This happened a little while ago, but I'm wondering if anyone else would have been bothered by this.
This past year was mine and my boyfriend's first year of college. We went to different schools. My birthday was in April. A few weeks beforehand, my boyfriend asked me, "Since you aren't going to be home for your birthday, should I get you a present?" A little shocked, I told him that he didn't have to get me anything, but that if he did I would appreciate it. I was surprised since we have always given each other presents in the past, and it seemed that he did not think it was necessary since I wasn't going to be there in person. He asked what I wanted, so I sent him an Amazon link to a DVD I wanted. I told him it would be best to buy it there since it was a little rare and he would most likely not find it in a store.
Sometime later, my boyfriend told me the present might be late, since he couldn't find it. I asked if Amazon had sold out, but he said he wasn't going to get it from there. Apparently, his dad was searching stores back home for the DVD. I found this very strange, as the Amazon price was probably about the same as what you would get in a store, and I had told him not to bother looking in a store anyway. I also didn't understand why his dad was looking for it, as my boyfriend has a car and a very nice mall near his school.
After not finding it, he said he ordered the DVD on Amazon. A couple of weeks after my birthday passed, I asked about it, since it still hadn't arrived. Apparently, in the previous conversation about the present, my boyfriend had neglected to mention that the present wasn't being sent to me. It was at his house. He said that he had his dad order it for him
and he had given his dad cash when he went home for the weekend. His dad didn't know my mailing address, but instead of calling me to ask, my boyfriend told his dad to just send it to their house. I asked if he was going to mail it when he went home next weekend, but his only response was that he wasn't comfortable with that, and that he would just give it to me when I came home for the summer. After all this, I didn't get the present until about a month after my birthday.
What bothered me about this wasn't even the present itself. I may have overthought this, but I feel like he just didn't care. I don't understand why he felt that he shouldn't get me a present just because I wasn't home. I never would have done that to him. Telling his dad to just send the present to their house without bothering to ask me where to mail it made it seem like he didn't care enough to put any effort into it. I wonder if he refused to mail it to me because he didn't want to pay. I am bringing this up now because I have noticed a pattern of this kind of behavior from him lately and feel like I want to bring it up to him. Would you have been upset in this situation? Have you ever experienced something like this from a significant other or anyone important to you?