for someone important to you.

I guess it's just a specific example of planning with your guests in mind.  Of course the guest of honor's preferences are the most important.  But the guests' are, too.  So unless this guest list was comprised largely of people who are wild about whatever "31" is or MLM parties in general, in my opinion, it was a poor choice.  I, too, would wonder about the hostess's motives.
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