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Life...in general / Re: Which Way To Handle?
« Last post by SamiHami on Today at 11:11:02 AM »
Well you could have said, "Hey! Say it, don't spray it!"  ;)

Then only rude person here was the spitter. Etiquette does not require you to eat food that others have spit on, no matter that they didn't mean to do it. You tried to handle it subtly and she didn't pick up on it. So your friend took it to the next level, by politely asking her to step back.  I'm sorry that she was embarrassed by it, but I don't see what else you and your friend could have done.
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Life...in general / Re: Which Way To Handle?
« Last post by Kiwipinball on Today at 11:05:10 AM »
"my friend told FC that she is spitting on our food as she talks, so please step back."

Your friend doesn't like this person, does she?

I would have have simply put my dinner napkin over my plate.

I think that was very rude.

To me it would depend a lot on the tone. It could certainly be done rudely, but I think it could be done politely (albeit extremely directly). Some people would find that to be too abrupt, but I don't think it's necessarily rude.  And neither person had any good choices.  Having someone's spit on your food, silverware, water glass, self, is disgusting and would ruin my food.  I think kindly speaking up may be the best choice. If I was the spitter I'd be embarrassed (and apologetic) but I wouldn't be angry.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Oh, dear, someone stole the thief's pizza
« Last post by Shalamar on Today at 10:57:47 AM »
That reminds me of my coworker.  He was taken out for lunch, paid for by his boss, to celebrate Coworker's 10th anniversary with the company.    When he got back, he found that someone had bought too much pizza for a meeting and left the leftovers for anyone to help themselves.   Coworker was mad, because he was too full from his free lunch to partake of the free pizza.   :o
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Oh, dear, someone stole the thief's pizza
« Last post by Kiwipinball on Today at 10:56:10 AM »
We do have one staff member who will complain if we have treats when she is out - she doesn't work on a Friday, and will comment about it if she sees that there were treats on Friday
Holy Dinah, what a brat.
Particularly as there are reasons why Fridays are often particularly stressful. Treats on a Friday are usually to off-set the Friday stresses.

I might be annoyed if there were constantly company sponsored treats on Fridays and no other days, especially if a lot of people didn't work on Fridays.  But I wouldn't complain about it. Also, I would love a job I didn't have to work on Fridays for, and would be super excited about that so it might offset my annoyance.  But if was occasional or the treats were sometimes on other days, I probably wouldn't care much.
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Family and Children / Re: Uncomfortable bridal shower
« Last post by Kiwipinball on Today at 10:53:05 AM »
I have friends from all different backgrounds and social classes.  I let the invitation be my guide.  If the invitation was printed especially for the event or if it was a blank card with an art print on the front, I take as a dressy occasion.  If it was purchased in bulk and/or is funny or cutesy, I interpret that as a more casual party.  If the party is at some sort of clubhouse, I dress better.  If there is any indication that the hostess went above and beyond the call of duty, I dress better.  It is disconcerting when one goes to all the trouble or ironing linens, polishing grandmother's silver, and using a special cleanser to make the crystal punchbowl shine and then have the guests arrive dressed extremely casually.

That said, I would've made you feel just as welcome no matter how you were dressed.  I would've also taken any guest aside who treated you coolly or distantly.  Breach of hospitality is a faux pas in any culture.

In my family we usually buy the invitations in bulk but showers are slightly dressy (generally no jeans, but nice pants, skirts, dresses are all fine).  But as you said, if someone showed up in something else, we wouldn't make them feel bad.  My aunt and I were cohosting my cousin's bridal shower (my aunt's niece, not daughter) and my aunt's daughter (also my cousin of course, just trying to clarify the relationships) was around 13 or 14 and was planning to wear jeans and a baggy t-shirt (and not horrible jeans, but not really nice jeans either).  She wasn't listening to my aunt's suggestions that she change and when I got there to help set up, solicited my opinion on what my cousin was wearing.  I said I didn't care, but if I was her I wouldn't wear that because she'd be by far the most casual.  Apparently cousins are less annoying than mothers and she listened to me and changed her clothes and fit in much better.  If she'd stayed stubborn, no one would have cared much, but I think she would have been uncomfortable.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: S/O PD Student Darwinism
« Last post by Coley on Today at 10:38:06 AM »
One of my teachers in high school used to routinely lose our homework assignments and exams on her desk.  She was very forgetful...
I don't 'get' people like that. Do they somehow think it's not disrespectful to students?

I had a colleague who had the habit of disappearing during the last week of classes- the rest of us got tasked with dealing with his students who were bringing in their papers. We would open his office, and place them on his desk. One semester, he gave about half a class horrible grades, because 'they didn't turn in the final project'. It was only after  other faculty said, 'I personally put that paper on your desk!' that he muttered that he'd let the students re-submit their work.
Some time around spring break, he came into a faculty meeting, dying with laughter. HA HA HA! He'd just found the pile of papers , stuffed on his bookcase! HA HA HA! Why, he must have moved them over there and forgotten about them! (I'm using capitals to indicate the extreme loudness of his laughter, and because he literally did laugh like that, sort of barking HA's.) He didn't understand why the rest of us didn't find it hilarious.

We just finished an 8-week online term. I heard a story last week that one instructor vanished from her online course for three weeks and didn't enter grades for any work submitted during that time. When she hadn't submitted final grades for the course on time, the administration started poking around. That's when they discovered her lengthy absence from the course.

After the administration attempted to call and e-mail the instructor (with no response), magically, three weeks' worth of work was graded within a couple of hours. This included the students' research papers. Magically, the students all had A's on their research papers. Magically, they all had full credit for all their other work. The administration was able to see in the online course that the instructor hadn't even bothered to read any of the research papers.

And then poof! Just like magic, she disappeared from the schedule for the upcoming term.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by Ms_Cellany on Today at 10:32:16 AM »
I have met a couple of Charice and a Charis but had no idea what they were going for with Shurease

I read it as "Shu-reez."  Same pronunciation as "Charis."


I thought that Charis has a hard 'K' sound?  So Kar-eese, with a fairly even emphasis between the two syllables.


The Charis I knew pronounced it Sh'REESZ.
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Family and Children / Re: Uncomfortable bridal shower
« Last post by jazzgirl205 on Today at 10:23:56 AM »
I have friends from all different backgrounds and social classes.  I let the invitation be my guide.  If the invitation was printed especially for the event or if it was a blank card with an art print on the front, I take as a dressy occasion.  If it was purchased in bulk and/or is funny or cutesy, I interpret that as a more casual party.  If the party is at some sort of clubhouse, I dress better.  If there is any indication that the hostess went above and beyond the call of duty, I dress better.  It is disconcerting when one goes to all the trouble or ironing linens, polishing grandmother's silver, and using a special cleanser to make the crystal punchbowl shine and then have the guests arrive dressed extremely casually.

That said, I would've made you feel just as welcome no matter how you were dressed.  I would've also taken any guest aside who treated you coolly or distantly.  Breach of hospitality is a faux pas in any culture.
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Holidays / Re: Holidays 2014
« Last post by cheyne on Today at 09:47:12 AM »
Once DD graduates DH and I are spending Thanksgiving hunting and eating Chinese food.

I've heard chow mein can be really hard to catch, spare ribs are much easier.

 ;D!  Thanks for the laugh this morning!
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by Betelnut on Today at 09:43:26 AM »
I would pronounce the "Char" part like Charlotte, so SHar-rees.
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