« Last post by Outdoor Girl on Yesterday at 12:51:13 PM »
I think that the criticism of the OP is a bit over the top. She didn't yell at the spouse, she didn't complain to anyone there, she didn't say it had to "please her"...she asked here after the fact if this was normal, because it seemed weird to her. I think that's a perfectly fine reason to ask E-Hell.
I completely agree.
Where I am, there are normally 1-3 visitation sessions with at least one of them in the evening or on a weekend, depending on how many visitors are expected. We needed 3 for my Mom or it would have been a complete mob. We'll need at least 3 for my Dad. Then the service is generally the next day, with family being sequestered prior and either preceding or following the deceased into the service. Then there is usually a luncheon or a tea after the service, depending on the time of day, and the family sets up kind of a receiving line on the way into that so everyone who wishes to can greet the family but also a way to bypass the line if you don't want to.
A friend's mother's funeral was a little different. The visitation was done right in the church for the hour prior to the service and then everyone was seated and the service began. There was a luncheon following the service. Still had a bit of a receiving line, though. Her Dad's funeral was more 'normal'.
OP, I think the only error, if you could even call it that, was bringing contributions for the memorial without being asked to do so. If people do that for my Dad, I will be thrilled but not everyone feels that way. But I'm baffled that anyone would consider your pieces 'inappropriate'.