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It would be incredibly passive aggressive to do it. Your wife should have let you know she was busy and asked to call back at a later time.
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I'm going with the minority response. While good manners would dictate that a daughter-in-law should attend, you are talking about people who are lacking in good manners, and, quite possibly, good sense. You mention that the cops might have to be called. That sound to me like there's a real risk that someone will be assaulted. The funeral is not going to be a dignified, respectful affair, in that case.
I heartily recommend that you contact the funeral director so that you and your wife can have a private goodbye. You can read eulogies, poems, sing songs, whatever will make the ceremony meaningful for you, and will make you feel that you honored your father. Then don't put yourselves through the hooplah. You can stay away, or attend by yourself, whatever feels right to you. You can host a reception on your own for those relatives that aren't judging you, so that they understand that your wife's (and, possibly, your) staying away had nothing to do with a lack of respect, but that you wanted to diminish the drama.
Somehow, I think that your father will understand.
I ran into a guy at work last week who apparently believes that computers confer magical powers upon one. I work at an insurance company, doing disability claims. As such, I don't have access to any information except what is relevant to disability. The "gentleman" I was talking to did not believe me in the slightest. He called in, I answered a few questions for him and then said, at what I thought would be the end of the call, "Is there anything else I can help you with?". He said, "yeah, I need help getting some orthotics. Supposedly it's covered by my insurance. What do I need to do?". Since his disability was not related to his feet in any way, I didn't have any information on if it was covered, or who he would need to contact about that, and told him so. "Wait!" he says, in total disbelief, "You don't have access? Isn't this *MyCompany*?" "Yes, it is, and I work in disability, so I would need to transfer you to...". He cut me off and continued, "And you are sitting at a computer, right? Just look it up and tell me, for Deity's sake!".
I must have explained to him seven different times that I had no access to the information he was looking for. Not that I don't want to access it, but that I can't access it, and would he like me to transfer him to the people who have more information on this sort of thing. No, he didn't want to be transferred, he wanted me to look it up, and obviously I could look it up since I had a computer sitting in front of me. He got really snotty with me, and very unhappy that I had a computer, but couldn't do what he wanted. At the end of the call, I said thank you for calling. He nastily said, "Aren't you going to ask me if there's anything else that you can help me with?". So I said, "is there anything else regarding your disability claim that I can help you with, sir?" He hung up on me.
So yeah, apparently just the act of having a computer at work gives me access to all sorts of privileged and private information. Who knew?
Pen, I've not found turkey bacon or sausage that tasted just like pork. IMO, it's like veggieburgers- tasty enough if you think of it as a different product in its own right. Can you get any information about the brand name of this bacon delight?
YEs, please share. Most turkey bacon makes me want to scrape the taste off my tongue.
I think the fact that you think it would be "so tempting" to exact revenge on a five year old slight by your spouse is distubing and rather scary.
While you claim that you would "rather" behave yourself in regard to calling your wife during her upcoming trip, you seem oblivious to a deeper problem which is that you have harbored a grudge for so long against someone you have an intimate and daily relationship with.