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I'm going to take the opposite point of view. I was involved in color guard for eight years (high school and college) and we did have to have our hair exactly as specified for performances.  I have very wavy, thick hair and was required to straighten it for some performances (we had different hair styles each year depending on the show's theme).  Almost all flag corps I knew of at the time had similar policies.  Everyone had to wear the exact same makeup (we were even required to buy an exact shade and brand of eyeshadow, lip gloss, etc. for uniformity), same hair, same uniform - no exceptions.  Of course, this was only for performances; the expectations for practice were merely that our hair would be pulled back from our face in a ponytail, braid, etc.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: For jaxsue - My brother's "ghost story"
« Last post by iridaceae on Today at 05:07:40 PM »
I was lying on my stomach last night reading in bed when I felt a cat jump onto my bed. Um, I have one cat and at that exact moment I was busy rubbing her tummy while she was curled up next to me purring.
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Guests / Re: SO not Invited to Friends Wedding
« Last post by TootsNYC on Today at 05:04:43 PM »

And I know this is the petty part, but when OP and b/f get married, it would be bad etiquette to only invite her friend and not the husband. So why is a cohabitating couple treated differently? What if they had been living together ten years and never had intention of getting married? Where is the line?


Because a married couple is legally (and spiritually, if you are religious) a single unit.  They have made a legally-recognized commitment to each other.  An engaged couple has made it known that they are planning that commitment.  A cohabiting couple who has chosen not to get married, not even in the common-law sense, cannot say the same.
 

In fact, from a logical point of view, it could be viewed that they have definitely chosen to say the opposite.

People w/ long-time boyfriends (or girlfriends, but I'm lazy) often say, "Don't judge my relationship," but then they insist that the couple should invite the boyfriend.
And yet the only message they are sending is, "we aren't engaged, we aren't married, we aren't even cohabiting."

Every single day, they could walk up and get engaged; once a month (or once a year, maybe) they could choose to cohabit. And in lots of states, it only takes a couple of days to get married.
   But they aren't doing so. And that sends a message about how serious they aren't. So what are outsiders to think? If we say, "well, they've been together for so long, they must be serious," then we are judging their relationship!
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Par-Tay! / Re: Large engagement party and intimate wedding?
« Last post by TurtleDove on Today at 04:57:38 PM »
I would have the wedding you want and have the celebration local to your guests six months later. That way there is no confusion about what is being celebrated (a wedding or a marriage) and they are two clearly separate events.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Your own personal mysteries.
« Last post by VorFemme on Today at 04:54:05 PM »
Dang, VorFemme, I am jealous of any woman who has a man who will go to the grocery store LOL!

One mystery that seems to be a recurring theme, here on the forum & everywhere else, is that things are "there", then they "aren't there", & then later they're either "there" or "somewhere else that I've already looked".

A friend told me that sometimes we can look right at something & not see it, & I know that's true, but I don't think it explains a lot of these instances.

I once lost a nice silver ring, turned everything upside down, including taking the mattress & box spring off the bed, etc.

*Months* later, I got up, got ready for work, went to turn off my bedside lamp, & that ring was on my pillow.

same pillow I'd just been sleeping on.

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I love that he will go to the store.

I would love it even more if he came back with exactly what he was sent for without buying something that he loves...and nobody else in the house will eat...then he complains that the stuff is going bad because we aren't eating "our share".

Or he'll bring home something to grill and it rains...it needs to be frozen before the weather clears up enough for grilling, then he goes out & buys "fresh meat" to grill because "there's nothing thawed".  He's the one who put off grilling the fresh meat for three days so that it had to be frozen in the first place...

And since he doesn't drink much milk (he doesn't like the taste) he will only buy one gallon at a time.  Even if there are several extra extended family members staying in the time share and breakfast is going to be milk & cereal before we head to Disney...one gallon is barely going to make it for two days.  Grandma may even hand out glasses of milk with dinner once we get back (for the youngest kids) instead of iced tea or soda - so a milk run was needed before we could go to bed at least one night.

He brought back one gallon...and ice cream for dessert.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Professional Darwinism: Update to OP on p.74
« Last post by mime on Today at 04:53:12 PM »
Was her stapler a red Swingline?

heeheehee

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Par-Tay! / Re: Large engagement party and intimate wedding?
« Last post by Lady_Belle on Today at 04:49:41 PM »
Thanks guys... I'm starting to see that a post wedding celebration may be best! When would it be appropriate to send out invites for the post wedding celebration? Can it be before the wedding and word it that we are having it out of town, but would love to celebrate with everyone later at X date?

It's getting so complicated that I almost want to vote the bullet and have an all out wedding but I want to stay firm with a small wedding and intimate crowd.
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Life...in general / Re: When the corrector is incorrect
« Last post by Hillia on Today at 04:46:15 PM »
I had a back and forth with a co-worker once about the website snopes.com.  she kept referring to it as "snoops", and every time I mentioned it, I pronounced it correctly "snopes", rhymes with "ropes".  Finally she got irritated and snapped, "it's SNOOPS!".  No, it's not.  In American English, at least, the vowel-consonant-vowel pattern ending in 'e' generally indicates a long vowel sound... the vowel says its name.
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Life...in general / Re: Is there a polite way to warn of expired carseats?
« Last post by DanaJ on Today at 04:45:30 PM »
Ok that makes sense, if it is very distinctive and you see him regularly. From my understanding, expiration dates are made up by the manufacturers and aren't regulated by any actual safety authority. I really think you should mind your own business. The seat may still be perfectly safe.

Plastic can become very brittle over time and then can break easily. Especially if it's been enduring extreme heat or cold the way a carseat can. Car seats expire for a very good reason.

Indeed. I had rock climbing gear that I'd barely ever used and that had been in storage, safely tucked away from light and extremes in temperature/humidity. I still chopped it up and discarded it after a certain amount of time because materials degrade even when not in use and there are best practices to be followed for a reason. No way would I trust my life to equipment I wasn't very, very sure about.
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That is excessive! I was in band in high school, and the only uniformity we had was if our hair was below our collars, it had to be put up under our helmets. I did a lot of french braids on band trips!

IMHO, I'd just say to the coach, if you want it straight, you come over to the house and spend the 2 hours straightening it. You'll have to get x-product from the store, and a good straightener, plus a good leave in conditioner. When she hems and haws about the time and money, ask her why she expects you to spend that kind of money and time.

I'd also be ready with, "Oh, that time won't work for us." Just in case.

My BFF used to straighten her hair, and it always took a couple hours to do it. It didn't matter the length, curls are curls!
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