If you could see it....

[Ehelldame]

If you could see or learn how to act in certain situations, what would those situations be?  How to respond to a rude question?  Proper introductions?   

[guihong]

I will never, in all my days, remember how to make an introduction.  It's not so complicated when the sides are "equal", but what about introducing my boss to a friend?  A child to an adult?  I can never keep track of who is introduced to whom (and I probably messed up "who" and "whom", too  ).

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[Lunadiana75]

This is a problem of mine I am currently working on, and making progress But I still have some ways to go.

I need tolearn how to stay calm and professional when faced with someone who is abusing me and/or talking down to me.  Basically, I need to keep my temper. 

[IndianInlaw]

I think I need the intensive manners course.

I'm so clueless.

[Pixie]

I think I need the intensive manners course.

I'm so clueless.

I am, too. I shouldn't be allowed out in public!  Which is why I rarely leave my cave..... plus, its such a comfy cave! LOL!   My worst one is saying NO or backing away from requests without seeming to be rude. I am a people-pleaser, and I find it so hard to say NO.... and I always feel like I'm being rude by saying, NO, unless its something to do with my kids.... for example:
FRIEND:  Can you skip your child's birthday to help me plan a party?
ME:  Oh Heavens NO!

When it comes to my kids, I will not back down, and I really don't care if its rude.

[Lisbeth]

I'm never quick enough on the uptake to respond correctly when someone makes an unsolicited snarky remark to me.  I wish I were, because I end up getting into quarrels with these people or being passive-aggressive-neither of which is a good way to handle the situation.

[jfulle5]

-how to end a conversation on the phone, I always sound rushed or confused

-basic manners (I was raised my wolves)

-How to do "small talk"

-How to behave in public (i'm a wall flower, i have no clue how to engage people)

[sandy]

I have trouble in finding  the words when something unexpected happens like for example if someone says something totally rude or mean spirited, I tend to go home and think of something I should have said. I dont think well right on the spot like that...I get overwhelmed, I think because I am sensitive and part of me can't believe the other person would say/do such a thing and it's very hurtful, so I may freeze up, stammer something out, and then later at home I go 'ohhh...that's what I should have said'. I am getting alot better with that though, I have learned to say something like 'hmm, you know I'd have to think about that...it's so surprising to hear something like that, I'd have to get back to you...' I have found sometimes that can be a good way of letting  the person know that what they did wasnt okay, but I just can't deal or respond to it right at that moment...thankfully that doesnt happen too often.

[Cz. Burrito]

If you could see or learn how to act in certain situations, what would those situations be?  How to respond to a rude question?  Proper introductions?   

I am terrible about accepting gifts graciously.  Either I don't feel like I deserve a gift, or I don't immediately love it (often I find that I end up loving gifts about which I was initially hesitant).  Even if I think a gift is great, the giver probably won't get that vibe.  I'm just absolutely awful at gift acceptance.  (This goes for compliments and constructive criticism as well.)     

[cocacola35]

I have trouble in finding  the words when something unexpected happens like for example if someone says something totally rude or mean spirited, I tend to go home and think of something I should have said. I dont think well right on the spot like that...I get overwhelmed, I think because I am sensitive and part of me can't believe the other person would say/do such a thing and it's very hurtful, so I may freeze up, stammer something out, and then later at home I go 'ohhh...that's what I should have said'.

You and me both!    I end up standing there with my mouth hanging open, not wanting to believe what the offender has said or done.  It's usually hours later before I think of an appropriate response and if I've been hurt enough I call the offender tell them how his/her actions made me feel.  I learned the hard way never to just hold all the anger and resentment in.

[Sirius]

Back when I was younger I had absolutely no backbone.  Now that I've grown one, I tend to swing in the opposite direction, e.g. sarcasm when it's not called for, etc.  I need to learn how to temper my sense of humor with some intuitive insight. 

[Slartibartfast]

I think I need a sports commentator for my social life.  I know I'm gregarious and I talk a lot, but I'm also a worrywart - so I end up worrying about whether I'm talking too much, whether DH is enjoying himself (he's a VERY quiet guy, so it's not unusual for him to say about six words all evening), whether I'm boring the people I'm with, whether I'm inadvertently being rude, etc.  I need a little voice in my head saying

"AND here she goes!   Ooh, it's the Classic Crazy Boss Story right off the bat!  It was only tangentially related to the conversation, but everyone is covering well.  Look, the brunette has followed it up with an anecdote about her first job.  Slartibart considers telling the group about her own first job . . . considering . . . considering . . . and she decides to keep quiet!  Way to go!  Ooh, now the conversation has shifted to crazy relatives . . . she sifts through her memories for something to say . . ."

[Mikayla]

My biggest issue is accepting compliments graciously.  For some oddball reason, I can't seem to make a simple "thank you" work. 

The good news is I've gotten past that idiot stage where, if the compliment was about my purse or clothing, I immediately responded with its cost. 

[audrey1962]

I'd like to know how to remain polite when surrounded by rude boors. It's so tempting to want to sink to their level, but I know it's not right, won't solve anything and in the end will only make me look bad.

Half my family pushes their religious views and the other half pushes their politial views, neither of which I agree with and they NEVER get the hint when I try to change the subject!

[hobish]

Introductions, definitely. I am always afraid to make them, even with our group of friends. The last time i tried to introduce someone i had never met before that day to a long-time friend who had just gotten to where we were hanging out they had known each other since they were five years old. Since i was already uncomfortable making any introductions that made me give up altogether.

Small talk is hard for me, too.

Other than that i think i do ok, other than the random transgression (as seen in the confesions thread).