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People who say "It's a dead language" are just revealing their ignorance. I studied Latin for a year by choice, as an elective in university, and it's given me a better understanding of English.
42 general / Re: Can you bring (some item) back from Other Country?
« Last post by pickles50 on Yesterday at 11:07:33 PM »
I'm a travel professional so I am lucky enough to travel a lot more than my peers. People ask me to bring stuff back all the time but honestly, I never will remember. When I am traveling the items people have requested never enters my mind, I'm too busy exploring. I just tell people "I'm sorry but I will never remember and I don't want to disappoint you but if you give me your address I would be more than happy to send you a postcard". The thought of getting a souvenir from someone else's trip does not even remotely appeal to me. A few people get things from my trips but I save them for birthdays and they are useful things: leather coin purses from Italy, scarves from Istanbul, soap from South France....but I don't take requests.

I do print up self stick address labels before I go and mail out postcards, which makes mailing out postcards incredibly fast and efficient. I keep the list on a flash drive and just add to it when someone wants a "souvenir".

My clients often send me presents from trips I have coordinated for, while I appreciate the gesture and am flattered they thought of me while on vacation...I love my postcard from Antarctica the best!
OP here:

First of all, I'd like to clarify that there is no "fighting" over this bike.  N had it for 18 mos and my DH said nothing to him. Yes, he was sad that the bike was not accessible to ride because it was at cousin's house, but he only expressed this to me.  Recently he asked MIL to borrow the bike, not knowing where it was at that exact moment, and she agreed, and had to contact N (as he does not reply to DH's phone calls or texts).  N was all for it at the time, and stated his knee issue and it was for the best anyway.

'Fighting' doesn't need to be harsh words or fisticuffs. Sounds like there's definitely a passive-aggressive 'war' going on here.

N takes the bike and stores it where it's not accessible to his brothers. Your DH says nothing about this, although he has every right to speak to either N, or his mother and sort out what the real status of the bike's ownership is. He's 'sad' about this for 18 months. N uses language like 'his bike' showing that he's claiming an ownership of it. There's all the discussion about who has to drive and pick it up, or drop it off etc, and no-one's happy about it, but no-one uses their words to clarify what everyone's rights and responsibilities are.

And no-one's thought about the other brother, when it seems that his only reason for not being able to share ownership of the bike is that he doesn't ride. Does he get something else? Does he get a third of the price if the bike gets sold? In that case, he has a legitimate claim on what happens to the bike as well.

Sounds to me like DH needs to sit down with his mother, and N as well, if possible, and work out where the bike is to be kept, and the circumstances under which it is used by all three brothers.
My MIL is one of 7 girls! DH is an only child. Lol
I'd have to go all smart-butt on people like that and say "Actually we've had a couple of boys but we swapped for these."  :P

Reminds me of the people who, when I was hugely pregnant and also had a 1yo and 2.5yo, would say "Haven't you figured out what causes that yet? Had har har." We learned to say "Well, we've narrowed it down to either sex or water so after this one we are not drinking any more water!"

lol, JenJay, that's hilarious.  I love that.  I haven't gotten that comment, but I'll have to remember that response in case I do.

It actually reminds me of a story somebody told, I don't remember if it was here or on a homeschool forum (*lots* of big families there).  A family had two boys, I think, then several girls, and then a baby or toddler boy.  They were at a restaurant, and the two older boys had gone to the restroom, leaving the girls and the littlest boy.  A couple stopped by the table and made a comment about how they'd had all those girls and then finally got their boy, so they could be done.  Then the two older boys came back from the bathroom, and the older couple's minds were blown.

I do sometimes wonder exactly how far we can take the odds.  I mean, sure, every child has roughly a 50/50 chance of being a boy, but there can't be that many families with 6 of one sex, and even fewer with 7, and I'd imagine it's close to unheard of with 8.  Even the Weasleys only had, what, 6 boys before Ginny?
Family and Children / Re: My Mother's "Really?!" Moment
« Last post by greencat on Yesterday at 10:46:55 PM »
And that is why I hate most "romance" stories because the male characters do things that I do not consider romantic in the least, and the female characters are usually barely presented as people at all.
Family and Children / Re: Best way to handle BIL who can't speak for himself.
« Last post by sammycat on Yesterday at 10:41:39 PM »
I'd say if N wants the bike back, and your DH is willing, then it's N's responsibility to come and get it. He can't expect our DH to drive over to his house to get it and then turn around and expect your DH to drive it back to him when N wants it. Maybe it really does need to be kept at your MIL's home at all times it is not being ridden and this will no longer be an issue.

ETA: Your BIL's expectations about the bike--keeping it for long periods of time, expecting pick-up and delivery, etc.--give me the impression that N thinks of the bike as his, permanently.

I totally agree with all of this.  N wants the bike for a certain thing/date? It's his responsibility to come and get it, and not inconvenience a bunch of other people in the process. He also needs to be corrected of any notion he has that the bike is 'his'. It's not.

I would add that in addition to picking the bike up, N needs to bring it back as well. The lady who owns the bike said OP's DH could have it until next spring so, if N wants to borrow it, he's borrowing it from his brother and needs to return it to his brother.

Very good points, JenJay!
48 general / Re: Incident at the cashier
« Last post by shhh its me on Yesterday at 10:40:28 PM »
  The young lady was only rude if she thought to herself "Ha that little boy is not paying attention I'll sneak in front of him." Without seeing it (even OP being a few places behind might not of had a good enough view ) In general I do think people should make an effort to find out if people are in line if there is cause for confusion, so the young woman may have been ungracious but we have to give her the reasonable benefit of the doubt. 

The mother was extremely rude to push/pull the young woman.
An expensive hotdog.  :)  But yes.

Just to clarify, it's not Costco, so you don't go checking next time you're there.  :)  It's another store like that, wholesale club, but it's not as widespread (I think it's East Coast only?).
My all-time favorite cover: The Leningrad Cowboys and the Red Army Chorus, Knockin' On Heaven's Door
"R-E-S-P-E-C-T" is original to Otis Redding, not Aretha Franklin.  And he wasn't referring to being polite, either.
Big Mama Thornton recorded the original "Ball and Chain", later covered by Janis Joplin, and "Hound Dog", covered by Elvis.

And then:
I wish I were kidding when I say Celine Dion covered "You Shook Me All Night Long"
Madonna and "American Pie"
Korn, "Another Brick In The Wall"

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