Thank you from the unborn

[skbenny]

My daughter and I recently were invited and attended a lovely baby shower.

Everything was very nice, the invitations were pretty, the shower was an open house (my favorite kind), the food and drink was just right.  The mother-to-be was polite and expressed genuine thanks for gifts received, her mom and sisters were sweet.  The hostess was gracious.  It really was a very lovely shower.  OK it was outside on the hottest day of the year, but that was outside the control of anyone, and we weren't running races.

We received a very nice thank you note.  From the mother-to-be and the as-yet-unborn child (Patty and Matthew).

What do you think about thank you's from people who are not yet born?

[Twik]

It's a little cutesy, but I'm sure everyone understands the little fiction that the fetus is engaging in the social niceties before birth. At least it's not as creepy as a thank-you for a funeral card from the deceased.

[wendybird]

It's a little cutesy, but I'm sure everyone understands the little fiction that the fetus is engaging in the social niceties before birth. At least it's not as creepy as a thank-you for a funeral card from the deceased.

i think i now have to write that in my will, as a requirement when i die, hahaha.

[LifeOnPluto]

I also think it's a little too "cutesy" and unnecessary. It's up there with "We're pregnant!" (um, unless medical science has made a huge breakthrough, males cannot get pregnant!)

[KenveeB]

I attended a baby shower that was held after the baby was born. (He was about a month old, attended his shower, and was SUCH a little cutie!)  I received a TYN signed "Mom, Dad, and Baby".  I didn't think anything of it, even thought obviously Baby is too young to even think the gratitude, much less write it.   I don't really see any difference in that and having Baby "sign" the TYN pre-birth.  Mom is expressing the sentiment on behalf of her and the actual beneficiary of the gift.

Also, when you bring a baby shower gift, do you address it to Mom or Baby?  I usually address it to "The Smith Family" or "The Smiths" to be inclusive.  I feel a little strange addressing a gift of snugglies and teddy bears to a grown woman, honestly. *g*

[Brentwood]

I attended a baby shower that was held after the baby was born. (He was about a month old, attended his shower, and was SUCH a little cutie!)  I received a TYN signed "Mom, Dad, and Baby".  I didn't think anything of it, even thought obviously Baby is too young to even think the gratitude, much less write it.   I don't really see any difference in that and having Baby "sign" the TYN pre-birth.  Mom is expressing the sentiment on behalf of her and the actual beneficiary of the gift.

Also, when you bring a baby shower gift, do you address it to Mom or Baby?  I usually address it to "The Smith Family" or "The Smiths" to be inclusive.  I feel a little strange addressing a gift of snugglies and teddy bears to a grown woman, honestly. *g*

I write the mother's name on the gift.

[Raintree]

Phew!!! I thought this was going to be a thread about the abortion debate!!

I think the thank you from the baby-to-be is a little cutesy, but OK. People can be forgiven for going a little ga-ga over such things. It's kind of like buying Christmas presents for pets: all in fun.

I thought it went a little far when some woman (in the news) was pulled over by the police for driving alone in the car pool lane (2-person minimum), and tried to argue that since she was pregnant, she was two people and so had a right to be in the car pool lane. How very smug and clearly missing the point of the car pool lane.

[wendybird]

i would be weary. we get letters from a mom with a *liiiittle* too much free time written from the point of her toddler and infant *rolls eyes*

[Raintree]

i would be weary. we get letters from a mom with a *liiiittle* too much free time written from the point of her toddler and infant *rolls eyes*

Yes, I think moms should try to be wary of becoming nauseating to others. I think I would vomit if I received a letter from the point of view of the infant.

Also, and I KNOW this is none of my business, but what's with mothers who have formal graduation pictures taken of themselves with their babies? (You see this with grad students and students in professional programs, where the students are typically a bit older). So, who graduated, you or the baby?

[wendybird]

i would be weary. we get letters from a mom with a *liiiittle* too much free time written from the point of her toddler and infant *rolls eyes*

Yes, I think moms should try to be wary of becoming nauseating to others. I think I would vomit if I received a letter from the point of view of the infant.

Also, and I KNOW this is none of my business, but what's with mothers who have formal graduation pictures taken of themselves with their babies? (You see this with grad students and students in professional programs, where the students are typically a bit older). So, who graduated, you or the baby?

gerber baby graduates!

[Craftymom]

i would be weary. we get letters from a mom with a *liiiittle* too much free time written from the point of her toddler and infant *rolls eyes*

My mother wrote one of those overly cutesy letters to her friend from "me" shortly after my birth. It was a nauseatingly 3 pages long.

[wendybird]

i would be weary. we get letters from a mom with a *liiiittle* too much free time written from the point of her toddler and infant *rolls eyes*

My mother wrote one of those overly cutesy letters to her friend from "me" shortly after my birth. It was a nauseatingly 3 pages long.

they're always SO long! like the baby has that much life experience to write about!

[johelenc1]

I think people who complain about thank you notes have to much time on their hands. 

That said, I think it's very cute and allows the note to be much more creative and interesting than your standard "thank you so much for the ___".

[tapperjockey]

I can't stand it...   I know they think it's adorable, but Seriously, We are both adults, neither of us is fooled into thinking the baby is writing this, and as I gave you a first aid kit, including a rectal thermometer, I hardly think he's that over joyed to begin with. 

My other pet peeve is when someone writes a ty note, but signs it from multiple parties.   Only one person can write the note, not two (unless there is seperate writing), so don't sign it from someone else. Mention them if you will, say "Hubby and I love the crystal vase", but don't sign his name to it.  Okay.. rant over. And this is something I'd never say to anyone, just my own personal seething.

[amanda_tlg]

I never signed a thank you from an un-born child, but I am guilty of signing the child's name on TY cards before they were old enough to write.

The one thing I found cute was a thank you I received after a shower, and it turned out the baby had been born early, that very night after the party. The father was one of those ultra creative types, and he had a stamp made from the baby's footprint they use on the hospital certificate. All the TYs were stamped with this incredibly tiny foot. But then again, I think baby feet are adorable, so I liked it.