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Re: IS there a polite way to say, "You're not invited because you'll sue me"
« Reply #45 on: October 10, 2011, 01:23:08 PM »
I'm among the posters who are concerned that being direct with this woman may make an enemy of her--a potentially vengeful enemy. Can you be just sweetly vague and a little puzzled, and yet resolutely uninformative?

Ms. Slipnfall: Why didn't you invite me to your party?
OP: Why?
Ms S: What?
OP: Why do you ask?
Ms S: Because I want to know why you didn't invite me.
OP: Oh. Well, it hardly seems important now that it's over.
Ms S: But I still want to know.
OP: I guess it just didn't work out that way.
Ms S: What about the next time you have a party? Will I be invited?
OP: Oh, I never plan that far ahead.

I like this one!

Yep - I think one of the first responses you received was the best. "It was a private party for close friends". Anything else (such as mention of insurance) will escalate the situation. And while SamiHami's response would be truly satisfying, I wouldn't go there - she'd find a way to sue you for "emotional damage"  ::)

I'm sure this would get thrown out of court and she'd be told to pay attorney's fees.

But do you want to go through the hassle in the first place? I wouldn't.
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Re: IS there a polite way to say, "You're not invited because you'll sue me"
« Reply #46 on: October 10, 2011, 01:25:05 PM »
No, I don't want to go through the hassle, but I'm sure that I would be forced to go through it regardless of whether or not I include Ms. Slipnfall or how I respond to her question about why she's not invited.
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Re: IS there a polite way to say, "You're not invited because you'll sue me"
« Reply #47 on: October 10, 2011, 01:38:22 PM »
I also don't think it's a good idea to say why she wasn't invited.  Just stick with saying something about the guest list, private party, etc.  The reason doesn't matter anyway.  It's the same if the reason is because she smells, drink too much, a gossip, or you just don't like the shape of her ears.  You don't want her there and she's the rude one for asking and deserves just a generic answer if you feel like giving an answer.

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Re: IS there a polite way to say, "You're not invited because you'll sue me"
« Reply #48 on: October 10, 2011, 01:43:25 PM »
Why not just avoid and ignore her?

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Re: IS there a polite way to say, "You're not invited because you'll sue me"
« Reply #49 on: October 10, 2011, 01:46:02 PM »
Another way to sidestep the unbelievable rudeness of "Why didn't you invite me?" just occurred to me:  "That's quite a question.  Oh, look at the time, I really must run.  'Bye now."