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Akarui Kibuno

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How to react to a very rude friend :D
« on: December 30, 2006, 08:43:05 PM »
... aha, I had the occasion to do that today. And some months ago.

Months ago : I'm telling the friend, over MSN, that I cannot do something he's asking me to do (Skype conversation). He asks me once why. I say I can't. He asks me again and again, to which I always answer that I can't. I didn't want to make up an excuse, I didn't want to Skype that day, and he made me mad with his insisting.

Today was funny though.

For those who have MSN and chat with it, you must know about the "MSN Screen name" thing that lets you change the message people see associated with your name... some leave their e-mail adress untouched, some get creative and change the message along with their mood. Mine is currently my internet pseudonym (this is the part of the name that never changes so that people know it's me) and then a sentence "If we're still friends, you sure ain't showing it" (in French).

I had one female friend ask me who it was meant for. I told her not for her since the French spelling for male friend is "ami" and female friend is "amie" and I put "amis" in the screen name (I hate spelling mistakes :P ) . She left it at that.

Another friend, however ? He asked me who that was for, hinting he might know. I said I wasn't going to tell him, just that it wasn't for him anyway. He asked again. I said "Hmm, you're curious today!". He lets some time pass and he says something else, and I "lol" to it or something. Then he has the audacity to say something like "Hey, it's not complicated, I asked you who it was meant for. Now, you tell me!" . I answered : "Hey, it's not complicated, I'm not telling you and I'm going to do my dishes." Rude, rude, rude.

Now, don't you hate it when someone insists you say something like that ? The friend who did what I'm relating above does this sort of thing all the time. To me it's not enough to call off the friendship, but from now on, no replies, no excuses, and a ban for some time if he does that again :P !

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2006, 08:48:45 PM »
It might have been easier if you'd just told your friend that you didn't feel like skyping today, instead of being evasive, which tends to make people curious. And, in your friend's case, annoying. 

"I can't" with no further explanation leaves the door open for more questions.


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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #2 on: December 30, 2006, 09:47:41 PM »
OK i've said it before -- I live in a cave

What is skyping please

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #3 on: December 30, 2006, 09:53:21 PM »
"I don't want to Skype today."  And then hide your mic  ;D

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #4 on: December 30, 2006, 10:45:25 PM »
http://www.skype.com/

Suze,

Skype is a computer program that allows you to talk to folks over the Internet, using a headset with microphone plugged into your PC.  It's free and I love it.  :)  You can even "conference call" with several folks in the conversation at once.

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #5 on: December 31, 2006, 06:25:42 AM »
http://www.skype.com/

Suze,

Skype is a computer program that allows you to talk to folks over the Internet, using a headset with microphone plugged into your PC.  It's free and I love it.  :)  You can even "conference call" with several folks in the conversation at once.


that's neat

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #6 on: December 31, 2006, 11:20:26 AM »
http://www.skype.com/

Suze,

Skype is a computer program that allows you to talk to folks over the Internet, using a headset with microphone plugged into your PC.  It's free and I love it.  :)  You can even "conference call" with several folks in the conversation at once.


See, I would love to be able to do that, but my puter is old and has no place to plug in the headset.  I am so jealous..... sigh.....  But To first friend, I would just probably said, I can't, I'm busy..... second friend.... "Why do you want to know?" 

 
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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #7 on: December 31, 2006, 01:52:38 PM »
I actually think you were a little rude by putting out such a manipulative message in the first place. I mean, of course people are going to be curious about who the message is about.

In future don't play mind games with your friends and perhaps they won't
bug you so much.

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #8 on: December 31, 2006, 02:45:30 PM »
When I was a toddler, my family had a cat who generally completely ignored me.  So I started trailing a ball of string around after me, and then I would yell at him for chasing me.

This reminds me a bit of that.

As people have pointed out, "I can't" encourages curiosity in a way that "I don't feel like it" does not.

For the "ami" phrase, "It's not you, but I'd really rather not talk about it" probably would have worked.  Although "I'd rather not talk about it" is a leading reason not to post it for all your friends to see and wonder about in the first place.

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Re: How to react to a very rude friend :D
« Reply #9 on: January 02, 2007, 11:54:37 AM »
I actually think you were a little rude by putting out such a manipulative message in the first place. I mean, of course people are going to be curious about who the message is about.

In future don't play mind games with your friends and perhaps they won't
bug you so much.

I agree.  Passive-aggressive is definitely not the way to go.   :-\