Quick background: I have posted about this woman before. I will try to dig up the thread, but to make a long story short she is pretty incompetent at her job, often has a poor attitude and demands to be taught procedures. For example, "I need you to show me how to do Z with X and Y. Are you busy? Can we do it right now?" I think the demands are just poor social skills, but they drive me nuts. She wants to teach my students how to do these procedures, but I'm pretty sure I'll never be comfortable with that or so busy that it's necessary. Besides, I have an intern for that. She has improved recently with much coaching, but I'm too distracted with another huge training issue to worry about her.
The problem: She wants to be friends and hang out outside of work. I REALLY don't want to. First, she doesn't know I have recommended her termination and I feel funny acting buddy-buddy at home and having to be a supervisor at work. I don't think she can handle the division. I feel bad since she expressed she doesn't have any friends in the area except her husband and his friends, but it's not my responsibility to be her social circle. Second, she never shuts up. It's hard to find a break in conversation to escape and I can only take 5-10 minutes of her at a time before nails on a chalkboard sounds more appealing. Finally, I'm introverted as heck and I really need my time alone with my cat at night to wind down after interacting with people and teaching all day. It's incredibly draining and exhausting and spending my precious spare time with her makes me want to weep.
She has really started pushing being buddies this weekend and I'm too much of a spineless wimp to just say, "No." I had an out last night since I had to go in for an emergency. Unfortunately, it passed away immediately before I arrived and she discovered that I was free last night this morning. I passed it off as hanging out checking on my other patients for a couple hours and going home and right to bed. She looked really hurt and kind of angry that I didn't call her right up. I have told her that I really need to wind down or work out when I get home, but I don't think she grasps that I need ALONE time.
Any suggestions for avoiding becoming her one friend while at the same time preserving a tensionless working environment? I'm too darn nice for my own good sometimes and I know I can be a complete doormat to avoid confrontation which I'm working on.