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Had I been the grad student, I can see me doing exactly what she did.  Your message would have told me that I didn't need to call if 8:30 or 9 AM was okay.  But knowing me, after chewing it over, if I really wanted the position, I might have called late in the day to confirm, just to make sure.  I'd show up on the early end, at 8:30, prepared to wait until 9 if necessary.  If I found out the person who was going to interview me wasn't coming in until 11 AM, with no notice to me, I'd be surprised and not in a good way.
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A few is fine!
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I don't know how often this is likely to happen again,  but if it's more than a one-off, you may want to include a deadline in your message. It wouldn't need to be elaborate, just something along the lines of "Note that all appointments must be confirmed by 4:15 pm the day before."
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Tuesday I called a prospective grad student to schedule an interview for her with Lisa, the head of the enrollment committee.  I called the number listed on the student's application and told her Lisa could meet with her at either 8:30 am or 9:00 am Wednesday and if that was not convenient to let me know a better date/time.  I listed my office hours on the message.  I also sent her an email to the address on her application restating the message.

I agree that the student needed to call earlier, however, I think your message also needed to be reworded.

The first bolded statement sounds like those slots are reserved for her, so I personally would assume that Lisa would be available and free at that time.

The second part sounds like she only needs to call if those times don't work for her, implying the appointment is set.

Instead, you could have said that Lisa was available at 0830 or 0900 and to please give you a call to set the appointment. The student wasn't calling to set the appointment, she was calling to confirm she would be there.

Yes, I would have interpreted your message the same way.

Was thinking the same. I think you need to clarify that the student needs to call back by  time to confirm the appointment. She had no idea Lisa wouldn't be in the office unless she had confirmed appointments.
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I would agree with you, Goosey, if the student had said something like to the affect that she understood the appointment to be at 8:30 based on BeagleMommy's message. But in point of fact, the message, exactly as worded, still required some kind of response before being definite. "either 8:30 am or 9:00 am Wednesday" means, you need to call me back and tell me which one of those works for you, or if neither works.

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Tuesday I called a prospective grad student to schedule an interview for her with Lisa, the head of the enrollment committee.  I called the number listed on the student's application and told her Lisa could meet with her at either 8:30 am or 9:00 am Wednesday and if that was not convenient to let me know a better date/time.  I listed my office hours on the message.  I also sent her an email to the address on her application restating the message.

I agree that the student needed to call earlier, however, I think your message also needed to be reworded.

The first bolded statement sounds like those slots are reserved for her, so I personally would assume that Lisa would be available and free at that time.

The second part sounds like she only needs to call if those times don't work for her, implying the appointment is set.

Instead, you could have said that Lisa was available at 0830 or 0900 and to please give you a call to set the appointment. The student wasn't calling to set the appointment, she was calling to confirm she would be there.

I agree, the wording does make it sound like she only needed to call if the times were not convenient. I would have thought that meant that the times were reserved for me - although I think I would have called to double-check as you mentioned two times rather than just one.
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Tuesday I called a prospective grad student to schedule an interview for her with Lisa, the head of the enrollment committee.  I called the number listed on the student's application and told her Lisa could meet with her at either 8:30 am or 9:00 am Wednesday and if that was not convenient to let me know a better date/time.  I listed my office hours on the message.  I also sent her an email to the address on her application restating the message.

I agree that the student needed to call earlier, however, I think your message also needed to be reworded.

The first bolded statement sounds like those slots are reserved for her, so I personally would assume that Lisa would be available and free at that time.

The second part sounds like she only needs to call if those times don't work for her, implying the appointment is set.

Instead, you could have said that Lisa was available at 0830 or 0900 and to please give you a call to set the appointment. The student wasn't calling to set the appointment, she was calling to confirm she would be there.

Yes, I would have interpreted your message the same way.
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Life...in general / Re: Thank-you note to giver, once removed?
« Last post by MommyPenguin on Today at 09:34:31 AM »
Okay, I will check with my dad.  It's quite possible that my uncle knows that, as a habit, his siblings pass some of the money on to their kids (I'd imagine it's not just my dad that does it--all of the siblings are very comfortable and all of their children are newer in life, getting married and having babies galore), but I don't *think* that he suggests it.  But I will ask my dad to be sure.

Thanks, all!
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Entertaining and Hospitality / Re: Dirty diaper in my kitchen.
« Last post by MommyPenguin on Today at 09:28:39 AM »
Personally, I think bathrooms are the very place to change a child.  I try to avoid the carpet, though, as I once had an incident where a newborn peed during the diaper change and it got on the bathroom carpet (when I was a guest!  eek!).  I'll just put the changing pad on the floor itself.  Yes, it's a bit hard.  But it's only for two minutes.  I can't see it being that much of an issue even for a newborn.  (This reminds me that my changing pad isn't in my diaper bag at the moment--need to find it, as I keep having to use a clean diaper or one of the plastic bags as my "changing pad" when I'm out).

I would feel hugely uncomfortable changing a diaper on a bed and would probably move to the floor as soon as the host left.  For one thing, my changing pad gets used on bathroom floors, so I'd be transferring germs and stuff to the bed.  For another, the slight risk of leaks would lead to a *huge* problem.  Give me a tile/linoleum/hardwood floor any day over something fabric/carpet.

I generally just take diapers home with me, because it's what I often have to do when out and about anyway.  I have a pocket in my diaper bag that I usually put them in, so when I finish changing the diaper, I just put it in there by habit.  This is after putting it in a plastic bag, especially if it's a dirty one.  My MIL was really surprised when I finished changing a diaper the other day at her house and just by habit went to take it home with me, but I'd already had it packed up to go, so it wasn't much trouble.  I'd be a little more loose with a diaper that was just wet, though, possibly just wrapping it up and leaving it in a trashcan.  Even wet diapers can cause a stink if left out for a long time, though.  Just smell the inside of a diaper pail someday.  Ammonia, ick.
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I played soccer competitively up to the point I graduated from college. Similar to a PP, my extended family were my neighbors but if I recall (and it has been some time now) the only time they showed up to my games was if it were a championship match or something like that. Certainly not a regular league match. Never bothered me one bit.

A few years ago my parents, myself, and my younger brother were spending a weekend in NYC for an event (we were all living on the W. Coast). My niece and nephew (maybe 8 and 6 at the time) who lived on Long Island had soccer games which they invited us to. My younger brother and I declined to attend (we had just spent the entire day with them the day prior) because we wanted to go into the city and sight-see. My parents were fine with it, as was my older brother (father of niece and nephew), but my parents did mention that my SIL was upset that we did not attend.

I think you are fine attending an event every now and then. Certainly I wouldn't attend every single event because honestly this can become quite consuming.
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