I read this thread when it first opened and the story changes.
First your friend just wanted a business contact, because he's a photographer and she's a model. Innocuous request, business related.
YOU expressed concern that since she's "his type" - that business contact would, somehow, turn romantic. You said that she is single and looking... he is single and looking. Your concern lead the rest of us to realise that you're interested in him, romantically - so you're reticence to give her the contact info, was because you feared a possible romantic opportunity for both of them and didn't want that to happen.
Everyone said you were being a bit selfish qnd to just give her the contact..
NOW all of a sudden the two of you are "dating
" (A fact you'd never mentioned before, in fact your earlier posts seemed to indicate that there was nothing
going on yet.. but you didn't want to accidentally "close that door" by introducing your girlfriend who is, as you
said, 'his type") and you don't want to give her a business
contact because....? You think your male friend is such a dog that, even though he's dating
you, he'd run off with your female friend AND that your female friend is so untrustworthy, she'd steal your man?
It's not hard to give her the business contact and couch it with a jokey "Don't get any ideas about him, we're already dating
" with a cheeky smile and a laugh.
I don't know, your story isn't adding up and it's frustrating to wade through. Either you're dating
this guy and he's a snake... or you're not dating
and you want to keep the field open for yourself. Either way, refusing to pass along a business contact to a friend is pretty immature to do, based on "what ifs.."
Either give your friend the professional contact or do her a favor and end the friendship. She deserves actual friends who have her best interests at heart--not their own pettiness.