I think it is wrong to submit a nasty obituary because for as much as you (general) hated the person, there has to be someone who loves him/her. That being said..I would have looooved to be the one to write the ex husbands obituary. Of course his mother did it and made him sound so beloved, so great. He was a drug addict, thief, user, and abuser. He treated his child like an after thought who should be at his beck and call when he wanted to drunkenly whine about how hard his life was. I have always found something to remember any person by who has passed, even if I didn't have the best relationship..with him, I wanted to dance. I cried for about 2 minutes when I was told simply for my DD who wanted her dad to be a dad and now she would never have it. At his funeral, I was not given any condolences, simply because everyone knew how we felt for each other (the hatred was mutual) but I made sure to give my condolences as I knew these people were hurting, I just refused to involve myself in any conversations about what a wonderful person he was.