Sorry to continue a bit offtopic, but ettecat's response goes to the heart of my problem with the direction this thread took. Ettacat, while it's possible to have an opinion without being sexist, it's also quite possible to have a sexist opinion. the first statement ("Men can be really clueless at times, can't they?") could have been generalized to "people" or left off entirely without detracting one bit from the real topic, so its inclusion serves no purpose other than to insult men. The third statement ("I honestly think there's a part of men's brains that shuts down when a woman is blatantly coming on to them.") makes precisely the same mistake and goes one further to implicate that all men suffer from an inability to handle themselves gracefully in such a situation when that's simply not true, hence my offense.
Toss on top of that that I complained that the topic can be discussed without such commentary, and you respond with "Oh please" as though I have little right to be concerned. I do notice that your comment is more specific to dieselgirl's husband, and if I went back I'd probably have dropped your comment from my list, but still I ask that you consider how you'd feel if you voiced a concern over something sexist and a man responded the way you did. I suspect you'd be incensed, and rightly so.