Hi all --
New to the EHell forums. I needed to post this.
My mom's family tends to put much too much emphasis on Christmas gifts. They've complained in the past about the size of gifts (too small) or that I didn't send a card, etc. My husband and my solution has been to give my grandmother and two aunts small (under $20) gifts as tokens so there isn't a game of who loves whom more by the price tag as a gift.
This year, I gave my grandmother and two aunts coffee sets topped with a Christmas ornament that reflected their unique tastes. My two aunts were clearly happy with their gifts; my grandmother, on the other hand, didn't say much.
I came home yesterday to this note:
Dear (my name) and (my husband's name) --
I just want to thank
you for my $10 Christmas gift from you both. $5 each!
I feel hurt and offended and now I know how you really feel about me.
-- Your grandmother
My grandmother, who is 83, lives in a two-room studio apartment in elderly housing. I purposely gave her something she could use up and that would not take up space in her apartment. My brother gave her a scarf and glove set and got a similar note, with the last line saying something about loving her so little that she got so little. I joke about her going crazy in my title, but I don't think she has lost her marbles. She just attaches way too much importance to gifts.
My husband is ready to kill her, and I'm completely ticked off. How do we handle this? We've already decided no gifts next year.