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When is rude, rude when you have NO IDEA how important this person is? I don't know who has read the slumber party thread, but apparently the the one mother is highly peeved that the OP had no idea what a high-society, influential person she was in the community. Wow. I would treat anyone the same way unless I knew there was some expectation to treat them differently. I had some famous person in the store the other day. I had no idea. Not everyone knows who people are, and I certainly wouldn't know who is a famous artist in the art community. Would I give a famous chef ketchup? I wouldn't give anyone ketchup, but I can imagine if I knew they liked to cook, gifting a sauce that I thought was pretty fancy (and unopened), but a sauce a five-star chef could very well scoff at as beneath them. I don't think the error was giving cards, but that they were obviously cast-off cards. I don't think the cards were well thought out or matched the tremendous amount of work #1 did, but "the thought was there," if they were at least new and in good condition and not clearly something that's been collecting dust in the back of a closet for years. I wouldn't give a doll collector and restorer old, ratty dolls as a gift. I might ask if they would like them and if they could use them, but they wouldn't be a gift.
Did GirlsScout mom know that this was actually a repayment and transaction between #1 and the OP? In that respect, no gifts are actually owed, I agree to that, but did GS Mom even know? Regardless, I would still be inclined to give a thank-you gift as my appreciation. It probably wouldn't be a lot, and certainly not the value of the actual work that was done, but I think it's still a very kind gesture to do so, and cast-off cards are probably not anything that really shows appreciation. The Girl Scouts could have put together a lovely thank-you card, maybe with some pictures of them with their finished pottery, and perhaps baked some cookies, which I think would have been a much better gift that involved all the girls who benefited from this.