Ignore Function

[C0mputerGeek]

I have one more question about that: What happens if poster A has poster B on ignore, and B quotes one of A's posts? Would A see some notice that this post was quoting them, or would it be hidden just like any other post by B? The latter seems like it might set up some awkward situations, which would make it very obvious that A was ignoring B.

If B quotes one of the posts by A, A will not see it. A cannot see the text of any post by B. The only exception is if someone else quotes B. A will then see the text of B's posts.

Yes, it can become obvious if someone is ignoring you.

[Miss March]

I would like to apologize for my earlier post. I wrote it in a moment of exasperation. Several people have pm'd me asking if they are the user that I want to put on ignore. Ehell is already struggling with an 'unfriendly vibe' right now, and my words only contributed to that feeling. I do apologize for that. I would like for everyone to feel that this is a safe place for fair, reasoned, and cordial discussions. I think an 'ignore' button could be useful in some cases, if used with discretion.

[Glaceon]

Generally if you're that worried about being ignored or disliked, you're not the problem, I'd think.

[Luci45]

Generally if you're that worried about being ignored or disliked, you're not the problem, I'd think.

Sort of like before Political Correctness, we used to say, "If you think you might be crazy, you're probably not?"

Thank you for saying that. I've been searching my brain for any recent offenses and decided one wouldn't ignore me for being boring.

[Giggity]

I would like to apologize for my earlier post. I wrote it in a moment of exasperation. Several people have pm'd me asking if they are the user that I want to put on ignore. Ehell is already struggling with an 'unfriendly vibe' right now, and my words only contributed to that feeling. I do apologize for that. I would like for everyone to feel that this is a safe place for fair, reasoned, and cordial discussions. I think an 'ignore' button could be useful in some cases, if used with discretion.

Y'all can knock off with the PMs now. It's totally me she's talking about. 

[Miss March]

I am so busted.

 

[Giggity]

PWN3D!

Um, er, I mean, d'oh.

[amanda_tlg]

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........Oh that's right, I'm ignoring Juana too.

 

Sorry, not trying to derail the thread, just inserting a little goofiness.

I remember when this topic first came up ages ago and I always thought an ignore feature on these boards was amusing. Like, peculiar amusing. I felt that surely on this board, if not any other on the net, a feature like this was not necessarily necessary.

Yes things have seemed 'off' here lately to me, too, but if we can't all get along here I don't have much hope for the rest of society.

[RainhaDoTexugo]

I'm managing fine without the ignore feature, but I'd like to have it.  I can see how it would, in some cases, become obvious that you're ignoring someone, but I don't think it's guaranteed.  And honestly, if a poster suddenly realizes that 20 people are ignoring her, maybe that should tell them something, you know?

The only person I would put on ignore doesn't post often, or at least we rarely end up in the same threads (for how infrequently I see her, for all I know she stopped posting ages ago).  There's no learning to tolerate her - I just ignore her mentally instead of technologically.  I don't think I have anything to learn from this one particular person that's worth the frustration of dealing with her, and I see her so infrequently (and usually in off-topic discussions) that I doubt there would ever be big quoting confusion issues.

There are a number of posters who I frequently disagree with, or who I'm just not terribly fond of, but in those cases, I do think we can learn from each other, and I wouldn't hide someone just because we don't get along.

[KimberlyRose]

Or Archie could say, "Veronica, Betty already made that point - why are you going over it again?"

I'd say this is unlikely at best.  Two people making the same point happens all the time (such as at the bottom of page 1 of this thread--two posters, one after the other, posted pretty similar information), and rarely does anyone point it out.   And even if it did, to follow your example, Veronica could just say, "sorry, I missed that post," without saying she's ignoring Betty.   It happens even without an ignore feature, sometimes posts get overlooked.

[Elfmama]

On the board I mod, it is considered rude to say outright "I'm ignoring you, Betty, neenerneenerneener."  And especially rude to say that you are ignoring Betty, but then responding in such a way that it's clear that you are reading her posts after all.  The mods will call you on it.

[KimberlyRose]

On the board I mod, it is considered rude to say outright "I'm ignoring you, Betty, neenerneenerneener."  And especially rude to say that you are ignoring Betty, but then responding in such a way that it's clear that you are reading her posts after all.  The mods will call you on it.

And people should be called on it.  I have a (fairly short) mental ignore list, but I wouldn't go to any of these people and tell them I'm ignoring them.

[Miss March]

That would be like the girl who calls up her boyfriend to tell him that she isn't speaking to him!

[Ehelldame]

There is at least one user on this board who, if not a troll, is a major instigator, in my opinion. I will not hesitate to put that user on "ignore." I am really not interested in using that user's threads/comments as a chance to learn anything about myself. They offer nothing of use to me, whatsoever. I'm going to file them under "G" for "gone."

I recently spoke with several forum members as well as one of the mods about a specific poster who, when first here, was always getting reported for blunt, terse, in your face replies to people.  After warnings to rephrase the comments or tone down the rhetoric, this person has changed for the better.   Everyone had independently noticed the positive change in the person.   

So, people do come into this community with rough communication skills or a way of communicating that is quite common where they live but that grates on others not familiar with that manner of speaking.  They have to learn to adapt to a different way of expressing themselves when they join Ehell.    This "grace period" giving people a chance to improve themselves should encourage people that we believe they can rise to meet a higher standard.   Obviously the mods get it wrong sometimes by presuming someone has a sincere intent to be a productive member of the forum when in reality that person has a severe character deficit and just needs to be quietly escorted off the premises.  A person's ability to instigate is limited by the number of people willing to be instigated. 

[Ehelldame]

This is how I see it - Annoying posters are a test of our strengths.

We are all here because we are interested in etiquette, if we could apply everything we learn here we would be the most polite but firm people in the world.  Dealing with annoying people is unfortunately part of life, and in the real world we can either ignore or politely speak out to annoying folks and there is no reason we can't continue to do that here too.

Very good perspective and quite in line with the moderation philosophy of this forum.

I'll use this thread to make it official that I will not be activating the Ignore Poster feature.  After much discussion, it was determined to be more of a liability than an asset to the forum.  Too many temptations to be misused.  We have enough  problems with posters getting snippy with each other in PMs without adding the ability to snipe that "I've ignored you" or public lists of people that are/should be ignored.   You all will just have to work that mental ignore feature in your minds when someone posts that rubs you the wrong way just like in real life.