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Par-Tay! / Re: Carolyn Hax: Stepmom insists on throwing shower
« Last post by sammycat on Yesterday at 07:48:26 PM »
I agree with Gellchom, by the way.

Honestly, what is the difference between a shower (with or without guests who are not invited to the wedding), and an engagement party held shortly before the wedding, which I thought is a gift-giving occasion?

An engagement party is not a gift-giving occasion. An "engagement party" held shortly before the wedding at which gifts are expected is a (co-ed) shower.


Powers  &8^]

It depends where you live. In many countries, including Australia and New Zealand, an engagement party is very much a gift giving occasion. To invite someone to the engagement party and not the wedding itself would be very rude.  A shower (bridal/co-ed/single sex) is a different event.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: To Iron or Not To Iron?
« Last post by Harriet Jones on Yesterday at 07:09:14 PM »
When you put condiments into bowls, do you put the leftovers back in the container?  If so, are you not worried about cross-contamination?
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Speaking for myself I don't consider someone well traveled unless they have traveled abroad at least once, preferably to a country very different from their own.  The experience of visiting a society organized quite differently from one's own is so educational and mind-opening.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: The 'I Accomplished Something Today!' Thread
« Last post by cicero on Yesterday at 06:56:35 PM »
Took an actual lunch break today (we *never* do this.  Kind of the unwritten rule at this job.  I think I took a handful of actual lunchbreaks since I started here a year ago.).  So i:
Deposited my state tax refund check.
Got photos taken for my passport.
Finished filling out passport form.
Mailed a bunch of letters.
Got a really nice lunch (had a hankering for middle eastern food,  and got falafel that wasn't bad).

Now I have to mail the passport form in.
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: To Iron or Not To Iron?
« Last post by Luci on Yesterday at 06:54:51 PM »
I don't own an iron.  But I'd also never offer to do a houseguest's laundry (moot point since I do not host overnight guests). 

There are different expectations for how people keep a house (and in my experience it runs along generational lines as older people tend to care more about the smaller details than their younger counterparts.  My grandparents and great grandparents would be appalled that I don't iron my sheets and store them in a pillowcase instead of properly folding them.   An etiquette lesson I learned as a kid ('doctorate of the original container' where you never put a condiment, salad dressing, etc on the table in its original container and instead transfer it to a serving dish) has faded from society faster than landline phones have.  Today, most people would not think twice if a bottle of (commercial) salad dressing was on the table and I see it as busy work to be avoided at all costs.

As for the term launder-- I worked for years in the finance industry so I associate it more with money than clothes.


I cannot bear to put a condiment on the table in it's original container.  I also pour the milk into a large pitcher before I store it in the refrigerator.  DH calls the plastic milk jug "the cow."  He cautioned our DD not to pour milk "directly from the cow."  I'm old fashioned, I guess.  I like to eat my meals with table linens, cloth napkins, and fresh flowers on the table.  Yes, my friends think I'm weird.

I used to put the condiments in serving bowls until the time I served creamy horse radish and Miracle Whip and my friend used the horse radish as mayo. She likes mayo but not Miracle Whip and isn't familiar with horse radish. Oops. I don't even put the salad dressings in the nifty 3bowl server because everyone needs to know what dressing it is - the low fat versions look the same as the real versions - so it matters.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Thrift Score!
« Last post by gmatoy on Yesterday at 06:50:11 PM »
I paid $2 for this (in near-perfect condition):



Of course, now I have to go to Italy!

I hate to be the one to break it you; however, that is not a savings in the long run! ;)
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I saw what  you  did  there   ;D
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Life...in general / Re: How does one notify friends of new address?
« Last post by blarg314 on Yesterday at 06:46:53 PM »

Yes, "We've Moved" cards are the standard way of doing this. I'd do it well *before* Christmas, otherwise cards sent to you will go to the wrong place.
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Life...in general / Re: Couple serves expired food at wedding
« Last post by BatCity on Yesterday at 06:35:46 PM »
It would matter to me if it was by the best by or sell by date versus the expired date.

However, in the US, a caterer that served food that was past it's expiration date would quickly find itself out of business on health code violations.

UK posters, is it the same there? Also, how can a charity cater an event?

Just on the last point, a charity catered our wedding. The local Optimist Club does barbecues as a fundraiser, and we hired them to serve about 200 guests for $7 a plate (this was back in 1994, but even then it was a bargain).
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Time For a Coffee Break! / This made my day!
« Last post by Bijou on Yesterday at 06:28:58 PM »
I love this!  What a talented kid!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hkngjEgHgk
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