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  • July 23, 2016, 04:28:06 PM

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as a mom, aunt, and human being, i cannot imagine doing this to my niece.

And this young woman's parents are so totally wrong. (Reminds me of the way *I* was raised, where "family" is so important that when my first cousin continuously mistreated, i was told to 'get over it' because "faaaamily").

Other than the young woman, the only "adults" in the story are the 13 and 18 YO brothers.
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that is a very weird response. who knows? A year ago, in spite of the many many judge judy/judge millian cases i've seen with problems stemming from craigslist, i tried to find an apartment to rent through craigslist. it was just a weird experieince. After carefully weeding through what seemed to be definite scams/weird ads, i responded to a few of the nicer ones (with details, with addresses, with photos, with names of people, with emails that were the "name@gmail" rather than the weird type ("kdklasjeiwojds@hotmail"). I got a few replies from totally different names, about different emails, telling me to send them more details about me (bank details, references etc.

OTOH - i joined a local hiking group that's bee around for centuries and they use the meetup app which i find very useful.
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I recently heard that at least one of the dating apps out there has a 'looking for a friend' option, in addition to dating.  I thought that was pretty cool.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Planning a holiday party.
« Last post by ladyknight1 on Today at 09:54:03 AM »
Bake a wheel of brie with cranberries. It's delicious.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Last post by becktheriddler on Today at 09:43:48 AM »
I got this email scam today:

Good Day,

I am writing this with tears in my eye, sorry i did not inform you about our trip, Last night  I made an unannounced vacation trip to Manila Philippines and unfortunately I got attacked and mugged at gun point on my way to the hotel where I stayed, all cash,credit card and mobile were stolen off but luckily I still have my passports left with me.

I have been to the embassy and the Police but they're not helping issues at all and My return flight leaves in few hours from now but am having problems settling the hotel bills and the hotel manager won't let me leave until I settle the bills,I need you to lend me some money to sort my self out of this predicament, I will pay back as soon as I return. Let me know if you can be of help.

Sincerely,
name of someone with an address at a community center about 20 miles from my home

Now, I don't know about you, but any of my friends who were in dire need of cash wouldn't open an email with "Good Day," and who makes an "unannounced vacation trip to Manila Philippines" leaving "last night" and is already about to leave?
I got one of these, supposedly from my father, coming from Amsterdam. I didn't know if he was aware, so I called him. When he answered, of course the first question I asked was how he was. He said "Oh, fine, but not as good as my email address, it's taking a vacation in Amsterdam". So yeah, he already knew.
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Guests / Re: Evening only - save the date
« Last post by Tini on Today at 09:32:22 AM »
The background to the UK 'adding guests' thing is that up to about 15/20 years ago, there were strict rules as to where you could get married (without a special licence that was financially impossible for most people).  If the only place you could get married could only hold 40 people (small but not impossible for a UK church or registry office) and you wanted to invite 200, it was going to be necessary for etiquette to work around the problem.

Yeah, my wedding was in Newport Register Office twenty years ago (no choice as we are not religious), and on top of everything else they were renovating, so we had a maximum of something like thirty people that could come to the ceremony. We had the wedding breakfast in the hotel everyone was staying in so people could have a break before the evening do, which was about sixty people. All this was on a Friday, so the people coming in the evening didn't have to take the day off if they didn't want to. Worked out quite nicely.
My sister-in-law who got married a couple of years later could have everyone there for the ceremony as the registrar came to Tredegar House, a big manor with oodles of space. The law had changed just in time for them.
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Trans-Atlantic Knowledge Exchange / Re: Strata vs. HOA
« Last post by pattycake on Today at 09:21:16 AM »
The past year has been my first time living in a "strata property".     I believe it is the Australian equivalent to HOA, but I'm not sure.   (We probably need to be careful on this thread to avoid legal advice!)

Basically, in our case we are in free-standing houses but there are 4 on the same property, so technically they are "townhouses", and all with the same "look" and a shared driveway.  We each own our own home, but the external area is shared property.   There is an external "property management" company to whom we pay regular dues, and a property manager who facilitates meetings between all owners, a very businesslike process.  The money we pay covers admin costs, insurance, maintenance, and also a fund for improvements such as exterior painting or resurfacing the driveway.    Many strata properties are apartments or joined dwellings, ours is slightly unusual in that it is freestanding houses, but the same strata rules apply due to the property title and development. 

Because DH and I have pets we have always lived in houses with yards, and by pure chance never lived in a strata property until now, despite the fact that a significant percentage of properties in this city are strata properties, due to development.   I have to say I definitely find it feels odd to me.    Day to day it has little effect, but when it comes to changing anything external just knowing that we *should* be consulting others or that somebody else can technically tell us no, does feel restrictive in comparison to having a house on separate title.    I loathe the grey fence, which is only a few metres away from our lovely open glass ranch slider doors - but it's a relatively new fence and there's no way all of the neighbours would agree to pay to replace it!   So there are decisions such as that which make a big difference.       

So - what type of housing situation are you in?   What do you like or dislike about it and why?

What you have sounds more like a co-op (co-operative) or condo (condominium) than an HOA. I think that HOAs cover a lot more area, like an entire neighbourhood development, and they don't actually take care of anything outside. That's the homeowner's total responsibility, but they can fine you if you don't do things their way (wrong kind of fence, wrong colour of paint, not mowing your lawn, that kind of thing.) I think their idea is to keep the neighbourhood looking up to a certain standard.

I used to live in a condo that was a bit different than most as the units were more like duplexes in that there were only two attached. I think they properly were considered to be townhouses though, but like two end units stuck together. I liked not having to worry about the outside stuff like lawn and building maintenance, though it could take them a while to get around to fixing some things. It mostly worked well until the awful neighbour in back of me got on the condo board. They caused a bit of trouble. Or when things went wrong and you had only a specific amount of time to cough up a substantial amount of cash because there wasn't enough in the bank to cover a major sewer repair.
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Guests / Re: Evening only - save the date
« Last post by Sara Crewe on Today at 09:13:31 AM »
The background to the UK 'adding guests' thing is that up to about 15/20 years ago, there were strict rules as to where you could get married (without a special licence that was financially impossible for most people).  If the only place you could get married could only hold 40 people (small but not impossible for a UK church or registry office) and you wanted to invite 200, it was going to be necessary for etiquette to work around the problem.

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A colleague of mine has an office filled with trolls.  Dolls and statues of trolls, that is, not internet trolls.

This made my morning.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Funny things the babysitter says.....
« Last post by RainyDays on Today at 09:00:13 AM »
Snip...

I had to let her go. She's in college and studying to be a teacher at this point.


Please tell me she is planning to teach at the secondary level. I can't imagine what she expects teaching to be like if she's planning to teach elementary school.  :o
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