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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by Lady Snowdon on November 18, 2017, 03:29:57 PM »
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Food / Re: Local Food Combinations
« Last post by ladyknight1 on November 18, 2017, 03:11:31 PM »
A new favorite. Pickled Vidalia onions, with homemade pimiento cheese, and buttermilk crackers.
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I mentioned the coat today (it was COLD yesterday) and thanked her again for it. Turns out she was hoping I'd also buy boots, and was holding off on helping me until I did that. I reminded her of my awesomely warm winter boots, and she's sending the check.

Mothers like this exist?  ;D

They do! My mom is like that. But she would just deposit the money in my account because she's near one of my credit union branches.

I'm glad this all worked itself out, OP!!!
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Because some people are so attached to doing every little thing their own way, also known as the right way, that they find doing it any other way "inconceivable" and have to point out the error of other people's ways of doing anything.

Because one person feels that only platinum trimmed china plates, solid silver flatware, and crystal wine glasses (all of which have to be hand washed & dried and put away after dinner carefully) with a real linen table cloth that great grandmother embroidered in a holiday motif are good enough for company to eat the catered meal off of (can't have mere home cooking - must be "better than that") and others feel that they'd rather serve on paper plates with disposable flatware & cups but they are serving them their own home cooked "company recipe" meal without a table cloth or even napkins on the table of any kind (here's a paper towel if you need one) & want to spend all their time after dinner visiting instead of in the kitchen doing dishes...and both feel that the other person is "doing entertaining wrong".

It also reminds me of the person in the UK who was insisting that cats & other small pets (various dog breeds) had to be free to roam outside to have a healthy, happy life and the people living in the USA or Australia pointed out that wild animals sometimes like plump small dogs or cats as a meal (or snack, in the case of a Florida alligator or other large predator) so it's safer in their area (and the animals live longer) if kept strictly inside.

I have a relative living on a ranch forty miles from "town" with a shotgun on the front porch to use for shooting rattlesnakes (poisonous, if someone is wondering) or other dangerous things that get too close to the house...and that is "right now", not fifty or a hundred years ago.

I knew a woman who came from NYC and was an artist who taught at the college level for decades - she preferred eating off china and silver.  Her daughter developed silver poisoning in her forties and had to switch to stainless steel while being treated with "chelating" (sp?) medications to remove as much of the silver deposits from her body as possible...her mother still entertained with the china & silver about three times a year...but her daughter wore gloves when helping wash the silver..."doctor's orders".  Somehow...that memory just popped up...very nice ladies, both of them...but perfect examples of my first "hypothetical" example.

And Slartibartfast says exactly the same thing that my maternal grandmother and my father both would have been thinking...although they might not have ever been "rude enough" to say it out loud to any poor, misguided people who were so clearly doing the *wrong* thing (for unknown reasons)...


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Family and Children / Re: Confirming invitations UPDATE
« Last post by flyersandunicorns on November 18, 2017, 01:52:56 PM »
I'm so happy to see your cousin reached out and confirmed the invitation to soothe your worries!

I hope that everything is wonderful now. I get a feeling since your aunt reached out and your mom is happy to reconcile that this will go wonderfully.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family   :D
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Family and Children / Re: Confirming invitations
« Last post by GardenGal on November 18, 2017, 01:49:20 PM »
How about calling up Aunt to say how happy to hear that she and Mom have worked things out, and what have you been up to, blah blah blah. Then hopefully this leads to talk about Thanksgiving.

I like this, but if Thanksgiving doesn't come up you need to bring it up and clarify if your immediate family is invited or not.  I host Thanksgiving every year (it's my favorite holiday), and having 3 people I thought were coming not show up would be very disappointing, and having 3 people that I didn't invite show up would be a significant space problem.

Maybe you could say something like, "I hope we can see you before too long" after you say how glad you are that she and your mother have worked things out, and if she's expecting you for Thanksgiving I'd be surprised if she didn't say something about that.

Re:  the bolded  - wouldn't you then take responsibility for the fact that you didn't actually invite them?

Good point.  I meant that if 3 people who HAD said they were coming didn't show up I would be very disappointed.  However, I have been guilty of asking some of my guests to invite others in their family for me, so next year I'll invite everyone myself.

OP - So glad you got an official invitation from your aunt.
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Life...in general / Re: I don't want to be your diet or exercise buddy
« Last post by Dragonflymom on November 18, 2017, 11:00:15 AM »
Thanks so much everyone <3  I appreciate having a variety of scripts to use with her, so I don't have to try to think on the spot to handle anything she says.  And if a few of those don't work, then there is plan B and suddenly having plans or errands.

Thanks for the well wishes about my back, it is doing much better :)
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I think everybody's said what's needed to about how to handle this, but while thinking about things to do for our family Thanksgiving, an idea for a super easy "outside the box" appetizer just popped into my head, and I thought I'd share in case it might work for your daughters :)

You know the traditional dip where you dump a jar of pepper jelly over a block of cream cheese - I was thinking a fun Thanksgiving variation would be using cranberry relish or cranberry jelly.  And it's kind of retro, and as they say everything old is new again :)
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Family and Children / Re: Confirming invitations UPDATE
« Last post by gramma dishes on November 18, 2017, 10:11:47 AM »
My cousin called me yesterday (first time since everything started) to say she wanted to make sure we were coming for dinner on Thursday.  I am really excited. I hope everything goes well. I may be getting my family back.

It's fun to "feel" your enthusiasm and excitement.  I hope everything really goes beautifully and everyone leaves feeling content.  That would truly be a Thanksgiving blessing.
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Life...in general / Re: I don't want to be your diet or exercise buddy
« Last post by Mustard on November 18, 2017, 09:34:51 AM »
I have mentioned it before, but this has worked for me; if someone starts talking about something you do not want to discuss, just say Can I stop you there?'  Nine times out of ten, the talker will stop to hear what you have to say.  Then  don't say anything...
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