Okay, now I'm curious. Is there some unofficial mourning period that I'm not aware of? It's not like the guy died or anything.
Do you know *why* they think it's too soon. I would really like to find out their reasoning, but wouldn't necessarily let it deter me.
That's an easy one. I've seen any number of people jump immediately into another relationship
, trying to fill a hole in their lives, and it often ends badly. Rebound relationships
are frequently a bad idea, because a lot of people are just too emotionally raw from their breakup to carry on a healthy relationship
. A lot of people really would benefit from stepping back from dating
for awhile and taking some time for themselves after a breakup. I can see why her friends might be quietly concerned.
That said, it's not like it's a rule, or I'd be in trouble, since my husband was the rebound guy after I ended a relationship
with my ex some 8 1/2 years ago
It sounds like the OP has a pretty firm hold on her feelings, and I think messy rebound relationships
are much more likely to occur after a messy breakup. I would understand a single, concerned "we love you, please be careful" from friends in this case, but they're really out of line telling you what to do.
I'm not sure what you can say to disabuse them of the notion that you're jumping hot and heavy into a disastrous rebound relationship
. Try to keep in mind that they're coming from a place of love (which doesn't excuse the behavior, but might soften it), enjoy your dancing date, and keep bean dipping (I wouldn't judge you for an eye roll or a smiling "I get it, mom") until they see that you're not doing anything foolish.