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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: The 'I Accomplished Something Today!' Thread
« Last post by snowfire on April 21, 2018, 09:24:52 PM »
DH & I replaced about 50 feet of sprinkler controller wire at my Mom's rental house & buried it. Also replaced 1 sprinkler head and got the sprinklers turned on for the season. Sprayed weed killer on the weeds in the driveway & sidewalk & put a wheel on the big gate. (It really should be two half width gates but I'm not ready to do THAT much surgery!) I'm stiff & sore because I tripped and fell but a glass of wine, 2 aspirin and some kitty therapy help.
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Life...in general / Re: When you gotta go, you gotta go
« Last post by LonniesMom on April 21, 2018, 08:11:38 PM »
Okay, let me put it another way. My friend and I go to the movies. We are close enough to know that anything larger than a small drink will send her to the bathroom multiple times during the 2 hour movie. There is no need for her to order a gallon of coke in that time period, but she does anyway because she wants to. An hour into the movie, she has to disturb multiple people in the row to get in and out and possibly again before the movie ends. Is it wrong for me to be annoyed about the multiple disruptions that wouldn't have occurred had they ordered a smaller drink? Is it rude of me to not want to go to the movies with her because of her unthoughtfulness towards the rest of the cinema? Why does her desire to have a huge drink outweigh my desire to watch a movie undisturbed?

Or...we're going on a roadtrip. It should take about 4 hours. Just before we leave, you drink a 20oz coffee knowing that it will run through you. Half an hour down the road, we to need to pull over so you can go. Repeat every 30 minutes for the next couple of hours. Instead of 4 hours, it's now closer to 5 because of all the rest stops. On the return journey, is it selfish of me to request you don't drink such a huge coffee just before we leave? How is that more selfish than if you to drink the coffee, knowing that we'll have to stop multiple times and make the drive longer?

These are conscious decisions that people make, medical issues are not. If you make a conscious decision (ie drinking that gallon of water) that starts affecting my life in what I perceive as a negative way, why is it wrong of me to bring it up to see if it's something that can change? Would you prefer me to just stop going out with you without telling you why? Should I seethe silently everytime it happens? How often on here do people recommend talking to try and fix interpersonal issues? Why would this be any different?

You are correct and I see now what you mean with these examples. I did overreact and take it a bit personally. I apologize.
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Life...in general / Re: When you gotta go, you gotta go
« Last post by Bales on April 21, 2018, 07:44:11 PM »
LonniesMom, it seems to me you're taking Mary Lennox's comments personally.  I think her comments and her perspective is valid.  You may not.  But I feel like you're stretching it beyond what her intent is based on your own personal lens that you're reading it through.  To me, it's akin to the original OP's friend assuming another friend may wonder what she is doing in the bathroom - it takes a fact (that OP used the restroom a few times) and extends an illogical conclusion to that fact.  In this case, I think you're reading too much into another poster's statements. 
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Holidays / Re: Thank you notes for Christmas?
« Last post by Minmom3 on April 21, 2018, 07:37:56 PM »
Plus, snail mail thank you's can be revisited at a later time, at many later times, and be a source of pleasure to the recipient.
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Life...in general / Re: When you gotta go, you gotta go
« Last post by Mary Lennox on April 21, 2018, 07:30:37 PM »
Okay, let me put it another way. My friend and I go to the movies. We are close enough to know that anything larger than a small drink will send her to the bathroom multiple times during the 2 hour movie. There is no need for her to order a gallon of coke in that time period, but she does anyway because she wants to. An hour into the movie, she has to disturb multiple people in the row to get in and out and possibly again before the movie ends. Is it wrong for me to be annoyed about the multiple disruptions that wouldn't have occurred had they ordered a smaller drink? Is it rude of me to not want to go to the movies with her because of her unthoughtfulness towards the rest of the cinema? Why does her desire to have a huge drink outweigh my desire to watch a movie undisturbed?

