My sister has just informed me that her second wedding will take place within a day or so of my 50th birthday, next year. I donít expect nor have I asked her to move the date Ė and she flat out told me she would not be doing so. However, as this is a milestone birthday for me, I really donít want to spend it flying cross-country to watch her marry a guy Iíve never even met. Neither do I want to feel as though any celebration I may wish to have, would interfere with that of her wedding.
She seems to feel that I donít ďcareĒ about her special day. I told her that although I DO care, I have to be honest in saying that unfortunately, turning 50 will only happen once in my lifetime. As we both know, unfortunately weddings are no longer such isolated events. Iím glad sheís found love again, but we have a bit of a conflict regarding how to handle our respective special days this time.
Not that this matters (or maybe it does), but Iíve lived on this side of the country for 13 years. Not ONCE has this sister (or my other two sisters) been to visit me. I saw my brother when he was out her for business, once about four years ago. My mother has been out twice in 13 years. ALL of them have traveled elsewhere for vacations, etc. Yet ďIím the one expected to drop everything and go back when they think the situation requires my presence. I have notÖexcept for my grandmotherís funeral in 2004. Simply canít afford it Ė among other things. Though finances play little part in my current decision not to attend my sisterís wedding.
So what say ye E-Hellions? Am I being rude here? If so, I need some help adjusting the hot seat. Thanks!
(Mods, please move this, if I havenít posted in the right place.)