« Last post by JenJay on Today at 07:06:49 PM »
She eventually told me that they didn't pay support for her nor did they ever have contact with her. I was told this was an agreement that my friends' DH had with his ex; he would stay out of their lives and she would not request support. Who knows how much of this is true.
It does happen, my sister got her ex to sign over parental rights in exchange for no child support. He'd started doing meth and she was terrified of leaving her kid with him for visitation (he didn't really want visitation anyway...his mom insisted.
He was glad to have the money and my sister was glad to have no more legal obligation to go anywhere near him.
I know two people with this arrangement. In both cases the guy was a huge jerk and the woman just wanted him out of her life and away from her kids (one was abusive and the other is just selfish and has nothing to do with any of his kids anyway).
On the flip side DH has a friend who found out he had a 10 year old child when a court order for child support and back-payment showed up. He had no idea. His girlfriend had suddenly broke up with him and moved away, apparently she found out she was pregnant and decided to raise her baby with someone else. Then they divorced and she decided to come after DH's friend anyway. It ruined his family (wife and 2 younger kids) financially and put a huge strain on his marriage. And the little girl lived across the country, where her mom refused to let him come meet her because it would be awkward and traumatic for the child. Horrible all the way around!