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  • February 11, 2016, 05:40:16 PM

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Outdoor Girl ... "I've been told on this board that driving through a parking space to park nose out in the space in the next aisle is illegal.".

Where in the world did that come from? What's the reasoning?

I and others do that all the time if possible. (Assuming no one is waiting for that spot).

It's much safer to drive out, rather than back out.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: WWeHellD?
« Last post by Hillia on Today at 02:00:18 PM »
Do you have access to the storage unit?  The first thing I'd do is get all of your stuff out of there.  If his parents' name is on the contract, all the contents will be assumed to be their property.  So, b before Jojo had time to get too weird, get your stuff out of there.  If there's anything shared with Camp Jojo, you might have to sacrifice it in order to cut down on charges of theft against you.  But get your stuff now.
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^ But this is the 'things that drive you up the wall' thread.

Sure, CrochetFanatic has no say in what happens to the bird but she can still be ticked off that her mother hasn't followed through on what she said she was going to do and ticked off at a bird that is loud and annoying.
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Techno-quette / Re: How/whether to respond to friend's online rudeness?
« Last post by Zizi-K on Today at 01:57:25 PM »
I wonder if that old chestnut Men are From Mars isn't helpful here. In that book, it was suggest that sometimes when women talk about their problems, they are looking for sympathy and validation, not necessary solutions. I realize this is a man, not a woman, but the desire for sympathy and validation are genderless. I also realize he was asking for "serious suggestions only" but there seems to be an undercurrent of wanting validation.

Anyway, I'll say it again: people get a little nutty on social media (and via text, etc). Bring it up next time you see him, if you want. You could say, hey what ever happened with your homeless problem? Things were getting a little tense on FB the other day." I'd bet that he'll be embarrassed about it.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: WWeHellD?
« Last post by Outdoor Girl on Today at 01:56:04 PM »
You are completely fine and reasonable to want to get the finances separate so you can be accountable to your campers.  If I was camping with JoJo?  I'd have lost it long before you did.

My brother organizes a canoe trip annually.  He budgets what he thinks the trip is going to cost and gets a deposit from everyone.  He doesn't keep a separate account but he keeps an immaculate spreadsheet with all the money coming in and out accounted for.  This year, we actually overpaid.  And he wrote everyone a refund cheque, right down to the penny.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Left out of book acknowledgements
« Last post by Alicia on Today at 01:56:00 PM »
Totally see why it would sting. However I would actually not mention it. I would instead strengthen connection by sending email to author congratulate on book and mention that you enjoyed working on book and liked how some part or other related to what you did turned out. You would not likely get added to acknowledged but he or she will be reminded of what you did and remember you better over time.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: WWeHellD?
« Last post by AccountingIsFun on Today at 01:55:52 PM »
I don't like that this person was able to re-tie his personal financial situation in with the group financial information. You've already experienced one of the things that can go wrong - overdrafts and the fees that go along with it. The co-mingling of the finances, lack of documentation for the items paid for, and more importantly, the fact that it seems like you are overpaying for certain items makes me think that there is fraud going on here and that the best way to prevent future misappropriation of your funds is to separate the accounts.

Since this person has not been able to give you an accurate accounting of the expenses paid, you are NOT going overboard by asking to separate out the financial responsibilities away from him. It is just a matter of preservation of your own integrity as a village leader. He has shown himself to be incapable of handling group money and therefore should no longer have any access to it.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: WWeHellD?
« Last post by AngelicGamer on Today at 01:51:08 PM »
Keep your spine shiny and pull out now.  Get your co-lead in the email chain if you think JoJo will listen to him or her more than you.  Continue to be polite if you can be.  I don't know this JoJo from the next person and I want to reach through and throttle him.

I also agree with a PP about a phone call but I would get your co-lead in on it.  If only because then you'll have someone to keep you strong and on message.
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All In A Day's Work / Re: Left out of book acknowledgements
« Last post by Mustard on Today at 01:50:57 PM »
I agree with HannahGrace, although I can see it would sting. 
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: WWeHellD?
« Last post by siamesecat2965 on Today at 01:48:28 PM »
Since i know nothing about Burning Man, i'm not 100% about what all goes on, even with your explanations, but that's me.

But that being said, no, you are not being irrational at all. There's a history of his poor and rather questionable money management. I wouldn't let him touch the BM funds at all, no discussion. And you said his parents somehow got involved in paying? how old is he? Just wondering how that all came about.

Honeslty, if at all possible, I'd even think twice about doing ANY BM activities together. He sounds a bit sneaky and shady, and I'm pretty sure he knows exactly what he was doing, and would continue to do so, had he not been found out.
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