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Family and Children / Re: Problem with FIL's girlfriend
« Last post by TurtleDove on Today at 02:14:27 PM »
It seems clear to me that how you view this situation depends a lot on who you ifentify with: FIL or OP.

If I put myself in either position, I can sympathize with how they feel. I guess that is what makes it challenging!

I would just ask that my family would try to put themselves in my shoes (whatever they may be) and be kind and gentle as they move forward with their life/greiving. No one has to be wrong, if everyone can be open to seeing another's position.

I think this is well stated.  I think FIL and GF should be gentle as they move forward with their lives, but I also think the kids should not begrudge FIL happiness with an SO.  Try to see it not as a slight against MIL - she is no longer living, FIL is, and him not having GF is not going to bring MIL back.  Him having GF is, however, probably helping him to cope with MIL's loss and allowing him to enjoy life again.
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Dating / Re: Etiquette of defining exclusivity- a spinoff
« Last post by TurtleDove on Today at 02:10:24 PM »
If anything, I think I would put a little more fault on Jenna for not being clear earlier that she would only be open to an exclusive relationship. But that is quibbly.

Yeah, I agree with this.  I have never dated more than one person at a time, but I have always made it clear upfront I expected exclusivity if we were going to date. 
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Trans-Atlantic Knowledge Exchange / Re: Incy wincy or itsy bitsy?
« Last post by whiterose on Today at 02:07:58 PM »
Itsy-bitsy here. I have heard them both- but when I sing it, it is always "itsy-bitsy".
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Dating / Re: Etiquette of defining exclusivity- a spinoff
« Last post by Deetee on Today at 02:07:50 PM »
I don't think that either of them did anything wrong. Jenna was perfectly right to want an exclusive relationship and Ralph was perfectly right to want to date other women. I think the timing of the discussion was fine.

If anything, I think I would put a little more fault on Jenna for not being clear earlier that she would only be open to an exclusive relationship. But that is quibbly.
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Family and Children / Re: Problem with FIL's girlfriend
« Last post by citadelle on Today at 02:04:36 PM »
The Sweetie and I have discussed this, and have made a deal that when one of us dies, the other will scream and withdraw and wallow as long as she feels like it, then go out and try to find someone else just as awesome to marry.

I think that is great! But if the two of you have children, they may have feelings about it.
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Life...in general / Re: The address in your email signature
« Last post by veronaz on Today at 02:00:51 PM »
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Address changes should only be done if the client deliberately requests it.

Should.  Yes.  I think everyone would agree with how address changes should be done.

Account's office made the mistake.  I said that earlier.

But OP should have called and spoken to someone to make sure the items would not be sent to her office (instead of sending yet another email which was not read in a timely manner).



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Humor Me! / Re: Dave Barry on 50 Shades of Grey
« Last post by poundcake on Today at 02:00:14 PM »
I love Jenny Trout's recaps, but few things have made me as angry as 50 Shades.
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Dating / Re: Etiquette of defining exclusivity- a spinoff
« Last post by SingActDance on Today at 01:59:12 PM »
If someone wants to define the relationship or discuss exclusivity, they need to speak up. IMO, nobody is under obligation to divulge that they are dating other people until 1) they are asked directly by a romantic interest, 2) things venture into scrabble territory (even this is iffy, because if if it bothers you to sleep with someone who may be sleeping with someone else, you should have employed point #1). The genders make no difference for me.
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Family and Children / Re: "can we stay at your house for your wedding?"
« Last post by SoCalVal on Today at 01:57:26 PM »
Sort of tangential, but I would be so uncomfortable trying to get ready to attend a wedding - whether an actual wedding or a celebration of one - from inside a tent!  How is this even possible, let alone something people would voluntarily do?  (Rhetorical, but this just sounds awful to me!)

For a friend of mine, not rhetorical at all!  Friend and DH had their wedding at one of the national parks where staying in the hotel is incredibly expensive.  I remembering looking at the other lodging options, one being a tent cabin.  We didn't end up going (too expensive a trip when DH and I were saving for our own wedding).  I don't think getting ready in a tent would be too bad, as long as bathroom facilities are readily and easily available.
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Vacation compatibility is soooooo important.  I'm convinced that part of the reason Dh and I are together is because we took a trip 4 months into our relationship and wanted to do the exact same things the entire time.  I'd never experienced that with anyone and neither had he.  Travel is a big part of our relationship now! 

I've made the mistake of traveling with others who don't have the same energy level/desire to get up and go/willingness and ability to spend a bit of money etc. and it is always stressful.  I think the kids are a red herring.  The bottom line is your travel styles are different.  You prefer different activities and time schedules.  There is no reason you have to travel with anyone, so I would definitely not mention the kids at all.  Just say you get limited time off and you have already planned X for your next vacation. 
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