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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: What.....wait, .....WHAT?
« Last post by JenJay on Today at 07:06:49 PM »
She eventually told me that they didn't pay support for her nor did they ever have contact with her. I was told this was an agreement that my friends' DH had with his ex; he would stay out of their lives and she would not request support. Who knows how much of this is true.

It does happen, my sister got her ex to sign over parental rights in exchange for no child support. He'd started doing meth and she was terrified of leaving her kid with him for visitation (he didn't really want visitation anyway...his mom insisted.

He was glad to have the money and my sister was glad to have no more legal obligation to go anywhere near him.

I know two people with this arrangement. In both cases the guy was a huge jerk and the woman just wanted him out of her life and away from her kids (one was abusive and the other is just selfish and has nothing to do with any of his kids anyway).

On the flip side DH has a friend who found out he had a 10 year old child when a court order for child support and back-payment showed up. He had no idea. His girlfriend had suddenly broke up with him and moved away, apparently she found out she was pregnant and decided to raise her baby with someone else. Then they divorced and she decided to come after DH's friend anyway. It ruined his family (wife and 2 younger kids) financially and put a huge strain on his marriage. And the little girl lived across the country, where her mom refused to let him come meet her because it would be awkward and traumatic for the child. Horrible all the way around!
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Here's one for the Aussie contingent: is "alec" or "aleck" a term used to refer to an idiot over there? (I was playing a word game; one half of the clue was "but in Australia, it means an idiot" and that was the answer. I'd honestly never heard that one before.)
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I bought a Mac in 2008/2009. Recently, it refuses to even find any nearby wifi networks. Everything else in our house is connected just fine. Is it just an old comp on its way out or is there such a thing as a wifi card that could be on its last leg?

It's old enough that components are going to start going "fffft" (like my 2009 iMac that's currently having its main logic board replaced ;(), but it might be something replaceable if you're otherwise happy with it.

That's kind of what I thought, but I am otherwise happy with it so want to replace the component of necessary. I just wasn't sure if the component was something that could be replaced.

Try CDW or NewEgg.  As your husband is a civil servant, you might be able to use the CDW-G website and get a bit of a discount.

I love NewEgg; never heard of CDW, so thanks for the heads up. It was a stupid question to me because I know quote a bit about computers, but nothing really about WiFi.

You should be able to get a free consultation and quote at an Apple store / Genius Bar to see how much it'll cost to fix and exactly what is wrong. :)

The closest is two hours away :/ I'm not headed there any time soon, unfortunately.

Well darn!

In that case, I suggest calling the Apple service helpline and getting them to talk you through some troubleshooting, they've always been really helpful when I've done that. And good luck!

Yes, work with Apple support before replacing any components.

I've installed an AirPort (wi-fi) card in a desktop Mac of that vintage (2008 MacPro) and, although a bit finicky, it wasn't too tough. Make sure you buy the correct type of cart (AirPort or AirPort Extreme) for your machine and look up the directions on the internet. Make sure that you at least touch the case of the computer before handling any electronic components. Even better is a grounding strap. One spark can fry the entire motherboard or the AirPort card.

If you go to the About this Mac and then open up your hardware settings. You should be able to copy and paste the correct information into Newegg or CDW and it should come up with the right component. 

I found that out the hard way with memory.  I was off by 1 number and my computer kept crashing until I figured it out.

With laptops, I generally prefer to let pros handle hardware issues - everything is so tightly packed and arranged just so, they can be a real pain.

For buying memory, there's a site called Crucial.com that offers a free downloadable app that will scan your computer, see what kind of memory it takes and how much more you can add, and will list all the compatible options they offer. Very handy.
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;)

 I call it "constructive indolence".

