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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: What Are You Wearing....?
« Last post by AliciaLynette on Today at 06:19:54 AM »
Today I'm wearing dark blue jeans, a purple scoop-neck jumper with elbow-length sleeves over a white lace-trimmed vest, and brown suede boots.  Been doing housework, and about to nip out for some milk.

ETA: I have just realised I managed to match my jumper to my nail varnish, both without planning!! Did my nails yesterday, didn't even think about them when I got dressed this morning!
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Life...in general / Re: Call? Apologize? Let it go?
« Last post by LifeOnPluto on Today at 05:42:10 AM »
^^ I am Australian (and I think Psychopoosie is too), and to me, a projector can be several things, including a slide projector, and an overhead projector. I don't think Christa is to blame for assuming you meant an overhead projector.

It would be nice to apologise, because your joke did imply that Deenie's replacement (ie Christa) dropped the ball - that could give Christa's fellow parishioners a (false) bad impression of her competence. I don't think there's a need to go overboard. Maybe give the priest a quick call, and explain that your joke was made hastily and at a frustrating time, and that you regret it. You could ask him to maybe pass on a message to Christa that she isn't to blame for the misunderstanding, and that you certainly didn't mean to imply she dropped the ball, etc.
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Life...in general / Re: "In Good Spirits and Such"
« Last post by LifeOnPluto on Today at 05:34:01 AM »
Huh. So it's immoral to get a divorce, but apparently okay to cheat, lie, abandon your wife, attempt to shaft her financially, and ignore your best friends until you need something from them. Interesting.

OP, I don't think there's any right or wrong answer here. Normally etiquette dictates that you should RSVP to an invitation, but in these circumstances, I don't think you'd be rude in simply ignoring the texts from both Tammy and Bob.

Equally however, you'd be fine in responding (either yes or no, as the case may be).

Personally, if I was in your DH's shoes, and holding out hope that a friendship with Bob could be rekindled, I'd do two things:

1) Text Tammy back saying something like "Thanks for the invite, but we have a prior engagement that date, and won't be able to make it."

2) Call Bob (not text) and say something like "Mate, you cut me off for six months, and now you send me a text inviting me for a bike ride as if everything's normal. What gives?"

Bob's response would then dictate whether I continued a friendship with him. If he said "Yeah, I know I've behaved badly, but I miss you and want to catch up" then I'd be more inclined keep the friendship. If however, Bob got defensive and didn't show any remorse or apologise, then I'd be inclined to dump him as a friend.
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Washing up done, counters wiped (apart from one which needs the glass cutting boards lifting & washing so I can clean underneath - I have to wait till the drying rack is free to do those, so it's a job for tomorrow), washing is currently doing.

Also swept/tidied the living room enough that it's guest ready.  I have some clean washing to sort/put away, but that's it for today!

Unfortunately we're out of milk so I can't reward myself with a cup of tea!
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Life...in general / Re: How to gracefully back out of an invitation
« Last post by Mayadoz on Today at 04:44:19 AM »
Finding this thread very useful right now!

I'd planned a spa afternoon this coming weekend with two lovely friends....Diane, who has taken the lead on organising/booking, has just set up a Facebook message group and I've noticed there are now three other people included, none of whom I know.

I'm not any kind of social butterfly. I have confidence issues and don't relish meeting new people (especially in swimwear!). I also don't think it will be easy to find a quiet corner to retreat to on my own as it's very much a girls' trip out. Leaving the group will make me look.....I don't know....weird, unfriendly?

I was really looking forward to it, but now I think I'm going to use the 'something came up' line and back out.  :(
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It's better to ask forgiveness then permission.

I hate that one.

Oh dear, I've said this one many times.  I don't actually mean that it's better ideally.  But I've worked for some places where this philosophy was the only way to survive and get your job done.  Otherwise you were bogged down in red tape.

I've only heard this as, "It's easier to get forgiveness than to ask for permission," and it often is true.

That's how I've heard (and used!) it as well.


As for "sticks and stones...", I've heard it rephrased as "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will break my heart"... which I find a lot more true!


I agree with "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" to a degree. It should never be used for illness (neither physical nor mental), but in my private life I've found it very true when talking about going through hardships of various kinds.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Pokemon Go craze
« Last post by Mayadoz on Today at 04:07:10 AM »
Hatched both an Onix - only the second one I've seen, I have one that I caught in the wild - and a Dragonair from 5km eggs this morning.
Also caught a Houndour, which was a new Pokemon for me.

Went up to the gym I found and it's going to take some beating I think - two Dragonites, a Snorlax and a Gyarados finished me off.
I'll be walking the Dragonair once I've evolved Charizard - still 20 candies to go!

I've powered up my Gyarados, Rhydon, Cloyster and Pinsir as much as I can but need to become a higher level to do more. Finding the gym has awakened my competitive spirit!  ;D

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Sticks and stone may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.  No. No. No.  I heard this all the time growing up and it only made me feel worse.
I've seen something that said "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will emotionally scar me forever. Can you please just throw rocks?"
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"That's the exception that proves the rule." Never, ever has that made sense to me. An exception is simply an exception. It doesn't prove anything except it isn't a hard and fast rule after all, just a general guideline.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exception_that_proves_the_rule

"Its true, or at least original, meaning is that the presence of an exception applying to a specific case establishes ("proves") that a general rule exists."

"An alternative explanation often encountered is that the word "prove" is used in the archaic sense of "test""
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"You can't judge a book by its cover."
I believe, in many cases, you can. People are always saying "I dress/wear my hair/got these piercings or tattoos/ etc because it expresses the real me." Okay then, you want me to draw conclusions about you based on your appearance. What is that but judging a book by its cover?
It's more to do with attaching negative assumptions to visual clues and assuming that all people who dress/look like X are also automatically always Y.

Like: "All people with tattooes are unemployable/irresponsible/drug addicts". No. I have a lot of tattooes, but I also have a doctorate, a steady corporate job with stellar performance reviews and have never taken drugs in my life.
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