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I get why you're offended; that would bother me too.  If you're going to address it, I think your best bet is to act like it was a simple typo.  "Hey, can you correct my receipt?  It includes my husband's name for some reason, and the donation was actually just from me.  Thanks."    It was a thoughtless (and terribly outdated!) mistake, but it doesn't sound like a malicious one. 

Try to get the frustration out of your system (and out of your voice!) before you speak to anyone at the company about it.  Or maybe address it via email so you can control the tone better.  (I know when I'm really mad, my face and voice totally broadcast it no matter how well I think I'm hiding it, but maybe you have a better poker face than I do!)
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Life...in general / Re: Can you do me a favour....but I don't trust your SO.
« Last post by kudeebee on Yesterday at 11:31:06 PM »
If I did not trust someone's SO, I would never put my child in that house in the first place., whether they lived with the SO or not, because I would assume that SO would be around my child at some place or time while friend is watching my child.   

If I leave my child in a household with two adults, I expect that both adults are able to take care of my child, even though I am asking my friend to babysit, things happen.  If I felt safe enough for my friend to watch my child, I would feel safe enough for her SO to do so also.  (Again, read my first line).

Also, if I feel confident enough to ask a friend to watch my child, then I am in confident in said friend and her judgment.

I think Lynn was out of line and if I was Michelle, I would not offer my services to her again.

Totally agree with this.

 
Does no one feel that a quick call or text "hey I have to head out to sign some papers but the boys are with Michael" was warranted?  I am interested in opinions on that, since my own opinion is very influenced by the fact that she simply didn't communicate when something unexpected came up.  I think a tiny little text message could have gone a long way, personally. 

I don't think a call/text was warranted.  Whenever my friends/we left our kids in a two-parent home, it was assumed that either parent could be caring for the child.  So, I wouldn't have thought about making a call.
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No, I don't think you're out of your mind. Someone decided, without any input from you, that the donation is from your husband, even though it's deducted from your paycheck. In this day and age, no one should be making assumptions like that. Not to mention, someone took the time and effort to search your personnel file, hunting for your husband's name. And why? Because of their antiquated ideas of how married couples should be making their financial decisions? That invasion of privacy is what really creeps me out here.   
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Last post by Minmom3 on Yesterday at 11:26:20 PM »
For several months I worked under the landing path to San Jose International Airport.  There were times when, even inside the building, you would have to pause a conversation or telephone call, and wait for the airplane to move on a bit. They flew over, I think, less than 5 minutes apart. 

I once lived next to a very large parking lot that was used for Life Flights, both actual and practice flights.  Not nearly as loud as working on the flight line for that airport, and much less frequent.  We could sometimes tell which hospital they were headed for by which direction the helicopter took off in.
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Techno-quette / Re: Facebook & Family News (Accident, Illness, or Death)
« Last post by VorFemme on Yesterday at 11:14:55 PM »
I'm not sure that I'd have put a car accident where noone was hurt at all in the same catogory as the other things, deaths accidents (which include injuries) etc

If you tell a couple of the older relatives that there was an accident without telling them the extent of any injuries *first* - they will be packing to go to the funeral or the bedside at the hospital while you're chasing after them to let them know that they aren't needed because the injuries don't warrant that degree of reaction....

I refer to that as "catastrophizing" and I have woken up in a cold sweat myself more than once realizing that someone is over due by more than ten hours...turned out that they were fine, but had stopped to visit family and stayed overnight rather than leave well after dark on their way home.   And VorGuy learned to call his wife and his mother if he spent two nights on the road home instead of the one he'd told us it would take him to drive from Far Away to Home.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Favorite Childhood Books
« Last post by rainbowkitty on Yesterday at 11:13:05 PM »
Mine were: Charlotte's Web, Little House on the Prairie series, Trixie Belden and a few others I can't remember right now.  But those two were reread countless times.  In fact I use to take out Charlotte's Web so often from the school library that one year the librarian gave it to me for Christmas.  I still have it!
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Apparently, you have to tell grown people to read a link you've sent them. Because you'd take time to find and attach a meaningless bit of info.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: s/o "not your alarm" - spousal blind spots
« Last post by NFPwife on Yesterday at 11:10:58 PM »
One of the things I most love about my boyfriend is that he's very adventurous, and incredibly meticulous about researching, well, everything, but particularly new or new-to-us experiences to make sure he's getting a good deal / knows all the variables to consider when making choices / has aggregated suggestions and tips from experts and aficionados / etc. My boyfriend's researcher personality type is an aspect of his personality that I admire tremendously. But. It makes going out to dinner with him absolute torture.

