I am not upset. I was not all that interested in him- just a "worth giving it a shot" kind of thing. Just a tad annoyed since it was far away and gasoline is expensive.
But there was a communication breakdown. We had agreed to meet at a Panera at 3:30 today in between our two cities. This was stated as of yesterday in the morning.
Well, I arrive there today at 3:30. I wait and wait for him. Before going to Panera, I had come from my guitar lesson, then stopped to drop something off, then went to the restaurant. I waited like 15 minutes but did not see him. I check the Piscine site- well, around 12:45 today he had sent a message saying "Hey Whiterose...Can we make it 4:00 instead, it looks like i may not make it there by 3:30? Sorry for any inconvenience.
I messaged him "aye- I am here". I walked to the Petco 5 doors down in the same shopping center and went back to Panera around 4, then stuck around for a few more minutes till like 4:15, bought an iced tea and some bread (for the mice), then left. Then I went to the JoAnn near my house to buy some costume supplies, and then I went home.
Well, I got this message from him on the Piscine site:i just got back home and tried to get there as soon as i could. I was there before 4 and didn't see you there...i waited a little while and then figured you never received my message and that you got tired of waiting for me...so then i left. ugh. We may have to try this again...sorry for making things confusing
Now I am curious as to who was more at fault for the communication breakdown, if he or me.
We never traded phone numbers- he never asked, and I am not willing to give mine first or ask for his unless he gives out his first.
I do not have a Smartphone- but Panera did have WiFi, so I was able to check POF.
Did he make today's message about not making it at 3:30 too late? I was still at home- but was cleaning, and then took a shower, and then went to Petco to buy some doggie treats for my guitar instructor's Chihuahua, then went to the lesson, then dropped items off, then went to Panera. Should I have checked my email/Piscine messages more often? We had not friended each other on Facebook or anywhere else either. I looked through all of Panera and did not see him. Should he have given me his number? Should I have stayed there the whole time instead of walking to Petco (same shopping center) and returning at the time he said he would arrive there?
Who overall was more at fault? Him, or myself?
Also- I have lost interest in him, and honesty it was not that high originally. Should I just ignore his apology email? Should I respond with a polite "thanks, but no thanks"? Should I be more blunt and direct? Should I ask him to reimburse me the gasoline- J/K
I am not upset- just slightly annoyed, mainly about the waste of gasoline, since the Panera was out of the way for me, and the JoAnn/dropoff/guitar studio/other Petco were in the other side of town, way closer to where I live.