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Ted Bundy. I read The Stranger Beside Me by Ann Rule (who knew and worked with Bundy) and it's a hard case to get out of my head. I was particularly haunted by the the very short opportunity he had to nab a lot of his victims. One girl never walked around her campus after dark; the one day she took a chance, he kidnapped her. One woman went upstairs to grab a magazine, leaving her fiance and his children for a brief moment; he kidnapped her. All of the crimes were horrid, but the one that stands out to me the most is him abducting two women from the same place hours apart (a crowded beach). Most of the women kindly offered him assistance, as he was using a cast as a ruse.  :( It's easy for this case to still haunt, considering that the bodies of many of his victims have never been found, leaving their families to suffer. I suspect that he killed many more women than we actual know about.

There's a Dutch film called The Vanishing that's loosely based on Bundy. It's a very good film, excellently shot and made and makes for very compelling watching, but it's terrifying. The first time I watched it I didn't know it had been inspired by real events, but it developed a whole new level of creepy once I knew it had. If you like films that are more or less guaranteed to give you nightmares, I recommend it.

This girl believed these monsters to be her friends. 
On the flip side. A cognitively disabled young teenager from Sis's neighborhood disappeared on an evening walk with her family. There was a pretty massive search.

About a week later, some homeless teens (phrase that should not exist) who lived on Longpoint, walked into a substation with the girl. They had found her wandering, but she refused to tell them where she lived and was terrified of going to the police.

The teens kept her with them, fed her best they could, and made sure one one hurt her in any way. They finally convinced her that it was ok to go to the cops and walked her into the station.

These are the children that have been thrown away.

This makes me want to cry.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Reading/Book Pet Peeves
« Last post by Dawse on Today at 06:42:36 AM »
Although I must admit that I'm getting quite a bit of enjoyment out of 'pre-gnant.'  What horrible fate is 'gnant', and what are the ominous symptoms that tell you that you are in the pre-gnant state?   Is it like a migraine aura?  Morning sickness?  Purple spots and a mad desire to become a hermit?

Clearly, it's a misspelling, and it's supposed to be pre-gnat. This probably refers to the pre-adult stage, so eggs, pupae, and larvae could all be described as pre-gnat. Of course, some might consider all forms of gnat to be gnat. Perhaps it could be used in a fantasy story where somebody gets transformed into a gnat. Before he becomes a gnat, he could be known as pre-gnat.

 ;D ;D ;D Now I have coffee on my keyboard.
This one.

Gives me the chills to think that a car accident in the wrong place can leave so many unanswered questions. I wonder how many other similar situations are revealed by droughts?

Seems to be a frequent occurrence here in Florida.  A  car will suddenly become visible in a retention pond, lake, or swamp land after a long dry spell or after a bad storm stirs up the water.  Sometimes cars are found way off the beaten path when land is being cleared for development.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Superstitions
« Last post by Dawse on Today at 06:32:03 AM »
You know when you (general you) are at a party, and people are mingling and there are several different conversations going on, and yet for some reason, every now and again, inexplicably there's a lull in every conversation in the room, all at the same time?

Someone once told me, as a legit superstition, that those lulls always happen at either 20 minutes til or 20 minutes after the hour.

Ever since then, whenever I'm at a party, I mention this fact.  Inevitably someone will ask, "So, does it?"  And I always say, "I don't know; I just think it's funny because after I mention it, every time there's a lull, everyone in the room will look at their watch."

And it is absolutely guaranteed that I will say something embarrassing, very loudly, just as this mystical lull happens... Sigh. You'd have though I'd have learnt to keep my voice down by now, or at least check the ambient noise level before I open my enormous mouth...  ::)
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Superstitions
« Last post by Cherry91 on Today at 05:51:14 AM »
I'm not one to follow most of them (though I do tap on wood (or wood product) when I say something along the lines of, "It's too [Q-word]."). I do find them fascinating.

Never give knives, clocks or empty wallets to someone you care for, lest you cut the relationship, count down the hours they have left or wish them to be poor. I do follow the empty wallet rule and slip in a dollar or two.

Just remembered another one - you should always keep a silver coin in your wallet/purse, in order to always have money. My mother and I both mark the "lucky" coin with nail polish so we don't spend it by mistake.
The local cable company often asks for my Social Security number :o before they'll proceed with a business transaction.  I don't know if they already got it somehow and expect me to match it or if they're trying to get it.  There is no reason on earth why the cable company needs my SSN. 

