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Family and Children / Re: MIL and her "request"
« Last post by Curly Wurly Doggie Breath on Today at 02:21:25 AM »
I think this year OP should be taking not only Mother's day and Christmas off the table, but also  Thanksgiving. And birthdays.

Push back a little ;) remind Mil just how generous you folks have already been.

This is actually something I do with my kids.  If they start complaining too much about the chores I ask them to do, then I add an additional chore.  If they complain about that, then they have another.  The idea is to show them that all over the world, children have *hard* chores and they spend most of the day on them.  They don't have all that many chores.  But if they come to think that they shouldn't have *any* chores, then they will have to be reminded of how hard they *could* have to work so they'll appreciate what they have.  It works fairly well.

Reminds me of the folktale about the man who complained to his rabbi that his house is too small with his children and in-laws all living there. The rabbi told him the solution is to bring all his livestock into the house. A week later, the man told the rabbi it didn't work; his house is still cramped, noisy, and smelly. The rabbi then told him to take all the animals back outside. A few days later, the man was joyfully saying the house is now so roomy, quiet, and clean.

They made a picture book of this!  :)  http://smile.amazon.com/Could-Always-Be-Worse-Yiddish/dp/0374436363/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1462073746&sr=8-1&keywords=it+could+always+be+worse

bahaha, i need that book
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Life...in general / Re: Snobby Caterer Was Rude - Alert Others? UD #32
« Last post by Raintree on Today at 01:56:12 AM »
Who cares if the OP didn't have an appointment. She went in and asked (after receiving no response from Ashley) and a staff member called Mark. They didn't just barge into his office demanding a tasting, now. All he needed to say was "I'm afraid we can do that only by appointment" or "We can offer tastings only if the order is over $2500" (letting the OP tell him whether this is the case). And I can't believe his, "we close at 4:30." "Ok then, we close at 2" nonsense.

It does sound as though you were judged in some way. Glad to hear you won't be the only clients he loses as a result.

And I hate assumptions about what I'm about to spend. I was recently in a kitchen shop looking at some pots, and I couldn't find a price on one. It was a nicer one, and I was looking for something of quality. I wasn't sure if I could afford one as nice as the one that was missing the price sticker, but I wanted to know in order to determine this. So this saleslady asked if I needed help. I asked about a couple of the other ones, and she was helpful, but then I asked how much the one without the price sticker was. She said "Oh, those ones are pretty expensive" in a way that suggested I might as well not even consider it, and continues to talk about the other ones. I had to ask a second time for her to go check the price. So she did, and it turns out that yes, it was quite expensive, but not out of my reach and I could afford it if I decided to spend the money. I thought it was reasonable for the quality. In the end I didn't buy that one but it annoyed me that she assumed it was too expensive for me. I was dressed in casual street clothes, like everyone else out walking around shopping.
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Life...in general / Re: What Would You Have Done?
« Last post by katycoo on Today at 01:52:56 AM »
The situation at my church is the same.  Noone will be talking over or during the service, but before and after would not be considered inappropriate.  In fact it would be rare for the church to be a silent place - there's always lots going on.
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Im another one that was blessed with a seamless Windows 10 upgrade.
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that's a really good start :D
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Family and Children / Re: Family Wedding and guilt. Sigh.
« Last post by lakey on Today at 01:22:39 AM »
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There is a lot of back story, but the short version is Bob walked out on his wife of 20 years and 2 weeks later made the announcement he was in a relationship with Sue, who was a friend he had met through a social club a few months before.

This relationship started with Bob and his girlfriend being incredibly insensitive toward, not only his ex wife, but also his children. Bringing out the girlfriend two weeks after dumping mom was a rotten thing to do to his kids, even if they were adults. He could have been more discreet until after the divorce. So I'm not at all surprised at the selfish, entitled behavior that went on at the wedding. Your mother, grandmother, and aunts were exploited as unpaid help, then insulted with your being referred to as trash. The bride and her family knew that there was work to be done, and chose to do none of it.

Also, since none of these people were willing to fork over the money for a reception, I'm kind of surprised that they have the brass to refer to someone else as "trash". Since they consider themselves to be superior to you and your sister, they should have been able to pay for a caterer.

I really hate to see people like your mother, grandmother, and aunts being taken advantage of. I hope they start seeing Bob and his silly, little bride for what they are.
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Life...in general / Re: Food complaints
« Last post by Raintree on Today at 12:57:14 AM »
Oh my, no!! I would never complain about a meal that someone else was treating me to!!! If they brought out the wrong thing (ie I ordered the steak and they brought me the chicken) I would let them know my order was incorrect, or if the chicken was undercooked and therefore unsafe to eat, I would say something, but "the portions are too small"? No!!! (I'd make a quiet mental note that the portions are small at this restaurant and choose not to eat there in future).

I think even if the steak was overcooked when I'd specified medium-rare, I would not say anything either, if someone else was treating, but that's just me. I think maybe it's ok to do that, but I would personally say nothing at all.

I've been taken to restaurants that I didn't think were good, in general (nothing specific but maybe overall not good food, and poor service) but I will still say, "thank you for the meal" and not complain. I think FIL was very rude.

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Life...in general / Re: What Would You Have Done?
« Last post by SleepIsabella on Today at 12:45:44 AM »
All churches are run differently.  The one I went to as a child would be the opposite of how the I went to as a teen was run.  The one I went to during middle school was more relaxed and had a more casual dress code that encouraged rowdiness.

If the church is not to your liking just don't go there again.
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For the record, I did an overnight upgrade on my Windows 7 system. It worked flawlessly the next day, and has for months. Just saying that it isn't a dumpster fire every time. ;D

I'm with you, Diane. DH did an upgrade on Windows 7, I did one on Windows 8.1. Both worked flawlessly, wthout any need to reinstall anything. All programs, files, folders, settings etc. stayed exactly as they'd been.
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Life...in general / Re: At my wit's end with a neighbor and his loud hobby
« Last post by Raintree on Yesterday at 11:59:32 PM »
He has it idling for hours? I can't even think what that's doing to the air quality. We have laws stating that vehicles can't be idling for more than X minutes (I forgot how many - only a few minutes) and it wouldn't matter if he was there with it. That is ridiculous.
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