Ah, well there's your answer. Save the chocolate she gives you, and re-wrap it for her for the next gift-giving occasion. Bonus points if it's incorrect for the season - e.g. Easter chocolate for Christmas. Extra bonus points if a bit stale by the time she gets it back.
Do you know how much I like that? PMSL, superb!
I can't believe how therapeutic posting this has been. It's like someone shifted reality and things look clearer. I am definitely going to go with both hubby and me telling her repeatedly not to give me chocolate and refusing to take it if I can. If she's wrapped it, I'll just hand it back to her/leave it. Or maybe teach it to fly if it's a bunny. I think I'll get SIL involved as well, we get on so well.
Shannon: they don't send cards here like they do in the UK but I sent the family them anyway. I stopped sending her one the year she told me she'd seen the perfect card for me and how much I would have loved it, it was perfect but she wasn't going to spend DM6 on a card for me!!! Our cards to her cost more than double. I stopped. I get hurt looks about SIL's cards but I survive them.
Bopper: I tried that. I was the bad guy. And I felt like I was hurting me as much as anyone.
Jaxsue: do you have birch-oral-allergy? I'm the same with apples and lots of other fruit and nuts and that's what I have. Apples were my first.
I think maybe just selfish, Lisbeth. She's not any better with her blood relatives. But I'm trying one problem at a time.
I'd like to know that too, SPuck. You're right about the group setting.
My mind's racing. I keep thinking of all the rude or thoughtless things she's said or done and I really feel like this has helped shrug them off.
How about the asthma attacks I get from her stinky handcream? I bought her unperfumed. She used it when I wasn't there and went back to stinky when I was
DH and SIL hit the roof. I bought her more handcream. I wonder if it will still be there when we go next month. Oh, and both handcreams are from the same drugstore chain.