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I tend to leave cash instead of putting the tip on the cc. I've heard stories from friends who had tips stolen by the managers/owners  when put on the cc. (Dad also found out the Manager of the Country club was cheating employees this way. He took care of the situation.)

I started writing cash on the CC receipt after seeing that idea here. I also try to hand the whole thing back to the waiter - because I've seen people steal tips from tables. I figure most waiters are going to be fair to their fellow employees. 
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Family and Children / Re: Can we just let him sleep?
« Last post by Dindrane on Today at 12:18:11 AM »
Sometimes when I'm on vacation, I want to sleep in a bit, no matter what else is going on. Other times, I might like to sleep in but I'm more interested in doing whatever other people have planned, so I'll sacrifice some sleep in order to be available to do it. I'd guess that's fairly common among people vacationing, although everyone has a different threshold for when sleeping in becomes less attractive than something that is planned (and it varies based on a lot of circumstances).

So I'd say the best way to manage it is to discuss plans the evening before, and make sure Cousin knows what you're doing and that he's welcome to join you if he likes. You can phrase it as your wanting him to be able to do whatever it is he wants to do, whether that's joining your plans or sleeping in, but you want to know what he plans on doing the next morning so that you can plan accordingly.

Even if Cousin is a bit sensitive right now, I would try not to overthink this. Just be mindful that your phrasing doesn't make it sound like you prefer one outcome over another (unless you do), and don't talk plans sooner than the night before unless there's some reason you need to.
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I'm thinking the neighbour was following this cheesecake thread all along and decided to give a cheesecake as a "thank you" gift as the ultimate "**** you."

Pretty rude with the "Yeah yeah yeah" thing. The proper thing to say would be, "Yes, I understand, we're sorry and won't ask you again." (Except that they didn't ask in the first place).
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Humor Me! / Re: Er, sorry?
« Last post by lilfox on Today at 12:01:55 AM »
I just had this happen in an airport security line. The TSA agent looks over my documents, looks at me, and asks, "Are your eyes real?"

What?  It took me as long to realize what he meant (was it my real eye color or was I wearing colored contacts) as for him to just start over and say that my eye color was striking.

I did really want to say, "nope, ceramic" but you aren't supposed to joke around TSA personnel. ;D
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Family and Children / Re: Wedding and Milestone Birthday Dilemma
« Last post by MariaE on Yesterday at 11:51:51 PM »
Shame on your MIL for approaching DH to pressure you instead of talking to you directly. Shame on your DH for agreeing to skip your birthday and disregard your feelings to "appease" his mom and sister. Frankly, it doesn't speak very well of him as a husband. You've done all you can to appease, trying to ask the professor for a testing exception, but that's it. These are not reasonable people. You can't approach them reasonably.

I completely disagree with the bolded! I'd say it would speak a lot worse of him if he didn't pick his sister's wedding. I would pretty much insist that he did just that, if I were the OP.

Agreed. I actually think it is wrong of the OP to have asked her DH to skip his sister's wedding!

Yes, this is where I come in as well.  The OP can do what she wants for her birthday, but being furious with her husband for wanting to stay for his own sister's wedding is really strange and selfish to me.

To me, it sounded like he agreed on his wife's behalf to what his mother wanted - canceling the birthday celebration and telling the OP, "We can celebrate your birthday later" - without consulting the OP. If that's the case, that's the mark of a husband who is not prioritizing his wife's feelings as he should. If not, well then, I owe the husband an apology.

Ah, that makes sense. I read it as that he would celebrate with the OP later and go alone to the wedding, which I thought was the only right thing to do. If indeed he instead meant that they should celebrate later and both stay at the wedding, then I completely, absolutely and positively agree with you.

Either way there's absolutely no way I'd go to the gift opening the following day, nor want my husband to go either. That would be a hill to die on.
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I think the cruise was a cover for the neighbor's annual retreat with her cheesecake-obsessed doomsday cult
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The neighbour sounds just as vile now as I thought she was earlier. She's the one who put everyone else out with her antics, and yet she's acting like the injured party? Disgusting.
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I'd try to implement what both my son's private school and his soccer team do: Part of the sign-up paperwork is a check over (number of required volunteer hours times $15). If you do your volunteer hours you get your check back (or a partial refund if you did some but not all hours).

If that is not an option I would cancel events if you don't get enough volunteers, and be clear that you need to cancel because you don't have enough volunteers. If volunteers cancel on short notice, send out an email saying that you are now short on volunteers. If you don't get other people to sign up, event will have to be cancelled by tomorrow even if event is three days away.

I that idea, but I'd half the penalty, $7ish per event.

$15 per hour is enough that if you don't get enough volunteers, you have enough money to pay someone to do the job.

Yeah, but Girl Scouts isn't school and that would be more than many parents would spend.

And girl scouts forbids us paying our volunteers. Its come up when someone wanted to pay a certified lifeguard for their help at their event.  They don't want it turning into something that's expected.

I think my mom dealt with the lifeguard dilemma as well.
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A cheesecake as a gift? Wooow! Glad the exchange wasn't argumentative though.
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Time For a Coffee Break! / Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Last post by kherbert05 on Yesterday at 11:14:22 PM »
I was an exhibitor at a beer festival last Saturday.  Festival was at a horse racing track, from 6 pm to 10:30 pm, and required your ID be checked and you get a wristband before you could get in.  Clearly, this was a 21+ event (since that's the legal drinking age around here).  Plus, now that I go back and check the website where tickets were sold, it clearly says "you must be 21 years of age or older to participate"

My table was just outside the expo hall, where everyone's ID was checked and people were wristbanded.  So I got to see the multiple SS's who tried to bring strollers into the event.  All of them were intercepted and informed that children were not allowed.  All of them were absolutely *shocked* to hear that "you must be 21 years of age or older to participate" excluded their babies.  A few tried to argue the point (I clearly heard one say "I bring my baby to events like this all the time"  ::) ).  One tried to guilt trip the security/event personnel.  One glared at everyone and swore as she left.

I couldn't believe that people thought this would be okay. 
I've been to several beer festivals/Octoberfests that had kid activities and soft drinks available so kids were welcome. Also many Catholic and Eastern/Greek Orthodox churches would ask Dad for "donations*" of beer for their church festivals often with an Octoberfest theme, when he was working in the Houston area. San Angelo - his workers including Catholics were shocked when he asked about donating to churches - totally different culture even though same state.

I would suggest to the organizers they change the wording on the website and other advertisements to No-one under 21 admitted.


*My Dad always followed the law. At certain points of time in Texas that meant he sold the beer to the church/community group. Was paid in cash. Then gave a check donation for over the amount. He also always paid for employees to go taking their spouses and family (paid for tickets in, and paid for time). That way if there was a violation of the law they could talk to the coordinators and fix it.

For example one time one church decided to have their drink stations on golf carts. At that time you could not sell beer to the public from a vehicle capable of being driven (might have changed with the introduction of food trucks).

That one was interesting because the Monsignor at that church was an SS and hated my Father. (Refused to marry my parents (they got married at St. Anne's instead), told me preschool aged me that my Protestant grandfather was burning in hell (not RC doctrine), told parishioners that sis and I didn't have a father (used offensive word that would be blocked and get me in trouble with moderators) and a bunch of other stuff). Dad had to go to the festival organizer and tell him that they would pull the beer, and report the church to TABC and that the church would get a huge fine. (If he didn't act and TABC found out Dad would face worse penalties because they got their licence for the event because he vouched for them)
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