He can take criticism and debate *really* well. This is so important to me, because I'm not the sort of person who hides when I have an opinion on something, and if there's a relationship
issue, I want to be able to solve it without defensiveness.
He's a couple of degrees more affectionate than me, which is just enough to get past my reticence about those things, but not enough to make me feel smothered.
I can't hide a mood from him. There are times I've figured that I don't want to put it on him that I'm upset/angry, because it's not his fault or there's nothing that can change it. He always somehow knows, and gets me to tell him what's wrong without making me feel worse. And when I do talk to him about it, I have never regretted opening up. He can handle emotions without needing to get snarky or run away.
He *doesn't* make comments about how 'it's OK if I kiss other girls' or about how much he wants a threeway. Weird dealmaker I know, but as a bi person, I've found way way too many guys have these views. If I am going to be monogamous, I want to be unqualified, not 'as long as it's with someone who doesn't threaten me and where I find it sexy'.
I remember the moment I realised I wanted to keep him. I had an awful day at work--almost to the point of tears, and I never cry. It was 10:30 at night when I finally got off shift, and I send him a text saying that I'd had a really nasty day at work, but was finally off. We text all the time. Right away after the text, he called me, and said he could tell I really needed to talk. I think my heart did a little flip.