BG: We are moving on Monday to a new house. It's bigger overall than our place now, but the layout is such that we are going to have to store some stuff in the basement, either because there is insufficient wall space, or because the furniture isn't Nom friendly. One of those items is DH's 29-gallon fishtank. Since keeping it in storage isn't an option, he decided to sell it. /BG
Everyone who has expressed interest in the fishtank has either flaked out or offered an insultingly low price. Now that we are down to the wire and moving in just over a day, DH is expressing resentment over having to give up his fishtank. He wants to put it in the front room. Which, yeah, it would fit, but I really need the front room to be pretty well Nom-proof. And he is, of course, magnetically attracted to the swirling fish, and tries to climb on in. Naturally my pulling him off and saying NO just makes him want it more, and after half an hour of "No." "No." "No. "NO." I am pulling my hair out. I was really looking forward to that part of my life being over. With the front room set up the way we planned, I will still have to supervise, but the obvious hazards (fishtank, antique wobbly glass-fronted cabinets) will be gone.
DH does not get this. He said that pulling him off of stuff is part of having a toddler - which is true, but he's not the one trying to keep him from hurting himself all day long. The easier that is, the fewer bald spots for me. And there is literally nowhere else for it to go. The basement is a play area for the Nom as well as storage, our bedroom is in the attic with walls so sharp nothing can go against them, and the one other bedroom is so small the aquarium would occupy most of the room. I have tried explaining this to him, and saying I am open to taking it if he can figure out where it can go safely, but since the one and only place it will fit is in the front room, we seem to be at an impasse.
I'm super frustrated because he's framing this like "I can't believe you're MAKING me get rid of my fishtank!" because, come on, I didn't build the house. I'm willing to compromise but I am absolutely not OK with it being in the front room. So, am I being unreasonable, or is he?