Ok, I'm swimming way out into unknown territory on this one so I need suggestions.
Son #2 has two best buddies. One buddy's parents I know. The other buddy, we'll call him Jake, his mom and dad are divorced. Dad has him during the week, mom every weekend. As a result, we know his mom a little, but not his dad. We've spoken just briefly at ball games and school events, but that's it. BUT, my DH knows Jakes grandfather, and they don't particularly like each other. (long story for another day)
Son #2 was talking to Jake on the phone and got upset. He said Jake told him that he wasn't allowed to invite him to his b-day party because his (jake's) dad said my DH was 'crazy and stupid'.
We've talked to Son #2 and he's not as upset about it, but it still obviously bothers him, as it does me. Since these kids have been best friends for about three years now, I'm wondering if I or my DH ought to give Jake's dad a call and try to clear this up or leave it alone? I'd hate for this to affect Son #2 and Jake's friendship. Son #2 has a b-day comming up and I know he's going to want Jake there.
There are so many things that bug me about this. First, why would you tell a child this when you know children are apt to repeat things? Second, why even take your issues with DH out on his 8 year old child? Third, what the heck is the issue anyway?
I thought about calling this man and asking these questions but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do or if calling would be too confrontational?
So, let it go, or say something? And if the answer is say something, how?