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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Before we go
« Last post by POF on May 20, 2018, 11:18:11 AM »
Oh also bacon Fed Knave - I have a few people IRL that I say that under my breathe when I see them !
Family and Children / Re: How should I answer this one?
« Last post by Sharnita on May 20, 2018, 10:52:20 AM »
"I think it is nice that she won't be confused with 4 other kids with the same name."
"I think it is a name people will remember."
"Is it a family name?"
"It really suits her."
"I can already tell she will make it her own."
Family and Children / Re: How should I answer this one?
« Last post by GreenBird on May 20, 2018, 10:03:05 AM »
In the abstract, complicated overly-spelled ultra "unique" names are eye-roll fodder.  But when you're talking to or about an actual person with that name, just focus on the person and not the name.  It's not like they're going to change the name based on your reaction, and I don't see anything wrong with just showing approval for the name.  Asking where the name came from, asking what they're going to call her for short etc. sound like good ways to show an interest, and maybe the explanation will help the name make more sense to you.  But even if it doesn't, the little girl will make the name her own and after a while the name won't seem so strange because it will just be your niece.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Before we go
« Last post by gramma dishes on May 20, 2018, 09:48:05 AM »
Chibichan ~~  That's one of the genuinely sweetest thank you notes I've ever seen.  I do hope that Outdoorgirl sees it. 
Family and Children / How should I answer this one?
« Last post by oogyda on May 20, 2018, 09:45:24 AM »
Soon, I will have the opportunity to meet my great-great-niece.  I'm fairly certain that the child's mother will ask me "What do think of her name?" I think this will happen because she is the sort that fishes for compliments and, at the very least, will want acknowledgement of the uniqueness of the name.

The child's first name is searchable as a name.  It is specific to one country and has different pronunciations for male and female.  Neither of which is how they've chosen to pronounce it.  Phonetically, in English, it could be pronounces 2 other ways, which aren't the way they've chosen. 

I can't remember the spelling of the middle name, but what could have been expressed (pronuciation-wise) in 4 letters has 8 letters which makes the pronunciation questionable.  I did a search for it (when I knew how to spell it) and the only reference I found was that it was the name of a video game character.  As is the first name. 

The only opinion I have is that they have set the child up for a lifetime of having to correct people.  Whether that's bad or not will depend entirely on the child's personality.  To state that will come across as criticism, so I'm not planning on voicing that opinion.  My plan is to state that I don't have an opinion because I don't know anything about it.  Then ask her to tell me about it.  Where it came from, what does mean, does it have special meaning to them?  If I can get her talking, maybe she won't notice I haven't answered the question.
I think the last few days have been a perfect example of an extinction burst.

I've come to think of this forum like a toxic workplace. You know there are issues, but you hope in vain that "upper management" will listen and fix things and we can stay and hang out with our friends. But now, the business is closing and you know that all the issues are never going to be fixed like you hoped and you may never see your co-workers again. So why stay silent about the obvious issues now? The business is closing so nothing will get resolved now. All this anger is almost like a stage of grief. Perhaps speaking up now will give any "new business owners" a chance to learn from previous mistakes?

I respect your perspective, but I see it differently.  My husband used to build up anger until he had what he called 'verbal diarrhea' and got it out, at which time he felt exponentially better.  But the kids and I don't deserve to be left covered in his sh*t from being in his splatter zone or to clean up after it, no matter how good it makes him feel.   I see many recent posts (not specifically yours, Mary Lennox, but it's a good conversation starter) similarly.

I personally have disagreed with many choices by the owner and moderators of this forum over the years.  But using its closure as an opportunity to spread toxicity over the innocent bystanders is not justified - by my personal definition of being part of the world I want to live in - in my own quest to vent under the excuse of grief, healing, or education.

This is a social entertainment forum, not a repressive government, a dysfunctional family, or a toxic workplace where we're trapped by circumstances.  If it doesn't make your life better,  just walk away and let the others enjoy it.
Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Before we go
« Last post by chibichan on May 20, 2018, 09:02:37 AM »
I, for one , will forever be grateful for the word " Crivens ! " .

I am also grateful for the kindness of a few members during my illness so many years ago .

Outdoorgirl , if you're reading this : I still have my fuzzy hat - the one you made me , a stranger on the internet , facing a scary time on her own in a foreign country . All the love is still in every stitch and that's why I can't let it go . I need it to remind me that there is goodness in the world , even in the worst of times .

I wish for you a 1000 times return on that small kindness .   
78 general / Re: EHell's Own Forum Rules re. Doxxing and Copyright
« Last post by Damocles on May 20, 2018, 08:54:02 AM »
I didn't realize that yellow was so yellow!  Here is the text without highlighting.

This etiquette forum's own rules would say those posts should be removed and that there is no expectation of posts staying on this forum only.
79 general / EHell's Own Forum Rules re. Doxxing and Copyright
« Last post by Damocles on May 20, 2018, 08:52:56 AM »
If anyone is curious, per the updated forum rules which were updated 06/04/2012 and found here:

While most of the Off-Topic folders are limited to registered members, the forum is on the public internet and there cannot be an expectation that what is written here, stays here.  Users should remember to use common sense when posting.

Content No-Nos: You cannot post illegal material in either your profile, your sig file or your posts such as copyrighted material that is not yours, pornography, nudity and semi-nudity, spam, sexually explicit talk, advertising, malicious code, anyoneís personal information or to harass the moderators/admin.

This etiquette forum's own rules would say those posts should be removed and that there is no expectation of posts staying on this forum only.
80 general / Re: Doxxing someone
« Last post by TabathasGran on May 20, 2018, 08:52:29 AM »
I donít disagree with much that anyone has written in this thread.

I do also want to make a point if EHD is reading.
There is more than one person in the world with these names, and the name that remains in the post.
You could be exposing all of these people and some unrelated ones to terrible consequences beyond your control.

Isnít that enough reason to remove the name and delete the post confirming it?
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