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2LM, a neighbor suggested I do the same, apply for assistance and tell them I was single so I'd qualify for help. Uhh, no. Not going to happen.
Another woman suggested I use my ADD to get disability. Now, my ADD is so mild as to cause me to wonder if I have it at all at times. I sure as heck am not going to claim it to get money so I don't have to work. Same woman decided she was going to get her doctor to diagnose her with ADD so she could get disability knowing she doesn't have it.
I knew another woman in my neighborhood who told me "Oh we're moving across the country so my husband won't have to pay child support to his ex-wife"
I think what really blew my mind is that these people had absolutely no shame in talking about it and letting it be known they were abusing the system or at least saw no problem with doing so. While other people get the hairy eyeball when they use WIC checks or food stamps because they genuinely do need it and aren't scamming anyone.
That sound you hear is me snorting with derision at those awful people. I recall a (now former) friend who married a man that she knew had a child from a previous marriage. She eventually told me that they didn't pay support for her nor did they ever have contact with her. I was told this was an agreement that my friends' DH had with his ex; he would stay out of their lives and she would not request support. Who knows how much of this is true.
Fast forward a few years later and my friend is livid! Seems the ex wife wants to start receiving support for the now 10 year old child. Friend wasn't very happy at my comment that parents are supposed to support their kids and that they were lucky she wasn't asking for ten years of back child support. See, by this time my friend had two kids with this deadbeat and her reasoning was that they couldn't afford to pay support for a third child. I told her that this isn't the third child...it's the first child and that by marrying someone with a child she should have expected to make payments at some point. Frankly, I couldn't respect a man (or woman) who walked away from their own kid like that.
That wasn't the only reason our friendship deteriorated, but it certainly didn't help matters. I'm of the opinion that if you have kids, you support them, period. Regardless of whether a court tells you that you must.
And this kind of leads into a different what...wait, ....WHAT? story from my own family...