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My friend decided to try and find her relatives in Italy on her father's side. She grew up in NY raised by her mom, living at her uncle's house. She had been told her parents divorced and her mom moved from Italy to NY to live with her brother. (Friend's mom had agoraphobia, never worked and only left the house to go to church.) Friend makes phone calls to Italy and is advised to contact local police departments for information, as they kind of serve as the village town halls, as well. She reaches the police in the village her mom was from, and states her name. Once she says her name the policeman on the phone start to quiz her:
FRiend: My name is Julia Bianco and I'm in New York City...
Policmen: *Cutting her off from talking* You are Julia Bianco??? Is your mohter Maria Bianco? Your breothter is Joseph Bianco???
Friend: YES! Do you know me??
Policeman: There is a warrant out for your mother's arrest! She kidnapped you and your brother about 40 years ago!
Seems her mom DID kidnap her and her brother and left the country. Left her father and ran away to America. She apparently made several attempts in the years leading up to her actually following all the way through as well. She found her father, who showed her proof that he had come to America many times to try and get them all back, or to work out some kind of arrangements with her mom so he could be part of their lives (his children, that is.) But her mom refused anything to do with him, returned everything unopened (letters, gifts, etc) and he finally gave up. It was the early 1970's.
Friend was devestated. She knew her mom had "issues" but apparently she was truly delusional and paranoid. Friend's father went on to build a successful business and was moderately well off. Friend grew up so poor because her mom never worked and they lived off uncle. She was raised believing their father abandoned them but uncle had "rescued" them. Nothing was further than the truth.
Her dad was terminally ill when she finally went to Italy to meet him. He died a few months later. Her mom was already dead so she couldn't confront her. The uncle was dying and despite learning the truth and knowing uncle lied to her her whole life, she cared for him in the end since there was no one else.
Her brother moved away years earlier and never came back or helped in any way with the mom in her declining years. She has no relationship with the brother so she didn't tell him about finding their father for fear the brother would go to Italy and demand money and property because basically that's all he ever wanted from her uncle. When uncle died Brother came to the funeral, then sent her a certified letter 2 days later stating she'd better make sure he got everything uncle left behind or he would sue her. He was beneficiary to everything at one point in time years earlier, but after Friend confronted uncle with the truth about her dad and childhood, and also pointed out that her brother was MIA for mom's death and only Friend was there to care for uncle in his final years, the uncle changed his wills and split things 50/50. Brother was angry, as the sole male he expected to inherit everything and sister get nothing because "She's just the girl."