When I refuse to give it, I'm told that they require it "for my protection".  What I need is protection from unethical, money-grubbing, lying companies like them.  The cable company is near the bottom of the list of businesses I trust.

All the cable companies I've called required a SSN to sign up. They all ran credit checks before they would let me sign on. Therefore, if I later called with an issue, I'd assume they asked for SSN for verification. If I was really opposed to providing my SSN at that time (which would seem pointless, as they already have access to it), I'd just simply say "What other information can you use to verify identity?", which I've had to do lots of times with other companies asking things I'd forgot lol.

ETA: If I distrusted a cable company so much, I wouldn't do business with them. Which I didn't, for two years, when I lived in an area only covered by dish networks I didn't trust. I went without cable and internet instead.

My cable/internet and cell phone companies asks for the last 4 digits to verify identity.   I like that better.  I'm assuming that in general the CS can only see the last 4 digits, which I think is a good idea.

No, the CS can generally see the whole number.
The UK data protection act (and I guess its equivalent in the US) prevent companies from supplying a whole bank AC number to a third party, even if they are the account holder (in case it's actually not the account holder and you've just given their bank details away) They can only supply four digits.
I used to work for a bank and part of my job when setting up new supplier bank accounts for payment was to confirm the bank account details with the supplier. Some bright spark in management's idea to catch any typos in the forms. IT was completely idiotic but they would not be dissuaded. I have never done a job I hated more
"hello, this is Another Sarah from Bank. We are setting you up as a supplier on the system and I need to confirm the bank details you'd like us to pay to"
"It's on the invoice"
"Yes, it's bank policy to confirm the details for a new supplier before we make the first payment. Are the last four digits XXXX?"
"Can you confirm the first four?"

You can't blame the suppliers for being suspicious - it did sound exactly like a scam. Problem was, if I couldn't confirm the bank details I wasn't allowed to set the supplier up, meaning they didn't get paid. Cue another round of irate phonecalls from the supplier. It was awful, stupid, made the bank look really bad, and as far as I know, they still do it today
Paper Trail / Re: Confusing Invitation
« Last post by Free Range Hippy Chick on Today at 04:50:48 AM »

Now just to arrange babysitters (its a school night) and fighure out what one wears to masked ball reception. I'm gussing a mask.....

I'm in the UK too, and call me old-fashioned but I think the mask isn't going to be enough. You'll need clothes as well... ;)
Family and Children / Re: Problem with FIL's girlfriend
« Last post by hannahmollysmom on Today at 03:54:12 AM »
this isn't about the gf. it's about your FIL.

I will say this, based on my own experience:

My mother died at age 53. My father started dating someone within a month. (it was someone we knew), although people mentioned to me that it was clear during a shiva call (the week after the burial) that this person was "on the prowl". by the time of my son's birth (6 weeks later) she was already introduced to the family as "a special friend". they were married a year after my mother died.

to put it mildly - we weren't happy about it. we also felt that she was putting pressure on my father to obliterate my mother's memory. and my father was putting pressure on us tobecome one happy family. it was very difficult. but a lot of friends told me this - "if you want to have a relationship with your father, you are going to have to accept this person. and as hurtful as it is - apparently it's hard for him to be alone"

(they ended up getting divorced a few years later).

ALl i can tell you is that isn't about her, it's about him, and that is a relationship issue. in terms of how to deal with her - if she is in his life, you need to be polite and gracious to her. whether or not he had a relationship with her before the death of his life is not the issue - it may not make her  a moral person, but *she* wasn't the one who made the vows to your MIL; *he* did. you ask "What should I say to her to be enough friendly, so that we can stay in contact with FIL?" - the only way to do that, if that's what you want to do, is to be friendly to her. I wouldn't deliberately bring up MIL, but I wouldn't hide her memory either. Be friendly with her - as much as you would to a friendly neighbor/co worker. there is no rule that says you have to be best friends.

Wow, are you my twin?
It's also handy if guests make off with the silverware ;)
Hotels are the classic example of the preauthorization. At the hotel I work at at check in (we'll assume this isn't a prepaid third party reservation)  a hold is put on the card tor the total stay for room/tax/resort fee plus X amount per day- it's assumed that you'll charge a meal to your room or hit the gift shop or go crazy in the bar. If you go over the amount the system will ask for an increase from the credit card company.

The night of the day you check out during night audit the system tells the bank "Bob didn't use $150 of the hold; we're releasing that." Then it gets released back but may take some days to do so.
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