I'm sure this sounds childish - and maybe it is, though the youngest of our group is in her mid 20s and the oldest is in their late 30s...
I belong to an online group that "meets" in chat rooms and talks in IM daily. We also get together in person a few times a year - we are spread across the US.
I have DSL. I do a lot online, including building websites, research for the dojang newsletters, marketing, selling on eBay, etc. So, I leave my IM clients up so people can reach me during the day. In the evening, we all settle in and chat in a room. During the day, I'm often not at my laptop, but will check it when I hear messages or while I enjoy my coffee.
My question - when someone signs onto AIM (or Yahoo or MSN), whose responsibility is it to note the new arrival? Should the person signing on check their just-loaded friends list and say hi to those there or should someone already online be expected to note the new arrival? We have a few in the group who seem to feel ignored if they sign on and no one 'notices.' Personally, I feel it's up to them to let others know they've arrived, but I may be wrong. So, I'm asking here - does anyone know what the proper etiquette in this situation would be?