Or...we're going on a roadtrip. It should take about 4 hours. Just before we leave, you drink a 20oz coffee knowing that it will run through you. Half an hour down the road, we to need to pull over so you can go. Repeat every 30 minutes for the next couple of hours. Instead of 4 hours, it's now closer to 5 because of all the rest stops. On the return journey, is it selfish of me to request you don't drink such a huge coffee just before we leave? How is that more selfish than if you to drink the coffee, knowing that we'll have to stop multiple times and make the drive longer?

These are conscious decisions that people make, medical issues are not. If you make a conscious decision (ie drinking that gallon of water) that starts affecting my life in what I perceive as a negative way, why is it wrong of me to bring it up to see if it's something that can change? Would you prefer me to just stop going out with you without telling you why? Should I seethe silently everytime it happens? How often on here do people recommend talking to try and fix interpersonal issues? Why would this be any different?
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Silly things that have made you happy recently
« Last post by cicero on April 21, 2018, 07:27:05 PM »
I've been on WW for three months. Lost 10 pounds

So a few things that have made me happy:
1. I have been working out continuously, and occassionally make changes in my routine - change a class, add in weight training, etc. In the past week I noticed that my stamina and energy have changed and I was able to do actually jumping jacks (instead of stepping jacks), I was able to do frog planks instead of modifying to regular planks, and a certain bend over thing that I was previously unable to do.
2. I fit into one size smaller (depending on the manufacturer. I know I have a ways to go (I want to go down two or three more sizes) but I am out of "big" sizes and into "regular" sizes.
3. When I went to get my haircut today, my stylist said that I lost weight! My last hair cut was about six weeks ago. That was so great to hear!
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Silly things that have made you happy recently
« Last post by cicero on April 21, 2018, 07:20:06 PM »
My DD#1 received a job offer today! ;D

(For those that don't know, she just finished her masters program a couple of weeks ago.)
yay!
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Life...in general / Re: When you gotta go, you gotta go
« Last post by LonniesMom on April 21, 2018, 06:23:14 PM »
The only time I would comment on someone's bathroom habits is when they start encroaching on my life or enjoyment of an activity. For example, if you know that drinking coffee makes you go more, I would absolutely bring it up before we leave on a road trip because I'm not going to stop every 20 minutes. (And if you're in my car for a multi-hour drive, we're close enough that I can say something about it). Or if we're watching a tv show or a movie and we have to keep pausing it.

If it's a medical need to drink so much, yeah, I'll be as understanding and accommodating as I can but when it's your choice and you know it will interrupt others, it's kinda selfish.

Well, I am pregnant and have to go every 15 minutes due to the baby sitting on my bladder. I also have to stay hydrated. I am not being selfish, nor is anyone else who has a medical condition, or just needs to use the bathroom. I guess we wouldn't be friends.

She said she'd be accommodating if it was a medical need.

Who is she to judge if it is a good enough medical reason? Maybe the person doesn't want to share their need to go so often. It is very off putting that someone would be called selfish due to a bodily function, IMO. I would not appreciate being asked to explain myself, or told what I can or cannot drink.

edited to fix quote tree

She just wouldn't go on a road trip with you, she wouldn't cast you out to the wolves.

not just a road trip... anything that interferes with her life... even watching TV...without a medical excuse...

that came across as self centered to me, especially considering the comment that the other person was selfish.

MaryLennox, I did not deliberately misunderstand you. The person must have a valid medical reason for using the bathroom and it not be a "choice," and interfere with your life. Is this not correct?
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Baby Names - You're kidding Right???
« Last post by pattycake on April 21, 2018, 03:45:31 PM »
https://www.freep.com/story/news/local/michigan/2018/04/20/michigan-family-14-sons/535801002/

Thanks for posting this link - I had read about the birth of the baby, but at the time of that article, they hadn't a name for him yet!
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