Has there been any thought about getting rid of the INAH folder altogether?
It seems like it's more trouble than it's worth and it's certainly not a necessity, considering the mass amount of support type forums that already exist online.
I see your point, but I think it would be a shame. I think that the very best, most compassionate side of the forum is to be found in that folder. I agree that it is a shame that trolls seem to target it more than other folders, though.
Has there been any thought about getting rid of the INAH folder altogether?
It seems like it's more trouble than it's worth and it's certainly not a necessity, considering the mass amount of support type forums that already exist online.
I see your point, but I think it would be a shame. I think that the very best, most compassionate side of the forum is to be found in that folder. I agree that it is a shame that trolls seem to target it more than other folders, though.
I'd hate to see it go because of a few bad apples. I don't use it often, but it's been a help for the few times I've needed it. If nothing else, I think it's a good resource for keeping up with people I'm friendly with here. I'd hate to ask someone how their adorable dog is doing, and find out that the dog ran away six months ago, you know? I think the board brings us together more than it tears us apart.
I do think a support site might be better for people with chronic problems, who won't or can't take constructive criticism. I understand that sometimes you just need to have someone on your side. I have a dear friend in a situation that a lot of her friends aren't thrilled about, and I've promised to be the Supportive Friend, because she needs that from someone, and I love her. It's unrealistic to expect an entire forum to take that approach, though, because we don't have the close re
lationships that real life friends would have, and because there are just too many of us. Even my dear friend understands when, now and then, I ask her a few probing questions. Posters who are unhappy with the advice in the hugs folder might be able to find a couple PM buddies who are willing to give hugs without judgment, though.
I've been thinking on the "trivial" problems issue, and I have an idea that may or may not work. I understand wanting to keep "I stubbed my toe!" threads from eclipsing "I'm leaving my husband!" threads, but I also understand that sometimes, you stub your toe, and it sucks, and your husband isn't home, and you really want someone to say "aww, poor Rainha, that sucks!" What about, possibly, a Small Hugs thread? It would be up to a poster's discretion whether their issue is a small hug or a big deal situation, but we seem to be doing a good job policing ourselves in similar ways in the craft folder (posting small projects in the Current Projects folder, and making threads for big things), as well as a couple other places. It would be an outlet for people who just want a hug or two because of some small blip in their day.