At my current workplace, my bosses are amazed that I get more done on my own than the two people I replaced  were doing previously.  Looking at their work and working with one of them before she quit, I know why. Sweet gals, but not methodical. I haven't let on that I'm not at full capacity...not because I'm lazy but because I do need a part-time minion so I can take more than one vacation day at a time! The company has had some financial setbacks but we're probably going to be able to hire someone this year. *knock on wood*
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: What.....wait, .....WHAT?
« Last post by TootsNYC on Today at 06:44:36 PM »
I had started to date a guy who proudly told me that he convinced his boss to pay him in cash so there was no record of his employment. He did this so that he would get out of having to pay child support to his ex-wife for their two children. He told me that is not uncommon in the construction industry, especially with small companies. He could not understand why my mouth was hanging open in shock and disgust rather than in awe at his cleverness.

Oh, yeah, I'd want to continue dating -him- with an eye to starting a life together. Not.

Ye gods--of all the people you're going to brag to about this, don't have it be someone who you're -dating-!
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Life...in general / Re: No, I'm not just a gullible consumer
« Last post by TootsNYC on Today at 06:42:24 PM »
Well, how much detail did the OP go into?

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My neighbour came out, saw me carrying all this stuff and we chatted briefly about it. I told him these animals need Item X for good health. He said kind of dismissively, "Ohhhh, sounds like marketing to me" as he went back inside.

Someone can say, "what's that?" and you don't have to give them all the details. Be general, and be short.

The more you say, the more you open yourself up.
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Family and Children / Re: Should I have expected an apology?
« Last post by TootsNYC on Today at 06:40:53 PM »
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When someone has to call out "whose child is this?!"  that's a sign that the person watching the child, isn't.
 
In the future, the OP should address the behavior of the adult in the situation.  A two year old running amok and grabbing at a baby is understandable.  A parent not properly supervising their child is not.

Given that he wasn't doing what he was supposed to, it's not surprising that he didn't apologize for the lapse.  But, what he did was wrong.

I agree w/ JoieGirl7.

The father's apology should have been, "Sorry I wasn't closer/quicker."

There's no need to apologize for the behavior of the child.

And the thing to say is not, "Your 2yo approached my child," but "Please keep a closer eye, so you can intervene if it's needed."
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Family and Children / Re: Should I have expected an apology?
« Last post by JoieGirl7 on Today at 06:37:22 PM »
The behavior of the two year old here is not the problem.  it's the behavior of the father who was not watching his child in a place where he is supposed to be supervising her.  That doesn't mean he has to be on her at all times.  But, his daughter got herself into a part of the area where she could not get out.

The OP says that "it's surrounded by low padded blocks so you can sit and watch the kids and they have a hard time escaping."
 
When someone has to call out "whose child is this?!"  that's a sign that the person watching the child, isn't.
 
In the future, the OP should address the behavior of the adult in the situation.  A two year old running amok and grabbing at a baby is understandable.  A parent not properly supervising their child is not.

Given that he wasn't doing what he was supposed to, it's not surprising that he didn't apologize for the lapse.  But, what he did was wrong.
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Life...in general / Re: No, I'm not just a gullible consumer
« Last post by Diane AKA Traska on Today at 06:35:53 PM »
I came back to say--when you get comments like that from someone, part of what's going on is that you are indulging in TMI. I think it's sometimes a reaction that springs from an "I don't really care; why did you bother me with this much detail? I'm going to push you away" spot.

and of course, the more you expose to other people, the more places you're vulnerable to comments.

Is it TMI when the other party requests information? Because at least in the used books example, he initiated contact.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: What.....wait, .....WHAT?
« Last post by Moralia on Today at 06:29:55 PM »
She eventually told me that they didn't pay support for her nor did they ever have contact with her. I was told this was an agreement that my friends' DH had with his ex; he would stay out of their lives and she would not request support. Who knows how much of this is true.

It does happen, my sister got her ex to sign over parental rights in exchange for no child support. He'd started doing meth and she was terrified of leaving her kid with him for visitation (he didn't really want visitation anyway...his mom insisted.

He was glad to have the money and my sister was glad to have no more legal obligation to go anywhere near him.
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