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Family and Children / Re: How should someone react or respond to this?
« Last post by Jocelyn on Yesterday at 09:02:21 PM »
OK, so now you know the reason for the conversation. ;)
In this case, with the 2nd person leaving immediately, I'd invoke my right not to respond back to her. I'd bet she knew that a negative reaction from you was a possibility, but she wanted to have her say. So, she had her say. If she's sure you'll work it out, you don't need to give her any feedback. Work it out however you think is appropriate. Which may include ignoring the situation.
Your sister may or may not be upset at you. She may have been upset temporarily, during which time she spoke to your mom. Obviously, your mom is distressed at having 2 of her kids not being in perfect accord. So now you know how your sister MIGHT be feeling, and how your mom IS feeling. Ball's in your court about how you respond to THAT.
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Family and Children / Re: How should someone react or respond to this?
« Last post by JenJay on Yesterday at 08:57:41 PM »
I'd ignore it. If your sister is upset enough to want to talk to you about it, she will. Your mom should stay out of it. If, on the other hand, your sister mentioned it knowing your mom would say something then that's really passive agressive so I'd still ignore it.  :)

My mom did something similar once. My only reaction was to mention to my brother, next time I spoke to him, "BTW Mom told me you were annoyed about Thing. I'm not upset at all, I don't blame you for being annoyed, and I didn't call to bring it up. I just wanted you to be aware that venting to her might not stay with her." He appreciated knowing.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Last post by Seven Ate Nine on Yesterday at 08:56:59 PM »
When people put things up on facebook that are inflammatory and completely untrue.  Right now, someone shared a status that is bascially "This group sang this politically charged song, radio stations are banning it and it was never released to the public."  I know the song, I have a cd with the song on it around here somewhere, and Spotify lists it on at least two other albums.    Snopes also notes that the song was never released as a single, which is generally needed for radio stations to put it into rotation.  Unfortunately, with the amount of this type of stuff that comes from that particular person, I doubt that putting up Snopes linkes would do any good.

Before anyone says it, yes, I am going to hide this person's feed  :)
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All In A Day's Work / Re: I polite way to get the seriousness of this across?
« Last post by missmolly on Yesterday at 08:51:55 PM »
Quote from: Piratelvr1121 on Yesterday at 08:14:48 PM
Quote from: blueberry.muffin on Yesterday at 07:19:37 PM
Quote from: TexasRanger on May 21, 2013, 05:25:13 PM
My dad ended up going to the store manager and having a "come to diety" meeting after I had a migrain the ER doc said could of killed me. (I had asked to go home and the manager's crony brushed me off and told me to take a pill). That ended up with some changes, but not much.

Yeah. The quote above (from the opening post), and the quote below...

Quote from: TexasRanger on Yesterday at 09:31:38 AM
And to those still on the "daddy" thing. I was recovering from the Migrain AND was on morphine when this happened. I did not tell him to talk to the boss, I didn't even know he had done it until the next day.

... are extremely different. Did you want your father to go in? You seem to be happy with the changes. If you didn't, then perhaps it's time for you to have a discussion with your father.


They don't strike me as being all that different.  The first mention of it she's coming across to me as stating it in a matter of fact way, saying that it's what happened. I'm not getting any indication that she was encouraging him to go.  Just that he went, it did end up in some changes, but not a lot and I guess I'm just not seeing where she's happy about her father going in.

POD. The first post simply states that her father went to see he manager after a life-threatening migraine. It doesn't indicate that she encouraged him to do it.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: The "This Might Be A Stupid Question, But...." Thread
« Last post by SiotehCat on Yesterday at 08:49:21 PM »
I wasn't sure where to ask this. It was between this thread and Topics that dont deserve a whole thread.

I am trying to offer a box of childrens books on freecycle. Some of them are scary(ish), think Goosebumps. Some of them are funny. I bought them for DS when he was much younger, but they are for a variety of reading levels.

