I agree with other posters who stated that it's not the amount of time after a relationship
that causes the next relationship
to be a rebound. Personally, I think it's the reasons why
the person heads into the next relationship
One of my ex-boyfriends was on the rebound when we started dating
. I suspected it, but dated him anyway because I was hoping that I was wrong. I wasn't.
I knew he was on the rebound because:
1. He had been with his ex-wife for about 10 years when the relationship
finally ended. He hadn't been single in a very long time and really had no desire to be single again.
2. His ex-wife had already moved on. She had started a new relationship
before theirs officially ended. He very much wanted to show her that he had moved on and that his life was better without her in it.
About 4 or 5 months after they filed for divorce, he told me that he was interested in me and wanted to date. I expressed my concerns about him being on the rebound and he assured me that that wasn't the case. I let myself believe it, even though I knew him well enough to know better.
We dated for a little over a year. Our relationship
ended because he met someone else. When I asked him what made this other woman the one for him, he told me that he felt himself fall in love with her and that he had never felt that with me.
I fully take the blame for getting into a relationship
with someone who was clearly looking for "someone" to be with... not looking to be with me, in particular. So, to me, that is one of the clear rebound signs: the person is not interested in the new person they've started dating
so much as they are interested in just dating