« Last post by Peppergirl on Today at 02:18:53 PM »
What is it about free food that makes otherwise normal, gracious people completely lose their minds?
I've always wondered.
I've always wondered.
I don't think it was rude. If G wanted to buy the bracelet she should have. Would it been rude if another customer picked up the bracelet and bought it before G decided what she wanted to do?
That's different, the other customer wouldn't know about G's interest.
I don't know if I'd call N rude exactly, but certainly inconsiderate, she should have let G come to a final decision first. That's what friends do.
If another customer had watched the interaction G had, perhaps whIle browsing something else, then bought the bracelet when she walked away, would that be rude?
Is it just N and G's friendship thst makes it not cool?
Yep, I think that's it. I think we all work under the assumption that a friend will be more considerate of us than a total stranger would.
There's no way I'd do this without at least a "If you're not gonna buy that, I will."
(ETA: And I'm only saying that because it's a one-of-a-kind item. I don't think there's really anything wrong with getting an identical item while still leaving the option open for your friend to also get one.)
Yvaine that was what I thought too. I wouldn't have just bought the item without saying, Well if you don't want it, I do.
I want to leave the "copycat" idea out of it because a lot of people are defending this as a motive. But the question isn't "Is it rude to purchase the same thing a friend has or is going to buy?" Which most of us agree is not rude.
The question is, if a friend shows you and item at a shop, and says they really like it, but are not sure if they can justify it financially, and then tells you they will browse around while they think about it, would it be rude of you to just pick it up and purchase it for yourself, knowing full well your friend might return ready to buy it?"
I agree with those who side with rude. But I don't agree with inconsiderate. I believe the situation at hand was considered immediately which led to the purchase of the bracelet, not as a gift for the friend considering it (which would have been lovely, I'll remember this post and wait for a chance to surprise a friend in this way), but as a deliberate and malicious jab.
I know many will come to her defense, "just because friend 1 outright told friend 2 that she wanted the bracelet, friend 2 had no way of knowing that if would be hurtful to friend 1 to completely disregarded" I'm just not buying that argument.
And if she has to copy other peoples styles, (I have no sense of style, I know what that's like, although I never outright have similar hair and make-up and clothes as one singular person I know, I just pick up bits and pieces) then she has to copy other peoples styles. Buying one object, knowing the other wants to buy it but needs time to consider if she can afford it, is not copying. It has nothing to do with copying.