That when I say the rice is "half-done" and it should be ready in ten or fifteen minutes, that does not mean that it is time to come into the kitchen and start serving yourself in five minutes.
Apparently he was half listening and heard only the "key words", i.e. "rice" and "done".
At least it was no longer crunchy...
Apparently *I* need to work on either my diction or stop using confusing phrasing. Like "fifteen minute warning" without using the word "done"...
I should never say "take the next exit" because to him, that means he's about to pass the one he's supposed to take, I'm supposed to tell him how far to the exit he is supposed to take...
I'm starting to wonder if he needs a hearing test or I need diction lessons.
Selective hearing and processing, everyone is guilty of that to some extent!
The only thing I could suggest is to say the same thing twice using a different phrasing, maybe it would help?
(Also, not that it was the problem here but, when someone asks you to repeat what you just said it's good to change the phrasing, sometimes it's the wording that doesn't go through/sounds weird, so by trying another set of words you can break that effect)
As for selective hearing, processing and memory recal, I remember explaining to someone who was complaining about a relative always gifting her banana scented soaps (made up exemple) that she hated that it was more or less a lost cause, because a) you never really confront someone saying you hate it do you? and b) when you drop hints the only thing that happens is that Gifter reinforce the mental link Giftee-banana soap, forgets that it was not well received, and proceed gifting banana soaps.
Best course of action IMO is to not mention the hated scent and instead mention that you love mango and pear. Hopefully it will build a Giftee-mango mental link...
This is why I say everything to DH in about 8 different ways, because then there's half a chance he'll remember & do what I asked him to do!! But it's only half a chance things will get done, because he still swears blind I haven't told /asked him about things!! And he complains I'm always talking!
What is my husband's clone doing in your house?
I remember a joke about a guy reading a story to his wife about women talking more than twice as much as men.
His wife told him it was because women had to repeat everything that they told their husbands because the men weren't listening.
His reaction was "What?" and she repeats the comment.
When told the joke, my VorGuy told me that women just needed to be clear about what they meant.
But it seems that he can misunderstand anything that isn't telling him to do it his way...
Maybe I just don't think in "guy"...but seriously - his understanding of some terms is nothing like what the dictionary has down as the meaning...
"Oven proof" on the back of stoneware to him meant that it was bakeware and he could bake biscuit (breakfast food) on the serving plate instead of going looking for the correct baking pan. Similar "misunderstandings" have happened. I have learned to grab the screwdriver and assemble the assemble-it-yourself item myself if I don't want lots of leftover parts and a bookcase that isn't square & plumb.