I don't want to offer the box, because people could probably get more use out of them by picking which kind they want. I want to list each title individually and ask each person to pick X number of books.

How do I offer this? Should I make separate offers or can I put all this in one offer?
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: An Adult Should Really Know This - Silly Things You've Had to Tell People
« Last post by cass2591 on Yesterday at 08:45:42 PM »
Quote from: Katana_Geldar on Yesterday at 08:09:58 PM
The lady in the flat next door to us feeds the lorikeets with seeds. I don't have the heart to tell her that birdseed encourages rats.

Why not? It might embarrass her but seriously, wouldn't you want to know this info? Besides, rats will effect you too, won't they?
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Communication Problems with the Boss
« Last post by Little Girl Blue on Yesterday at 08:44:16 PM »
Quote from: jpcher on May 21, 2013, 07:32:28 PM
Quote from: Little Girl Blue on May 18, 2013, 09:11:43 PM
For example, instead of saying "Blue, I want you to do [task],"  she says things like, "What do you want to do next?  [task], or are you busy with something?" or worse yet, "What do you think about [task]?"

I almost get the feeling that she's asking you about which tasks you would prefer to take on. Which, in my book, is pretty awesome of a boss to do. ;D

OP here - I originally thought that this was the case, but time has taught me that it's not.  Or, perhaps, it is true but what she wants is for me to want to do what she wants me to do without her having to ask me directly.  My mind reading powers aren't that great, unfortunately.

The notepad idea is perfect.  I'm putting it into practice as soon as the holiday weekend is over.

Thank you everyone :)
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Family and Children / How should someone react or respond to this?
« Last post by NyaChan on Yesterday at 08:43:40 PM »
Imagine you are sitting and working and another person sticks their head in the door.  You have a nice conversation which ends on a mention of a third person who is not present. They start to leave, but turn and say "She [the third person] is pretty upset at you for getting mad at her that day.  I'm sure you'll work it out," and then ducks out the door.

What are you supposed to do or say back?  They left before I could say anything that time, but I suppose that is because they could likely see on my face that I was taken aback/not reacting positively. 

Since I bet it would make a difference, the conversation was with my mom and the third person was my sister who lives in another city. 
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: An Adult Should Really Know This - Silly Things You've Had to Tell People
« Last post by Dazi on Yesterday at 08:39:54 PM »
A young woman I know was the poster child for those weird warning labels on products.

I once caught her trying to use a garment steamer on the clothes she was wearing.   ???

Also had to tell her that you have to cook frozen dinners...she was just thawing them out and eating.   :o  and we had quite a legthy discussion on why fresh fruits and vegetables need to be thoroughly washed before consuming.

Sometimes I wonder how she survived to adulthood.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: I polite way to get the seriousness of this across?
« Last post by Piratelvr1121 on Yesterday at 08:14:48 PM »
Quote from: blueberry.muffin on Yesterday at 07:19:37 PM
Quote from: TexasRanger on May 21, 2013, 05:25:13 PM
My dad ended up going to the store manager and having a "come to diety" meeting after I had a migrain the ER doc said could of killed me. (I had asked to go home and the manager's crony brushed me off and told me to take a pill). That ended up with some changes, but not much.

Yeah. The quote above (from the opening post), and the quote below...

Quote from: TexasRanger on Yesterday at 09:31:38 AM
And to those still on the "daddy" thing. I was recovering from the Migrain AND was on morphine when this happened. I did not tell him to talk to the boss, I didn't even know he had done it until the next day.

... are extremely different. Did you want your father to go in? You seem to be happy with the changes. If you didn't, then perhaps it's time for you to have a discussion with your father.


They don't strike me as being all that different.  The first mention of it she's coming across to me as stating it in a matter of fact way, saying that it's what happened. I'm not getting any indication that she was encouraging him to go.  Just that he went, it did end up in some changes, but not a lot and I guess I'm just not seeing where she's happy about her father going in.
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