Often my work day will get stacked up with conferences, errands, etc., and I'll have to go a long, long stretch between lunch and dinner, with the result that by dinner-time I'm hungry enough to wrestle and eat a bear. I'll let BF know: "I'm so hungry I'm in physical pain, so I need to eat ASAP. If you would like to go out for dinner, please choose a restaurant before I'm home or else I will eat leftovers."

Invariably, BF does want to go out but hasn't chosen something. I suggest a place. He vetoes it. I tell him to choose; he asks what I want to eat and I say I don't care just so long as we get in the car and drive, because I don't want to sit in the car with the engine idling looking at Yelp reviews for forty-five minutes. Before we lock up the apartment I make him swear up and down that he's really, truly decided, and that we will be eating in twenty minutes.

And then. We sit in the car. We idle. He says I'm hungrier than him so I have to choose. He vetoes every restaurant I can think of, and after fifteen to twenty minutes, finally, grudgingly agrees to an old standby -- then as I drive there, he's on his phone tap-tap-tapping at the Yelp app and, sure enough, before we've even gotten half a mile out of our complex, he's giving directions to some new restaurant that neither of us has tried, because he looked it up! and it has great reviews! (And to be fair, the places usually are good, but half the time, by the time we get there we're both so hungry we have pounding headaches and hunger-nausea.)

The whole time I have to grit my teeth and remind myself: "Hey, 99% of the time, being in a relationship with a novelty-oriented researcher type is the best life you can imagine! No one can turn off their whole personality just because their significant other is hungry!" But I've started keeping emergency baggies of trail mix in my glove box.

Your comment about hunger nausea reminded me of a time that I got sick, projectile sick, because my blood sugar crashed hard. It was a (very unfunny) comedy of errors. I wanted some dishes that were on sale, we stopped after the gym, and they were going to have to give a rain check. No wait! They have them! In the back. They'll find them! Then the sale price wasn't in the computer and the cashier could not get it right. At one point the dishes were bagged and the register say she owed me $67. I said, "Know what? I'll take the $67 and the dishes and get out of your hair." She almost gave it to me! On the way home I started crashing (I'm not diabetic, I run hypoglycemic) and wanted DH to pull off, but... it had just snowed hard, the roads were barely plowed, and we couldn't pull off. I tried not be to sick, but... So, all that to say, you can tell him what might happen if he doesn't make a decision. Immediately. :D

Mine for my DH just happened tonight. DH uses an electric razor and tends to roam around while he's shaving. If I walk past, he'll kiss me or he'll come to where I am to give me a smooch. The problem? The razor is spinning away on his cheek and I and convinced that it's only a matter of time before my long hair gets caught in the razor. To his credit, when he thinks about it, he holds the razor behind him. He doesn't always think about it, though.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: s/o "not your alarm" - spousal blind spots
« Last post by Elfmama on Yesterday at 10:53:53 PM »
This one's come up before but is reeeeeally relevant today. Dear husband, if I say I'm in pain and need to sit down, I mean now, not 'an hour and a half later once you've spoken to five more people'. Do not act surprised when I walk (limp) away from the third conversational interruption to find a seat. >:(
Ditto if I'm going through chemotherapy and I've just spent half an hour in the ladies' room having massive diarrhea.  "We need to leave now" means "I need to leave NOW, because I have a 30 minute window to get home before it starts up again, and home is 25 minutes away."
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Life...in general / Re: Can you do me a favour....but I don't trust your SO.
« Last post by sammycat on Yesterday at 10:50:09 PM »
If I did not trust someone's SO, I would never put my child in that house in the first place., whether they lived with the SO or not, because I would assume that SO would be around my child at some place or time while friend is watching my child.   

If I leave my child in a household with two adults, I expect that both adults are able to take care of my child, even though I am asking my friend to babysit, things happen.  If I felt safe enough for my friend to watch my child, I would feel safe enough for her SO to do so also.  (Again, read my first line).

Also, if I feel confident enough to ask a friend to watch my child, then I am in confident in said friend and her judgment.

I think Lynn was out of line and if I was Michelle, I would not offer my services to her again.

I agree.
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