« Last post by TurtleDove on Today at 02:14:27 PM »
It seems clear to me that how you view this situation depends a lot on who you ifentify with: FIL or OP.
If I put myself in either position, I can sympathize with how they feel. I guess that is what makes it challenging!
I would just ask that my family would try to put themselves in my shoes (whatever they may be) and be kind and gentle as they move forward with their life/greiving. No one has to be wrong, if everyone can be open to seeing another's position.
I think this is well stated. I think FIL and GF should be gentle as they move forward with their lives, but I also think the kids should not begrudge FIL happiness with an SO. Try to see it not as a slight against MIL - she is no longer living, FIL is, and him not having GF is not going to bring MIL back. Him having GF is, however, probably helping him to cope with MIL's loss and allowing him to enjoy life again.