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Life...in general / Re: A hostess gift that overshadows the hostess...
« Last post by menley on Today at 04:09:12 PM »
I have to say - when I initially read this thread, I thought it was a bit silly and wondered how someone bringing food could possibly overshadow the hostess. And then.  :D

I am hosting people for my husband's birthday. It's really just an excuse to have people over, plus cake! My husband has a favorite cake that I make for him every year, and I told everyone who asked what they could bring that they should only bring themselves and that we had plenty of drinks, etc. Well, one of my good friends responded that she would be bringing a dessert anyway. It really annoyed me that she was going to do that, and I couldn't figure out why, but I think this thread has hit it. Because she is an excellent baker (and her stuff not only tastes delicious but looks effortless and beautiful as well), whatever she brings for dessert will completely overshadow the birthday cake I bake. I'm still going to bake the cake, as it's my husband's favorite and he wants it, and I'm not going to say anything to my friend about it (because I want her to come and to feel welcomed), but it will sting a tiny bit when everyone is oohing and ahhhing over whatever delicious treat she brings and the only one to eat the actual birthday cake will be my husband.
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The good thing is that LHS was pretty well behaved - and she looked lovely. Her dress was stunning and appropriate.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Bring your family to work
« Last post by BioformCassie on Today at 04:07:58 PM »
Totally depends on the workplace. We (my 1 year old daughter and I) visit my husband at work about every other month or so. We'll go over get lunch together and then hang out at his work for an hour or two after. The office ladies (and some of the guys) want to see her grow up as they all bought gifts for her before she was born. And my husbands boss is completely ok with it and has reiterated several times that it's a family company and that its lovely to see us. The minute my daughter gets fussy we're out the door so that its not a distraction.

It's know your audience, I suppose - I worked somewhere that had regular visitors of ex-employees or wives of employees who would bring their babies in 'to visit' and I thought it was a pain in the rear. Work would stop while people cooed over the babies, not just for a few minutes but for half a morning. I was expected to make a fuss of the babies of people I hardly knew, or in some cases didn't know at all - people who had left the company before I joined - and even if the baby was quiet and calm, it used to irritate me that I couldn't get something finished because people kept interrupting me to admire her, or because the person who was supposed to be passing a project on to me hadn't finished it because they were making cootchy-cootchy noises in another office. The baby didn't need to be crying to be a distraction; the sheer fact that the baby was present was a distraction. It wasn't helped by the fact that we were all supposed to account for our time in 10 minute blocks, chargeable to clients, and curiously there didn't seem to be a charge code for baby worship.

But then I'm not a baby-cuddler anyway, so that might be just me!

Sounds like a completely different office environment. Think corporate headquarters for large toy company (no quite but close). There are no billable hours so that's not an issue there. And husband has a semi private office (door and walls but no ceiling). We come in, say hi to the boss, retreat to his office where IM's are sent out to those who like to see her. Sometime's they are busy and don't come. Usually visits are no more than 5 minutes a piece. Unless you knew to come look for us you wouldn't know we were there.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Moving Support
« Last post by Morticia on Today at 04:01:23 PM »
Maybe I should have posted this thread under I need a hug. We just found out there is a problem with the building we fell in love with, and there is a very good chance we will have to live elsewhere.  :'(

On the brighter side, technically, our house isn't even officially listed yet, but we have already had one showing, with another scheduled for this evening.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Captian Know-It-All stories
« Last post by carol1412 on Today at 04:00:24 PM »

The Langoliers. As with many Stephen King stories, great book - less than stellar movie adaptation.

Just not a book you want to be reading on an airplane!  :o  DH made that mistake when it first came out.  Brand new SK book to take on business trip going cross country to Boston... Yikes!

Yikes indeed! Especially if he was flying the red-eye!
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Captian Know-It-All stories
« Last post by snowfire on Today at 03:58:52 PM »

The Langoliers. As with many Stephen King stories, great book - less than stellar movie adaptation.

Just not a book you want to be reading on an airplane!  :o  DH made that mistake when it first came out.  Brand new SK book to take on business trip going cross country to Boston... Yikes!
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Bring your family to work
« Last post by turnip on Today at 03:55:05 PM »
I actually think there is a big benefit to having kids see what 'office' life looks like - provided they are not disturbing to other workers.  We all have offices and it's not terribly unusual to see a child working at their parent's desk on teacher training days or something similar.  If the child can be quiet ( at least as quiet as the rest of the office ) and stay out of trouble -  I don't see any harm.
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Family and Children / Re: Uncomfortable bridal shower
« Last post by lakey on Today at 03:54:27 PM »
Free Range Hippy Chick, Sammycat, etc.,
I guess I handle this differently because I lived among people who are like this. I do not believe that their bringing out a Bible at a bridal shower is bait and switch. I don't think they do this because they are trying to trick you into attending a Bible study. I believe that they do it because that is just how they do things. People like this make the Bible an integral part of their everyday lives.  They read the Bible  A LOT and in a lot of different circumstances.  They memorize it, study it, and live by it. They sincerely believe in this way of life, and it works for them.

I came into this when I was in junior high when my family moved. I learned a valuable lesson, that people are all different, and that you can't expect others to do things the way you do them. I initially thought these people were very over the top, but I learned to respect them for taking their religion seriously enough to have it affect their everyday life. I never felt the need to make a fast exit when they whipped out the Bible. People are all different and if there's anything that bothers me about the OP's experience it is that the bride may have distanced herself from her husband's relatives due to these differences. I don't think that mature people do that, and it doesn't bode well for the marriage. Neither side should feel the need to separate themselves from people over religious differences.

I also think that it would be best for the OP to forget all about the fact that she was too casually dressed and gave a gift that didn't fit in. These are trivial matters that most other guests would forget very quickly. If the bride is such a snob that she still remembers that her husband's cousin came to a shower wearing shorts, that's her problem.
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My 84 y.o. mother, who lives with us, loves to read.  She's not comfortable browsing through bookstores or the library and prefers to tell me what kind of book she'd like and wait for me to either borrow one or come across it at a book sale.  We have vastly different tastes, too, so she's pretty much exhausted whatever inventory of ours might be interesting to her.  The other day we were talking about books in general and I mentioned that we had purged quite a few.  She indicated the tall bookcase we were standing next to, saying "You can get rid of these.  I don't like them."

It was a perfect moment for "Why would I want to do that?" and the afternoon progressed without friction or drama.
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Humor Me! / Re: Gross out-- Not for the faint of heart
« Last post by ladyknight1 on Today at 03:52:36 PM »
Mocha loves to gently knead one's rear as you are sitting in the office chair. Not once, but many times has she been rewarded with human flatulence.
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